Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A question I get asked frequently is, what to do when you have the hots for a woman who already has a bore-friend, BUT she seems to be into you too, and she says she’s “this close” to having a fling with you or even dumping him for you?

Just yesterday, one of my students told me he wants to reignite the spark with a “taken” chick he had flirted with before, get the Sarging energy back on full blast, and get her in his bed, even though she (says she’s) gone back full-time to that bore-friend of hers.

OK… those of you who have heard of, or used, my “Boyfriend Destroyer” pattern know that oftentimes, the chick will throw out the old “….but I have a boyfriend” line even when she doesn’t, and it’s your mission as a Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training to channel her vibe and move her past this objection, and into your love-lair.

That still leaves the question….

What To Do When She’s Really Taken, But You’re Still “Taken” With Her?

First, foremost, uppermost, important-most, let me ask the Captain Obvious question:

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

A while ago, I shared the story about a guy who was Sarging on this chick, only to find out she was his neighbor’s girlfriend, but he wanted her anyway. The guidance I gave to that student applies here too.

Furthermore, what is it about her that makes her so special? Could it be that she’s actually NOT so Goddamn perfect in every way, shape, or form, but because there’s no other hot items in your “little black book”, you THINK she is?

Next, take stock of what YOU want. Are you playing the field, looking to bang everything with a pulse that looks good in a miniskirt and get laid left and right?

Or, is your goal to find that one special, beautiful, enjoyable, compatible hottie and make a lifetime (or at least a long time) of shared enjoyment and passion with her?

If the latter, this “taken” chick who (claims she) almost cheated on and/or left her “borefriend” for you….what’s to say, if she becomes your “g/f,” that someone else (most likely another of my students!) won’t be hearing the same song-and-dance about YOU?

Think carefully about what you’re doing here.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Have you ever met a stunning hottie who was everything you ever wanted in a woman? You meet her, you pick her up, you have great times with her. Things are going great, and you’re thinking “she just might be THE ONE!”

But then, she throws it down: she just recently broke up with her ex and she’s “not sure” about getting involved again “so soon.” BAM! NOW what?

Listen to this note from my student, who sums up the issue perfectly with his story:

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Hi Ross, I’ve been Sarging this hot babe for over a week now. The first week was awesome. But then, I she told me she is only 3 weeks out of a long term relationship and now is having issues with her old “borefriend” and says she needs some time away from me to ‘find herself’ Here is an excerpt from an email I got today:

“He is still such a great friend and person that I want him to stay in my life. I am sorry if that upsets you, I really am, but there is so much that is hard for me to explain. I had the idea that I was not going to get into a relationship for a couple of reasons. 1. I had just come out of a serious relationship and I needed some time to adjust. 2. Love got the best of me last year and I did not do as well in school as I should have, so I was not going to make that mistake again. 3. I have been “with someone” for almost 4 years straight now with no breaks in between and I wanted to enjoy being on my own for a while before I started getting all wrapped up in a new relationship.

So things were going smoothly…then when you and I started talking… I knew that I couldn’t just let it go. I feel so much care and love and passion from you in so many remarkable ways. you are the dream come true.”

I really like this girl and want to continue with her, but this is a stumbling block I was totally unprepared for. I’m SURE your students have encountered a situation like this. What type of approach should I take to this? What has worked in the past to get her to forget this other guy?

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She says she is not getting into a relationship for a “couple reasons.” Regardless of all the logical (to her) reasons in her e-mail, there are a few things that could be happening here.

1. This experience with you has opened up the floodgates of passion, erotic energy and emotion within her, and she is not sure how to handle it
2. She has a “checklist” of what her “perfect guy” is, and when she compared you to the checklist, she’s not sure if the answer to every point is “HELL YES“
3. How do you know for sure she actually broke up with this guy? Could be she’s still with him, not ready to end her “real-hate-shun-ship by default” with him, and was “testing the waters” with you

It’s not your job to “figure her out.” It’s your job to decide whether she is worth the Sarging effort necessary to take what she is giving you and feed it back to her (using techniques including the “boyfriend destroyer”) in a way that gets her dripping wet with desire for you.

While you’re making that decision, also ask yourself this all-important question:

Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???

Think it over. Meanwhile…

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In the past 20 years, I can’t tell you how many times a student of mine has told me about a hot chick he KNOWS he could have scored, if only he knew she was single. He’ll tell me has no fear of approaching a woman and knows how to get her hot, and that he would have done it, except he thought she was married or had a boyfriend and didn’t want to “make waves.”

Look: when you claim who you are and what you give to the world, by definition, that makes waves. But sometimes, that’s only in your mind – your worry that by Sarging on a particular hottie, you might cause a problem with someone who actually won’t care one way or the other (in other words, no jealous husband or boyfriend who might want to fight you.)

This just in from a student who will be attending my January 2010 Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar in LA:

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Ross, about a week ago I was home visiting my family for Thanksgiving. I went to a party hosted by some friends of the family. The same people host the same party every year over Thanksgiving weekend so it was routine. In fact I knew the Sarging pickings would be slim, so I had about zero expectations. I was there mostly to make an appearance and planned to leave early so I could hit the club and up my odds for the night.

Anyway, one of the women at the party is someone I always thought was hot and I always got along with. Mutual acquaintances tell me that she asks about me all the time. Every time I’ve seen her before she was with her husband, who is a friend of the family. Two minutes before she came up to me, in fact, I had been talking to him. Well, I found out the next day that he is now her EX-husband and that he had been at the party with his new girlfriend. So the woman I always knew as his wife…is now his EX-wife. Best part – she was there without a date, just like I was.

Man, I could have banged her, if only I had KNOWN she was single! Why didn’t someone TELL me?

