Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently on this blog, I touched on the idea that some guys seem to be able to get any woman, any time, without even trying.  Using the example of the gentleman who seemed to be able to seduce a woman by just touching her hip, I pointed out that there’s more to the story.

Without knowing this, however, it makes sense that some guys wonder: is it possible to be succesful with women like the so called “naturals” – meaning without using embedded commands, anchors, etc. etc.?

By natural, I mean: a man who is not always consciously aware of what he is doing to attract and seduce women.

Here’s a thought / teaching point for you:

“Naturals” don’t fight themselves or second guess what they want to do or have done.  ZERO internal struggle.

Every “natural” I’ve known or modeled never, ever worries about the results once they’ve taken action.

They don’t wonder, “What if this doesn’t work?”

Or “Maybe I should have said something else.”

Or “I probably shoudn’t have walked away”.

They also don’t fight themselves in the moment. That means that when they want to talk to a woman there isn’t another part of their mind pulling in the other direction saying “Wait! Don’t! She probably has a boyfriend.” Or “Wait til you think of the right thing to say!”

A natural may not even be “confident” in the traditional sense of knowing he’s going to get the girl. But he IS confident in the sense of having zero internal struggle. When he moves, he moves with both feet instead of one foot staying stuck.

This is important whether or not you are consciously doing patterns, commands, and anchors.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training,

Since today is Independence Day here in the United States, I want to share with you some thoughts about magic and freedom.

There is magic in the mastery of using language to capture and lead imagination and emotions.

There is the magic of knowing what to notice that remains invisible to the eye of most.

And, then, there is the deeper magic.

The magic of being willing to step into the unknown AND freeing the other person of any expectation about how THEY should respond or will respond.

Truly freeing them.

As in willing and able to ground yourself into a place of energetic acceptance (they can do whatever they want, **I** control where my energy goes) of their first response, whatever it may be. You are going to respond by staying grounded and holding compassion.

That doesn’t mean you STAY there or make their first response YOUR permanent “truth” about the situation.

Here is why this is so powerful, and why this brings you freedom:

Even the hottest woman has areas of her life where she feels stuck. Things or ways of being or feeling she’s like to try but doesn’t. And she wants reassurance BEFORE she steps out of the boat – so she stays in the boat and just watches the waves and wonders. EVERY WOMAN HAS A PART OF HER LIFE WHERE THIS IS SO.

So when she sees you, a person WILLING to step into what is unknown for you, willing to be open and vulnerable (but not needy) with life and living that is sexy.

She won’t be able to explain it, she’ll feel it.

By itself, that is sexy.

Now, so many people, when they finally do have a way to step beyond their comfort zone are SO filled with expectations and demands on the situation and on others.

“Hey, I opened up to you. I risked. Now I DEMAND you open up back”

So when you open up and step beyond the known as a choice for yourself WITH NO DEMANDS AT ALL ON THE OTHER PERSON, that freedom, that “not doing”, that “vacuum” around you creates a pull forward.

You place no pressure. You have no “push” on them at all.

There is no-thing for them to resist.

These two elements combined create a deeper magic few will ever even see.

And the two elements don’t add up.

They MULTIPLY.

So it’s not 100 points of attractive vibe PLUS 100 points of attractive vibe.

It’s 100 points times 100 points. That’s 10,000 points of attractive vibe.

Now, add to that:

Basic walk up energies that enable you to effortlessly approach any woman, any time, anywhere.

Language skills.

The energetic touch secrets.

I think that puts you up near the 20,000 points of attraction – right out of the gate.

None of this requires arrogant swagger or being a loudmouth.

And NONE OF IT REQUIRES ANY PAST “SUCCESS”.

You can have it now, in a heatbeat, in between the passing of one second to the next, in between the fading of this thought and the arising of the next.

Strip away the nonsense and crap that has swirled and guess what: YOU ALREADY ARE THIS.

You just have to be quiet enough to remember.

And in that, there is freedom that goes beyond words.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Imagine a life that has no further need for assurance or guarantee of success of any kind before you took bold (and fun) seduction steps, where you walk like a giant where other people fear to step.

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Dear Speed Seduction Student,

When you are mastering your skills with women, it’s critical to have a process that makes the concepts real and valid for you.

Click “Play” for an introduction to how this works for you:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

I’ll tell you a big reason why a lot of guys don’t approach women: fear of embarrassment.

Hey, you’re walking up to this chick who you’ve never met before, you know nothing about her, and for all you know, she could be one of those meanies who gets her kicks off kicking guys in the nuts (metaphorically or literally).

Even in less drastic scenarios, you feel like you’re putting yourself on a limb.

What if you “draw a blank” mid-Sarge?

What if she throws you a curveball and you miss your swing?

What if she says something unforeseen that just floors you?

What if she’s so cold to you that just by being snooty and ignorant to you, she reduces you to a muttering, empty shell of a man as you slink away, sensing that everyone around who was half-listening is now snickering at you.

Stick with me for a moment while I reveal…

The Gift Of Being Embarrassed And How It Gets You More Women Overall

OK, so you took a chance, and the chance took you.  It happens.  What we need to look at right now is your approach to it.

Repeat after me: “Just because it didn’t feel good doesn’t mean it isn’t a useful learning.”

Where do we get the idea that it’s shameful for a competent, able person to f@@k up and even feel lousy about it, at least for a while?  How about a bit of compassion for yourself?

