Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Any sequence of mental thinking that you go through, starts with a flow of energy in the body that kickstarts the thought process.  That’s the Signal Recognition Process.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Whether you’re getting back in the game after a long absence, coming off the short end of a real-hate-shun-ship, or just really getting focused on mastering your girl-getting game, the frame you approach with makes all the difference.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Time and time I’ve heard it again, from students and other smart guys who approach women with a specific sequence of actions or memorized pick-up lines.  There’s a reason why I hear it.

One (or more) of three things will usually happen(and many times one leads from the other):  a) She’ll pick up on it and give back non-receptive vibes, b) He’ll choke and beat a hasty retreat, c) he’ll find himself in a place where he has to psyche himself up each time he approaches a woman.

It gets worse.

The now-despondent male will often seek the advice of friends or heed the “conventional wisdom” and buy into the beliefs such as “Just be yourself,” “Love will happen as soon as you stop looking for it,” and (it pains me to say I’m not making this up) “You have to BE a friend to HAVE a friend.”

OK, enough. 

Please, hear this: 

This is why I say there are NO “answers” or “information” or “one right way”. There are only POTENTIAL answers and information that only become actualized by your testing, experimenting and ACTIONS in the world.

A huge piece of the puzzle is that guys have a severely restricted and slowed method of learning what works with women.

The ratio of worry/thinking to acting is way, way off and the primary method of learning is not experimenting in the world, but thinking about things.

Remember: Free your mind, and HER ass will follow.

Free your mind means looking deep into the code of how you’ve been keeping yourself stuck.

If the real structure of “stuck” is doing huge amounts of thinking and very little acting, then putting MORE or different thinking through that system won’t give you much change.

And you won’t get far with just a little pocket change.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you no longer need a guarantee before you take a bold step forward and approach a woman, “make your move”, or what have you, some amazing things can totally open up:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

[This is "Part 2" that follows up on my recent post "Untangling Your Deepest Fears With Women: A Farming Analogy"]

We left off last time with a question: what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

As with any personal change, there are the tools like guided visualization, belief change, personal coaching/group feedback, setting goals, etc.

All of these have value. All are useful. Some more than others, and for each of these, I’ve got modifications to the more standard stuff out there that I think makes my versions far more useful and effective.

However, I believe that when a person is “entrenched” in limiting and engraved ways of thinking, feeling, responding and acting, what is first and foremost needed is some “mental spaciousness”.  A place of clear, unprogrammed awareness and calm from which to use all the other tools and do all the other change work.

In any area of change there are those processes/things that:

1. Need to be subtracted out. They just don’t serve at all. They are just “noise” in the line.

These could be:

a) internal dialog that gets in your way
b) beliefs about yourself that are useless and contain no real information (I am ugly, I always fail)
c) energetic overloads-you are so amped up around women that you can’t hold still. (These can also be diminished or transmuted).

2. Things/processes that need to be added in. These could be:

a) simple skill sets (knowing how to physically make moves on women, knowing how to elicit trance words, do walkups, etc)

b) beliefs that power the skill sets, (I never take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone; it’s just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or responding in THAT moment, and it’s always subject to change).

c) different mixes of energy/vibe: strong, playful, intuitive, sincere, challenging. In other words, it could be an issue on the vibrational/energetic level.

d) simply doing more repetitions: some people just need to do more of what is working. They need self-monitoring/motivation skills.

e) skills for learning from mistakes without getting stuck back in them and having an INFORMED enthusiasm. (I’ve developed a protocol for this that is truly amazing-I call it “The Extractor”.

3. Processes/things which need to be increased. That could be any of what I’ve just mentioned in 2. Things which you already do well, that contribute to your success, that already work. The increase could be in frequency, or intensity, or precision or even joy of use!

4. Those things which are useful, but need to be diminished, either in frequency or intensity, or only used in the right sequence or correct proportions with other things, or used in the right context.

Again, that could be any of the items in #2 or anything else that actually is useful that the person already does that can serve in the right
proportion or context. So you could diminish the frequency, intensity, etc.

5. Finally, there are those things which represent great sources of mental energy that neither should be diminished or eliminated, but instead transmuted and refined and then used as pure energy for the achievement of 1-4.

Note: I did NOT say “clearing”. Clearing is better than having them blocking, but transmuting takes all that energy and puts it to use.

