Dear Speed Seduction Student,

When you are mastering your skills with women, it’s critical to have a process that makes the concepts real and valid for you.

Click “Play” for an introduction to how this works for you:

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. As you saw in the video, this is Part 1 of 4.  When you invest in Speed Seduction 3.0 today, you will have the chance to try out my Coaching Program, where all 4 parts are waiting for you right now.  Click here to claim these tools…

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine recently shared an interesting problem he’s been having with picking up women.

During his AFC days he frequently faced rejection by women who outright said, in various words, that they’d never condescend to being seen in public with the likes of him.

But in today’s world he often gets resistance from women who have a hard time handling a man like HIM – as in, they’re not used to a man of his caliber showing interest in them.

Here is a typical thing that a woman might say:

“You really have it together, you’re successful, you’re going places, and I know you’re the kind of man who knows how to make his woman happy.  But you have to understand, I’m just not used to guys like you being interested in me and I’m uncomfortable with this whole thing.”

My student also says that women, in the same vein, say they feel “intimidated” by him, which he doesn’t understand because in the same breath they say how easy-going and fun they think he is and how much they enjoy being around him.

Okay: part of what we’re seeing here is a by-product of how much this student has improved his girl-getting game.  These same women, who would have looked down their nose at him just two years ago, now aren’t sure if they could handle a man as GOOD as him in their lives?  Could be, the forbidden fruit has become the low-hanging fruit.

Another question: what do Warren Beatty, Jack Nicholson, Gene Simmons, Donald Trump, Francois Mitterand, Wilt Chamberlain, George Clooney, and Julio Iglesias have in common?

First, they’re each credited with having slept with hundreds, if not thousands, of women.  Second, not ALL of the women they took to Cape Carnal-Veral were famous or even well-connected actors, singers, politicians, supermodels, or business magnates.  Third, I’m willing to bet at least some of their bedmates, to THIS DAY, can’t quite figure out why any of these men would have been interested enough in HER to go to bed with her.

So when a woman poses this sort of resistance – ask yourself the following questions:

• Could it be that what she’s really saying is “I don’t think I really deserve a good man?”
• Maybe she’s throwing up resistance because she realizes you just may be the man she’s always dreamed of, and she recognizes that if she take a new direction with you, it will change her life dramatically?   All forms of change are scary – even GREAT ones – because they probe unfamiliar territory.
• What can you do right now to reframe the experience?  Does negation apply here?

Now let’s explore it from a different angle:

• There was a time when this woman would have put you down for having “deluded yourself” into thinking you had the “right” to ask her out.  Now, here she is, saying you might be too good for her.  How are YOU handling it?
• In showing interest in this woman, has the forbidden fruit, indeed, become the low-hanging fruit? Does this mean you could “up” your choice in women?  If she’s someone you are truly interested in for reasons that are right for you, then great, GO FOR IT.  But, check in with yourself, are you “settling” or looking for the validation of an “easy score”?
• What internal resistance might be stopping you from taking a bold step forward?

Please, share your thoughts and comments in the form below this post.  Tell me what YOU think.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Women are universally attracted to confident men.  Women operate mostly by feelings – and less about money, age or looks.  Women’s brains are hardwired to respond to certain emotional triggers.  To learn more about how all this works, click here now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In honor of yesterday being June 9 (6/9), I’m going to get into a type of positioning.

Not the missionary, piledriver, 69, doggystyle, reverse cowgirl.  I mean, positioning in terms of sharing your rules and values with a woman you’re Sarging, seeing, or in a relationship with.

For example, one of my students has three main values he adheres to and expects the women in his life to also adhere to:

1. Don’t ever lie to me
2. When you say you’re going to do something, keep your word and do it
3. You have to be moving up or moving positive if we’re going to spend time together

While you’d think these are just basic Goddamn common courtesy, all too often you actually have to explain this to someone.

Sometimes sharing your rules can mean feeling a bit vulnerable, especially if you show a bit of genuine anger.

But it CAN (read: MIGHT) create the chance for the other person to feel free to be vulnerable.

This all depends. How well do you know the person? How bad is the behavior?

Back when I was single I had a woman flake on me at the last minute after she and I had hung out a couple of times. It REALLY pissed me off.

So after a few days, I got her on the phone and calmly but with a bit of pissed off going as well, I strongly told her my rules about friends not flaking at the last minute; that I expected friends to respect and appreciate the gift of my time, that she had thrown a major monkey wrench into the process of our getting to know each other, and that it was up to her to pull it out.

She called back, I let voice mail take it. She angrily defended herself, admitted she had also done wrong etc.

I called her back, she answered, apologizing, saying I was right. I let her know that she would have to make it up to me.

You know, sometimes I think women do things to piss us off just to see if we will own our position and show some genuine anger. It’s not so much a “shit” test as a “trust” test.

They’ve been lied to a zillion times before by guys sweet talking them, telling them what they want to hear. What guy would THINK that they(women) WANT to hear anger? No guy would think that, so since you are showing anger, you MUST be sincere. You are being honest.

