Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Once again, so-called “Valentine’s Day” is coming up. Once again, the Romance Racketeers are rubbing their slimy hands together with rapacious glee.

All over, guys hoping to “wow” that special someone are making reservations at swanky restaurants, snagging seventh-row seats at expensive shows, buying diamonds and jewelry and chocolates and roses, and all that rot.

(That’s right…they’ll go straight down the drain.)

They’re spending extra time at the gym, racing against time trying (and failing) to blast away the remaining holiday pudge in hopes of being in “tip top shape” for the “big date” – the EVENT that’s 13 days away from today.

Who knows, it might pay off.

She might even kiss him on the cheek along with cooing “Awwwww, how sweet!” when he springs the “big surprise” on her.

WOW. Sounds awesome!

Since Tuesday is a “work night” in many parts of the world, she’ll probably want to call it a night around 9 or 10, so she’ll send him away with another peck on the cheek and an urge to “call me, please” with a subtle hint that she “might be available” this weekend.

This is how the 14th will go for the Money Man.

Here’s the thing, though.

She’ll be peeking out the window watching for the moment Mr. Chocolates And Roses And Expensive Dinners And Shows drives off into the sunset.

At the taillights’ last gleaming as he speeds off, thinking he’s a “lock” for a hot make out session this weekend… she’ll nibble on one of the chocolates, then pull out her phone and dial up the man who, within the next 45 minutes or so, will be in her bed, tasting her sweets.

This privileged, skillful gent with money in his pockets is the Honey Man.

The Vaginal Victor On V-Day!

And the best part: he keeps his money AND gets her honey.

Which scenario sounds better to you? (That’s what I thought.)

So join me at 12:00 Noon Pacific on Tuesday, February 14 for this year’s “Give V-Day The Finger” Live Video Broadcast Event!

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Peace, piece, and see you there,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Not too long ago, a student shared a challenge with me.  He noticed he seemed to spend a lot of time inside his head.

Many of his AFC beliefs were still there, always showing their ugly head when things with the ladies weren’t working out like he wanted.

Example: if a girl flaked on him he’d find himself spending ages thinking about it, sulking, and getting annoyed.

The challenge: how to become more positive and have more helpful beliefs, to get some peace and quiet in his head so he could step up his girl-getting game.

A few things I called attention to:

The old patterns of thinking, feeling, etc WILL come up when you make changes. Not because it is who YOU are or that you are afraid of success or have some condition like “low self esteem”.

But rather, they come up because… well… they’ve come up so many times before and they now have momentum, more clearly, what I call cognitive momentum and emotional inertia.

They are not signs that you are failing or hopeless or are a “negative” person.

They ARE signs that you are headed right into the face of your challenges and they are coming up, or offering themselves up, if you like, to be released and refocused into resources.

How do we do this?

1. By languaging them correctly, in such a way that we notice them without gluing them back to ourselves and/or making them who we are.
2. By being mindful of the actual feeling sensations in the body without fighting or feeding them.
3. Then and only then, positive rehearsal of new ways of thinking, feeling, believing, acting, responding, etc.
4. Finally, consistently acting in new ways and doing the new behaviors, ways of speaking etc.

Do this and you will, sooner than later, begin to see some amazing transformations(trance-formations).

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Chew on this:

Some questions for aspiring seducers…

1) Where do you get the idea that you have to be totally certain of a perfect result before you can enjoy trying out behaviors that are totally new?

2) Where do you get the idea that women expect you to be totally confident and sure of yourself in order to feel attracted to you?

Is it possible that both of these ideas are delusions with no basis in fact? And that these twin delusions-more than any special social skills-are what have been standing in your way of enjoying some amazing fulfillment with some remarkable ladies?

Please share your thoughts below.

Peace and piece,
RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

All things aside, are you, as the gentleman, still obligated to pay for the lady’s drink?

Let’s dig into this.

So you’re at a social with a cash bar (and you can run a tab).  You’re just having fun, being playful, chatting up different women.  Then, you focus in on one woman, and vice-versa.  You approach her.

She seems attractive and bright.  She’s been drinking a bit, not too much and not surprisingly since this is a social with a cash bar, but just enough for a slight buzz.

You say and do Sargy things and the seduction seem to be progressing nicely.  This night just might have an Act 2 – a torrid, steaming-hot sex scene.

At the end of the night, it’s time to pay the tab. You pay yours.  She starts complaining that her friend had invited her, implying that she doesn’t want to pay her own tab.  You assume she wants her friend to pay.  Remembering how “booze” is one of the 5 Bs that desperate supplicators resort to, you don’t volunteer to pay.  Eventually, her friend comes back to where you are and pays the tab.

Outside in the parking lot, she puts you to the fire for not offering to pay for her drinks. Maybe you should have expected this.  (Thank you VERY much, social programming and Romance Racketeers, for f@@king things up AGAIN for both you and her.)

Now, she seems like an attractive enough woman that most other guys would offer to pay for her drinks. Instinctively you sense this might be the turning point that determines whether you a) go home with her, b) go back out Sarging, c) call it a night.  So what do you do?

