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Silence The “Doubt Delay Dialogue” NOW!

Posted by Ross Jeffries on July 8th, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

All human beings experience a fair amount of self-doubt from time to time.  Especially when it comes to approaching women.

ca_41841277_180Ever found yourself ten feet away from a chick who was the best looking babe you’d seen all year (or at least all week), there all by herself in the cafe reading a book, looking like she’d probably like it (or at least wouldn’t slap you silly) if you went up to her right now. 

But you don’t do it.

Instead, you have this endless, pointless conversation in your head and find any excuse to avoid putting yourself out there.

Eventually she pays the check, closes the book, and walks out. 

Whew – at least you didn’t get rejected. By her at least.  You just want to…

…Tell Your Doubting Voice To “Shut Up Already”
So You Can Get Some Action

Here’s the difference between a Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training (MIT) vs. the Average Frustrated Chump (AFCs): the MIT has learned to recognize when the “doubt delay dialogue” is happening (or about to happen), and stops those feelings dead in their tracks.

How do YOU Get this?

You see, developing a “monitoring” state or awareness that checks in and recognizes when you are beginning to have less than useful responses; THIS awareness is a great gift. It’s quite magickal.

You see, NO ONE is in a good state ALL the time. That’s not what we want to aim at.

What we DO want to aim at is knowing our own unique patterns of thinking, feeling, acting and being able to recognize quickly when we are going in a less than useful way; interrupt it effectively, and get back on track.

This skill isn’t very sexy; it’s not like being able to levitate, turn invisible or walk through a wall. But it is very, VERY powerful.

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I’ll tell you what IS sexy: the results.  It’s sexy when she puts that book aside and turns to you, and you use the vibe as a down payment for an all-expenses-paid-for-two journey on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Quieting the rancor of self-doubt is based on a belief: that your feelings and thoughts and responses CAN be put in your awareness and CAN be brought under a good measure of direction and control. And it’s based on a value that doing so is VALUABLE, even necessary.  Click here to learn what gets you this awareness and control…

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“I’m Literally Rejecting Myself!” (And Yet You Expect Women To FALL ALL OVER YOU?!?!)

Posted by Ross Jeffries on December 29th, 2009
 Im Literally Rejecting Myself! (And Yet You Expect Women To FALL ALL OVER YOU?!?!)

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Those who follow my teachings have heard me explain the difference between your “inner game” and “outer game” and how the former, if not calibrated toward girl-getting mastery, can send you right back to the dugout.

fotolia 1537313 small Im Literally Rejecting Myself! (And Yet You Expect Women To FALL ALL OVER YOU?!?!)Smart guys like you want desperately to turn your fear of women into the charm and charisma that gets women hot and bothered and ready to go. But something is stopping you – like you literally talk yourself out of it.

Such as this student:

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Ross, I have been working on building my confidence with women for over a year now and it’s going nowhere. I’m starting to think that no matter how much I rehearse confidence, I’ll never overcome this feeling of worthlessness or being unworthy of meeting good women.

And I think it goes beyond just women. If I can’t find something to do with my day or some friends to be with. then I start to think it’s because I have no real friends and no one wants around. Then the cycle begins. When I start my weekend off on such a bad note the feeling just gets stronger until Sunday night and I am already defeated for the entire week ahead.

It’s like I am literally rejecting myself. How do I break free of this vicious cycle?

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OK, so you’re rejecting yourself. And yet you want to have sexy hot women falling all over you, cat-fighting amongst themselves over who gets to go home with you tonight… or even more, two or more of them going home with you?

A big part of your problem is too much of an “inward focus“. That is, you are un-usefully in your head, evaluating yourself, instead of turning your curious attention outward toward others.

You are ASSUMING/PROJECTING that others are judgmental, critical, mean and rejecting you without even giving them a fair chance to show you otherwise. How is that fair to them? Do you see yourself as the kind who is closed to the possibility that other people might be essentially good? That women might think YOU are sexy, charming, and attractive? And even more – how is that fair to YOU?

If you see this
amazing sweet-looking honey sitting at the table next to you, and you ASSUME she’ll shoot you down cold without having made ANY effort to approach her… you’re literally deciding FOR HER that she will NOT like you.

Imagine… if you DID Sarge on her… and she ended up getting irresistibly aroused by you and banging you that same afternoon?

Now as far as finding things to do and people to hang out with, is it that you can’t? Or is it that, because of your beliefs and projections about being judged and rejected, you haven’t developed the awareness, scheduling and other skills so that you plan fun events for yourself, and fun events involving others (including hot women)?

Look: if a person believes they are unable to walk or run, they probably won’t bother developing the skills of walking and running. Then, because they don’t have the skills, they will conclude that they are physically unable to – even though their legs work just fine!

Do you see the cycle? Now BREAK THE CYCLE.

Focus on the skills of searching for, planning and creating fun things to do, events, etc. Apply the same when you approach women and you will see results other than the rejection you put on yourself by ASSUMING she won’t like you and not giving her the chance to “below you” in the first place.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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