Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I received a tremendous response to my recent blog posts on women’s B.S. tests, specifically why women put men through them, and how men can “pass” them.

Now, let me give you three scenarios to illustrate these principles in action.

Scenario One: You call to ask her out. Her response is ambivalent, something like, “Well, I’d like to but, why don’t you call me later in the week and…”

Here’s your response: “Let me ask you a question, point blank. Is going out with me something you can take or leave or is it something that you’re smart enough that you really want to do that?” Then shut the hell up and listen for her answer.

Now, what are you doing here? You’re calling her on her ambivalence and letting her know you don’t have time to be put on hold. And you’re also suggesting she’s stupid if she doesn’t grab this opportunity.

Finally, you’re embedding a command that she really does want to go out with you. Will this work? Very often it does. It’s not what she’s expecting, and that always gets attention. Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can.

Understatement works best with this one. What if she still hesitates? Well, say this one:

You: Look. You have my number, and I’m going to leave it up to you. And you know, if you don’t call it’s going to be a loss for me, but maybe what you won’t realize until after you hang up is, that it’ll be a loss for you as well. Ok? Bye.

Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute without offering to do it again at some specific time.

Look: I’ve heard every excuse in the book, my friend, from “My parakeet is sick” to “I’ve got to shampoo the rug”. Seriously.

Here’s how it works…

Her: I can’t make it. I’ve got a rare tropical disease that’s causing me to shrink by the hour.

You: (dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk again. Just say NOTHING!!!)

Her: Hello? Are you there? What’s wrong?

You: What’s wrong is I can’t believe the bullshit I’m hearing.

Her: What?????

You: Look…you made a commitment to spend time with me and now you’re blowing me off. You’re disrespecting me and disrespecting my time and I’m NOT going to put up with it. My rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to keep it. If they can’t keep it, I need to know at least a day in advance so I can make other plans. Got it? If you can live with that rule, great…if not, sayonara!

Then, HANG UP!! Now, this may sound extreme, but man does it work well!!!

In fact, she’ll probably call back with five minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I’m not kidding here; I’ve seen the hardest, jaded bitches go to giggly little girls, eager to please me when I’ve done this. It throws some kind of switch in their heads.

I guess with some people, you don’t really get their attention until…

You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!!

Please note, I’m speaking of an attitude. I am NOT talking about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence with a woman. In fact, I am against the use or threat of the use of violence or force against ANY human being, unless there is an imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I can’t  make this too clear.  I’m talking about using your mind, NOT your fists.

Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes, or lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least that long while totally ignoring you.

Wait for her to finish, and as soon as she does say something like this:

YOU: Can I ask you a question?

HER: Sure.

YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you just accidentally acting clueless?

HER: (mouth dropping open in shock, unable to say anything!)

YOU: Don’t ever keep me waiting like this again, ok? I’ll always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same. Do you understand me?

HER: Uh..uh…yes.

The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way, you want to do the unexpected. Don’t put up with it, like a “nice guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Walk a middle ground of strength, self-control AND self-respect, and these tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your bed.

And that certainly beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

‘Til next time…

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Why in the world would any guy in his right mind want to take a step backward down the intimacy ladder with women?

Yet that is exactly what many men are doing by following stupid-ass advice from “PUA GURUS” to use text messaging with women they’ve just met.

Listen: using your voice is far more powerful, conveys far more emotional meaning, and enables you to evoke far more powerful states of emotion than even the most cleverly worded text.

Hey: if it is true that 70% of communication is not the actual words we use, but facial expressions and the tone of our voice, then what in the world do you think is the result of just typing words?

Is it just me, or does that seem like screwing when your dick is soft?

The only time you should ever use text messages with women is after you have already “hooked up”. Once you’ve done that, then texting can be a way to easily arrange meetings or stay in touch, but even then it has to be used judiciously and sparingly.

A few other things to bear in mind:

• My students often tell me about women who at the end of a phone call will say “text me” or who will want to hang up, yet immediately continue the conversation via txt msg-ng.  Is she serious? Don’t you want her to take a step forward, TOWARD you?  Will texting “hey wassup?” pull her closer?
• So she’s into “sexting.”  Like cybering, you have to wonder, is she visioning you when she types all that naughty stuff, or is she thinking about a guy she’s actually fckng who isn’t there rite now 2 srvce hr 2day?