As long as the anger is not expressed with an attack, like “You rude fucking bitch. What a thoughtless idiot you are!”

The anger has to express what YOUR rules are, how she violated it and what YOU expect.

Be careful, however. Some women want you to get angry because THEY are angry and want a good match.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. A great next step forward: learn how to show her that you’re the alpha male that can satisfy her in the bedroom without using any words.  That’s just one of many, many vaginally-victorious teachings you’ll find inside Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you “assume” it makes an ass-of-u-and-me.  What happens when you “insist”?

Watch this short video where I share two great attitudes that will help you meet, seduce, and succeed with the women you truly desire:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. This clip is from our April 2011 3-day seminar in London.  Our next seminar dates are in June, and are in Copenhagen and London.  Don’t miss out, click here for details and to sign up now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I have said over and over, one of the major keys to living the life of your dreams is recognizing and getting off of the auto-pilot that keeps you single and lonely!

Remember, most people are walking around IN TRANCE. And even more importantly, the trances they walk around in… trances of fear… of limitation… of doubt of lack… really do not serve them!

Actually, these trances DO serve someone.

They serve the “power structure” that profits and feeds off of a society of weak, programmed, obedient and fearful robots, who will look to the “authorities” on how to live an “ok” life.

Getting Off Of The “Single And Lonely” Autopilot…
Now… Today!

One of the big pieces of getting off of autopilot and having real choice, is becoming aware of your fixed paterns of perception, response, action, etc.

To develop this “meta” awareness is a powerful tool to peel away old, trapped ways of thinking, acting and responding and believing. It makes it MUCH easier to move up ANY learning curve for any skill set.

You see, technical skill IS important. But many people offer fairly good models for technical skill (how to sell, how to seduce, how to get fit, etc) in different areas of life, yet few people get real changes or the huge leaps they want from following this advice.

Sometimes, the advice is lacking.

But just as often, even with good “advice” and good model for new technical skills, the person trying to follow this advice has a bigger problem: they want to really change an area of life that has been deeply emotionally challenging, evoking lots of fear, self-doubt, personal limits etc.

What can often happen is that the new advice, new skills, new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and believing are filtered THROUGH the old emotions, experiences, beliefs, etc

This means that people seldom consistently will act out the new skills from the right frame of mind. They will be fighting themselves, their old habits, tendencies, etc.

A metaphor I use is, if I give you a pair of glasses dipped in dog doo-doo, EVERYTHING WILL LOOK BROWN.

That is why methods that assist in building clear, unfettered awarness can help us keep old responses, beliefs, behaviors, choices at bay and “in the freezer” LONG enough for new ways to take hold, and long enough for us to move up new learning curves because we can see the new skills, beliefs, responses THROUGH CLEAR EYES.

This is doubly necessary when the new ways are very different from the old ways and require major shifts.

Remember, the further something stands from how you are used to acting, thinking, feeling and believing, the greater the chance for HUGE leaps. Also, the greater the chance for old ways to leap back up, unless you have a practice and discipline to deal with them.

I’ll say that again: practice and discipline. Onward… Anything you do to bring your habitual patterns into your awareness(without anger, fear or reaction) is useful.

This is why I am challenging you to go from one extreme to another and to pay attention to flows of feeling that trigger all of it; the awareness of feeling flow is key to knowing when you are slipping into old patterns of behavior and is also key to designing in NEW ones!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but tend to choke at “the closing”.

That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.

But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they drop the ball.

In fact, just recently,  I received the following email from a student:

“Ross,

I have had your home study course for a while, but have been tripping over my own dick for the last year.

I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed opportunities because I am used to being “shy” to make the move.

My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice looking 18 year old.  I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and she kissed me.  I still didn’t close the deal!!  Sounds pretty sad huh?

This kind of interaction has happened time and time again, even before I bought your course.

The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset after the fact.  I am willing to do what you outlined in the newsletters in order to become a more calm and confident version of myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not after the fact.

Am I the only student you have had that can’t close the deal when the girl kisses him?

Thank you in advance for your response.”

Ok, let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.

In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.

We call this fractionation.  Simply put, you put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.  Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.

I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they will be FAR more receptive when  you turn the heat back on.

So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes, then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and then resume.

We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.

Now, as for why this student didn’t “go for it”, I think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger than we are used to getting.

Over the years I have seen this happen with many students: the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do. As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery ticket in  your hand and you are staring at the numbers because you can’t believe you won!

I remember one story in particular, about a student who had just gotten his copy of Speed Seduction® and used some patterns on an attractive woman at his church social.

She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”

The student said, “But the pastor is going to be coming out with the congregation any minute!”

She said, “I don’t want the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang me!”

Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the job, so he wound up having to take a raincheck!

The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success! Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.

Peace and piece
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In this video clip, taken directly from our April 2011 London seminar, I explain why your “motivation strategy” might be one of the biggest things holding you back from your success with women:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The next stop on the Speed Seduction® 2011 world tour is in Chicago, and it’s in just 15 days.  The room is filling up fast – don’t miss this.  Click here to sign up now (and see our other cities if you can’t make Chicago).