Just imagine if all or 90% of the energy/emotion that has been weighing you down, blocking you, enfearing you, were converted to raw energy for your peace of mind, joy, discipline, creativity, etc.

Now, the women are waiting.  What, in the name of Tammy’s tights, are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The truth is… there are so many different pick-up artists out there feeding smart guys like you a lot of B.S. that is even less effective for getting you laid than the 5 Bs – bullying, buying, begging, BS, booze, and biceps. OK, that’s 6 Bs. But you get my point.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In one of the discussion forms where I check in from time to time, a participant told me that part of his fear of approaching women comes from worrying what she might think or say.

It’s more than just fear of rejection; he fears the woman will think he’s a creep and thus tell all her super hot friends. Intellectually, he knows this is unfounded because in every other area of life he can handle, no matter what people think of him.

Here is my response:

How do you know it won’t work the OTHER way: that you’ll give her the most amazingly incredible sexual satisfaction and she’ll tell ALL of her hot friends that you are a DEMON with your tongue, your fingers, your prick, your toes, your elbows, that you have ten fingers like a tongue and a tongue like ten fingers, etc. etc.?

Imagine your mind to be like a fertile field of soil. For whatever reason, you plow the soil over and over again in ONE groove, so that, over the years, that ONE groove grows deeper and deeper.

Once in a while, at random, you plow a different groove, but not very often, so that groove either gets covered over again by random drifts of dirt, by the winds, rain, etc. But still, that different groove is there a little bit.

Then, one day, you decide the soil is dry, so you want to irrigate it. You divert some water from a nearby stream and send it all flooding into the field, and lo and behold, MOST OF THE WATER GOES RIGHT INTO THE DEEPEST GROOVE.

Now, these grooves or tracks or habits of the mind are fixed patterns of perceiving/feeling/responding to our world.

Some are minor, like scratching your ass with your left hand when you are nervous. These are pretty easily spotted.

Some are more deeper into the “operating system” of the mind; for example, always assuming the WORST POSSIBLE OUTCOME to the exclusion of even considering a good outcome.

These deeper grooves tend to be invisible. People don’t even see the stuckness and instead try to work within in it; if they see things for the worst, they often don’t even recognize that and instead just try to cope with the projected horrible outcome.

Now, it gets MORE interesting.

There is raw energy bound up here. By this I mean the grooves are not just patterns of thought, but they have energy associated to and with them.  In your case, there is some energetic quality of fear, anxiety. I would guess that it has qualities of making you feel both contracted inward, like a tortoise pulling its head inside its shell and also feelings of being spread thin like you are going to disappear. I’m guessing, but it is an educated guess from helping thousands of guys.

I would guess it also has an overall “antsy” “jumpy” “agitated” “can’t sit still” flavor to it as well.

And finally, probably a sense of “urgency”. Like you have to get this handled, now.

With all of these various energetic flavors, it’s no wonder you are feeling conflicted, tired, like your system is grinding its gears. Sort of like wanting to step forward with one foot while you step back with the other, or putting the car in reverse and drive at the same time.

In short, I think the answer to all of this is NOT more “cognition” or activity in think space. It’s not to be found in your self-talk or what you visualize, not in YOUR case.

In your case, what will change all of this is the energy you are riding on and bringing in. It is THE core of the issue, the rest is just window dressing around it.

But you are trying to address it using the wrong system.

So the question becomes, what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student reported to me that even though he studies my teachings and practices the skills, at various – sometimes random – instances he’ll choke when he sees a beautiful woman.

The anxiety will kick in so strong, he just won’t approach her.  Especially if she’s really hot.

One of the definitions of the word “anxiety” per dictionary.com is “Distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune.” 

No wonder he’s choking up. 

My suggestion to overcome anxiety: begin by thinking about “anxiety” from a different angle.

Anxiety is often just over-excitement at the promise of progress and pleasure.

Three Steps To Overcoming Anxiety By Redefining It

First, learn to breathe and ground in.  This video is a bit grainy as it’s been around for about 10 years now, but it excellently demonstrates the process in detail.  Watch. Do the practice.

Second, if anxiety wasn’t there at all, what would be there? It isn’t enough to get rid of something; give your mind a vision or goal to aim at. What WOULD you be feeling?

Finally, what meaning do you attach to approaching women? Proof of your value as a human, proof of your attractiveness? What would a more empowering and even more fun meaning be?

