Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Any sequence of mental thinking that you go through, starts with a flow of energy in the body that kickstarts the thought process.  That’s the Signal Recognition Process.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Talk about a buzz kill.

How many times does it happen – you’re back at her place, snuggled together on the couch.  You’re making out with her.  Things are heating up, in every sense of the word.

Somewhere in the back of your mind you hear the train whistle (“Full Steam A-head!”), the crack of baseball bat hitting ball (“HOME RUN!!!”), or even a scanning of your personal inventory (“Did I remember the condom?”)

But then you hear a screeching noise.  As in, to a grinding halt, usually signalled by an abrupt end to the grinding.

So what just happened to your sexual agenda, your aggression, your desire? Where did it go?  Now SHE’s the one who turns it on and off, because suddenly she’s not comfortable. You, in turn, become uncomfortable and you shut yourself down.

Then what do you do? You wait for an engraved invitation. She has to write in gold letters “Please f@@k me now” and sign it.

Are you a recovering nice guy? 

If what I’ve just described sounds familiar (as it does to millions of smart men the world over) I’m willing to bet that one of your issues is you’re so emotionally in tune to women, when they start feeling something, you feel it for yourself.

Part of untangling this issue of being sexually aggressive is this ability to stay grounded in your body, see where she’s at, but not have to go there for yourself.

I didn’t say: you never go there or you can’t go there if you choose to.  If you’re making love with your woman and she’s feeling an incredible sexual desire, yeah, you want to go where she is. But it’s that matter of choice.

Dominant has nothing to do with having big muscles or pushing people around or any of that. That’s the imitation of dominance. That’s the counterfeit of dominance. That’s the impersonation of dominance.  That’s being a jerk.  Jerks literally cannot feel what their woman is feeling.

True sexual aggression mastery makes you a leader in every phase of your relationship to women.  It lets you see where they are at without having to go there yourself, so you can stay in the emotional lead.

Now, that sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Are you now getting, or have you ever gotten, pushback from a female interest that goes something like this:

“Wow, I want to get involved but I think you’re just going to leave me hurt”

or

“You’re something, but I don’t think I could live up to you.”

Is she intimidated by you?  Does she lack self-confidence?  Are we seeing past trauma in her life rearing its ugly head?  Perhaps a little self-doubt in her mind, “I don’t deserve this man”?

Could be any, or all of these.  Or something else.

Let me point out the piece that I think is missing: having HER reach for it, having HER confirm for herself in her OWN thinking and her OWN behavior that:

• She WANTS to reach for more.
• She MUST reach for more or she will lose you.
• If she DOES reach for more, she WILL get a great reward with you (you will NOT reject her if she DOES reach for more, but reward her instead).

There are many Speed Seduction® tools to help accomplish this, but one thing to emphasize above all is the attitude that you do not and WILL not overwhelm her; that at some point, SHE has to qualify herself “in”, and if she does not, you will walk away and not feel anything other than, “Ok, let’s draw someone better”.

[Hint: the tools would be ratification, meta-stating, measuring. Also screening, both actually screening for certain personality traits and giving the appearance of being screened.]

And of course, fractionation.

If you are always, always, ALWAYS moving forward then she literally CAN’T move toward you. Where are you energetically, physically, etc. pulling back a bit and seeing if she moves toward YOU?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you no longer need a guarantee before you take a bold step forward and approach a woman, “make your move”, or what have you, some amazing things can totally open up:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Is there something wrong with having sex with a woman, knowing or believing she just wants and enjoys sex for its own sake?

Some men believe that ultimately he has to “pay for it” one way or another – often in the form of “proving” he’s in it for more than “just sex”.  He tries to believe that it’s ok, that she wants and enjoys sex.  “If I don’t give it to her, someone else will.” 

But it just doesn’t work out that way for him.

Could there be some sort of guilt involved?

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: in order to have the belief that there’s something wrong with f@@king a woman for nothing, what has to be missing from your sensory experience?

