Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

The other day I had this email exchange with a strongly skeptical student. Read on to see his challenge and my answer.

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> —- Will XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX wrote:
>
> Ross,
>
> In reality there is no actual proof available that speed
> seduction works as advertised.

Will, that depends on how you define proof and what standard you apply.

go here:

http://www.seduction.com/wallofproof/

Watch every one of these.

Then tell me: do you really believe that every single one of these guys is either an actor or is lying?

Also, download the PDF “The students speak”. That’s 30 pages of student testimonials. I have not altered anything, other than spelling and grammar, and sometimes students ask that I not use their real names so they supply a different name.

By your standards, virtually no one would be convicted of a crime in a court of law, because:

1. The eyewitnesses could all be lying.

2. The physical evidence could be faked or contaminated.

Even a video of them actually committing the crime might be faked.

>  There are testimonials that can easily be
>  faked and the only demonstrations you do are in front of a live
> audience which is nothing like the real world and can also easily be
> faked.

Do you really think all of these videos are fake?  That these people are lying?

And who says in front of a live audience is “nothing like the real world”? In fact, it’s even harder in front of a live audience because I can’t be covert about it with the women.

> So I ask why there is no infield video of speed seduction in
> action if it works so well? Almost all of the other big name gurus have
> infield footage of their methods working in the real world.

Really? The most I have ever seen is guys getting some attention from women by being entertaining or maybe getting a make out with some drunken whore. (Is that the real world? A bar or club where some 6-7 is drunk out of her skull?)

Have you ever seen any infield video leading to an f close that was video taped?

And more importantly: how do you know THOSE aren’t faked?

I have it on good info that at least two of the big “infield” gurus hire actresses.

As to why I don’t do it:

1. It’s illegal in California to record an audio conversation without PRIOR consent. As in a felony.

2. It’s a time consuming, messy process to set up a location in another state than the one I live in, get permission from a venue to film (Starbucks, Whole Foods) etc.

And finally: people can always say it was fake.

Will, the ultimate proof for you is: will Speed Seduction® work for you?

That’s why I give away a massive amount of free stuff. So guys can get results and then come back and buy something.

So…why don’t you dedicate yourself to some study and see how YOU do? Ultimately the best proof is your own results.

Plenty of free stuff for you to try and see for yourself.  You only pay me if it works for you and you decide you want to come back and buy.

Given your standard of evidence ” DOES IT WORK FOR YOU?” is the only proof you can ever accept.

And I respect that.

RJ

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Well, students and readers, how about you?

Are the testimonials enough to convince you? Or do you need to try out some of the great free courses?

Or are you ready to step up and go for it, full blast and full out?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I really DO respect skepticism. With all the fakes, cons and frauds getting to many guys before they come to me, I have to provide plenty of proof to win their trust.

I’m happy to say I’m able to do it.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Just the other day I received an e-mail from a great student of mine, someone who TAKES ACTION, who read my recent post on The Great Disappearing Act.

Remember: one of the goals of Speed Seduction® is to give you not only the patterns and techniques, but also the success tools to apply the teachings to YOUR situation.

It seems this student had his own “disappearing act” on his hands.  It started off as a great success, as many of these do.  It was the first girl he’d had sex with in nearly two years – a former cheerleader at his college in fact.

Now let’s hear from him (I’ll leave his name out of it and edited it down a bit) because my response to him is something EVERYONE needs to hear…

We were hanging out for about a month and had great sex. Both sides were satisfied in that regard, as I gave her at least two orgasms every time we had sex. It seemed the intensity/chemistry was only growing the last time we hung out and then she started acting really distant. Finally, I told her straight up that I felt she’d been noticeably distant and I’m not going to keep expending energy if I’m not getting the same from her. Her response was just that it was a busy stretch at work and she didn’t think she could give me what I was looking for, especially since we live about an hour away from each other.

RJ: OK, let me briefly stop here.  The “work” thing is bullshit. A woman digs a guy, she will crawl an hour to see him!  To continue:

I asked a female friend about this and she said that sometimes when women aren’t confident – instead of expressing their emotions verbally they’ll put out physically because they know a guy won’t reject that. She suggested hanging out with her a couple of times, not trying to have sex with her but still being flirty and she will likely soon start coming on to me again.

