Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Part of learning any new technology is understanding some basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have helped many students master the initial Speed Seduction® learning curve in a shorter amount of time.

Remember, a critical part of what I teach in Speed Seduction® is learning to use your language to…

Capture and Lead A Woman’s Imagination and Emotions!

As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a woman to imagine will be perceived by her to be her own thought, and thus will not be resisted.

Women especially like to be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then, will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave and want.

Remember, women want good feelings, and my tools and language patterns are geared toward either doing this or gathering the information you need to do this.

Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules.

Many students think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for word, that they won’t work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100% FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the structure. But they aren’t meant to be rigidly or exclusively followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you’ll be able to quickly create your own patterns.

Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being caught.

So many beginning clients feel like they are doing something wrong…a small minor crime like picking a pocket or stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to be excited about the gift you are giving her!

Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud!

The patterns are meant to be SPOKEN, not read! You can’t really master the tonality and tempo unless you practice OUTLOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!

Tip 4: Take a little bit each day!

Speed Seduction® is like learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking! Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes! Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You’ll be shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!

Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important!

One of the most crucial skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another! In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven’t done that…DO IT NOW!

Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups!

Patterns are hard to use if you don’t know how to introduce them and bring them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up!

Tip 7: Practice Your Closing!

So many guys have told me they’ve run patterns but when it comes time to closing the deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a result, you’ve got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when you need them!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever heard of a magnificient palace – or even a shack – that stood erect on a flexible foundation?

Didn’t think so.

Mastering your girl-getting game is not one iota different.

Achieving ultimate success with the women you truly desire is like living in a magnificent Palace of Poon, its vast, sumptuous chambers replete with vaginal victory.

To support such a palace, we need a firm foundation.

This foundation is formed by…

…The Seven Pillars Of Seduction Success

PILLAR #1: Mental Training

First and foremost, we need to be able to do some mental training.  This requires witness consciousness – the ability to notice our patterns of thinking, feeling, and interpreting the world as they’re arising gently, before they arise with so much momentum and force that they drag us back down the learning curve into our old ways of doing things.

I can assure you, when you go to any area of life that has a lot of repetition and a lot of emotional charge to it, the old stuff will come back. Having this skillset where you see these old patterns arising before they have enough momentum to block you, drive your behavior, and distort your perception is profoundly powerful. That’s the first part of the mental training.

PILLAR #2: Rehearsing New Behaviors

This includes tapping into your intuition and being able to do rituals like the magickal self ritual, where you take on the four vibes that attract women using affirmations and your language in the right way.  We call this creative consciousness.

These first two Pillars constitute a powerful part of the mental training. So, the mental training can be considered the first part of Speed Seduction®.

Now, meet me back here tomorrow when we reveal the rest of the Pillars.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently on this blog, I touched on the idea that some guys seem to be able to get any woman, any time, without even trying.  Using the example of the gentleman who seemed to be able to seduce a woman by just touching her hip, I pointed out that there’s more to the story.

Without knowing this, however, it makes sense that some guys wonder: is it possible to be succesful with women like the so called “naturals” – meaning without using embedded commands, anchors, etc. etc.?

By natural, I mean: a man who is not always consciously aware of what he is doing to attract and seduce women.

Here’s a thought / teaching point for you:

“Naturals” don’t fight themselves or second guess what they want to do or have done.  ZERO internal struggle.

Every “natural” I’ve known or modeled never, ever worries about the results once they’ve taken action.

They don’t wonder, “What if this doesn’t work?”

Or “Maybe I should have said something else.”

Or “I probably shoudn’t have walked away”.

They also don’t fight themselves in the moment. That means that when they want to talk to a woman there isn’t another part of their mind pulling in the other direction saying “Wait! Don’t! She probably has a boyfriend.” Or “Wait til you think of the right thing to say!”

A natural may not even be “confident” in the traditional sense of knowing he’s going to get the girl. But he IS confident in the sense of having zero internal struggle. When he moves, he moves with both feet instead of one foot staying stuck.

This is important whether or not you are consciously doing patterns, commands, and anchors.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Some people are loners who for reasons of their own, can’t or won’t let anyone in their lives.  They feel better without anyone around.

Some people choose the “single life” as a proactive choice for how they go through life.  There’s a whole movement around this.

And some people feel they can’t be happy if they don’t have someone in their life.  Sometimes they enter or put up with real-hate-shun-ships by default rather than be single.

A student of mine reported the following:

> I cant seem to be happy on my own, theres always a part of me thats a little lonely and a little upset all the time. When I have success with a girl the feeling is replaced with joy, but when i screw up and things don’t work out it really gets to me.

