Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A big part of achieving ultimate success with women you truly desire comes from understanding of the concept of “frames”; the overall guidelines through which you present everything else you do.

I truly believe that understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame…the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to making every other aspect of your success with women at least three to four times more effective and powerful.

A student asked me this question:

> Is a frame just anything that can make people see things differently? So how do you CONTROL the frame under those circumstances?
>
> Essentially, the idea is you are supposed to hold a given point of view – “I’m testing to see if I can find someone who measures up to my standards”. Sure, that makes sense. But it still doesn’t leave me feeling like I understand the whole process. It is doesn’t leave me feeling like I could create a different frame for a different circumstance.

RJ here.  The frame, among other things, is the underlying, UNSPOKEN set of assumptions about WHO holds the power, WHO has what is of value, WHO must please WHOM.

Let’s chunk this down.

She says something like, “I just can’t find a guy who can treat me like a lady”.

An AFC would ask what she means and then act as she describes. She has set the frame that SHE is the prize who must be one.

We Speed Seduction® Masters turn it around, “Yeah, I know what you mean. I can’t find a lady who can move me past LUST into TRUE passion…you know…where you aren’t just feeling hot and sticky in the moment..you don’t just give all that you have…but you find things coming forth in you that you never knew were there…just waiting to be satisfied.”

You see what I mean? That’s just one example.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

More than once I’ve heard from students who have been learning the skills, gaining knowledge of the techniques, but yet, they’re still not moving forward with women like they want to be.

They get pumped up about going out and Sarging, yet somehow nightfall comes and each flip of the TV remote brings up another hourlong excuse to say “Let me just catch this one last episode, and then it’s up and at ‘em!”

Before you know it, you may be “up and at ‘em” but everyone else has gone home.

“Shucks…maybe next weekend.”

If your a$$ feels like a giant magnetic field inexorably held onto your couch while you find every non-excuse possible to avoid going out and getting some a$$, read this:

1) First, bear in mind that learning skills can be a matter of breaking the task down into smaller pieces.

So why not just break the task down into seeing if you can approach ten women and the only goal is to make them laugh? You don’t even have to introduce yourself. Just make them laugh and walk away.

Try this, “Excuse me… but I was just wondering what you are doing to keep the guys away… cuz it’s not working on me. My name is Charles.”

Then walk away. That simple.

2) When you talk to yourself about it, acknowledge and them take ownership.

Like this, “I feel stuck and I claim my ownership and management of this stuckness to the point where I find my ways to get moving and enjoy getting moving.”

3) Give yourself a larger penalty for not acting than acting.

Think of an organization you hate. Like Greenpeace or PETA or the NRA or the Republican or Democratic Party.  Whatever DOESN’T float your boat.  I personally hate televangelists, so I’d make out a $1,000 check to Geronimo Goo-Gargle Ministries. Give the check, dated 10 days from today to a trusted friend. Tell him if you can’t return to him within 10 days, and honestly tell him that you’ve spoken to 10 women, he’s to mail it to the cause you hate.

This way your mind will say, “Ok, there is no totally 100% pain free solution, but the pain I’ll get from not acting is far worse than acting, so I’ll act!”

This takes advantage of the fact that our mind uses comparison. Compared to a guaranteed way to be 100% comfortable and 100% certain you’ll succeed easily with every approach, the pain of approaching women might seem like a lot (until you claim your ownership and management). But compared to sending $1000 to an asshole like Rev. Goo-Gargle, the pain is NOTHING.

A better way to watch TV on Saturday night…AFTER sharing
“Adventures On The Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle” of course!

These are just some ways to get yourself moving.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Oh yes, here is one more. Try going out of town to another city where no one knows you and do your practicing there for a weekend.  Let me know how this helps.

P.P.S. If you are still stuck, check out my Nail Your Inner Game system, designed for situations exactly like this.

I care what happens. Once you get moving, you’ll breakthrough fast.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student reported to me that even though he studies my teachings and practices the skills, at various – sometimes random – instances he’ll choke when he sees a beautiful woman.

The anxiety will kick in so strong, he just won’t approach her.  Especially if she’s really hot.

One of the definitions of the word “anxiety” per dictionary.com is “Distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune.” 

No wonder he’s choking up. 

My suggestion to overcome anxiety: begin by thinking about “anxiety” from a different angle.

Anxiety is often just over-excitement at the promise of progress and pleasure.