RJ: Critical teaching point here: NEVER ASK A WOMAN ADVICE ABOUT GETTING LAID! E-V-E-R.

Well, I didn’t get that far. I suggested we get together sometime soon and got another vague answer – ‘possibly.’

I’m perplexed, yet somewhat intrigued too. I’m getting further each time but every other time I’ve been able to figure out where I went wrong. Should I just let it go? Or is there a way to get that smoking body back in my bed? Even though I’ve moved on to others I guess I’m just worried this will happen again…

Anyways, thanks for all you do. It’s really helped raise my confidence with the ladies. I was for sure the nice guy everyone came to with their problems but the psychology of speed seduction has given me the posture I’d been lacking. I’m still a work in progress but keyword there is ‘progress.’

Good attitude to have. I’d say this woman, for whatever reason, moved on. My guesses (and they are just that: guesses):

1. She wants more than sex and you don’t appear to be long term relationship or marriage material to her.

2. There is someone else who has re-emerged from the backround and you were her “filling station” to keep her excited and validated until he came back.

3. She’s got some other deeper issues she is running from. Trouble with the law, family crisis, alien implants, CIA kidnapping-who the fuck knows.

One thing is clear; she isn’t communicating with you. So she either can’t – in which case you are fucked.  Or she doesn’t want to/won’t, in which case she certainly doesn’t even have the decency to clear up the confusion and set you free.

To hell with her, either way.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. See this is how I teach – helping actual students with actual situations on their way to total vaginal victory in the land of moist, pink abundance.  How would you like six score plus a few more of these laser-focused coaching moments, in video, at your fingertips 24/7?  I thought so.  Click here now to make it part of your reality.

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

The other day, someone left this comment on my blog as well as emailing it to me.  I am going to reproduce it here for you to read and quite frankly do nothing other than ask you: what would YOU tell him?

I’d really like to encourage your participation here, so the person who leaves the best comment gets a 1/2 free Skype consult with me-winner to be announced on the blog.  Here is his post; please read and answer him as best YOU can:

Hey Ross,

I have to say this is all really great stuff! I have been following your lessons (at least these updates and the older stuff I was able to get for free through link provided with the “Up To Speed with Speed Seduction” video series) for quite some time now- since the end of last Fall. However I can’t really seem to integrate any of this into my approaches to women very easily, and I can’t afford to buy any of your “premium” stuff (I’m a broke college student)…

I feel like I should be much better with women than I am- I’m smart, good-looking (women tell me this all the time, even though they say they’re not attracted to me), and fairly successful (I go to an Ivy League school and do pretty well academically). But I feel like a total failure with women- I’m 21 and I’ve never even had my first kiss! Girls my age have always told me they “don’t like my like that” (romantically/sexually), and it’s really caused some problems with my life. A while back, one girl even actually thought I was suicidal because I seemed so upset/depressed about this stuff, and caused some considerable trouble for me by reporting that concern to the authorities! (suicide on campus has been a really big issue here lately, after a recent string of successful student suicides)

I really need some kind of turn-around with my romantic/sexual life!

I know I’m capable of being really good with women because two or three times in my life something has just “clicked” in my head and for a brief moment I was really good at flirting with women- one time this got me a date with a really hot, smart, popular girl when I was in high school that I ended up having to miss because I ended up stuck on a car en route to Vermont with a dead cell phone (she ended up thinking I had stood her up, and spread word through the rest of the high school- killing any remaining chance I had of getting a date while in high school) Another time, here in college, I got a girl not-so-subtly inviting herself back to my place (for a hook-up), but I actually didn’t recognize what she was doing until it was too late and I said something really stupid that was a huge turn-off (she was really cold to me from then on and never brought up what had happened). So I know it’s possible for me to get the kind of results I want with women, or something even better! But I just can’t seem to do it and it’s destroying my life bit by bit…

I know I do a lot of stuff wrong with women, but I just don’t know how to go about fixing any of it… I know I also do some stuff very right with women, but it’s much harder for me to pick out what those things are… I’ve gotten really desperate to try and find something that works for me, and I’ve tried everything. I even created a profile on several dating websites (my profile on OK Cupid is Northstar1989 if anyone wants to take a look at how I present myself to the world and see what I do wrong…), but NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING seems to work for me….

Please help me Ross. If there’s anything you can do, any advice you could give me, I’d really appreciate it.