RJ here again.  Look at how you are languaging it. 

If you had a dear friend, who was having trouble with women, would you allow HIM to keep repeating to HIMSELF, “I can’t seem to be happy on my own.”

How many times have you fed your mind that suggestion?

If you mind accepts that suggestion, on a deep level, what do you think will happen to your attempts to be happy on your own?

You need to un-tangle these two things:

“I feel lonely” and “I can’t seem to be happy on my own”

One of them is true, sometimes. The other one is a belief that you are adding power to every time you say it. It’s actually making the problem more acute, not worse.

Look: every human has a need for human company and connection. It’s totally ok to have that need/desire/want DIRECT your behavior.

The problem is when that need/desire/want gets tied in with self-programming commands like, “I can’t seem to be happy on my own”.

So how could you go about separating the raw feelings of loneliness from the story you are attaching to it?

Hmmmm…

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Time and time I’ve heard it again, from students and other smart guys who approach women with a specific sequence of actions or memorized pick-up lines.  There’s a reason why I hear it.

One (or more) of three things will usually happen(and many times one leads from the other):  a) She’ll pick up on it and give back non-receptive vibes, b) He’ll choke and beat a hasty retreat, c) he’ll find himself in a place where he has to psyche himself up each time he approaches a woman.

It gets worse.

The now-despondent male will often seek the advice of friends or heed the “conventional wisdom” and buy into the beliefs such as “Just be yourself,” “Love will happen as soon as you stop looking for it,” and (it pains me to say I’m not making this up) “You have to BE a friend to HAVE a friend.”

OK, enough. 

Please, hear this: 

This is why I say there are NO “answers” or “information” or “one right way”. There are only POTENTIAL answers and information that only become actualized by your testing, experimenting and ACTIONS in the world.

A huge piece of the puzzle is that guys have a severely restricted and slowed method of learning what works with women.

The ratio of worry/thinking to acting is way, way off and the primary method of learning is not experimenting in the world, but thinking about things.

Remember: Free your mind, and HER ass will follow.

Free your mind means looking deep into the code of how you’ve been keeping yourself stuck.

If the real structure of “stuck” is doing huge amounts of thinking and very little acting, then putting MORE or different thinking through that system won’t give you much change.

And you won’t get far with just a little pocket change.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

More than once I’ve heard from students who have been learning the skills, gaining knowledge of the techniques, but yet, they’re still not moving forward with women like they want to be.

They get pumped up about going out and Sarging, yet somehow nightfall comes and each flip of the TV remote brings up another hourlong excuse to say “Let me just catch this one last episode, and then it’s up and at ‘em!”

Before you know it, you may be “up and at ‘em” but everyone else has gone home.

“Shucks…maybe next weekend.”

If your a$$ feels like a giant magnetic field inexorably held onto your couch while you find every non-excuse possible to avoid going out and getting some a$$, read this:

1) First, bear in mind that learning skills can be a matter of breaking the task down into smaller pieces.

So why not just break the task down into seeing if you can approach ten women and the only goal is to make them laugh? You don’t even have to introduce yourself. Just make them laugh and walk away.

Try this, “Excuse me… but I was just wondering what you are doing to keep the guys away… cuz it’s not working on me. My name is Charles.”

Then walk away. That simple.

2) When you talk to yourself about it, acknowledge and them take ownership.

Like this, “I feel stuck and I claim my ownership and management of this stuckness to the point where I find my ways to get moving and enjoy getting moving.”

3) Give yourself a larger penalty for not acting than acting.

Think of an organization you hate. Like Greenpeace or PETA or the NRA or the Republican or Democratic Party.  Whatever DOESN’T float your boat.  I personally hate televangelists, so I’d make out a $1,000 check to Geronimo Goo-Gargle Ministries. Give the check, dated 10 days from today to a trusted friend. Tell him if you can’t return to him within 10 days, and honestly tell him that you’ve spoken to 10 women, he’s to mail it to the cause you hate.

This way your mind will say, “Ok, there is no totally 100% pain free solution, but the pain I’ll get from not acting is far worse than acting, so I’ll act!”

This takes advantage of the fact that our mind uses comparison. Compared to a guaranteed way to be 100% comfortable and 100% certain you’ll succeed easily with every approach, the pain of approaching women might seem like a lot (until you claim your ownership and management). But compared to sending $1000 to an asshole like Rev. Goo-Gargle, the pain is NOTHING.

A better way to watch TV on Saturday night…AFTER sharing
“Adventures On The Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle” of course!