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A better question would be, “why didn’t you find out?”

Were you paying attention to her body language, signals, and the ‘vibe’ she was putting out toward you when she approached you at the party? Did you ask her how things were going, what she was up to, what she had been doing with her life since the last time you saw her? This “sudden” change in her status would have come up in conversation if she is, indeed, interested in you.

When I Sarge on a woman, whether she is someone I’ve just met or someone I know from before. I ask a lot of questions. I do this not to fill gaps in conversation, but to gather information I can immediately use to arouse her senses and get her hot for me, when I want to take her on a carnal carnival ride.

Perhaps, since this was a “family” party and you’re friends with her husband (well, make that ex-husband), using one of my Boyfriend Destroyer patterns might have seemed inappropriate. But dude … there was no boyfriend or husband to “destroy.”

Next time you see her (or any other “blast from the past”), do your homework with her and use my teachings to get an accurate read on the likely success of your girl-getting game – then claim mastery of the game!

Peace and piece,

- RJ

P.S. With insights and practical applications of the fundamental female functioning principle-the “operating system” and “machine language” of the female body and mind – this student would not have needed to ask anyone what her “status” is. He would have known the “coast was clear” and the “water slide was wet” and gotten some.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Many of my students – smart guys like you – have approached a woman, only to find out that not only does she have a boyfriend, but, small world, you know the guy! And he’s either someone you’re cool with, or at least, don’t want a problem with.

Hell, it’s happened to ME. I make my move on a hot babe, then find out that the boyfriend I was just trying to “destroy” is my neighbor, mail man, a guy at my gym with 32-inch biceps, whatever.

So what to do? Here’s a little situation my student got himself into last week…

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Hey Ross! I was at the gym the other night. Suddenly I saw this really hot co-ed on the treadmill right next to me. I did the small talk first and found that she is rather sweet as a person, but she has a “borefriend.” So I ran the Boyfriend Destroyer on her. Then, I decided it was time to leave. I went to set up a meeting with her. At first she paused…then smiled with her eyes looking to the left. Then she said okay. I asked her to meet at 5 the next day, and she said she’ll be at school. Then I said I’d pick her up at 8 then, and she said, “sorry I can’t.” Then she said…”why don’t you give me your number and I’ll call you.” I know enough and responded like you taught me.

Then, I saw her again today. Across the fence. Get this – her boyfriend is my neighbor! He’s a nice enough dude but I don’t wanna mess with him….ya know? Knowing I may have to leave an enticing message on her phone as the next step, not to mention handle this in such a way that my neighbor doesn’t come after me, do you have any suggestions for this sort of situation?

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EV-VERY TIME someone asks me what to do in this situation, I always ask the same question back …

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

Do you need drama in your life? Do you WANT your neighbor POed at you?

Look: get out of this scarcity/poverty mindset, and find women who ARE available and ready RIGHT NOW, who are ripe for the picking and don’t come with a poison worm already embedded in her apple. Use my teachings on someone whose “borefriend” doesn’t know where you live.

Getting action from the chiseled, goddess-bodied hottie at the gym sure beats a poke in the eye…but don’t do something that might get you … literally … poked in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. One more thought. Is it possible that something inside you has you flirting with the “low hanging fruit” – women who have boyfriends and are less likely to explore with you – so you avoid the risk of something life-changing actually happening – like getting the best lay of your life?

With no further need for assurance or guarantee of success before you take bold (and fun) seduction steps, what if you could get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” a%%, and get moving right now with the success with women you’ve always wanted?

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

My success as a Seduction teacher is YOUR success. I am doing right by you when you take the principles I teach and apply them to their own situation.

If you’ve been out of the game for a while, going back and reviewing my material can jump-start your girl-getting game and have you making women dripping wet in no time.

Here’s a letter I just received from one of my students:

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Dear Ross,

I purchased your home study course a few years back but never really gave it the time it deserved – that is, until recently.

I got dumped by my girlfriend of three years a few months ago. I was really distraught and didn’t know what to do, so I pulled out your home study course and listened to it for a week straight. I began devouring everything I could about your principles, trying them out on all the women I met.

The first few times – nothing.

Then…I was with some friends when a beautiful brunette sat down next to me. After some small talk, I ran several patterns on her. Before you know it, SHE STARTS TALKING ABOUT REALLY INTENSE BODY FEELINGS! So I amplify and make the feelings bigger and brighter. I fractionate for just a second, then transition into a “weasel phrase,” then I go into what I can remember from the BJ pattern and I finally get it! The doggy bowl dinner look!

By this time all my friends are gone and and she just leans over and kisses me! At that moment she stops and says: “Oh my G-D I have boyfriend! I have to go meet him right now”

Turns out the guy is a friend. Yes, I know I should have run the Boyfriend Destroyer, but I didn’t have it memorized. As she left, she said with a wink “thanks for making me have to go change my panties!”

Since then, I’ve been getting better and better at Speed Seduction®. I’m still learning, but I want to thank you for introducing me to a world of endless possibilities. You are a Genius-with a capital G!

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See, this is what it’s all about. When life throws you a curve ball, don’t go sit in the dugout. Go back to school, and get back on your girl-getting game.

Look – the women are waiting. What are you waiting for?

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. When this student hit a rough streak, he went back to school and sharpened his seduction tools. If you have my Home Study Course, you have everything he mentioned – the BJ pattern, weasel phrases, fractionation skills, the Boyfriend Destroyer – and so much more. Dust off the DVDs and get to it!

P.P.S. If you don’t yet have my Home Study Course, the only thing stopping you – is you. I have copies available for you. Get yours now:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/homestudy/