Regards,
Blake

P.S. I’ll also ‘CC this to the e-mail address I have for you from the Up to Speed videos, rj@seduction.com ,in case you don’t notice this comment.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you break through the blocks and barriers that have held you back – with women and in other areas of your life as well – you’ll be amazed how the up until now “unthinkable” will suddenly become the “reality.”

A student of mine who purchased my Nail Your Inner Game course reported:

> I worked at first mainly on old stories, sometimes transmutting
> patterns that affected me during years. I immediatly felt the huge
> amount of energy that was released by the process. And almost
> immediatly I witnessed a change in the attitude of women toward me
> (without me doing anything). For example I had that waitress, that I
> knew for some time and was always a bit cold with me, walk to me in a
> club and say “hi, how are you” while rubbing her body against mine…
> I was VERY SURPRISED.

For those of you who have yet to MAKE THE DECISION to GET THIS PROGRAM, some explanation may be in order.

One of the things I designed NYIG to do is to interrupt the process whereby guys quite unknowingly continuously “reinfect” themselves with old limitations, old ways of thinking, old patterns of intepreting events, etc.

A big part of this is the process of constantly dwelling on mistakes with women; chewing on them over and over and over again trying to extract some information or learning.

The challenge is, this process actually REHEARSES the very stuff you are dwelling on, thus virtually guaranteeing that the same patterns of thinking, acting, feeling and responding will emerge when you step out into the world of women and try to do something new.

The brain works on repetition and rehearsal. So if you keep repeating the rehearsal(which is what you are ACTUALLY doing when you dwell on mistakes) you keep getting the same shitty behaviors, thinking, responses, feelings and interpretation of events.

Note that I keep mentioning “interpretation of events”.

Here is what I mean:

When you are trying to apply a new technology in an area of life that has been very challenging, often the results are not going to be 100% failures or 100% successes either.

You may try something, and some of it seems to work, some of it doesn’t.

For example, you open up the girl, she seems interested, you get her number, but she never calls back.

Or you can see she’s fascinated with you, but you can’t move forward/don’t know how to use that response or where to go next.

Now, the trick here is that if you don’t train your mind to extract the learning and to interpret events in a useful way, it’s easy to go back to all the old ways of thinking that say that you are a failure, can’t make things work etc.

So NYIG shows you how to:

1. Stop this process of constantly dwelling on mistakes.
2. Stop the process of constantly telling yourself the story of your limitations and instead tell yourself the story of your POSSIBILITY.
3. Extract maximum accurate learning and useful interpretation from every situation.

Doing this changes your vibe powerfully as you are no longer pulling yourself in two directions.

Now, that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Think about this. If it really is true and this tech shows you how to go from stuck and ruminating to effective action in the field, and to do it VERY quickly-in hours or days-what will it allow you to do and what will your progress and pleasure look like in a few months from today, looking back on the decision NOW to get this program?

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

This weekend, I did a private, one-on-one , executive weekend consult with a client.  One of his challenges was being too serious with women, and too timid in his approach.

I had a female friend volunteer to help out and we taught him some incredibly easy ways to demonstrate dominance, exude sexuality(without being creepy) and my top 3 favorite ways to create sexual opportunity(my new term that replaces “closing”. I hate the term “closing)

I’ll talk more about those in a later post. But for now I want to show you how I dealt with his being timid and far too serious in his initial encounters.

We went to the local mall, and after a bit of walking around, I decided to head back to my car.

That’s when it happened.

We stepped out of the elevator just as two women walked into the garage, also headed to their car.

Outrageous, Commanding, Intriguing And Fun!

One was young(@ 20 I’d say) and the other was in her late 30′s. The 20 year old was very hot, the other woman, so so.

I sprung into instant action.

“Excuse me, supermodels” I said in a “Gay” kind of voice as we walked by them.

They laughed. This was fun for them too, already.

I stopped and said, “You two don’t have really cute brothers, do you?”

They laughed more. Both said, “no”.

They were clearly enjoying this.

I turned to the cute one. ‘Look at you,” I said. “Do you even eat? You are so skinny”. At this point I reach out and patted her abs with my hand.

She laughed again.

“C’mere” I said. “Give me a hug you little stick girl”.