Remember: txt mssgs sck dck and only asshls use them on chicks they hvnt fckd.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. When you can use your language to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and emotions within minutes of meeting her, she’ll probably text you something like, “Cn I cme ovr and sck yr dck?” So guys, clck here 2 get the cmplte systm dat gets u wmn U desire 2day wo hving 2 txt.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Once again, I reach into my lovely mail bag and pull out an e-mail I got from a student about… his attempt to e-mail an HB9 he met at a party.

Some of the patterning was good, but it came off…just…BAD because the context was WAY OFF.

> I met this girl HB9 at a party full of people 3 weeks ago. I talked with her only for a few times and for short periods.  We kept getting interrupted by her friends, an attempt by another guy to cockblock me.  She behaved also like a social butterfly talking to different people, breaking conversations fast, etc.  I managed to get her email address just before she left.

Yeah, in what context? In other words, was it done after you and she were into each other, you had captured and lead her imagination and emotions, future-paced spending time together, as in, “It’s too bad we can’t FIND A WAY TO HANG OUT AGAIN AND SEE WHAT WE COULD ENJOY”.

Or did you just say, “give me your email”?

I think it was more the latter, rather than the former.  Anyway, let’s continue.

> My first email to her was two weeks later.  It read:
>
> I am Matthew, I enjoyed meeting you at the party.  It was pleasant and without giving you the impression to be too serious, too early, I learned how much it is rare to find someone funny, authentically sympathetic, nice and charming; but enough about me, you seem to be also a potentially interesting girl
>
> By observing you that evening, I noted that you were rather sympathetic and smiling. At the same time, you showed some reserve when in contact with new people. It is as if there is an interior conflict in you between a natural reserve and a desire to connect with others.
>
> You know, with me, you can feel at ease, be completely yourself without needing to play a social part or without having fear of being judged.  The tolerance, the open mindedness and the compassion for me and the others you showed are paramount values which guide my way of being, thinking and acting.
>
> Could you describe me one of your passions? You know one of these activities in which you feel yourself completely transported, completely absorbed by what you do, where time seems to be slowing, until it stops and where you feel the spirit, the flame in you that shines. And it is in one of these moments, that you feel yourself more alive, that you feel the most passion and that you are more in contact with the spiritual force which is with each one of us and which then appears with the most clearness and beauty. For me, I am fascinated by literature and in particular by poetic creation. If you like also poetry, we could exchange poems and give our respective impressions.
>
> Please answer me,
> Matthew

After trying to salvage the situation by snagging her e-mail address from the clutches of total defeat, why did you mastur-wait for two weeks before dropping her a line?

How do you know she liked you on that first meeting?  From what you described, it seems like you were struggling to get two words in.  How do you know?  And then what? A personality reading? It comes across as begging for her approval, trying to impress her.  Total AFC here.

Next, how was she tolerant, open minded and compassionate?  How do you get all that from a casual chat at a party that kept getting interrupted?

Speed Seduction® isn’t about reciting speeches that have NO relation to the context, the person or anything that you yourself have experienced. These aren’t Magick chants.

Well, She Answered The Following Day

And…it was a doozy.  I knew she’d answer – but I saw this coming before I even read that far.

> hi matthew,
>
> thank you for your message, but, how did you have my email??  you know, I spoke with many people that evening. what did we talk about, at which moment of the evening?  what do you look like?  sorry I can’t remember.
>
> unless you tell me more about you, I am sorry but I won’t be able to talk to you further.

Ouch. She didn’t even fucking recognize who you were. That’s my point. In a seduction situation, email, texting, phone calls, can work, but without a command of non-local influence, you have to put in the work IN PERSON, FACE TO FACE.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What this student was trying to do was shift her thoughts without saying a word and without even having to be in her presence.  Right idea, wrong formula.  Join me where I show you the RIGHT way in our Secrets Of Energized Magick, Manifestation and “Non-Local” Influence Seminars.  Click here to reserve your seat now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Sometimes when you are stuck, it is what stands far outside of what you are used to doing that has the best chance of giving you the results that are far outside of what you are used to getting and enjoying.

Here is an email exchange I just had with a potential student who just couldn’t see himself speaking to women the way I teach men to do, along with my answer.

Let me know what you think and if I made it clear to this guy.

RJ

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> Dear Ross,

> I’m 90% sure I would like to purchase your SS deluxe home Study course but, from what I’ve seen and heard from your online videos is that I have a difficult time seeing myself speaking to women in this manner. It’s just so far off from what I actually speak like. And I would consider myself NOT the the best talker. So give me that extra 10% of reassurance and convince me that I can integrate this into my personality and make it actually WORK. I’m desperate!!! Not a fucking joke, I really need help in this area of my life!!! I know you get this question a lot but I still would like your answer.

