Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you “assume” it makes an ass-of-u-and-me.  What happens when you “insist”?

Watch this short video where I share two great attitudes that will help you meet, seduce, and succeed with the women you truly desire:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. This clip is from our April 2011 3-day seminar in London.  Our next seminar dates are in June, and are in Copenhagen and London.  Don’t miss out, click here for details and to sign up now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I have said over and over, one of the major keys to living the life of your dreams is recognizing and getting off of the auto-pilot that keeps you single and lonely!

Remember, most people are walking around IN TRANCE. And even more importantly, the trances they walk around in… trances of fear… of limitation… of doubt of lack… really do not serve them!

Actually, these trances DO serve someone.

They serve the “power structure” that profits and feeds off of a society of weak, programmed, obedient and fearful robots, who will look to the “authorities” on how to live an “ok” life.

Getting Off Of The “Single And Lonely” Autopilot…
Now… Today!

One of the big pieces of getting off of autopilot and having real choice, is becoming aware of your fixed paterns of perception, response, action, etc.

To develop this “meta” awareness is a powerful tool to peel away old, trapped ways of thinking, acting and responding and believing. It makes it MUCH easier to move up ANY learning curve for any skill set.

You see, technical skill IS important. But many people offer fairly good models for technical skill (how to sell, how to seduce, how to get fit, etc) in different areas of life, yet few people get real changes or the huge leaps they want from following this advice.

Sometimes, the advice is lacking.

But just as often, even with good “advice” and good model for new technical skills, the person trying to follow this advice has a bigger problem: they want to really change an area of life that has been deeply emotionally challenging, evoking lots of fear, self-doubt, personal limits etc.

What can often happen is that the new advice, new skills, new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and believing are filtered THROUGH the old emotions, experiences, beliefs, etc

This means that people seldom consistently will act out the new skills from the right frame of mind. They will be fighting themselves, their old habits, tendencies, etc.

A metaphor I use is, if I give you a pair of glasses dipped in dog doo-doo, EVERYTHING WILL LOOK BROWN.

That is why methods that assist in building clear, unfettered awarness can help us keep old responses, beliefs, behaviors, choices at bay and “in the freezer” LONG enough for new ways to take hold, and long enough for us to move up new learning curves because we can see the new skills, beliefs, responses THROUGH CLEAR EYES.

This is doubly necessary when the new ways are very different from the old ways and require major shifts.

Remember, the further something stands from how you are used to acting, thinking, feeling and believing, the greater the chance for HUGE leaps. Also, the greater the chance for old ways to leap back up, unless you have a practice and discipline to deal with them.

I’ll say that again: practice and discipline. Onward… Anything you do to bring your habitual patterns into your awareness(without anger, fear or reaction) is useful.

This is why I am challenging you to go from one extreme to another and to pay attention to flows of feeling that trigger all of it; the awareness of feeling flow is key to knowing when you are slipping into old patterns of behavior and is also key to designing in NEW ones!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but tend to choke at “the closing”.

That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.

But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they drop the ball.

In fact, just recently,  I received the following email from a student:

“Ross,

I have had your home study course for a while, but have been tripping over my own dick for the last year.

I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed opportunities because I am used to being “shy” to make the move.

My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice looking 18 year old.  I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and she kissed me.  I still didn’t close the deal!!  Sounds pretty sad huh?

This kind of interaction has happened time and time again, even before I bought your course.

The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset after the fact.  I am willing to do what you outlined in the newsletters in order to become a more calm and confident version of myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not after the fact.

Am I the only student you have had that can’t close the deal when the girl kisses him?

Thank you in advance for your response.”

Ok, let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.

In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.

We call this fractionation.  Simply put, you put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.  Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.

I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they will be FAR more receptive when  you turn the heat back on.

So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes, then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and then resume.

We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.

Now, as for why this student didn’t “go for it”, I think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger than we are used to getting.

Over the years I have seen this happen with many students: the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do. As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery ticket in  your hand and you are staring at the numbers because you can’t believe you won!

I remember one story in particular, about a student who had just gotten his copy of Speed Seduction® and used some patterns on an attractive woman at his church social.

She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”

The student said, “But the pastor is going to be coming out with the congregation any minute!”