Work on this and let me know how it helps.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

If you experience those butterflies-in-the-stomach when you’re about to make some approach or move toward a woman, you’re not alone.  You’re anxious and nervous about what comes next.

Maybe it’s the worry of how she’ll take it when you first walk up to her and say your first words.  Could be jitters because you’re calling her for the first time and you wonder if she’ll be happy to hear from you, if you’ll be entering a relationship with her voicemail, or if she “accidentally” gave you the number for Big Guy’s Sausage Packing Plant.

Perhaps you’ve attempted to pump yourself up with visions of her being glad to see you, delighted to hear from you, or screaming your name at the top of her lungs as the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle enters orbit.

And THAT may be the problem.  Let me explain.

There is a distinction between “performance confidence” and “acceptance confidence”, and there is the concept of “When I am uncertain what to do, I take a bold step forward.”  Now let me add another dimension (or two).

“Anxious” and “nervous” are linguistic labels. They don’t describe, in detail, what is going on, physically with your body.

Before you put your attention on the linguistic label, pay attention to your body. What is REALLY going on, in your body and with your body, when you feel “anxious” or “nervous”?

I want to suggest that a better, more useful label is, “overstimulated”.

Your heart beating fast, your breathing short and restricted and quickly, whatever it might be, certainly qualifies as “overstimulated”.

What you need is to become familiar with your body and how it breathes, stands etc when you are “calm” and “alert”.

Now, the second part of this is understanding: being overstimulated is a response to too much anticipation; too much projection into the future, and too much focus on result, rather than on the process.

In other words, if you are picturing f@@king the brains out of the hottest chicks then you are going to be putting too much sexual energy into your system; too much voltage down the line and the circuits are going to start to wobble and shudder and maybe short out.

Stop imagining the future before the present has a chance to unfold. This will give you better clarity about RIGHT NOW.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training,

Since today is Independence Day here in the United States, I want to share with you some thoughts about magic and freedom.

There is magic in the mastery of using language to capture and lead imagination and emotions.

There is the magic of knowing what to notice that remains invisible to the eye of most.

And, then, there is the deeper magic.

The magic of being willing to step into the unknown AND freeing the other person of any expectation about how THEY should respond or will respond.

Truly freeing them.

As in willing and able to ground yourself into a place of energetic acceptance (they can do whatever they want, **I** control where my energy goes) of their first response, whatever it may be. You are going to respond by staying grounded and holding compassion.

That doesn’t mean you STAY there or make their first response YOUR permanent “truth” about the situation.

Here is why this is so powerful, and why this brings you freedom:

Even the hottest woman has areas of her life where she feels stuck. Things or ways of being or feeling she’s like to try but doesn’t. And she wants reassurance BEFORE she steps out of the boat – so she stays in the boat and just watches the waves and wonders. EVERY WOMAN HAS A PART OF HER LIFE WHERE THIS IS SO.

So when she sees you, a person WILLING to step into what is unknown for you, willing to be open and vulnerable (but not needy) with life and living that is sexy.

She won’t be able to explain it, she’ll feel it.

By itself, that is sexy.

Now, so many people, when they finally do have a way to step beyond their comfort zone are SO filled with expectations and demands on the situation and on others.

“Hey, I opened up to you. I risked. Now I DEMAND you open up back”

So when you open up and step beyond the known as a choice for yourself WITH NO DEMANDS AT ALL ON THE OTHER PERSON, that freedom, that “not doing”, that “vacuum” around you creates a pull forward.

You place no pressure. You have no “push” on them at all.

There is no-thing for them to resist.

These two elements combined create a deeper magic few will ever even see.

And the two elements don’t add up.

They MULTIPLY.

So it’s not 100 points of attractive vibe PLUS 100 points of attractive vibe.

It’s 100 points times 100 points. That’s 10,000 points of attractive vibe.

Now, add to that:

Basic walk up energies that enable you to effortlessly approach any woman, any time, anywhere.

Language skills.

The energetic touch secrets.

I think that puts you up near the 20,000 points of attraction – right out of the gate.

None of this requires arrogant swagger or being a loudmouth.

And NONE OF IT REQUIRES ANY PAST “SUCCESS”.

You can have it now, in a heatbeat, in between the passing of one second to the next, in between the fading of this thought and the arising of the next.

Strip away the nonsense and crap that has swirled and guess what: YOU ALREADY ARE THIS.

You just have to be quiet enough to remember.

And in that, there is freedom that goes beyond words.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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