A student of mine, when faced with this exact scenario, told her, pleasantly but matter-of-factly, “I’m not going to buy your affections.” It became clear she wasn’t going to give him her number, much less a ride on the O-Train, so he did the ol “Exit, stage left.”

I think he did fine. I would have suggested he say, also, “Do you really need the external validation of a guy’s buying things for you, to be reminded of your own value and worth?” Then shake his head and walk off.

Onward!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In previous posts here on Ross Jeffries Uncensored, I’ve explained the importance of clearly positioning your values.

Sometimes, seeming “just a tad pissed” when she violates your rules can be an effective screening tool and a way of drawing her closer (esp. when she has to, you know, make it up to you).

Today I want to expound just bit on the following: when you are first getting to know a woman, or are even in the early stages of an ‘involvement’, how do you lay down rules/set boundaries for what is acceptable or unacceptable in her behavior?

It’s simple.

Tell her.

Tell her NON-BLAMINGLY.

What does that mean?

It means:

• NO name calling.
• NO angry tonality (in this post I emphasize “calmly but with a bit of pissed off going” – NOT fuming, seething, spewing, or shouting – BIG difference in case that’s not clear)
• Saying what you WANT.

Let’s say that you and her have gotten to know each other pretty good.  Her gym is around the corner from you and she’s starting a pattern of dropping by after her workout and expecting you to be available on a dime.

Again, you love having her around and you’re enjoying how things are going with her, but you can’t just drop everything, every single time.

You might say, “Listen…this is really important to me. If I don’t tell you, then it is my fault for being with-holding. But it’s like this: it’s important to me that the people around me respect my personal space. And what that means is that if you want to come by, please ask first. I love having you here, and I want you to be here alot, and (not BUT), I also need you to know that the space still belongs to me.”

That’s just one example.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It’s time to break out of the belief fostered by certain folks that in order to have fun or have sex with a woman, you must be open to a relationship or feel you “owe” her one.

It is time, my beloved students, friends, and fans, to shut the Romance Racketeers down.

Look: when you’re out there meeting new women, exploring new avenues, enjoying rides on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle without excuses, regrets, apologies, and other bullshit so-called “price to pay” for being an HONEST man, the Romance Racketeers lose.

When you and a woman mutually agree to have some fun without complicating things, that means you both get what you want without money and time wasted on fancy dinners, flowers and chocolates, romantic cruises for two, and that rot.  The Romance Racketeers do NOT like this because they’re not getting your money.

But you, as a smart guy who masters the skills, will focus instead on having fun, making out with, and yes, f@@king the women you really want to be with.  Meanwhile the Romance Racketeers can go f@@k themselves, as far as you, me, and all of your fellow Speed Seduction® masters are concerned.

Most of us come from a background of being told to be “a nice guy”. Told, even if what you really want is some awesome sex with a hottie, to still make it known that you want a relationship and even make an effort to try to “find” one.  You know the old saw about “stuff you say to get into her panties”… and the over-generalized connotations around the phrase “Mr. Love ‘Em And Leave ‘Em.”  

Well guess what?  Many women you THOUGHT you never had a chance in Hell with, actually WOULD have slept with you, in fact masturbated while thinking about you, but were afraid to get involved with you AT ALL because they weren’t ready for a relationship and took those hints-to-the-contrary you felt “obligated” to drop, at face value.

Another clue: women who are dating other guys or have busy schedules are probably not looking for a relationship either.  A woman who has a “career first” mindset is unlikely to settle into a relationship, in fact she might get turned OFF by the idea.  But chances are she’s not committed to waiting 5 years to get laid. Have you thought of it from HER point of view?

One last thing: how many women commisserate about wishing they could find “Mr. Right” yet seem to be having a lot of sleepovers with “Mr. Right Now?”  I got news for you pal: she’s not letting Mr. Right Now in her shorts because she doesn’t want him there, even if it IS true that he’s not her “Mr. Right” that she envisions having kids and growing old with.

In fact it just might be possible she’s denying she really likes f@@king him – even complaining about what a “jerk” this “Mr. Right Now” of hers is – because she’s been programmed by the Romance Racketeer Cinema to fear “society” will call her a whore for daring to claim her choice to be a discerning, smart woman who wants to be happy and satisfied like any human being.

You know, just like the Romance Racketeers would paint you a “rake” or a “sex obsessed jerk” (the “bad guy” in any sappy romance flick…you know…the guy who f@@ks the heroine over and over before she finally “lets” the “hero” of the story be seen buying her an expensive dinner in a public place on their way to the expensive show he bought the tickets for) for daring to admit that, yes, you like a woman because she’s good in bed and you like being in bed with her.

See, these Romance Racketeer assholes are making it difficult for the women-folk too.  And that’s bullshit that needs to STOP.

Now STAND UP, cast off their chains, go up to that woman you desire, and show her a BETTER choice.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently, someone asked me this question: if you acted like a total AFC toward a woman in the past (lots of flowers, expensive dinners, and “dating” prior to any making-out or sex) and predictably got rejected, before you acquired Speed Seduction® skills, can you go back, show her the new “Sargy” you, and win her over with the new you?