Three Steps To Overcoming Anxiety By Redefining It

First, learn to breathe and ground in.  This video is a bit grainy as it’s been around for about 10 years now, but it excellently demonstrates the process in detail.  Watch. Do the practice.

Second, if anxiety wasn’t there at all, what would be there? It isn’t enough to get rid of something; give your mind a vision or goal to aim at. What WOULD you be feeling?

Finally, what meaning do you attach to approaching women? Proof of your value as a human, proof of your attractiveness? What would a more empowering and even more fun meaning be?

Work on this and let me know how it helps.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When a woman has just gotten out of a real-hate-shun-ship with her borefriend or is newly divorced from her husband (or has-been-ed), is she really on the rebound, or just looking for a shoulder to cry on and the right AFC to provide it?

Can you tell the difference?  Can you make the situation work in a Sargy way for both of you?

A student of mine seemed to have an uncanny knack for missing his chance, again and again, with this one HB…

There’s this HB that I was interested in before I came to Speed Seduction®. At the time, she was married, and although she knew I was interested in her, I didn’t try to interfere because I had scruples about that. I didn’t know that the marriage was awful, and she ended up leaving him. All our mutual friends were telling me, don’t come on too strong now, let her have space, she’s grieving over this. So that’s what I did. And as a result she hooked up with some other guy. So basically I have a history of being a total AFC with this HB.

Anyway, Sunday afternoon, she calls me to tell me that the guy has dumped her for another woman. She goes on about how much grief she is in and how much she loved him, blah, blah, blah, and even says that she offered to tolerate the other woman if he would stay with her.

Whoa.  And double whoa.  OK, let’s dissect this.

Mutual friends mean well, but they always speak from their own filters, especially the filter about what they WANT to be true. Always trust your own instincts and remember: WOMEN…CRAVE…SEX.

Good seducers know this. WOMEN…CRAVE…SEX; whether they are grieving or not.

As a Speed Seducer® your job isn’t therapy. The tough part is when we care for/about someone, we want to offer solace, a kind ear, and big shoulder, and open heart.

That’s great for female friends whom we have NO interest in f@@king OR for women we are ALREADY F@@KING.

But offering this to a woman as the primary or even backup strategy for getting her hot for you (if she isn’t already) SELDOM WORKS.

Does it sometimes work? Yes…SOMETIMES.  Sometimes, drawing to an inside straight works in poker. The numbers are against you.

I’d have you have a closer look on your own issues about being overtly sexual, sexually forward, etc. etc.

Being kind and sweet may feel safer or better or have less anxiety attached to it for you, so it becomes your one and only default response (absent an engraved invitation where she says F@@K ME).

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. To learn the secret patterns of words that have been tested and proven to capture a woman’s imagination, lead her to quickly experience intense positive emotional states, and link them to you and ONLY you, click here now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

What’s the difference between an Average Frustrated Chump (AFC), a Seducer, and a Master Seducer?

Click “Play” to find out…

chumpsseducersmasters-desktop.m4v

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I have said over and over, one of the major keys to living the life of your dreams is recognizing and getting off of the auto-pilot that keeps you single and lonely!

Remember, most people are walking around IN TRANCE. And even more importantly, the trances they walk around in… trances of fear… of limitation… of doubt of lack… really do not serve them!

Actually, these trances DO serve someone.

They serve the “power structure” that profits and feeds off of a society of weak, programmed, obedient and fearful robots, who will look to the “authorities” on how to live an “ok” life.

Getting Off Of The “Single And Lonely” Autopilot…
Now… Today!

One of the big pieces of getting off of autopilot and having real choice, is becoming aware of your fixed paterns of perception, response, action, etc.

To develop this “meta” awareness is a powerful tool to peel away old, trapped ways of thinking, acting and responding and believing. It makes it MUCH easier to move up ANY learning curve for any skill set.

You see, technical skill IS important. But many people offer fairly good models for technical skill (how to sell, how to seduce, how to get fit, etc) in different areas of life, yet few people get real changes or the huge leaps they want from following this advice.

Sometimes, the advice is lacking.

But just as often, even with good “advice” and good model for new technical skills, the person trying to follow this advice has a bigger problem: they want to really change an area of life that has been deeply emotionally challenging, evoking lots of fear, self-doubt, personal limits etc.

What can often happen is that the new advice, new skills, new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and believing are filtered THROUGH the old emotions, experiences, beliefs, etc

This means that people seldom consistently will act out the new skills from the right frame of mind. They will be fighting themselves, their old habits, tendencies, etc.