She said, “I don’t want the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang me!”

Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the job, so he wound up having to take a raincheck!

The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success! Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.

Peace and piece
RJ

P.S. You can have all the success with women you’ve ever wanted right now, when you join me for 3 days and let me show you how it’s done.  Click here now to register for one of  our upcoming 3-Day Seminars (Chicago is next weekend!)

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In this video clip, taken directly from our April 2011 London seminar, I explain why your “motivation strategy” might be one of the biggest things holding you back from your success with women:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The next stop on the Speed Seduction® 2011 world tour is in Chicago, and it’s in just 15 days.  The room is filling up fast – don’t miss this.  Click here to sign up now (and see our other cities if you can’t make Chicago).

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It happens to beginners… AND from time to time, even to skilled Speed Seduction® masters.  (VERY rarely, but it can happen to ANYONE, so don’t beat yourself up, just keep reading).

You know the feeling.  You see her.  She’s hot.  Real hot. You’ve seen her in your dreams, and now here she is.  Sitting alone.  Wearing that svelte dress that was sewn just for her scintillatingly salacious body.  She might as well be wearing a sign that says “Come Hither” with your name on it. It’s “go” time.  Time to take that bold step forward.

But then it hits you.

First it’s like a weight in the pit of your stomach.  Then it grows, moving up your solar plexus through your chest and up to the back of your throat. Your notice that your face feels a little warm as well. Your heart beat increases, and your breathing becomes more rapid. Your feet also feel heavy, almost like they’re stuck to the floor.

You know how this story ends, right?  MISSION ABORTED.

Well guess what…

…That’s all about to end!

Here’s the key: view this as an opportunity to learn HOW your body produces anxiety.

The next time this happens, just relax, and rather than trying to fight it or push through it, PAY ATTENTION.

Notice where IN YOUR BODY the feelings of anxiety first arise. Where do they start? Where do they spread to? What is the quality of the feeling… is it cold? Warm? Does it run only on the surface or deep inside?

What happens to the rest of your bodily awareness when this happens?  What are you doing with your breathing?  Just observe.

DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE ANY OF IT!

Just observe it, objectively and carefully. Don’t try to get into action or talk to any girl. Just observe your bodily response WITHOUT JUDGMENT.

That is the first step. Do this and see if you can find your way over to her now.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. In our live, 3-day seminars we do numerous interactive exercises just like these that blast you through stuck points and get you on the smooth street-way to Sargy success.  Get your Seduction ass to Chicago (just 3 weeks away), London or Copenhagen (next month) or our other cities this year.  Click here for our 3-day Speed Seduction® seminars now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the biggest blocks to mastering the skills and claiming your results with the women you truly desire is just that – having blocks.

Maybe you’re overweight and thinking you need to lose a few before women will find you attractive, so you’ve stopped Sarging till you tip the scale a bit less.  (Question: did you know that many hot women specifically like larger men?  Why are you denying them the chance to bring pleasure into your life?)

Could be that you aren’t having women over to your place because you’re worried they’ll think you live in a dump.  (One of my students had this worry, then he discovered that women love the view from the balcony of his 1-bedroom apartment.)

Or, could it be worry that women might not give you the time of day because you don’t have much coin in your pocket at the moment?

Let’s hear from someone who has the money concern:

> Hi Ross,

> First off thanks for the legendary seduction pack, it is a must read for EVERY guy, no if buts or maybe’s!!
>
> I’ve done my homework in reading your books and hearing the live seminar sessions, from there its easy to see and understand that you don’t need a ‘massive wad of cash’ to get laid and even on an extremely tight budget, this does not stop me from meeting the women i want…. It restricts my options when i try to escalate because i end up with an eye on the numbers and the most dominant thoughts on my mind just bring themselves to the front which kills my states from within every time and annihilates my chances with her… but I have to be real here, we live in a capitalist world, and a lot of things revolve around money… My cash flow crisis is a temporary mid term setback, but a man still has needs that he shouldn’t have to pay to get….
>
> Anyway moving on swiftly to matter at hand….The long and short of it is i have been successful at bringing the kind of women i want into my life applying the 3 S’s but escalation is proving a major stumbling block on empty pockets, or at least i just haven’t learnt how to skip over that one yet… I have applied all the advice in the seduction pack into my daily routine, and meeting new women is a fun process for both me and the girls i have tried it on……not to brag but I have not yet had a woman slap me for starting a conversation….no matter how crude the chat up line….
>
> What advice can you give me for handling this , ” I’m broke, no woman will want to come near me” mentality or similar scenarios you may have encountered?  RJ if you’ll forgive the pun…..I need to know how to turn these women out with turning my pockets inside out and looking like a charity case to these modern independent women that will gladly treat me, if only i know the right way to put it…..
>
> help
>
> down but not out