I grabbed her and pulled her into a very close body to body hug. As I held her close and rubbed the small of her back I said, “You know…this is strange but(Then i shifted to normal voice) I”M NO LONGER GAY!”

We all laughed. I let her go and said “Ok..I know that was over the top, but when I saw you I thought to myself, “She probably gets approached 100 times a month…you better come up with something different and see if she has a sense of humor YOU COULD REALLY LIKE”.

They both laughed again.

A car was coming, so I just reached out and pulled her out of the way, very commanding, yet gentle.

Without any explaining I went on, “So..are you a roller…a folder..or a tosser?”

She said, “Huh? What?”

I said, “We’re going on vacation…money is no object..somwhere where YOU FEEL YOU WANT TO ESCAPE…INDULGE..STRIP AWAY TOTALLY from stress and just GIVE IN TO THIS ADVENTURE…(pretty blatant, but she was eating it up and I glanced at her friend who was loving it to!)

I gestured to the ground and mimed opening a suitcase. She looked right where I looked and was clearly imagining it as I described it. “We’ve got the suitcase open….we are ready to leave together(get that suggestion? Leave on the vacation or leave on the spot where we are talking now?)..do you roll the clothes..do you fold them..or do you toss them?”

She laughed and said, “I’m a tosser!”

I faked being upset and took a few steps back, “Damn,….scientific research says folders and tossers never get along and I’m a folder! DAMN!”

She cracked up.

And this point, since I’m in love with  my  amazing Danish girlfriend, there was no need to pursue further and my student had gotten the point and the power of it.

“Oh well,” I said, “maybe there is a folder waiting for me..bye!”

Now, this whole approach was fun as hell. But loaded with power as well. In fact, THE FUN ***IS*** THE POWER AND THE POWER IS ***FUN****!

I’ve got lots more to tell about this executive  consult, including posting some of the recorded files.  Stay tuned.

RJ

P.S. One way I could have concluded this, had I been into it, was to have turned back to her, take her arm gently and and said, “But…you know…I think..there’s one way…we probably could…REALLY CONNECT” then pull her into me for a deep kiss.

(Only do this if you see they are really into the interaction!)

Then I might have said, ‘If you realize..this is something..special and unique….I think we need to talk again…..”

Then see what she responded with. If it’s, “Here’s my number” I’d take her number and call her. But it could well be, “Let’s meet up tonight..at 7..here’s my number and my address…’

Or even “Let’s get out of here..my friend can drive herself home!”

Bottom line: push your limits of what you think is possible.  You’ll have more fun and do more f**king!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Click the Play button below to watch this testical-monial from my latest 3-day live seminar.

Hear Sanjay tell you, in his own words, how using Speed Seduction® tools moved him from fear to charisma, to achieve moist pink abundance.

sanjaytestimonial.mov

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Next Friday (April 1) the Speed Seduction® 3.0 world tour lands at its next stop – London!  You going to be there?  Click here:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/2011seminar/

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Here is part 2 of the video. Watch…
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Please share your comments and thoughts.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I did this work the first night of the seminar. I followed up with him 2 days later, brought him on stage to see if the changes held. They did…I’ll post shortly (stay tuned).

Dear Speed Seducers,

My post on Smart, Self-Disciplined, and Still Flunking With Women, really hit a nerve.

One of my answers is teaching guys what I call, “Skill At Feel”.

In this video, I demonstrate the method with a student.  It cured his 50 year plus stage fright. This is part I-the video is too large to be posted in one part.

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Comments, please

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the tricky things when you get good with Speed Seduction® is the thorny problem of having women fall for you and fall for you hard, when all you want is a little bit of fun.

As guys, we have to be aware that even the most bitter, cynical, hardened woman can have her heart burst wide open and her feelings of wanting to be loved really come to the surface when she is properly seduced.

Let’s face it: sex can make all of us feel very vulnerable, and most especially so with many, if not most women.

To illustrate my point, let me share a note from a student facing this situation:

Dear Ross and Bros:

Went out with a young lady I met on the internet on Saturday.

Any way, one Twin Brothers pattern led to another and we ended up back at her place.  No need to go into the details, but when I left we both had big grins on our faces.

The reason I feel a little guilty is that I haven’t called her since.  I’m pretty sure that it won’t do her too much harm, but also pretty sure that it won’t make her feel too good and won’t do her self esteem too much good either.