Usually, I’d ask… “Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

But for some guys, whether it’s (as far as he can tell) a sense of wanting to “go back and do right,” a nagging feeling of having failed and wanting a do-over, or whatever, he just can’t get this chick off of his mind.

Is there anything he can do to change her feeling for him?  Should he try to bring this one back to life, or should he just move on?

Here’s the thing: you can CHOOSE to change your feelings about the girl.

Actually, as I think about this, the problem is that you invested lots of feeling (not to mention money) in the girl PRIOR to even making out with her, much less f@@king her.

Now listen, and listen up:

Speed Seduction® isn’t just about the words you use to f@@k chicks, although, bless Sargy, that is a big part of it.

It’s also about a different understanding about how the “feelings” process works.

In this case, your “feelings” for the girl didn’t just enter into your body like an arrow shot by Cupid in your ass.

No, you SELF-HYPNOTIZED yourself into the girl.

I’ll bet dollars to dildos you did this by daydreaming about her, whacking off to your perverted little dribble dick fantasies (just kidding about the dribble dick), etc etc.

Please use this as a lesson on what NOT to do, first and foremost.

Remember this: “You never know where you stand with a woman until you make that first serious physical pass, so you don’t consider a woman a serious prospect until AFTER you’ve made love”.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A big part of achieving ultimate success with women you truly desire comes from understanding of the concept of “frames”; the overall guidelines through which you present everything else you do.

I truly believe that understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame…the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to making every other aspect of your success with women at least three to four times more effective and powerful.

A student asked me this question:

> Is a frame just anything that can make people see things differently? So how do you CONTROL the frame under those circumstances?
>
> Essentially, the idea is you are supposed to hold a given point of view – “I’m testing to see if I can find someone who measures up to my standards”. Sure, that makes sense. But it still doesn’t leave me feeling like I understand the whole process. It is doesn’t leave me feeling like I could create a different frame for a different circumstance.

RJ here.  The frame, among other things, is the underlying, UNSPOKEN set of assumptions about WHO holds the power, WHO has what is of value, WHO must please WHOM.

Let’s chunk this down.

She says something like, “I just can’t find a guy who can treat me like a lady”.

An AFC would ask what she means and then act as she describes. She has set the frame that SHE is the prize who must be one.

We Speed Seduction® Masters turn it around, “Yeah, I know what you mean. I can’t find a lady who can move me past LUST into TRUE passion…you know…where you aren’t just feeling hot and sticky in the moment..you don’t just give all that you have…but you find things coming forth in you that you never knew were there…just waiting to be satisfied.”

You see what I mean? That’s just one example.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

More than once I’ve heard from students who have been learning the skills, gaining knowledge of the techniques, but yet, they’re still not moving forward with women like they want to be.

They get pumped up about going out and Sarging, yet somehow nightfall comes and each flip of the TV remote brings up another hourlong excuse to say “Let me just catch this one last episode, and then it’s up and at ‘em!”

Before you know it, you may be “up and at ‘em” but everyone else has gone home.

“Shucks…maybe next weekend.”

If your a$$ feels like a giant magnetic field inexorably held onto your couch while you find every non-excuse possible to avoid going out and getting some a$$, read this:

1) First, bear in mind that learning skills can be a matter of breaking the task down into smaller pieces.

So why not just break the task down into seeing if you can approach ten women and the only goal is to make them laugh? You don’t even have to introduce yourself. Just make them laugh and walk away.

Try this, “Excuse me… but I was just wondering what you are doing to keep the guys away… cuz it’s not working on me. My name is Charles.”

Then walk away. That simple.

2) When you talk to yourself about it, acknowledge and them take ownership.

Like this, “I feel stuck and I claim my ownership and management of this stuckness to the point where I find my ways to get moving and enjoy getting moving.”

3) Give yourself a larger penalty for not acting than acting.

Think of an organization you hate. Like Greenpeace or PETA or the NRA or the Republican or Democratic Party.  Whatever DOESN’T float your boat.  I personally hate televangelists, so I’d make out a $1,000 check to Geronimo Goo-Gargle Ministries. Give the check, dated 10 days from today to a trusted friend. Tell him if you can’t return to him within 10 days, and honestly tell him that you’ve spoken to 10 women, he’s to mail it to the cause you hate.

This way your mind will say, “Ok, there is no totally 100% pain free solution, but the pain I’ll get from not acting is far worse than acting, so I’ll act!”

This takes advantage of the fact that our mind uses comparison. Compared to a guaranteed way to be 100% comfortable and 100% certain you’ll succeed easily with every approach, the pain of approaching women might seem like a lot (until you claim your ownership and management). But compared to sending $1000 to an asshole like Rev. Goo-Gargle, the pain is NOTHING.

A better way to watch TV on Saturday night…AFTER sharing
“Adventures On The Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle” of course!

These are just some ways to get yourself moving.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Oh yes, here is one more. Try going out of town to another city where no one knows you and do your practicing there for a weekend.  Let me know how this helps.

P.P.S. If you are still stuck, check out my Nail Your Inner Game system, designed for situations exactly like this.

I care what happens. Once you get moving, you’ll breakthrough fast.