RJ here. I can’t tell what you mean by “escalation”. And if a woman is hot for you – if you’ve captured and led her imagination and emotions in the right way – escalation can be, “why don’t we go somewhere a little more quiet where we can relax and focus in?”

You don’t have to spend money on a date – that’s all crap in your head. And if some women DO want a guy with $$$ to go more than a few rounds with them in bed – oh well.  There are plenty who won’t care so much.

The women are waiting.  So what in the name of Ben Franklin are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

From time to time, whether it’s in my Coaching Program, one of my private discussion groups, or here on my blog, I’ll ask my students that simple, yet timeless, all-encompassing question:

How’s it going with you and the ladies?

You all tell me your stories.  And it shows me a lot about how what I teach is helping more smart guys like you overcome your challenges with women, master the skills, and get more moist pink abundance, more vaginal victory, more rides on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle, more, more, more, more, more!

And yet, there’s another theme: it doesn’t work every single time with every single woman, and sometimes this stuff does require a little effort.  You know what, that’s correct.

It gives you something much, much more important.

To make my point, let me share with you a few snippets of feedback from one of my coaching clients who recognizes the relationship between persistence and relaxation:

> The breakthrough (with her) was when I gave myself permission to just practice,
> not give a f@@k, and not focus on outcomes, as it really relieved
> the pressure, and the resources I had inside of me came out. I had,
> up to this point, been so focused on outcomes, and that had screwed
> me up and would often make me feel like a loser and unattractive. I
> wasn’t focused on the PROCESS, which is precisely where I needed to
> be focusing.

RJ: Exactly so: fear and anxiety and tensing up FUCK US UP. Stay relaxed in the immediate present.

> Also, probably the biggest lesson for me was, no matter WHAT
> happens, that’s no indication of what’s GOING to happen, unless you
> DECIDE that it will. And thinking back, I can only remember one
> time when I closed the very first woman I talk to in an evening.
>
> Being PERSISTANT when things didn’t go according to plan was KEY for
> this being a really awesome night for me.

Being persistent AND relaxed.  Let me fill in the “stuff between the lines” for you. When you know you’re doing the right things and making the right moves, it puts your mind at ease because you know you’re headed down the right road.  At the end of every road is a destination.

Every time you take a step forward, even though the answer to “Are we there yet?” is “not yet” you can rest assured you’ve gotten just a little bit (maybe MORE than a little bit) closer.

So instead of beating yourself up for being a loser with the ladies, instead you say “That was great practice.  Now I’ll do even better with the next one.”

Hey, I’ll take it.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you are ready to get in control of your life and start meeting, flirting with, dating (AFTER you’ve slept with her), seducing, and sleeping with sexy, beautiful women, fast and easy… then your next move is to click here to see the next step.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my recent post, I shared with you a way to leverage your way out of the “cold shower loop” by changing what you focus on. My point was: look at what’s happening in other areas of your life that might be stopping you or tripping you up.

Now, another form of leverage comes from creating something that isn’t in the system at all: an empowering, useful set of beliefs and processes for extracting maximum learning from every situation, so you cease viewing things in terms of “failure”, but really, for real, learn from everything.

Here’s a clue: can you learn to have legitimate desires for women WITH a sense of possibility and WITHOUT any of the pain / failure / limiting / sad feelings from the past, or as little as possible?

Yes, you can.

To summarize, here are three ways you can get more leverage through maximum learning:

1. Standing outside the system or process and seeing how you have been creating it in a process, rather than defining yourself as someone who “has” a “complex”. Seeing how this is NOT about “you” failing or having anything, but rather being trapped until now in a process that would guarantee that ANYONE would feel the same way and get the same results if THEY did this process.