> P.S. Please respond because I’m not a customer YET, I really need help with this and I TRULY appreciate an honest answer.

> Sincerely, J.C.

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J.C,

A few answers:

1.  Could you see yourself trying out small bits and pieces of “speaking this way” just to see how they fit for size?

2. To get results far different than you are used to having, sometimes you have to do things that are far different than you are used to doing. The way you are currently speaking with women isn’t working, so what is the point of clinging to what isn’t working, simply because it feels comfortable?

3. Fortunately(very good news) Speed Seduction® also includes ways to manage and even ENJOY that initial “discomfort” when you are first using these language tools.

I am sorry my marketing didn’t make that clear enough: I will not only teach you the language tools. I will teach you how to handle, powerfully, any discomfort that you may experience along the way as you proceed to use them.

On that note, a HUGE piece of Speed Seduction® has to do with the tools I teach you to manage your own emotions, create different kinds of confidence IN ACTION, that work for your own particular personality type, how to create motivation to keep going, how to learn from mistakes quickly and rapidly.

Yes, the language tools with women are SUPER-IMPORTANT. But I think you had been missing how much of SS is also about assisting YOU: how you show up for women and yourself.

I hope this helps.

Finally, you get to choose HOW you best want to learn it.  You can, in addition to getting a recorded course, join my Coaching program and get live feedback and learning with me 4 times a month. Also, you can always come to a live seminar and get personal interaction with me and watch me work with hot women live. Nothing encourages and convinces as much, for some people, as seeing this happen, right in front of you, with live women.

I care. Please write back.

RJ

P.S.  If you have a deep concern or question before you become a student, I want to hear from you, whatever it is. This helps me be a better teacher, better communicator and is vital feedback for me. Sometimes I am so immersed in my own love of teaching and my own creation, I don’t see how I am not making my point and clearly explaining. I welcome your feedback, especially if you have doubts about yourself, the material, your ability to use it, etc.

Just email me: rj@seduction.com Subject: My Doubts/Fears/Struggles    I will keep your full name and your email address fully confidential in any email response I might publish.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Have you been following the latest on the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection, aka the “Vaginal Victory Vault”?

I’ve been posting free videos, slowly and teasingly unveiling the contents of the vault, as we lead up to our official date (which will be this week coming up).

Not to mention that I’ve been sending “exclusive, hush-hush” additional teasers and samples only to the people on the launch list.  Are you on that list?  If so, you’ll be seeing more.  If not, get over there and let me see your name on that list:

http://www.rjtrainingvault.com/launch/

More to follow.

Peace and piece,

RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Yesterday I posted here on the blog that we would be announcing an entirely “nude-erection” (ha ha) for my products and business.

Well…here it is!  Just click here:  http://www.rjtrainingvault.com/launch/

As you will see, this is something YOU, my friends and followers, have been after me to do for some time now.

Peace and piece,
RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

So, she walks in.  She’s hot.  You want her.  Bad.

Then…you draw a blank.  You start talking in your head.  About how you just can’t pull it off.   Knowing (and already beating yourself…up) that you won’t be talking to her…though you’ll be pulling it…off…later, thinking about her.  (Wow, holy double entendre!)

In this video, ripped right out of my huge collection of training modules, learn some powerful tools to deal with this:

approach-anxiety

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If what I described is a problem for you, then your problems are about to be solved.  Gain the confidence, the skills, and the tools you need to effortlessly walk up to her, seduce her, and make her yours, anytime, anyplace, with Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Fans and Students,

I’ve told you I’ve been thinking and planning and scheming about doing something radical…an entirely “nude-erection” (ha ha) for my products and business…something YOU, my friends and followers, have been after me to do for some time now.

You think I’m just toying with you or can you feel yourself getting curious about your excitement to learn exactly what I have up my sleeve?

Tomorrow, you’ll come back here.

Because I will have an announcement that will HUGELY CHANGE the way we’ve been delivering teaching around here. And answer what you’ve been telling me over and over in your e-mails, your blog comments, what you tell me in our surveys.

I’ll give you a hint: we spoke about it last month, and you have already helped me create it.

Peace, piece, and YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED tomorrow,

RJ

P.S. Anyone who is in our database as having bought a product or attended a seminar in the past 3+ years is going to get “cut to the front of the line” privileges on whatever this thing is.  So don’t let that stop you from checking out our fine product lineup in the meantime – you WILL be rewarded on this new thing, when you invest in Speed Seduction® TODAY.