A metaphor I use is, if I give you a pair of glasses dipped in dog doo-doo, EVERYTHING WILL LOOK BROWN.

That is why methods that assist in building clear, unfettered awarness can help us keep old responses, beliefs, behaviors, choices at bay and “in the freezer” LONG enough for new ways to take hold, and long enough for us to move up new learning curves because we can see the new skills, beliefs, responses THROUGH CLEAR EYES.

This is doubly necessary when the new ways are very different from the old ways and require major shifts.

Remember, the further something stands from how you are used to acting, thinking, feeling and believing, the greater the chance for HUGE leaps. Also, the greater the chance for old ways to leap back up, unless you have a practice and discipline to deal with them.

I’ll say that again: practice and discipline. Onward… Anything you do to bring your habitual patterns into your awareness(without anger, fear or reaction) is useful.

This is why I am challenging you to go from one extreme to another and to pay attention to flows of feeling that trigger all of it; the awareness of feeling flow is key to knowing when you are slipping into old patterns of behavior and is also key to designing in NEW ones!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Making the transition from a life by default – where you simply accept whatever success with women happens to fall into your lap because you don’t this part of life handled – to becoming a Speed Seduction® Master can have its moments of overwhelm and frustration.

One of the biggest causes: now that you’re seriously laser-focused on meeting more women, getting laid more, finding a girlfriend or wife, etc. you’re paying attention to every interaction or Sarge and evaluating yourself.

What’s more, you second-guess yourself as in “Cripes, why didn’t I just go for it, I mean, was she or was she not giving me the doggy bowl dinner look?”

I certainly understand. It can be confusing to take on new learnings and, more importantly…

….An entirely new relationship to frustration and confusion.

I want to say that again, in another way.

Learning seduction is not just about learning to successfully seduce women.

It’s also about learning to successfully relate to frustration and confusion.

You can score big victories in one, or the other, or both.

When it’s not yet working with women, you can STILL win in regard to how you handle frustration and confusion.

This is as key a skill set as knowing how to do walk ups, knowing how to get women hot and ready, etc.

When overwhelm and frustration rear their ugly heads, start by doing these 6 things:

1. Chunk down. Start small. Get good at ONE skill at a time. For example, get good at walking up and the introduction BEFORE you try to go any further.
2. Work on changing your orientation to first and foremost NOTICING WHAT WORKED. Remember, it takes training to recognize progress in an area of life that’s been loaded up with negativity.
3. Have a reward system in place. Anytime you do ANYTHING right, however small, reward yourself in some way.
4. Have a weekly reward: I recommend a weekly, good, therapeutic massage(not happy ending!).
5. Keep getting support from fellow smart men who have blazed the same trail you are.
6. Keep a journal to record what you did, what happened, and what you learned.

Try this out and see how your frustration and overwhelm subside.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

I think I’m going to puke, and it’s not even Monday yet.

Makes me think of the classic film, “The Matrix”.

It was that scene, just at the part where Morpheus was offering Neo the choice between the red and blue pills.

He explains to Neo that Neo has always felt that something is wrong. He can feel it when he goes to work, when he drives his car, when he pays his taxes.

That Neo is, “A slave”. And that he was “born into bondage”.

The greatest bondage of all, of course, is being immersed in a system of programmed thinking, feeling, responding and acting that you THINK is natural, but is, in reality, nasty social programming designed to shrink your wallet, batter your ego, give a whole bunch of folks a free ride on your dime, and make a select group of folks(or industries) very wealthy.

All of this is the case when it comes to Valentine’s Day, better known to smart men around the world as National Desperate Supplicators Day.

As Ayn Rand once said, “Wherever someone’s serving, there’s someone being served”. And Valentine’s Day doesn’t even serve the women on the receiving end as much as it DOES serve all the businesses that get your hard-earned cash.

According to DailyFinance.com, retail sales in the USA for Valentine’s Day in 2011 are expected to top $18,600,000,000. That’s EIGHTEEN FUCKING BILLION, SIX HUNDRED GODDAMN MILLION DOLLARS. ***

That is more than the annual defense budgets for most major countries, and more than the GNP of most third world nations!

It’s a holiday where you, the guy, get to lean hard on 2 of the 5 B’s that most guys are taught to use to have “success” with women.

