Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

The overwhelming majority of you have responded by saying you want me to discuss my discoveries and thoughts regarding showing up attractive.

So here we go with that part of the discussion. I’ll be posting videos as well as written articles and I encourage your feedback.  As in my live events, the more you participate the more you receive from me.

Getting Out Of Your Own Way

Over the years, I’ve noticed that guys who come to this work are significantly getting in their own way by reinfecting and reinforcing  the very patterns of thinking and acting  that have been keeping them stuck. As by I’ve said, it’s very difficult to free yourself from your prison when you are consistently re-creating the prison from moment to moment.

Rumination, Rehearsal And Ruins

Whenever I give a talk or teach a seminar, one of the first questions I ask is: “How many here dwell on their mistakes with women? Raise your hand if you spend a lot of time running your mistakes or disappointments over and over in your head.”

At least 70 percent of the room will raise their hand.  The other remaining 30% are either returning students who are doing very well with women thanks to studying and applying my material or they are too embarrassed to raise their hands.

The fact is that ruminating on mistakes, disappointments and fuck-ups is a very common human activity, and even more common for the men who are seeking massive improvement in their love and sex lives.

The next question I always ask is: how many here think they are doing this because they have “low self-esteem”?  Or a “fear of success”?  Or because Mommy made them stay down in the basement and dress like a girl?

There is, in fact, only one reason “why” you might dwell on your mistakes with women: you are trying to find a solution to the situation so you can do better and enjoy the results you want.

But here is the thing: if you could have figured it out that way, you would have done so by now.  That process just doesn’t work, no matter what kind of content you put through it.  No matter what you put in the refrigerator it is never going to be a toaster. That’s not its purpose, function or design.

Even Worse…

Here is the greater challenge: dwelling on mistakes, over and over, is actually a very effective way to virtually guarantee the mistake gets repeated.

The basic rule is this: there is no basic difference between what you dwell on, over and over again, and what you rehearse. And what you rehearse over and over again, is basically what you are programming your brain to do.

Which means this: the very act of dwelling and ruminating on mistakes almost certainly guarantees you will achieve the opposite of what you intend.  Rather than find a solution to the challenge, you will program back in the error.

There is far, far more to say about this.  But for now I’d like to invite your feedback on this.   Tell me what you think and if you think it is an accurate picture of one of the challenges you have faced or currently do face.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ten weeks.

In the grand scheme of things, not a lot of time.  Most people I know have gone at least ten weeks between a job interview and getting the job.  Some of the worst TV shows ever have lasted at least ten weeks before they mercifully pulled the plug. Many musical acts go from club acts to Top 40 legends selling out 20,000+ venues… in 10 weeks.

Ever been told that something would happen “within sixty days”?  Well, ten weeks is just sixty days with an extra week and change thrown in.

If you observe Halloween (a holiday less scary than Desperate Supplicators’ Day on February 14), that’s less than ten weeks away from right now.

So, what could YOU accomplish in ten weeks?  How could life be different for you, in ten weeks?

When students ask me “how long does it take for this stuff to work?” I ask them back: when you apply my girl-getting teaching, think what it could be like in ten weeks, if you start right now.

Not only having the confidence, but actually having it be commonplace and routine, to walk right up to any woman, anytime, anywhere.

Knowing that if she throws you a curveball, you’ll not only catch it, but you’ll pitch it back (straight into her glove).  And you’ll score a home run with her.

Instead of being a guy who waits, you’ll be a man who powerfully claims his choice of the most beautiful, appealing, exciting, compatible women.

Hell, imagine within ten weeks, going from a dry spell to getting laid repeatedly.  One of my students tells me again and again how in less than ten weeks (more like 20 days) he went from hoping that some hot chick might like him someday, to hoping he remembered to pick up the other bedclothes from the laundry because he had a “squirter” in his bed.