P.P.S. This INCLUDES everyone who has already signed up for our 2011 3-Day seminars.  Do I see you on that list? If not, hop on over to our seminars website right now…

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s been just three days since I announced our 2011 Speed Seduction® 3-Day Live Seminar schedule to our entire community, and along with numerous registrations, I’ve also received a number of questions.

Many of my students seek absolute clarity before making the decision that will propel their girl-getting game, not to mention their life, forward.  To help you achieve this clarity, I’ve answered the “FAQs” right here.

1) I don’t want to have to say stuff to women that feels weird, creepy or unnatural. Is that what this is all about?

No. Speed Seduction® language patterns work because they match how women think to themselves anyway. The “patterns” can actually be put into lots of different conversation friendly formats, like simple questions, games, quizzes, and jokes, that sound and seem to women like natural, friendly conversation.

2) I already have a style of pick up I use. Can I still use this?

Yes. While I prefer that students come in fresh, with no pre-conceived notions, the most important piece of Speed Seduction®-the understandings of how women create their inner emotional worlds, how language taps into that world, and how to use my Inner Game methods to totally transform yourself can be used with any style or school of pick up and seduction.

3) I’m just out of a divorce, break-up, broken relationship. Am I ready for this?

Yes. You could not be in better hands. I’ve had thousands of guys come to events, from just this kind of difficult circumstance and situation.

4) Will I be filmed? I’m very concerned about my privacy.

We NEVER film anyone without their express, written, prior consent. While many students volunteer to be on camera for change work, it is NOT REQUIRED. Your privacy is our top concern, PERIOD.

5) Can I bring a female guest?

You are entitled to bring ONE guest for free, male, female or anything else. Female guests are always welcome to attend free, if they have a good attitude and are willing to learn.

6) Will this work from women in my country? I’m from Spain, Australia, Japan etc.

Yes. I’ve taught students from all over the world to successfully the quality women hey really want.

While some differences do occur from language to language, the basic structure and rules of how women create their emotions (and how to move those emotions) remain the same.

7) Can I make payments?

Yes. Payment plans are available.  Please note, however, as the date of any particular seminar draws nearer, that these payment plans disappear because we require that all money be paid in full before you take your seat at the live 3-day seminar.  All the more reason to take action now.

8 ) Will there be guest instructors?

I prefer to teach 85-90% of the events myself-no trainees, interns, apprentices or assistants. You are getting THE original, most experienced and legendary founder of the community for more than 16 hours of pure learning, drill, and personal change.

However, from time to time, depending on location, I will select guest speakers to appear. They are never allowed to each more than 2-3 hours total for the entire weekend and are carefully selected by me.

9) Is my satisfaction guaranteed?

Yes, and more than any other company or trainer would dare to do. If I can’t help you, I don’t want your money. (I CANNOT be more blunt than that.) That’s why I will give you a full 90 days AFTER you attend to decide how satisfied you are. If you aren’t happy, just contact our staff and you will be given a full refund OR a credit for the purchase of whatever recorded products or online programs you want. It’s your choice: if you want the money, just say so and it will be instantly refunded back. We want you happy and we want you telling others how happy you are to have done business with us.

The women, and your future, are waiting.
So what, in the name of Delicious Debbie’s delight, are you waiting FOR?

OK…so there you have it.   To get the “full scoop”, select the seminar location and date that best fits your 2011 plan, and lock in your registration (as well as bring a friend for free AND get a 50% discount on all recorded products), put your mouse pointer here and click that button.

But if we haven’t answered your question here, please, please e-mail Lisa and Sheila at orders@seduction.com or call (323) 252-1531 (be sure to leave your name and number if we miss your call so we can get right back to you).

Peace, piece, and see YOU at our next seminar!
RJ

P.S. Our Los Angeles seminar (January 28-30, 2011) is less than 2 months away.  If you were thinking and planning to come to LA, the 3-pay option ends tomorrow (Friday, December 10) at 1:00 PM Pacific.  Click here now and lock in your easy payment plan.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

This video is a clip from an interview I did with a German PUA site.

I’ll post a few more over the coming days.

Tell me what you think….

rjonapproachanxiety

Piece and peace,

RJ

P.S. My new 3-Day seminar schedule for 2011 is up! I’m coming to LA, Chicago, New York City, Germany, Denmark, England, Canada and Australia!

P.P.S. Looking for seduction teaching-in-a-box that you can practice at home?  You’ll want to click here to grab your copy of Speed Seduction® 3.0.  (Visit the seminar webpage to learn how, when you register for a 3-day seminar today, you can get 50% off Speed Seduction 3.0.)