Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Mel Gibson should check out some reruns of a TV show called ‘NYPD Blue’

For those of you who have not heard of this show (which ran from 1993-2005), the main character was Detective Andy Sipowicz… who, to say the least, was not an AFC in how he did his job.

Problem was, in his personal life and with women, he was a train wreck.  When we first meet Andy, he’s a longtime alcoholic, about to lose his career and estranged from his son.  He sought solace in booze and hookers.

Now, the Sipowicz story is legendary – bald, overweight, middle-aged Everyman twice marries much younger, hotter women, has several encounters with other hotties between the two marriages, and has women chasing him throughout.  I could write a book.  But for this article, I’m only going to deal with his seduction of Sylvia (the “pissy little bitch” I talk about below.)

In the very first scene, we see Andy Sipowicz humiliated on the witness stand when it’s revealed he slashed a mobster’s tires so he could see in the guy’s trunk without a warrant.  When the district attorney prosecuting the case shares her “concern” with Sipowicz because his misbehavior got her case thrown out, his response to her:

(while grabbing his crotch) “Hey, ipsa this you pissy little bitch!”

After a life-changing experience (getting shot by a hit-man during a tryst with his favorite hooker), Sipowicz gets sober by default (Mr. Daniels and  Mr. Beam don’t work at the ICU).

Now seeing clearly, he gets his career back on track, rebuilds his relationship with his son…and eventually asks Sylvia out to dinner.  When she expresses shock and asks why she would want to have dinner with HIM of ALL people, he says “I don’t know, you do or you don’t.”

She decides she does.

Soon, they become an item, and after several delays due to things that “keep coming up” at Andy’s apartment, she spends the night at his place.

What happens next?

Then it’s time to meet her family.  At a birthday party, where the liquor flows as freely as the laughter.  Testing himself, Sipowicz takes a drink.  Then another.  Cut to later that night when he throws Sylvia out in a drunken rage where all his demons (anger, hate, prejudice, self-loathing – sound familiar?) come out.

Over the next several months, Sipowicz gets more serious about self improvement.  He attends AA meetings and works with a sponsor.  Through persistent outreach he starts rebuilding his relationship with his son.  With the support of his partners, as well as a boss who proves more understanding than Sipowicz expected, he works on his negative attitudes and stereotypes and becomes more open and receptive.

Eventually, he creates another chance with Sylvia.  This time, he doesn’t blow it.  They get married, and at age 48 he becomes a father again.  A second chance at the life that, until recently, he never thought he’d have.

Now, why should Mel Gibson take note?

Here’s why Andy Sipowicz went from “hope-to-die drunk” to fulfilled man with a solid girl-getting game, while Mel keeps sliding in the opposite direction.

• Rather than dwelling on the past and beating himself up, Sipowicz accepts his own past behavior without passing judgment.  He applies lessons from it that help him become a better man.  (Over and over women tell him: “I know who you WERE.  And that’s an important part of how you became who you ARE.”)
• Sipowicz kept postponing Sylvia’s first visit to his apartment because he was unsure of his girl-getting game (he couldn’t remember the last time he had sex sober).  Whatever was tripping his inner game, though, turned out it wouldn’t have stopped her from wanting him anyway.
• Getting sober, and his initial experiences with Sylvia showed him he COULD succeed with women who, up until that point, may or may not have given him the time of day.  He subsequently uses this as an anchor to “pull himself back” when his path to betterment takes an unexpected turn (like when he briefly starts drinking again after Andy Jr., also a policeman, is killed in the line of duty).

Note to Mel Gibson: almost everything I described is in Seasons 1 and 2, which are available on DVD. Check them out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Andy Sipowicz was not “runway model handsome” and he had a “past” that was less than desirable (with some ongoing areas for improvement) but there are enough women who liked him that it didn’t matter.  It was really his “inner game” that had him “tripping on his Johnson.”  Learn how he turned things around, and how YOU can, too.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

The dreck that’s pumped out into the mass media by the “romance industry” would have you thinking you have to look like a movie star, sing like a rock star, be chiseled like an Olympic star, and have enough money to take a space shuttle ride to an actual star, to get the babes you really want.

This is why so many guys resort to the 5 Bs – bullying, begging, buying, BS, and booze.  And also why many guys put off their girl-getting game for years while they hunker down in the gym building the “sixth B” – biceps.