It takes effort.  It takes sticktoitiveness.  So does learning to ride a bicycle.  But once you acquire and master the skills, you’ll be two-wheeling for life.

What will YOUR life be like in ten weeks from now? Hell, what will it be like on December 31 (just over 16 weeks away) when you size up how the year has gone for you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

OK…so you’re doing some street Sarging and you come across a really hot chick (let’s say she’s an HB9 right now, and will look even hotter OUTSIDE that cute jogging suit).

You’re feeling an adventure coming on… you wonder… “Here on the street she’s a lady… but what’s she like between the sheets?

Is the type of woman who gets really turned on by taking a risk?  Being naughty? “How can I use the information she’s going to give me when I open the conversation to ignite her passion and get her to take a risk with me?” you wonder to yourself.

Let’s Bring The Bad Girl Out: How Ya Gonna Get Her To Ride The Bronco?

First, you need to be aware of the concept of conversational THEMES. These are overall topics of conversation that steer, direct and guide things.  I typically have 4-5 different places I can go, conversationally:

1. Questions/observations/challenges to/about her
2. Demos, games, quizzes, jokes, poems
3. Connections.
4. Indulgence (escape / adventure / cravings
5. Sex. But be careful about going to that too soon, too directly.

My preferred “m.o.” is to get her talking, gather information about her, get her to generate her own responses.

Give her the sense that I am curious about her, somewhat interested, and am asking questions out of curiosity and also because I am screening her. I find that giving the sense that you are screening and that THEY are being screened increases their response potential for the rest of what you do.

Also, throughout this, evaluate her and get her overall vibe. Is the an adventurous woman with a history of f@@king guys right off the bat? Is she more of a “romantic” type (but perhaps with a hidden, naughty side that really WANTS to experience a quick f@@k or some nasty, “bad” sexual acts)?

Bottom line though: get her talking. Use her responses, fed back through any of the above as a way of amping up the situation, testing at each step for physical readiness.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s an oft-told story…

Boy meets Girl in an “everyday” setting.

Girl smiles and giggles oh-so-cute and Boy sees the door open and beckoning.

Boy strikes up a little convo.  Girl’s answer to his innocent-yet-obviously-leading question (the one where he asks her out without actually f@@king ASKING) leaves him stumped even though it’s plain-as-daylight stuff.

Let’s hear from a student who felt like he just got “traded down to the minors” off such a seemingly innocent response:

The other day, I went to a local clothing store because I needed to pick up a couple things.  I was greeted by a cute, bubbly sales associate.  I said hi and bought a belt and a few other things (I was there for that in the first place).  I commented on her style, then I left.  But – as if opportunity was raining down from heaven, I had forgotten my cell phone, so I went back and said I lost it!

She asked for my number so we could call it and hear it ring.  Lo and behold, it fell off while I was trying on the belt and landed under a rack with fall jackets on it.  Heard it ring and picked it up.  Then I asked where she lived, and her name, and if she had plans for the evening.  She said she was going to relax at her place.

I didn’t know what to say, so I left (with her phone number, and her name). She seemed interested in me, and I was wondering what I could do to get in contact with her, and get her to meet me. Can you help me?

Let me start with the Captain Obvious answer: call her and and f@@king ask her out.

Don’t try to figure out if she really seemed interested… or just being all cute and flirty to loosen up your wallet by tightening up your Johnson (something that, uh, RARELY happens in the real world and is, uh, NEVER done on purpose).  Besides, your memory of actual events is probably distorted by now over hot you think she is… and how hot you wish, hope, and pray she was FOR YOU.

But think about what you’re asking her (or the next woman, when you go back for cuff links):

You asked where she lived (which DOESN’T MATTER until you go back to her place for some EEE-RRR-EEE-RRR), her name (was she wearing a nametag, as a sales associate in a retail store?), and what she was doing tonight (other than breathing and eventually sleeping?)