What is your perception and experience of making love with a woman? Can you sense her pleasure as she is feeling it? Can you feel her arousal as it ebbs and flows in her? Can you feel her pussy twitching when you hold her afterwards, even when you are no longer inside her, it is still twitching and pulsing for you?

To me, this is NOT about beliefs. It’s about your direct experience of the exchange of pleasure, erotic energy and sensuality that is the heart of good sex, as opposed to mechanical pounding away and discharging your sexual energy (and dumping your load).

If you are only humping mechanically or have little or no sensitivity or sensuality then that is the REAL issue.

The only way you could possibly hold the belief that she isn’t enjoying it is if you are shut down to sensing her energy and yours and what is going on with that dance.

As far as guilt: are you sure? How do you KNOW it is guilt? Maybe it is just uncertainty mixed with a vague sense that sex can be a lot more for you as well as for her, whomever “her” might be.

Ok, maybe the belief that women don’t enjoy sex has shut you down to opening your senses and sensuality. So the solution is to open the sensuality and the senses.

Don’t look at it as “guilt complex” Look at it as an information-block and a shutting down of senses to experience that now has to be awakened.

If this is the case, the next time you are with a woman, TAKE YOUR TIME. Do NOT f@@k her no matter what. See how you can enjoy just the kissing, the touching, with no hurry at all. Make your aim to create a nice erotic haze that you can blissfully share for a morning, or evening or afternoon. Do NOT put it in until they say, “I want you inside me” or words to that effect.

This is as much about you discovering your own sensuality and openness to energy than anything else.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The truth is… there are so many different pick-up artists out there feeding smart guys like you a lot of B.S. that is even less effective for getting you laid than the 5 Bs – bullying, buying, begging, BS, booze, and biceps. OK, that’s 6 Bs. But you get my point.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In one of the discussion forms where I check in from time to time, a participant told me that part of his fear of approaching women comes from worrying what she might think or say.

It’s more than just fear of rejection; he fears the woman will think he’s a creep and thus tell all her super hot friends. Intellectually, he knows this is unfounded because in every other area of life he can handle, no matter what people think of him.

Here is my response:

How do you know it won’t work the OTHER way: that you’ll give her the most amazingly incredible sexual satisfaction and she’ll tell ALL of her hot friends that you are a DEMON with your tongue, your fingers, your prick, your toes, your elbows, that you have ten fingers like a tongue and a tongue like ten fingers, etc. etc.?

Imagine your mind to be like a fertile field of soil. For whatever reason, you plow the soil over and over again in ONE groove, so that, over the years, that ONE groove grows deeper and deeper.

Once in a while, at random, you plow a different groove, but not very often, so that groove either gets covered over again by random drifts of dirt, by the winds, rain, etc. But still, that different groove is there a little bit.

Then, one day, you decide the soil is dry, so you want to irrigate it. You divert some water from a nearby stream and send it all flooding into the field, and lo and behold, MOST OF THE WATER GOES RIGHT INTO THE DEEPEST GROOVE.

Now, these grooves or tracks or habits of the mind are fixed patterns of perceiving/feeling/responding to our world.

Some are minor, like scratching your ass with your left hand when you are nervous. These are pretty easily spotted.

Some are more deeper into the “operating system” of the mind; for example, always assuming the WORST POSSIBLE OUTCOME to the exclusion of even considering a good outcome.

These deeper grooves tend to be invisible. People don’t even see the stuckness and instead try to work within in it; if they see things for the worst, they often don’t even recognize that and instead just try to cope with the projected horrible outcome.

Now, it gets MORE interesting.

There is raw energy bound up here. By this I mean the grooves are not just patterns of thought, but they have energy associated to and with them.  In your case, there is some energetic quality of fear, anxiety. I would guess that it has qualities of making you feel both contracted inward, like a tortoise pulling its head inside its shell and also feelings of being spread thin like you are going to disappear. I’m guessing, but it is an educated guess from helping thousands of guys.

I would guess it also has an overall “antsy” “jumpy” “agitated” “can’t sit still” flavor to it as well.

And finally, probably a sense of “urgency”. Like you have to get this handled, now.