Frankly, it has me SEEING stars.

Look: I’ve taught thousands of guys how to apply Speed Seduction® to cut through the “dating game” and score with women who, up till now, you thought would never give you the f@@king time of day.  I practice what I preach and… I’m 51, lanky and ugly as sin dipped in shit and I am never hard-up for women.

But it wasn’t always this way.

Where do you think I was when I started all of this, 22 years ago?

1. Living at home, moved back with my parents at age of 29.
2. Uglier than sin dipped in shit. (Age has only made me SLIGHTLY more graceful.)
3. NO money.
4. Driving a beat up Datsun b210 with NO f@@kin’ paint job left to speak of.

Didn’t stop me, though.

Chances are, things are “less than perfect” with you.  So f@@king what?

Let me ask one question: what would it be like if it just so happens that “one thing” about yourself you really don’t like, happens to be THE thing that gets many women hot… but you didn’t know because you didn’t take charge, fire up your girl-getting game, and FIND OUT?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Fed up having to settle for low quality, average women, or worse being alone?  Sick and tired of getting rejected, ignored, humiliated, overlooked, shut down or standing there frozen and speechless by beautiful women?

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

I often get asked, in e-mails I get from students as well as during live appearances on video chats and in-person seminars, what are some of the best pick-up lines for guys to use on chicks.

Let me begin by stating: I don’t teach “pick-up lines.”  Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training (MITs) use conversational patterns.

So let’s ask: what IS a “pattern”?

A “pattern” is much more than memorized “lines” or even complete “speeches”.  It includes a more broad variety of actions/methods/techniques designed to engage the woman, capture her vibe, and appeal to what drives her…wild.

I know you want to see some pattern language in action.  So before we go any further, watch this short video clip of me working a hot Brazilian chick at one of my live seminars into an erotic trance.  (My apologies in advance, this clip is low-quality, but you’ll still be able to hear and see what’s happening.)

More importantly: the right question can be a “pattern”.

A “pattern” is any communication that captures and leads a woman’s imagination and stimulates her emotions in the right direction.

Which of the following, for example, is a “pattern”:

1. What do you do for a living?

2. What do you find most challenging about what you do, and what do you find most fulfilling about what you do?

Do you get my point here?

Here’s another example:

1. Where was the last place you went on vacation?

2. If you could go somewhere where money and time were no object, where would you go, and what kind of….things…would you like to try?

Here’s a fun assignment: come up with a typical question women get asked by Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) guys. Then take a stab at coming up with a Speed Seduction® version of the same question that actually would stimulate her emotions and imagination in a useful direction.  Post them here on the blog!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Success with women involves creating irresistible POSITIVE challenge, that draws women forward and massively magnifies her attraction to you, from the first word spoken to her last gasp of pleasure.  Click here to find the “mother lode” of conversational patterns…

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

All human beings experience a fair amount of self-doubt from time to time.  Especially when it comes to approaching women.

Ever found yourself ten feet away from a chick who was the best looking babe you’d seen all year (or at least all week), there all by herself in the cafe reading a book, looking like she’d probably like it (or at least wouldn’t slap you silly) if you went up to her right now. 

But you don’t do it.

Instead, you have this endless, pointless conversation in your head and find any excuse to avoid putting yourself out there.

Eventually she pays the check, closes the book, and walks out. 

Whew – at least you didn’t get rejected. By her at least.  You just want to…

…Tell Your Doubting Voice To “Shut Up Already”
So You Can Get Some Action

Here’s the difference between a Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training (MIT) vs. the Average Frustrated Chump (AFCs): the MIT has learned to recognize when the “doubt delay dialogue” is happening (or about to happen), and stops those feelings dead in their tracks.

How do YOU Get this?

You see, developing a “monitoring” state or awareness that checks in and recognizes when you are beginning to have less than useful responses; THIS awareness is a great gift. It’s quite magickal.

You see, NO ONE is in a good state ALL the time. That’s not what we want to aim at.

What we DO want to aim at is knowing our own unique patterns of thinking, feeling, acting and being able to recognize quickly when we are going in a less than useful way; interrupt it effectively, and get back on track.

This skill isn’t very sexy; it’s not like being able to levitate, turn invisible or walk through a wall. But it is very, VERY powerful.

