When You’re Feeling Anxious And Nervous
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
If you experience those butterflies-in-the-stomach when you’re about to make some approach or move toward a woman, you’re not alone. You’re anxious and nervous about what comes next.
Maybe it’s the worry of how she’ll take it when you first walk up to her and say your first words. Could be jitters because you’re calling her for the first time and you wonder if she’ll be happy to hear from you, if you’ll be entering a relationship with her voicemail, or if she “accidentally” gave you the number for Big Guy’s Sausage Packing Plant.
Perhaps you’ve attempted to pump yourself up with visions of her being glad to see you, delighted to hear from you, or screaming your name at the top of her lungs as the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle enters orbit.
And THAT may be the problem. Let me explain.
There is a distinction between “performance confidence” and “acceptance confidence”, and there is the concept of “When I am uncertain what to do, I take a bold step forward.” Now let me add another dimension (or two).
“Anxious” and “nervous” are linguistic labels. They don’t describe, in detail, what is going on, physically with your body.
Before you put your attention on the linguistic label, pay attention to your body. What is REALLY going on, in your body and with your body, when you feel “anxious” or “nervous”?
I want to suggest that a better, more useful label is, “overstimulated”.
Your heart beating fast, your breathing short and restricted and quickly, whatever it might be, certainly qualifies as “overstimulated”.
What you need is to become familiar with your body and how it breathes, stands etc when you are “calm” and “alert”.
Now, the second part of this is understanding: being overstimulated is a response to too much anticipation; too much projection into the future, and too much focus on result, rather than on the process.
In other words, if you are picturing f@@king the brains out of the hottest chicks then you are going to be putting too much sexual energy into your system; too much voltage down the line and the circuits are going to start to wobble and shudder and maybe short out.
Stop imagining the future before the present has a chance to unfold. This will give you better clarity about RIGHT NOW.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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