With all of these various energetic flavors, it’s no wonder you are feeling conflicted, tired, like your system is grinding its gears. Sort of like wanting to step forward with one foot while you step back with the other, or putting the car in reverse and drive at the same time.

In short, I think the answer to all of this is NOT more “cognition” or activity in think space. It’s not to be found in your self-talk or what you visualize, not in YOUR case.

In your case, what will change all of this is the energy you are riding on and bringing in. It is THE core of the issue, the rest is just window dressing around it.

But you are trying to address it using the wrong system.

So the question becomes, what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

If you experience those butterflies-in-the-stomach when you’re about to make some approach or move toward a woman, you’re not alone.  You’re anxious and nervous about what comes next.

Maybe it’s the worry of how she’ll take it when you first walk up to her and say your first words.  Could be jitters because you’re calling her for the first time and you wonder if she’ll be happy to hear from you, if you’ll be entering a relationship with her voicemail, or if she “accidentally” gave you the number for Big Guy’s Sausage Packing Plant.

Perhaps you’ve attempted to pump yourself up with visions of her being glad to see you, delighted to hear from you, or screaming your name at the top of her lungs as the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle enters orbit.

And THAT may be the problem.  Let me explain.

There is a distinction between “performance confidence” and “acceptance confidence”, and there is the concept of “When I am uncertain what to do, I take a bold step forward.”  Now let me add another dimension (or two).

“Anxious” and “nervous” are linguistic labels. They don’t describe, in detail, what is going on, physically with your body.

Before you put your attention on the linguistic label, pay attention to your body. What is REALLY going on, in your body and with your body, when you feel “anxious” or “nervous”?

I want to suggest that a better, more useful label is, “overstimulated”.

Your heart beating fast, your breathing short and restricted and quickly, whatever it might be, certainly qualifies as “overstimulated”.

What you need is to become familiar with your body and how it breathes, stands etc when you are “calm” and “alert”.

Now, the second part of this is understanding: being overstimulated is a response to too much anticipation; too much projection into the future, and too much focus on result, rather than on the process.

In other words, if you are picturing f@@king the brains out of the hottest chicks then you are going to be putting too much sexual energy into your system; too much voltage down the line and the circuits are going to start to wobble and shudder and maybe short out.

Stop imagining the future before the present has a chance to unfold. This will give you better clarity about RIGHT NOW.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine recently shared an interesting problem he’s been having with picking up women.

During his AFC days he frequently faced rejection by women who outright said, in various words, that they’d never condescend to being seen in public with the likes of him.

But in today’s world he often gets resistance from women who have a hard time handling a man like HIM – as in, they’re not used to a man of his caliber showing interest in them.

Here is a typical thing that a woman might say:

“You really have it together, you’re successful, you’re going places, and I know you’re the kind of man who knows how to make his woman happy.  But you have to understand, I’m just not used to guys like you being interested in me and I’m uncomfortable with this whole thing.”

My student also says that women, in the same vein, say they feel “intimidated” by him, which he doesn’t understand because in the same breath they say how easy-going and fun they think he is and how much they enjoy being around him.

Okay: part of what we’re seeing here is a by-product of how much this student has improved his girl-getting game.  These same women, who would have looked down their nose at him just two years ago, now aren’t sure if they could handle a man as GOOD as him in their lives?  Could be, the forbidden fruit has become the low-hanging fruit.

Another question: what do Warren Beatty, Jack Nicholson, Gene Simmons, Donald Trump, Francois Mitterand, Wilt Chamberlain, George Clooney, and Julio Iglesias have in common?

First, they’re each credited with having slept with hundreds, if not thousands, of women.  Second, not ALL of the women they took to Cape Carnal-Veral were famous or even well-connected actors, singers, politicians, supermodels, or business magnates.  Third, I’m willing to bet at least some of their bedmates, to THIS DAY, can’t quite figure out why any of these men would have been interested enough in HER to go to bed with her.