2. Get healthy physically, have social interaction, and restore a sense of play and exploration to life, INDEPENDENT OF YOUR LEGITIMATE DESIRES FOR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN. The lack of success you have had in these areas, until now, may well be throwing ice water on your girl-getting game.

3. Install a new system for learning how to learn and learning from your learnings; this also would include learning to discern and separate out your legitimate desires for women from the entanglement and confusion with your old, painful, failing feelings that also have been driving you.

So, will you stand up, man up, and take a bold step forward, or do you wish to continue to wallow in shit?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The fulcrum lever that gets you the leverage you need to get things handled and “up” your game with women is contained in my Nail Your Inner Game course.  Stop wallowing… and start following this link to learn more.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my 20+ years of teaching smart men like you how to get the results you want with the women you desire, I’ve found when people are stuck, their natural tendency is to push harder within the system they are using. That seldom works.

When I want to help people change, I look for leverage, and it is almost never obvious to the person seeking help.

Think of it as a “cold shower loop” keeping them on ice:

Feels lousy about failures with women————>is entangled up with—————>natural healthy desire for love, sex, fun, companionship, touch————->leads to running bad feelings and failure memories in mind———–leads to bring entangled, painful emotion, limiting sense of possibility along with legit desires, into interactions with women———>leads to freezing or little or limited actions/interactions with unsatisfying results————–>Feels lousy about failures with wome

And on and on the arrows go…

So my first thought is, if you’re caught in this loop, stop thinking of it as an inferiority “complex”.

Instead, look at the PROCESS you continue to run. If I took that process and dropped it into the head, body and energetic field of anyone, they’d be fucked up badly within a few months, even if they previously would be doing swimmingly.

BTW, even the loop I laid (ha ha) out isn’t complete. Most likely there are physiological things going on; when you don’t feel good about your life or significant portions of it, chances are you don’t take proper care of your diet, exercise, sleep etc and then your body feels even worse. A body with poor or limited energy etc is likely to lead to a mind that searches for reasons why you feel bad, when it fact, you may feel bad because your body is tired, undernourished, etc!

So into that loop I would probably put

——–> because one feels bad about this area of life, one doesn’t take proper care of physical health———> which predisposes mind to put negative interpretations on events to match the bad feelings in body

So, stop looking at yourself as having a “complex” and instead look at the process.

This is my first step, because it shows you how to start finding leverage to feel better physically and emotionally OUTSIDE of your interactions with women.

I’m not saying to shift your focus permanently off getting good skills with women. I’m saying, temporarily, put a lot more focus in other areas that might be tripping you up and holding you back.

This gets you leverage over the loop, however, there is also a gap: the effects may not show up for a few weeks or months.

But given that, all the more reason to get on it and decide that making a change is something you will do, starting right now.

The women are waiting; so what in Francesca’s flannel nighties are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Inside the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection you’ll find entire modules on “Speed Seduction® Concepts And Thought Processes”, “Beliefs,” and “Blasting Through Stuck Points” that will get you well on your way to leaving the “loop” forever.  Crack open the Vault and claim your Virtual Vaginal Victory in 2011.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names when it comes to scoring BIG with the ladies.

What could please me more than that, you ask?

Hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.

Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin’ loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.

So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I’m proud, delighted beyond delight’s sweet delight.

So, imagine my good feelings when I read the following email, from an attendee of a previous 3-day seminar in London, UK (note: the DVDs he mentions are all inside the Speed Seduction@ Power Pack):

Hi Ross,

I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you – especially the newer SS students.

After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.

After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things  were off to a great start – the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD.

The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING  GUYS.

I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD.

Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING – he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.

After this, women were approaching  him, and there was no more fear of approaches – he hit the 100 openers’ mark by the end of the night.

Then came Selig.

This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed  some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.

After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.

Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.

I’m sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.

John Stein – Cork, Ireland

RJ here again.  John, what can I say? A huge “right on” for helping out your fellow Speed Seduction® students.  May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist pink relief!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say?  This is one of many topics we’ll be covering in our Speed Seduction® 3-Day Seminars.

P.P.S. For the “in the box” version that gets you in HER box more often, you’ll want Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Either way, let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!