Although I’m not that interested in developing a relationship with her, I would prefer to be able to  walk away knowing that, at the very least no damage has been done, however small that might be.

Now, I was pretty honest with her and didn’t promise her anything other than an interesting evening.  I did say that I would call her, and  later in the week I shall.  But what would be interesting from you guys would be any thoughts on how to set her up on the date so that they see the evening as a fun, exciting event and are happy not to expect too much after it.

RJ: The key here is to be honest about your intentions if she asks.  The second thing is, if you are not looking for an incredible connection, but just a roll in the hay, don’t use “connection” patterns.

I teach there are 4 doorways into any woman’s mind and emotions:

1. Getting her visualizing vividly.
2. Getting her to feel strong emotional connections
3. Getting her to feel strong, pleasurable body sensations
4. Getting to her core value structures

If you sense a woman wants too much from you, commitment–wise or is looking for than what you want, do not use doorways 2 and 4. They create a very strong emotional bond with most women.

You can use them, lightly, but mostly I’d lean on doorways 1 and 2. There are plenty of patterns to pretty much guarantee you can get in without creating deep emotional bonds.

Of course, if a girl is desperate and needy enough, she will CREATE those bonds, even though you never used any patterns at all! That’s when we can get into some trouble even though we proceeded with care. The problem isn’t with us, but with our “subject”; she’s just too friggin’ needy to deal with it.

If you sense you have a girl who is on the needy edge like this, it might be better to just let her slide and NOT have sex with her.

How’s that for having a life of real choice: you actually have so much variety and choice with women that you can feel great being able to say NO to a girl instead of it being the other way around! Imagine that!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Emotional connection patterns are VERY powerful. They do to women what high heels, push up bras, and boob jobs do to use men; they make the subject loose control!  Use them with caution.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I’m proud to say that Speed Seduction®, which started from such humble beginnings over 20 years ago, has now spread around the world and is being used in many, many different languages.

I guess it’s like I said: when it comes down to it, whether you are black or white or yellow or brown or red, there is only ONE color that counts: PINK.

All men are brothers when it comes to poon-tang.

Anyway, often I get questions about how to apply some of the specific Speed Seduction® methods to a foreign language.  One example I have to show by way of answer is this e-mail, from a Greek student:

Hi Ross,

I have some of your patterns and want to try them, but I have some difficulty with the language as here in Greece things are a bit different. I guess that this may be a common problem non-English speaking students may be facing in the “translation” of your patterns.

The verb “feel”

ENGLISH         GREEK

I feel          Niotho
You feel        Niothis
He feels        Niothi
We feel         Niothoume
You feel        Niothete
They feel       Niothoun

I will feel     Tha nioso
You will feel   Tha niosis
He will feel    Tha niosi
We will feel    Tha niosoume
You will feel   Tha niosete
They will feel  Tha niosoun

I can go on with the verb, but I guess you got the picture already. This seems like a pretty screwed up situation to me. Since we use NLP, I understand that we are talking directly to the woman’s subconscious.  From NLP, I have the understanding that the subconscious understands only the present tense.

However, in Greek, verbs are different for every person and tense. My question is if I can deliver the command using any person and any tense.

Best regards,
Alexander

RJ: Alex, I understand your rather technical question.  I also know that some of the ambiguities in English, like “below me” and “blow me” don’t exist in every language.

Nevertheless, while some specific small pieces may have to be modified, ALL women have a subconscious mind, ALL women have imaginations and emotions and ALL women can have their imagination and emotions captured and lead by language.

It’s sort of like driving a car. In England, people may drive on one side of the road while in the USA they drive on another. But the car still works the same way, with the same fuel, the same engine, the same steering.

Don’t get distracted by the tiny details of language that change from country to country. Just focus on these questions:

1. What can I do to control and design MY state?
2. How can I communicate in a way to capture and lead her imagination and emotions?

Now, consider that Greek is the language of the New Testament AND that the Greeks invented modern theatre, modern story telling, poetry, epics, I would say you guys have  HUGE advantage over the rest of us!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I have answered over 120 questions through video modules, on specific topics I get asked about often as well as direct, detailed responses to questions from individual students, in the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection.

Crack open the vault and make 2011 your Vaginal Victory Year, right now.