Breaking Free From The Tangled Web Of Infidelity
Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,
These days, every marriage has about a 50% chance of ending in divorce. Oftentimes this because one (or both) of the partners “settled” rather than claiming the results they deserved and getting with the person they really wanted to be with. Another of the leading causes of divorce is infidelity, where one partner cheats on the other.
And that’s within the bounds of sacred legal matrimony, with both Church and State involved. So it gets even worse when you consider how often people cheat on their partners in relationships (or real-hate-shun-ships by default).
When a smart man, who otherwise has life handled and everything going his way, finds out his woman cheated on him with someone else, it’s devastating. Aside from it being just wrong of her to do that, consider the impact on the man’s ego. It’s like taking a giant lance and shoving it through a tiny balloon in terms of how badly it can rip him apart inside.
The questions arise: “What, I’m not good enough to please her?” “Am I good enough for any woman?” “What’s he got that I don’t? Sure there’s a reason she stiffed me for him!” “She’s the best I’ve ever had, I’ll never do any better, and look what she did to me? I give up!” “Will the next woman cheat on me, too?” “Why bother?”
And The Wet Sack-Cloth Of Angst Continues To Weight Him Down…
Not only does the cheating impact (as in ruin) the current relationship, but think what impact it could have on the man’s future interactions with women…
Say he meets a new woman, things go great, and they end up in a relationship. She’s awesome in bed and compatible with him in pretty much every way – she’s that “lady in the streets / freak in the sheets” every guy wants to introduce to his mother AND take on a wild ride in the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.
But….now he finds himself fearing he’s becoming too emotionally invested, which would open him up to being hurt again. Since last time he got emotionally involved, his girlfriend cheated on him, now he’s wondering how he can protect himself from being too vulnerable – yet still be able to enjoy the benefits of getting closer (meaning attached) to someone.
It Isn’t Just About Attachment. It’s About Entanglement.
Along with the good feelings he has with the current woman, he also has the entanglement of what happened in the past. His legitimate desire to be safe when entering a new relationship is now all tangled up with fear-tainted grasping and need. “What if SHE cheats on me too? I don’t know if I have it in me to deal with AGAIN!”
It’s a fact of life: eventually, on some level, everyone loses someone they love. BUT on another level, things don’t end. And remember this, too: if you hadn’t found out that woman from before was cheating on you, it’s possible you might still be with her – in the dark in many ways – missing out on more eligible (not to mention HOTTER) women NOW.
Are you going to let that woman who cheated on you in the past CONTINUE to hurt you by interfering with your CURRENT relationships with women? She probably doesn’t think about you much at all, yet you’re going to let memories of her PAST insolence override the very real chances to find juicy joy with women in the PRESENT day?
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. This applies not only to situations where a woman from your past cheated on you, but ANY situation where you might be letting residue from a bad past real-hate-shun-ship entangle you and trip you up. As you get untangled and move forward into the wet, pink expanse of available, eligible hot babes, you’ll need the GPS to guide you to the juiciest of them all.
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