These are just some ways to get yourself moving.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Oh yes, here is one more. Try going out of town to another city where no one knows you and do your practicing there for a weekend.  Let me know how this helps.

P.P.S. If you are still stuck, check out my Nail Your Inner Game system, designed for situations exactly like this.

I care what happens. Once you get moving, you’ll breakthrough fast.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here is a screen shot of a testimonial I just got:

Just in case it isn’t clear enough I am also copying the text for you right here…

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Hey, the name’s Melvin Cedeno. And I’ve been studying seduction for a few years, and I’ve read practically every other book in the community and all that. I can honestly say your Unstoppable Confidence course did more for me than everything else combined. I’m from Manchester, New Hampshire in the united states, and it’s a tiny city. I wasn’t 21 so going to bars to meet women didn’t work but we did have some of the top party colleges in the country so we went to those instead.

You helped get my mentality to the practical place it needed to be every night I went out. You became a part of my rituals, my Anthony Robbins for the ladies, and just helped me feel ok with being the best possible choice any woman could make.

I’m currently with my dream girl and before her I slept with 9 woman thanks to your advice. And you haven’t just helped me, I pass on your wisdom to my close friends and I can tell you if you combine all our scores it would tally up to well over 40. I hope this wasn’t too long, I could go on forever.

Thanks again Ross, you truly changed a life here for the better.

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Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. If you want to enjoy the same results as Melvin, I suggest you jump over here right now and check out the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection because the Unstoppable Confidence Course he mentions is included as a free bonus with it!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A huge part of mastering your girl-getting game is not only understanding and recognizing the “AFC” behaviors that, up until now, have slowed your surge to success; but also having in place a set of tools and practices to quickly set yourself back on track if one of these behaviors ever tries to rear its ugly head.

Let’s hear from a student who attended our most recent 3-day seminar, who shares a major breakthrough he experienced…in his own words:

Hey Ross,

I have had some of the Speed seduction material ever since some of the early work, and been learning the SRT concepts, and had some success; but I have not been implementing it as I should, CONSISTENTLY…but I have found how great the vague language is….that sort of shit really works guys!

For now, I want to say a personal thank you to Ross for the transformation work he did with me up front on the Saturday morning at the London seminar. I had been stuck approaching those 10+ girls, because my legs simply wouldn’t take me over to them, even though, I am quite able to do it if an opportunity arises and they are standing next to me!

This ‘cold approach’ was defeating my ability to walk…Ross did his magic on me, and trust me, I was not faking it!!!! I struggled to get the feelings exactly to begin with, because I was out in front of the group, and I’d told myself, no way am I humiliating myself out there in front of anyone, before I came to the seminar.

But then, here I was at the seminar, sharing those deepest darkest thoughts in front of the whole room…yet as I managed to overcome that, and concentrate on what I was being told, suddenly something started to change and without much warning, the sensation changed, and as I said out loud, ‘I Claim MY success, with MY smoking hot women, who please, satisfy and delight me NOW’ my fear flushed out of me and I was left with incredible confidence!

Guys, believe me, I’ve thought some of this stuff may be the guys performing for the camera…I will say it again, this actually happened and it was REAL!!! And here’s the best part!  It lasts!!!!

I was walking along the road yesterday and an HB10+ walked out of an office, right in front of me, normal reaction, I would have averted my face and wished I had the balls to at least say ‘Hi’.  But as I felt the tiniest hint of the old self, I simply repeated my phrase to myself, smiled broadly and say ‘Hi’, she gave me a terrific smile back and I watched her head get thrown back and you could see her pleasure at just being acknowledged…now yes, I could have followed this up, and I will…but I just wanted you to get that I could do this in a heartbeat when the tiniest hint of the old behaviour started and it changed me in an instant…if that isn’t magic I don’t know what is!

Trust in this stuff, but as Ross says, you have to do the work, practice, practice, practice, out there in the real world, not in your head all the time! Even just getting to the first stage of talking to them is a step forward and then you can add in steps, but just do it!

And, remember the lesson I learnt, get to a seminar, put your hand up, tell your story and if you are lucky, Ross could help you to get over any stuck points you have…in the meantime, do the practice, get out there and have fun, you won’t believe how many times I hear girls say, it’s so refreshing to meet a guy who is this open and can talk about this stuff, and this is usually just after we’ve done the deed!

So go on, get out there today, your life and those girls are waiting!  For you to take hold of them and lead them off into the land of adventure!