So when a woman poses this sort of resistance – ask yourself the following questions:

• Could it be that what she’s really saying is “I don’t think I really deserve a good man?”
• Maybe she’s throwing up resistance because she realizes you just may be the man she’s always dreamed of, and she recognizes that if she take a new direction with you, it will change her life dramatically?   All forms of change are scary – even GREAT ones – because they probe unfamiliar territory.
• What can you do right now to reframe the experience?  Does negation apply here?

Now let’s explore it from a different angle:

• There was a time when this woman would have put you down for having “deluded yourself” into thinking you had the “right” to ask her out.  Now, here she is, saying you might be too good for her.  How are YOU handling it?
• In showing interest in this woman, has the forbidden fruit, indeed, become the low-hanging fruit? Does this mean you could “up” your choice in women?  If she’s someone you are truly interested in for reasons that are right for you, then great, GO FOR IT.  But, check in with yourself, are you “settling” or looking for the validation of an “easy score”?
• What internal resistance might be stopping you from taking a bold step forward?

Please, share your thoughts and comments in the form below this post.  Tell me what YOU think.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I shared with you the story of the student who decided to implement a “friends first” policy in his girl-getting game.  I can think of a few F-words that go along with this policy, and I can pretty much guarantee that fornication is NOT one of them.

All too true in this particular student’s case, because now I’m going to show you how he not only didn’t get laid, but then he committed a Sargy sin.

First, the result he got when he actually did something Sargingly decent, but then allowed “friends first” to stop him from taking it to the next level:

> Just to take a sidetrack, I did some SS patterns and techniques with a girl I met at work. We were hanging out one night, talking, and we were just talking about ourselves and relationships, and somewhere in the conversation I threw in “yea, that’s why I always go for it, even if the girl does have a boyfriend…because who knows if the guy really is what she’s looking for or if she wants more…but I’m honest with myself. I have to believe that I really am better for her than her boyfriend. Then I have no problem.”

This apparently set off something in her head (she had a bf at the time, although he was far away), because that night she kissed me on the cheek from her own volition.

WOW! A KISS ON THE CHEEK! STOP THE PRESSES!

I am mocking this for a REASON.

I want him (and you, if you consider this a big score) to be slapped awake. YOU are viewing HER as the rare prize to be waited for.

WHAT STOPPED HIM from escalating when SHE initiated?  What was he waiting for, if he thought this set off something in her head that could have gotten her giving HIM head?

Spend some time thinking about rapport and calibration. What are you doing right with these?  Where could you improve to get the results YOU want?

YOU have the gift. You can create these feelings now whenever you like wherever you go. SO MOVE ON.

OK – here’s the part where he Sargily sinned:

> Well, one thing I know I’m doing right is getting feedback from one
> of my female friends. She and I are really good friends and
> understand each other very well. I ran the story of this girl by
> her, she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and
> then move in.

OH MY GOD! HE IS BEING LED ASTRAY! Why would he believe the advice this chick gave him on how to win a woman?

Sinner, please believe in your future. Believe and envision being able to create these powerful feelings as a common, every-day thing, NOT a rare event.

She isn’t the gift for RESPONDING. YOU are the gift for GIVING.

YOU are the rarety; a man who evokes powerful feelings. SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.

So move on. BELIEVE in finding someone more open. And Goddamn it, calibrate to her responsiveness and program in getting physical. YOU CAN DO IT!

Back when I responded to this post, I included this Sargy mantra for him to remember every time he felt compelled to implement Friends First:

Silently Sargy is watching and waiting
Come home, sinner, come home
Walking the back fence
He’s calling you homeward
Come home, sinner come home

He wandered the alleys
And danced on the rooftops
Come home, sinner, come home
So you could get pussy
And pull out all the stops

COME HOME, SINNER, COME HOME.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you, too, have found yourself astray, let me personally lead you to scintillatingly sweet Sargy success.  See me in Copenhagen in a couple weeks.  Or see me in London two weeks after that.  If you can’t make either of those, see me in Montreal, Sydney, or Melbourne this fall.  But for the sake of your Sarge, see me at a 3-day seminar!