“This Dude Is ALWAYS Hanging Around Her…”
Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
In past editions of this blog, I’ve delved into how to Sarge when you’re out somewhere without a wingman and you’re trying to “break in” to the circle when everyone else seems to be there with all their friends.
Well, here’s a question I’ve been asked several times in the past couple weeks (that also comes up often in our live seminars, group coaching calls, forums, and discussion groups):
What do you do when the woman you’re interested in has an overprotective “guy friend” around?
When you try to find out if he’s her boyfriend – “So how long have you two been together?” - she says “Oh, he’s just a friend. We’re not boyfriend/girlfriend.” However, it seems like he’s always around, interrupting every attempt you make to create excitement and get her all giddy wanting you, not to mention inserting himself into every single conversation.
When he’s not around, she mentions him frequently, often beginning sentences with “(insert his name here) says…” or “(insert his name here) thinks…” Even if she didn’t say the words, you just KNOW that if you and her ever got in an argument, he’d be in your face “defending” her.
So, how do you get this guy to stop c**K-blocking you, when he’s not even her boyfriend?
First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most, let me ask you:
“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”
That being said, before you go any further, consider the following.
- Simple fact: he’s “around all the time” because she wants him to be. That’s the bottom line. This overrides all.
But, that being said:
- Could be, she’s not on the market. She might have a boyfriend who’s on an extended trip (in military service, long-term overseas client project, etc) and this guy is a friend of theirs who “looks out” for her as a favor to her boyfriend
- Maybe he’s consigned to her “friend zone” and he comes from a place of scarcity and “hangs around her” to keep what little she gives him. If that’s the case, he has a vested interest in sabotaging every man who Sarges on her.
- Have you tried befriending him, or do you just go silent, sulky, and mopey-faced when he “interrupts”? When you show the world that you are a positive, engaging person, you outshine the AFC competition. Remember: you don’t have to outrun the bear. You just have to outrun the other guy the bear is chasing.
Maybe it’s #3. Open yourself to the possibility. Give her a chance by giving him a chance. However, if he really is giving you the third degree and is there entirely to cause you problems, you might gain some clues from what this student did.
Peace and piece.
RJ
P.S. Ready to get control of your life and your social situations and start meeting, flirting, dating, seducing, and sleeping with sexy, beautiful women, fast and easy… no matter who’s around?
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