I’ll tell you what IS sexy: the results.  It’s sexy when she puts that book aside and turns to you, and you use the vibe as a down payment for an all-expenses-paid-for-two journey on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Quieting the rancor of self-doubt is based on a belief: that your feelings and thoughts and responses CAN be put in your awareness and CAN be brought under a good measure of direction and control. And it’s based on a value that doing so is VALUABLE, even necessary.  Click here to learn what gets you this awareness and control…

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

We’ve been following the experiences of my student, and so far it’s been an oft-told story…

… at least one that’s oft-told among my students.

Boy meets Girl.

Boy Sarges on Girl and gets her excited about exploring new worlds without resorting to bullying, begging, buying, BS, or booze (or biceps) or getting stuck in the “friend” trap.

Girl puts up resistance just when Boy thinks he’s about to score big.  Boy confidently and unflinchingly appeals to her vibe and overcomes Girl’s resistance and they’re off to the races.

Well: I’m pleased to report this story has a happy ending and they lived happily ever after. 

Part 3: (Inner) Game On!

From that moment, their subsequent dates went GREAT.  They had a great time.  She was happy with him because he was always doing different and unusual things (well, unusual because she was used to dealing with AFCs).  In doing so he adhered to the principle, “Leave her better than you found her.” He was happy because he was managing a fruitful relationship for the first time in his life.

The relationship is now over, but my student has great memories that he can appeal to every time he needs a positive feeling or “vibe” in his girl-getting game.  As a result of the experience, he’s no longer afraid of exploring his feelings and letting himself live every second without dreading the uncertainty of what’s coming next.

Now, as we wrap up here, I want to focus on a few key points.

1) Notice that he didn’t say anything about “dates” until AFTER they slept together.  He “met” her several times, but he adhered to my teaching: “Dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with.” By avoiding the “dating” rituals he actually INCREASED the odds she would become his girlfriend.

2) I said earlier they lived happily ever after.  I did NOT say they lived happily ever after TOGETHER. It doesn’t always work out quite that way, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t work out.

Remember: when you interact with a woman, your goal is not to succeed with her, but to hone and strengthen your girl-getting skills that will lead to success with many other women.

3) That said, if this particular woman turns out to be “the one”, then good on both of you!  If not, the odds just went WAY up that you’ll succeed more often with more women… and that you WILL find “the one” much sooner.

Either way, it sure beats a poke in the eye!

Much peace and many more pieces,
RJ

P.S. Life is fine when you have an effective, sure way to learn from every situation with women, so you develop a “stealth charisma” that’s subtly attractive, completely undetectable, and utterly independent of any external validation from anyone.  Click here to learn how to get it.

Dear Speed Seduction® Masters In Training,

I really want to keep up the conversation about how our language around “dating” keeps us “dating” our hands.

So here is another clip for you.  I hope it gets you thinking. Please give me your feedback and comments.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S.  “Dating language” is often the root cause of confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve experienced with women.  Applying the teachings in Nail Your Inner Game converts all that to pure, immediately usable learning and gets you moving right now in the real world with the success you’ve always wanted.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

The terms in which we’re programmed from early on to think of “dating” is what’s tripping so many smart guys up.

Click the Play button below to learn more and then comment to tell me your thoughts:

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The video clip you’ve just watched is a sample of what I teach at my live, 3-day seminars.   The next dates are in New York in June and London in August.  Have YOU signed up yet?   Click here to learn more.

P.P.S. Ready for something better than the 5 “Bs” and the after-effects of the global responses we’ve been programmed to buy into?  Then, check out my Speed Seduction® 3.0 Course by clicking here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

The other day I received this very interesting e-mail from a student of mine.

Seems something keeps happening that changes women from being all excited and bothered about him, to suddenly turning colder than salted salmon on a Siberian scooner on the second Sunday in January. Here goes:

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Ross, was wondering if you could shed light on something here. I’m regularly meeting women – out and about, in the overpriced coffee shops, at my favourite hangout – all the good places to meet women where the getting is good and the pickings are ripe.

As I get to know women, one way or another the subject of Facebook comes up. Next thing you know, we become “friends” on Facebook. And that’s usually about the last thing that happens.

Things tends to come to a shuddering halt. It’s like this Facebook is a buzz kill for my Sarging. Like….Facebook is c#&$blocking me! The woman will ask if we can be “friends” on Facebook. What am I to do, say no? And if I do, how do I say it?