Just to review, these are:

• Bullying
• Begging
• Buying
• BS
• Booze

Come to think of it, Valentine’s Day actually involves not only Buying and Begging, but BS as well. Because even many women KNOW it is a BS made up holiday. They know, on some level, you KNOW you are being coerced when you pelt them flowers, gifts, etc. (At least I fucking HOPE you know you are being coerced. God and and all the Norse deities and Pippi Longstocking help you if you DON’T know this and actually believe you are spontaneously expressing your “true feelings”, aka, desperation).

Now look; I ‘m NOT against being genuinely giving and being generous, IF that is what you do as an expression of who you are. NOT because you are trying to buy a woman’s gold-plated poontang.


But barfing up the cash to give to restaurants, jewelers, flowershops, etc because some dumb-ass made-up holiday was created TO MAKE YOU DO SO is just f@@king putting no value on what you inherently can offer as a man. And a Speed Seducer® NEVER needs to spend a dime, to show a woman a fantastic experience of having feelings she’s always longed to feel.

So, my suggestion is this: throw that bouquet in the trash. Burn that sappy card. CANCEL THE DAMN FANCY DINNER RESERVATION.

And join me on Monday, February 14 for my “Give V-Day The Finger And Claim True Vaginal Victory In 2011!” Live Video Broadcast.

I’ll show you how you can totally destroy all your stuck, limiting, fucked up programming and LIVE LIKE A FREE FUCKING MAN:

http://www.RJSpecial.com

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Here’s more reason to attend on Monday.  The person who asks the best question during the Q&A wins a free access pass to my Secret Training Vault AND a 15-minute, one-on-one phone consult with me.  Everyone else gets a reward or a bonus, too, but you’ll have to be there to find out.

http://www.RJSpecial.com

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*** Statistic per DailyFinance.com

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

This video speaks for itself.

Helping guys like this make their breakthroughs is the reason why I am still passionate about doing this work after 20 years of teaching.

Now, if I could do this for a guy like Sina-a 25 year old virgin who was desperately stuck-what could I do for you?

Watch…

Click here to view the embedded video.

Peace, piece and another student blasts through the friend zone!

RJ

P.S.  The “beta” test Sina talks about was a one day “in-field” event I did with 3 students. Don’t know if I will do it again, but you can find out about my personal consulting, monthly coaching and live 3-day seminars on my Speed Seduction® Website.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my last blog post, I explained the reasons why women put men through B.S. tests.

So, moving right ahead, today I will share some powerful techniques to not only “pass” these tests but rather, completely overcome them and turn things to your advantage.

So, let’s delve into…

How To Handle It….Dealing From A Position Of Strength

To get back to street fighting analogies, there’s a concept from Jeet Kun Do, the fighting style of the late, great Bruce Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way, as part of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. Coming from this perspective, an attack, rather than something to be feared, is just an unprecedented opportunity to…. KICK THE OTHER GUY’S ASS!!!!

Just so, a woman’s bullshit and tests are great opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her interest in you. In other words, your response to these tests, instead of being, “Oh no.…why is she doing this? What did I do wrong?”, from now on will be….

AH, HAH! A RESPECT OPPORTUNITY!!!

Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of behavior, every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented opportunity for you to establish respect, increase her interest, and intensify her desire to please you.

Taken from this perspective, you’ll be mentally prepared, and may even find yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit, since you know it’s your chance to get her really hot for you!!!!

Now let me add one other thing: when you do put her in her place…

IT’S GOT TO COME FROM THE RIGHT PLACE IN YOU!!!

In other words, the macho idiot who loses control and trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes late is definitely not the example to follow. All he’s doing is showing he can’t control himself and he just earns the woman’s contempt.

Notice I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t get a little pissed. Just don’t go nutso with a stream of obscenities. (Streams of obscenities are for afterwards, when you are in bed with her.)

The other thing that doesn’t work is acting like a hurt little boy. Whining stuff like, “How could you do this to me?” or, “But you promised!” won’t cut it, good buddy. No. You have to come from the calm, but firm “take it or leave it” position. This is all part of displaying the critically important………

WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY FROM HER!!!

You see, after years of experience and study, I’ve come to the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose you!

Understand that when you show this willingness to walk away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value, and they had better take advantage of the opportunity.

This is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that’s challenging you.

By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer: nowhere!

And that’s why you get nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff! If you’ve seen an initially hot relationship grow ice-cold, this is one big reason!!!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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