Were THESE the questions she was being called upon to answer while sidelined from making money so she can pay her rent?  What did her responses tell you about her “vibe” and what inspires her, so you could use it to anchor her emotions and get her excited and irresistibly aroused at-will?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

The easiest thing you can possibly do is sit on your ass and let things go on as they are.  Yeah, you might have a miserable life, out of shape, bad health, need a haircut really bad, no women, no nookie, no Giggity Giggity Goo.

But there’s no risk.  You can be certain (unless there’s a blackout) the boob tube will keep you company when you sit alone on the couch watching late-night TV.

Now, if you choose to “rock the boat” by taking drastic measures such as updating your wardrobe, getting a haircut, hitting the gym (to feel good about yourself), and getting yourself in circulation so people can see the gifts you offer to the world…that’s downright scary.  What if it doesn’t work?  What if your friends (or even family members) make fun of you?  What if the women you Sarge on dust you off with a dismissive hand gesture?

Case in point: one of your fellow readers on this blog, who is now working his way toward girl-getting mastery:

I am still in the “trying” phases and haven’t got laid yet – what could I possibly be doing wrong?  Also, when a girl doesn’t respond when I use the patterns (such as “have you ever…”, the Twin Brothers, etc.), how can I handle the discouragement I feel in me after that?

And finally Ross, which is the fastest way to learn Speed Seduction® via home study?

First of all, congratulations on your decision to “step up” and claim results with the women you really want.  Who said you’re doing anything wrong?

I have to ask, though  (just to be sure): are you reciting the patterns verbatim?  And if you’re not, could it be that you sound like you are, like you rehearsed the lines?  She’s not going to respond to that, because it’s not YOU she’s experiencing.

Now, I don’t think you’re going up to women reading the patterns off cue cards, but I’ve had students who DID.  One of them got laid.  With the cue cards. His secret?  He applied the lessons of Speed Seduction® to that SPECIFIC situation with that SPECIFIC woman.  He used the cue cards to make her laugh and open her up… then he took it naturally from there.

Handling discouragement?  Well, when something bad happens, AND when something good happens, I repeat as necessary:

Show me better, show me more, show me more, show me better, now!

That galvanizes me to go get more chicks.  If I “strike out”, there’s always tomorrow (or even 5 minutes from now).  Even if the one I just met is a straight up fox, now that I’ve had her, I want one even hotter.

Keep Sarging. You have me, and the entire community, on your side and in your corner.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In past editions of this blog, I’ve delved into how to Sarge when you’re out somewhere without a wingman and you’re trying to “break in” to the circle when everyone else seems to be there with all their friends.

Well, here’s a question I’ve been asked several times in the past couple weeks (that also comes up often in our live seminars, group coaching calls, forums, and discussion groups):

What do you do when the woman you’re interested in has an overprotective “guy friend” around?

When you try to find out if he’s her boyfriend – “So how long have you two been together?” - she says “Oh, he’s just a friend.  We’re not boyfriend/girlfriend.” However, it seems like he’s always around, interrupting every attempt you make to create excitement and get her all giddy wanting you, not to mention inserting himself into every single conversation.

When he’s not around, she mentions him frequently, often beginning sentences with “(insert his name here) says…” or “(insert his name here) thinks…” Even if she didn’t say the words, you just KNOW that if you and her ever got in an argument, he’d be in your face “defending” her.

So, how do you get this guy to stop c**K-blocking you, when he’s not even her boyfriend?

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most, let me ask you:

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

That being said, before you go any further, consider the following.

• Simple fact: he’s “around all the time” because she wants him to be.  That’s the bottom line.  This overrides all.

