Does She Really Want To “Cunt-trol” You?
Dear Speed Seducers,
One of the things that never ceases to amuse me is how women attempt to exert control that they don’t even really want.
Too often, as budding master seducers, we take women’s attempts to control us at face value and winding up blocking our own cocks.
Example: you are making out and she stops you saying, “I want this to happen slowly”.
Immediately, you take this as meaning that she ought to be the one to control the speed at which things happen and that the speed at which things happen is what it is all about.
I am firmly convinced that, in these situations, women do NOT want “control”. They want us to understand their true emotional need, in that moment, and to take control based on our understanding of that need.
Now, in the example I cited, the actual emotional need could amount to lots of things:
- Instinctively, she knows that in order to get fully turned on, she needs some “stop/start”. It’s not about going “slowly” but going with “pauses in the action” so she can feel sufficiently turned on to truly want to fuck you.
- She is feeling very turned on and suddenly remembering past times when she fucked a guy right away and he ran for the hills.
- She can’t wait for you to rip off her panties and fuck her then and there. But she doesn’t want to appear slutty. (This is the well know “ASD” or Anti-Slut Defense)
- She’s got some genuine issues with physical intimacy, including possibly packing some diseases for which medical science has no current cure.
My point being this: women seldom really even know what they truly want, and even more rarely are they able and willing to clearly express it.
So my rules are:
- Almost never take a woman’s statements at face value.
- Always ask yourself, “What’s the real emotional need she’s expressing?” And “how can I address this AND keep my intent intact?”
- Even if you modify your behavior-what you do in that moment – NEVER let a woman shift your intent to something non-sexual, unless you believe in your heart of hearts and balls of balls, that being sexual with her will truly result in harm to either her and/or yourself.
Your comments are most welcome.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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