James Hill
London, United Kingdom

See what life can look like for you when you take a bold step forward?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Our Fall 2011 Speed Seduction® seminar tour takes us to Montreal, Sydney, and Melbourne.  If you haven’t yet attended a seminar in 2011, you still have options, but as they say, he who hesitates, mastur-waits.  Will YOU take a bold step forward and join me this fall?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

If you experience those butterflies-in-the-stomach when you’re about to make some approach or move toward a woman, you’re not alone.  You’re anxious and nervous about what comes next.

Maybe it’s the worry of how she’ll take it when you first walk up to her and say your first words.  Could be jitters because you’re calling her for the first time and you wonder if she’ll be happy to hear from you, if you’ll be entering a relationship with her voicemail, or if she “accidentally” gave you the number for Big Guy’s Sausage Packing Plant.

Perhaps you’ve attempted to pump yourself up with visions of her being glad to see you, delighted to hear from you, or screaming your name at the top of her lungs as the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle enters orbit.

And THAT may be the problem.  Let me explain.

There is a distinction between “performance confidence” and “acceptance confidence”, and there is the concept of “When I am uncertain what to do, I take a bold step forward.”  Now let me add another dimension (or two).

“Anxious” and “nervous” are linguistic labels. They don’t describe, in detail, what is going on, physically with your body.

Before you put your attention on the linguistic label, pay attention to your body. What is REALLY going on, in your body and with your body, when you feel “anxious” or “nervous”?

I want to suggest that a better, more useful label is, “overstimulated”.

Your heart beating fast, your breathing short and restricted and quickly, whatever it might be, certainly qualifies as “overstimulated”.

What you need is to become familiar with your body and how it breathes, stands etc when you are “calm” and “alert”.

Now, the second part of this is understanding: being overstimulated is a response to too much anticipation; too much projection into the future, and too much focus on result, rather than on the process.

In other words, if you are picturing f@@king the brains out of the hottest chicks then you are going to be putting too much sexual energy into your system; too much voltage down the line and the circuits are going to start to wobble and shudder and maybe short out.

Stop imagining the future before the present has a chance to unfold. This will give you better clarity about RIGHT NOW.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training,

Since today is Independence Day here in the United States, I want to share with you some thoughts about magic and freedom.

There is magic in the mastery of using language to capture and lead imagination and emotions.

There is the magic of knowing what to notice that remains invisible to the eye of most.

And, then, there is the deeper magic.

The magic of being willing to step into the unknown AND freeing the other person of any expectation about how THEY should respond or will respond.

Truly freeing them.

As in willing and able to ground yourself into a place of energetic acceptance (they can do whatever they want, **I** control where my energy goes) of their first response, whatever it may be. You are going to respond by staying grounded and holding compassion.

That doesn’t mean you STAY there or make their first response YOUR permanent “truth” about the situation.

Here is why this is so powerful, and why this brings you freedom:

Even the hottest woman has areas of her life where she feels stuck. Things or ways of being or feeling she’s like to try but doesn’t. And she wants reassurance BEFORE she steps out of the boat – so she stays in the boat and just watches the waves and wonders. EVERY WOMAN HAS A PART OF HER LIFE WHERE THIS IS SO.

So when she sees you, a person WILLING to step into what is unknown for you, willing to be open and vulnerable (but not needy) with life and living that is sexy.

She won’t be able to explain it, she’ll feel it.

By itself, that is sexy.

Now, so many people, when they finally do have a way to step beyond their comfort zone are SO filled with expectations and demands on the situation and on others.

“Hey, I opened up to you. I risked. Now I DEMAND you open up back”

So when you open up and step beyond the known as a choice for yourself WITH NO DEMANDS AT ALL ON THE OTHER PERSON, that freedom, that “not doing”, that “vacuum” around you creates a pull forward.

You place no pressure. You have no “push” on them at all.

There is no-thing for them to resist.

These two elements combined create a deeper magic few will ever even see.

And the two elements don’t add up.

They MULTIPLY.

So it’s not 100 points of attractive vibe PLUS 100 points of attractive vibe.

It’s 100 points times 100 points. That’s 10,000 points of attractive vibe.

Now, add to that:

Basic walk up energies that enable you to effortlessly approach any woman, any time, anywhere.

Language skills.

The energetic touch secrets.

I think that puts you up near the 20,000 points of attraction – right out of the gate.

None of this requires arrogant swagger or being a loudmouth.

And NONE OF IT REQUIRES ANY PAST “SUCCESS”.

You can have it now, in a heatbeat, in between the passing of one second to the next, in between the fading of this thought and the arising of the next.

Strip away the nonsense and crap that has swirled and guess what: YOU ALREADY ARE THIS.

You just have to be quiet enough to remember.

And in that, there is freedom that goes beyond words.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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