But, that being said:

1. Could be, she’s not on the market. She might have a boyfriend who’s on an extended trip (in military service, long-term overseas client project, etc) and this guy is a friend of theirs who “looks out” for her as a favor to her boyfriend
2. Maybe he’s consigned to her “friend zone” and he comes from a place of scarcity and “hangs around her” to keep what little she gives him.  If that’s the case, he has a vested interest in sabotaging every man who Sarges on her.
3. Have you tried befriending him, or do you just go silent, sulky, and mopey-faced when he “interrupts”? When you show the world that you are a positive, engaging person, you outshine the AFC competition.  Remember: you don’t have to outrun the bear.  You just have to outrun the other guy the bear is chasing.

Maybe it’s #3.  Open yourself to the possibility.  Give her a chance by giving him a chance.  However, if he really is giving you the third degree and is there entirely to cause you problems, you might gain some clues from what this student did.

Peace and piece.
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Fans of the long-running TV show, M*A*S*H, will remember the exciting girl-getting exploits of camp ladies’ man, Corporal Walter Eugene “Radar” O’Reilly.

Yes. Really. Radar.

The short, nearsighted, naive, teddy-bear-hugging, comic-book-reading, not-all-that-handsome farmboy from Ottumwa, Iowa. Radar.

You think I’m kidding? You think I’ve lost it?  Let’s go through the exhibits, and I’ll briefly recap what happened and share my feedback where I can.

(NOTE: All images are screen captures and are copyright to Twentieth Century Fox.  They are presented here as illustrations for a research project only.  I strongly urge you to support the actors by purchasing the DVDs, all of which are available for sale on leading retailers like Amazon.)

Here we see Radar, who has been studying up on Bach and Tolstoy to impress a highly cultured new nurse.  While he utilized his girl-getting game as an opportunity to expand his overall horizons, he was doing it to impress the girl – not good.  In the end, he got so bored with the seduction he fell asleep during dinner.  (There is no shortage of women, nor are there a shortage of women for YOU.  Don’t “settle.”)

There’s an unexploded bomb in the compound, and Radar encounters a bombshell of a nurse who has other forms of “explosion” on her mind.  He tries to wink at her, and for the effort, she takes him off to the supply tent.  A fine example of frame control, resetting the mood, and redirecting her energies in a Sargy sort of way.  Well played.

Radar was shy around this nurse who loved poetry.  He came over to her tent one night to share a book of poems, and she pounced on him like a tigress in heat.  Turns out she thought his shyness around her was him being a “heartbreaker” and “playing hard-to-get.”  Question: what women do you know might need just a nudge to pounce on YOU?

There are several scenes where this particular nurse comes onto Radar.  Sometimes he knows what to do and they dance or make out…sometimes he blows it.  I would ask, what would he need to get his game “on tap” so he can draw from it at-will?

Not his finest hour.  This Korean woman claimed (falsely) that Radar fathered her baby.  Sick of being teased by the likes of Hawkeye, Trapper, and Frank, Radar, in turn, falsely claims responsibility.  (Good thing Hawkeye had the blood test results in-hand to bail Radar out!)

But, two minutes later, the same giggly, flirty nurse from two shots up encounters Radar by chance.  Very excited to see him, she asks him out and he accepts.  Hawkeye recommends Radar wear the paratrooper scarf that seems to drive women wild.  Radar thinks about it.  (Awareness of your “style” that drives women crazy for you – and into your bed – is a critical factor.)

This nurse is fed up with Radar dropping off the mail and shuttering out the door. Her exact words: “When are you going to make a REAL delivery?” He resists because she outranks him.  (However, he soon gets accidentally promoted.  She then REJECTS him because she prefers the “underdog”)….

….However, once the mistake is corrected and he’s restored to Corporal, Radar drops off that package she was asking about earlier.  (Lesson: it’s who you ARE that is more likely to attract women NOW, than who you WISH you were.)

Radar spent an entire episode being shy, trying to figure out how to get this new nurse to notice him and using half-assed pick-up lines to attempt conversation.  Turns out, the whole time her eyes were wide open to what he offered.  All he had to to was tell her he was interested! Here you see him at the officers’ club with the “prettiest girl in camp.”  SCORE!