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It happens to beginners… AND from time to time, even to skilled Speed Seduction® masters.  (VERY rarely, but it can happen to ANYONE, so don’t beat yourself up, just keep reading).

You know the feeling.  You see her.  She’s hot.  Real hot. You’ve seen her in your dreams, and now here she is.  Sitting alone.  Wearing that svelte dress that was sewn just for her scintillatingly salacious body.  She might as well be wearing a sign that says “Come Hither” with your name on it. It’s “go” time.  Time to take that bold step forward.

But then it hits you.

First it’s like a weight in the pit of your stomach.  Then it grows, moving up your solar plexus through your chest and up to the back of your throat. Your notice that your face feels a little warm as well. Your heart beat increases, and your breathing becomes more rapid. Your feet also feel heavy, almost like they’re stuck to the floor.

You know how this story ends, right?  MISSION ABORTED.

Well guess what…

…That’s all about to end!

Here’s the key: view this as an opportunity to learn HOW your body produces anxiety.

The next time this happens, just relax, and rather than trying to fight it or push through it, PAY ATTENTION.

Notice where IN YOUR BODY the feelings of anxiety first arise. Where do they start? Where do they spread to? What is the quality of the feeling… is it cold? Warm? Does it run only on the surface or deep inside?

What happens to the rest of your bodily awareness when this happens?  What are you doing with your breathing?  Just observe.

DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE ANY OF IT!

Just observe it, objectively and carefully. Don’t try to get into action or talk to any girl. Just observe your bodily response WITHOUT JUDGMENT.

That is the first step. Do this and see if you can find your way over to her now.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. In our live, 3-day seminars we do numerous interactive exercises just like these that blast you through stuck points and get you on the smooth street-way to Sargy success.  Get your Seduction ass to Chicago (just 3 weeks away), London or Copenhagen (next month) or our other cities this year.  Click here for our 3-day Speed Seduction® seminars now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Watch this short video, taken from one of our recent 3-day seminars, where I explain what inspired me to dedicate my life to helping smart guys like you achieve success with the women you truly desire:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I look forward to teaching YOU at my next seminar.  Click here to see the dates and cities and reserve your spot now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the biggest blocks to mastering the skills and claiming your results with the women you truly desire is just that – having blocks.

Maybe you’re overweight and thinking you need to lose a few before women will find you attractive, so you’ve stopped Sarging till you tip the scale a bit less.  (Question: did you know that many hot women specifically like larger men?  Why are you denying them the chance to bring pleasure into your life?)

Could be that you aren’t having women over to your place because you’re worried they’ll think you live in a dump.  (One of my students had this worry, then he discovered that women love the view from the balcony of his 1-bedroom apartment.)

Or, could it be worry that women might not give you the time of day because you don’t have much coin in your pocket at the moment?

Let’s hear from someone who has the money concern:

> Hi Ross,

> First off thanks for the legendary seduction pack, it is a must read for EVERY guy, no if buts or maybe’s!!
>
> I’ve done my homework in reading your books and hearing the live seminar sessions, from there its easy to see and understand that you don’t need a ‘massive wad of cash’ to get laid and even on an extremely tight budget, this does not stop me from meeting the women i want…. It restricts my options when i try to escalate because i end up with an eye on the numbers and the most dominant thoughts on my mind just bring themselves to the front which kills my states from within every time and annihilates my chances with her… but I have to be real here, we live in a capitalist world, and a lot of things revolve around money… My cash flow crisis is a temporary mid term setback, but a man still has needs that he shouldn’t have to pay to get….
>
> Anyway moving on swiftly to matter at hand….The long and short of it is i have been successful at bringing the kind of women i want into my life applying the 3 S’s but escalation is proving a major stumbling block on empty pockets, or at least i just haven’t learnt how to skip over that one yet… I have applied all the advice in the seduction pack into my daily routine, and meeting new women is a fun process for both me and the girls i have tried it on……not to brag but I have not yet had a woman slap me for starting a conversation….no matter how crude the chat up line….
>
> What advice can you give me for handling this , ” I’m broke, no woman will want to come near me” mentality or similar scenarios you may have encountered?  RJ if you’ll forgive the pun…..I need to know how to turn these women out with turning my pockets inside out and looking like a charity case to these modern independent women that will gladly treat me, if only i know the right way to put it…..
>
> help
>
> down but not out

RJ here. I can’t tell what you mean by “escalation”. And if a woman is hot for you – if you’ve captured and led her imagination and emotions in the right way – escalation can be, “why don’t we go somewhere a little more quiet where we can relax and focus in?”

You don’t have to spend money on a date – that’s all crap in your head. And if some women DO want a guy with $$$ to go more than a few rounds with them in bed – oh well.  There are plenty who won’t care so much.

The women are waiting.  So what in the name of Ben Franklin are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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