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Question: how is adding a woman to your Facebook list a way of capturing her emotions and energy and directing them down a path that leads to pure passion and pleasure?

You gonna take her to the movies to see Farm Wars, and then have a steaming hot make-out session with her at her place back in Mafiaville, then post to her Wall that you enjoyed hanging out with her?

Remember: “dating” is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with. Being on Facebook together is what dating couples do. Until you’ve given her a ride on your shuttle at Cape Carnal-veral, skip the dating rituals.

When you’re THIS close to banging her, don’t go off on tangents about Facebook. She’s not likely to say “I’m DYING to go home with you, but I only f@@k men on my Friends list, so can you add me first?”

Flip side – when you’re working a Sarge and she starts telling you about her friends’ status messages and wall posts, nod and say “that’s cool” – and get back to what a Seduction Master does, without further ado.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Over the past 20 years as a Seduction teacher, I’ve peered deep down into the code of how women think, feel and move their way through their subjective emotional world. And one place you’re NOT going to find a whole lot of that is in her Facebook status updates.

But you WILL find a lot of insights and practical applications of the “operating system” and “machine language” of the female body and mind in Speed Seduction® 3.0…

>> CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE <<

Hey Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Want to know one of the major reasons why so many guys just absolutely CRUSH IT in business, life, and their pursuit of happiness, EXCEPT when it comes to mastery and mega-success with the ladies?

HINT: It’s all around you.

Watch this video (from one of my recent seminars) and tell me what you think:

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What else has you “stuck” when it comes to your girl-getting game, whether you may realize it or not?  Want to find out?  Then you need to check out my Nail Your Inner Game course.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Many times here on my blog, I’ve shared stories of how my students have applied my teachings to powerfully handle situations with women who flake, women who “run hot and cold,” women who say they have a “bore-friend,” and women who drop the “F-bomb” as in “Let’s be friends.”

That last one makes my skin crawl, frankly.

Using Speed Seduction®, you can often turn that “friend” into your devoted lover, and many students have done so. However, some women cannot make the transition from thinking of you as a “brother” to screaming “OH BROTHER!” as you take her for a spin on the carnal carousel.

Sometimes, you just gotta cut your losses, as this student learned:

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Hey Ross! After listening to your girl-getting teachings in the Unstoppable Confidence course I finally decided to live up to Affirmation #5.

I called up a female friend of mine whom I had had a crush on for longer than I’d like to admit. I was her nice-guy, girl-friend, “brother I never had” and it was bringing me down. I told her that I believed that, in this point in time, being friends with her wasn’t good for me and I explained why in a polite a way as possible.

She said that she was my friend and understood that it was something I had to do, and we left it that once I feel I can be friends with her without it being a hindrance to my moral and self esteem that I’d get in contact with her again. She actually said that the idea that I’m going to eventually get back with her to resume our friendship is “The only thing keeping her sane right now” and cried a bit (she seemed to take it a lot harder than I did), but I knew this was something that I had to do because I couldn’t honestly look into the future and see things getting any better.

I don’t think it’s really set in yet, but I believe that not being friends at this point in my life will be far more beneficial to myself than continuing along the way things were. I hope this is inspirational to any other brothers out there who feel they need to do something similar.

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First of all, congratulations on claiming your integrity and alignment with who you are and what you give to the world. This is what it’s all about. Good on you!

There’s another reason why you broke off your “friend-ship” with her. You don’t come out and say it, perhaps because you realize it on a subconscious but not “on the table” and “in your face” sort of way.

She told you that the POSSIBILITY that you MIGHT be friends again SOMEDAY is the only thing keeping her sane… and then she burst into tears.

Your gut was telling you that, aside from her having dropped the “F-Bomb” and consigned you to “Justfriendsville,” that there’s something dinged about this chick. This is why you couldn’t look into the future and see things getting better with her.

Here’s what I see in your future: You’ll move on to Seduction success with the open, interested, willing steaming-hot women you truly desire and DESERVE.

Meanwhile, in a separate storybook that you won’t read, she will find some Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) to be her “brother from another mother” and serve as her ironing-board for her emotional angst while she avoids taking necessary steps to claim what SHE deserves.

Look: the women who won’t lob “F-bombs” at you are waiting. Now that you’ve stopped being a target, what are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Claim your copy of my Nail Your Inner Game System and let go of whatever it is that’s been holding you back.

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