Radar’s on his way back to the 4-0-Double-7 when he encounters this sizzling hot farmgirl who grew up not too far from him.  If this is an indicator, I bet when he got discharged, his homecoming was pretty sweet.  (Gee, how many double entendres are in THAT sentence?)

Here’s the thing.  If Radar can do it, so can you.  Over and out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When Radar needed mentoring and guidance on how to work it with the ladies, who did he turn to?  Hawkeye, whose own girl-getting game was par excellence.  We learn from those who have succeeded before us.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

The other day I received this very interesting e-mail from a student of mine.

Seems something keeps happening that changes women from being all excited and bothered about him, to suddenly turning colder than salted salmon on a Siberian scooner on the second Sunday in January. Here goes:

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Ross, was wondering if you could shed light on something here. I’m regularly meeting women – out and about, in the overpriced coffee shops, at my favourite hangout – all the good places to meet women where the getting is good and the pickings are ripe.

As I get to know women, one way or another the subject of Facebook comes up. Next thing you know, we become “friends” on Facebook. And that’s usually about the last thing that happens.

Things tends to come to a shuddering halt. It’s like this Facebook is a buzz kill for my Sarging. Like….Facebook is c#&$blocking me! The woman will ask if we can be “friends” on Facebook. What am I to do, say no? And if I do, how do I say it?

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Question: how is adding a woman to your Facebook list a way of capturing her emotions and energy and directing them down a path that leads to pure passion and pleasure?

You gonna take her to the movies to see Farm Wars, and then have a steaming hot make-out session with her at her place back in Mafiaville, then post to her Wall that you enjoyed hanging out with her?

Remember: “dating” is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with. Being on Facebook together is what dating couples do. Until you’ve given her a ride on your shuttle at Cape Carnal-veral, skip the dating rituals.

When you’re THIS close to banging her, don’t go off on tangents about Facebook. She’s not likely to say “I’m DYING to go home with you, but I only f@@k men on my Friends list, so can you add me first?”

Flip side – when you’re working a Sarge and she starts telling you about her friends’ status messages and wall posts, nod and say “that’s cool” – and get back to what a Seduction Master does, without further ado.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Over the past 20 years as a Seduction teacher, I’ve peered deep down into the code of how women think, feel and move their way through their subjective emotional world. And one place you’re NOT going to find a whole lot of that is in her Facebook status updates.

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Hey Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Want to know one of the major reasons why so many guys just absolutely CRUSH IT in business, life, and their pursuit of happiness, EXCEPT when it comes to mastery and mega-success with the ladies?

HINT: It’s all around you.

Watch this video (from one of my recent seminars) and tell me what you think:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In past articles on this blog, I’ve delved into how to handle things when a woman you approach figures out you’re using Speed Seduction® patterns on her.

Well, wouldn’t you know… women are using my techniques too!

Here’s an example of how some chicks get this stuff naturally, particularly when it comes to overcoming shyness:

Last week, I was at one of my favourite local hangouts, chatting up a group of women I know from seeing them around the neighborhood.

Anyway, one of them was regaling me of tales of her sexual adventures. This story was about being at a club with some of her girlfriends, when she spotted, “The most handsome man I have ever seen.”

She told me she approached him as follows. Not feeling inspired by any “famous first words,” she overcame her uncertainty by taking a bold step forward. She walked up to him and said,

“I just wanted to tell you….I think you are…the most handsome man in this place and…I just wanted to say “hi”.

She did it brilliantly. Even used the pauses NATURALLY. She did the fake shyness bit quite well too, looking down and away at times and then right in his eyes (she recreated the whole thing for me, as if she were reliving it!)

What do we take away from this?

1. We CAN learn from the chicks in our lives!
2. If WOMEN are using this stuff, then why shouldn’t YOU?

Alright… that’s the lesson of the day. The most beautiful woman you have ever seen is out there, waiting for you. What are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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