These experiences can make you gun-shy about approaching women, because now you’re conscious it might be a wasted effort.  OK, so you want to avoid all “wasted effort”?  Then don’t breathe. Ultimately, breathing, which sustains your life, is wasted effort, because eventually you’ll die anyway.

Look: when we feel hurt, it is natural to want to protect yourself. But in reality, it just lets the person who hurt you define not only who you were while you were with them, but who you are GOING to be even after they are gone.

Fuck that.  Instead, I see it as a gift.  In sales, you have to go through “no” to get to “yes.”  Same with getting women.  Every “no” you receive simply clarifies your options and gets you closer to “yes”…then the next yes…then the one after that…then three yes-es when all three of the prior “yes”-es (who turn out to be sorority sisters on the cheerleading squad) come home with you at the same time.  (Beats a poke in the eye?  I sure think so.)

Plus, you’ve drawn some useful lessons that sharpen your girl-getting game.  You won’t be feeling embarrassed when she’s riding you reverse cowgirl while screaming “YES, YES, YES!”

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. “It” happens.  And when it does, you need the tools and techniques that help you blast through the tough times and powerfully handle every situation you encounter as you meet and seduce more and more women.  You’ll find that inside Speed Seduction® 3.0.  Check it out.  You’ll be glad you did.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Another aspect of showing up attractive is learning to develop a good relationship to uncertainty, anxiety, and not knowing what the fuck is going to happen.

Many guys come to me wanting “confidence” with women. But what they are really saying is they want what I call “performance confidence”.

What is “performance confidence”?  That’s easy to explain.

If you’ve done something very well 5,000 times, it is reasonable to expect you will do well on the 5,001st attempt.

The challenge for many guys in this game is that they want the performance confidence, PRIOR to doing any performing.

So they wind up never performing, never being confident and never getting any real world skill.

Or any moist pink relief either.

Love Your Anxiety As You Love Yourself, And Soon You Will Be Loving Your Neighbor’s Wife Too!

The solution I’ve found that works best is to reshape a student’s definition of “confidence” into what I will define here as “acceptance confidence”.

Acceptance  confidence has the following components:

1. The skill of being present with the raw, physical sensations of anxiety, without fighting them, resisting them or trying to make them change or go away, but also and equally without feeding them by telling yourself that your anxious feelings mean you are going to fail or it is time to run away.  Don’t feed, don’t fight AND don’t flee!

(Let me just add that very few humans can be present with raw physical sensations like this. It takes training and practice. But it opens up some wonderful choices in life that few people will ever experience and that alone makes you very, very attractive on some interesting and non-verbal levels. More about this later)

2. The skill of deciding what you are going to do, once you experience the anxiety, without fighting or feeding or fleeing.  It basically comes down to a simple acknowledgment of what is going on and then a choice . As in, “I don’t know what is going to happen with this girl, I don’t like that I don’t know, and let’s go talk to her, have some fun, and find out what she is like!”

3. A deep realization about the meaning  and information content of “anxiety”.   Your experience of internal anxiety has zero information value about what will happen with that girl you’d like to meet. It is not a sign you are about to fail or be humiliated in the world. It has no information value about anything happening outside of your own skin. It is only a sign of an internal neurological event.

4. Finally, taking on some powerful beliefs and attitudes about learning.   Since I’m such an awesome teacher, here are the main ones:

A. I will either enjoy getting what I want, or enjoying learning what I need to get what I want or better.

B. I can, will and do decide what I learn from each and every event, choice, action and situation.

C. When I don’t know what to do, I take a bold step forward.

D. When I don’t know what to do, I make the choice and take the action that moves me even closer to the kind of person I am already more and more becoming

Once a student has mastered, in action, the essentials of acceptance confidence, then and only then is he ready to take on rehearsal confidence, another key component of showing up attractive. And I’ll probably talk about that in the next post.

Your comments and feedback are essential to this series continuing. So please post them below!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

The dreck that’s pumped out into the mass media by the “romance industry” would have you thinking you have to look like a movie star, sing like a rock star, be chiseled like an Olympic star, and have enough money to take a space shuttle ride to an actual star, to get the babes you really want.

This is why so many guys resort to the 5 Bs – bullying, begging, buying, BS, and booze.  And also why many guys put off their girl-getting game for years while they hunker down in the gym building the “sixth B” – biceps.

Frankly, it has me SEEING stars.

Look: I’ve taught thousands of guys how to apply Speed Seduction® to cut through the “dating game” and score with women who, up till now, you thought would never give you the f@@king time of day.  I practice what I preach and… I’m 51, lanky and ugly as sin dipped in shit and I am never hard-up for women.

But it wasn’t always this way.

Where do you think I was when I started all of this, 22 years ago?

1. Living at home, moved back with my parents at age of 29.
2. Uglier than sin dipped in shit. (Age has only made me SLIGHTLY more graceful.)
3. NO money.
4. Driving a beat up Datsun b210 with NO f@@kin’ paint job left to speak of.

Didn’t stop me, though.

Chances are, things are “less than perfect” with you.  So f@@king what?

Let me ask one question: what would it be like if it just so happens that “one thing” about yourself you really don’t like, happens to be THE thing that gets many women hot… but you didn’t know because you didn’t take charge, fire up your girl-getting game, and FIND OUT?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training,

Since today is Independence Day here in the United States, I want to share with you some thoughts about magic and freedom.

There is magic in the mastery of using language to capture and lead imagination and emotions.

There is the magic of knowing what to notice that remains invisible to the eye of most.

And, then, there is the deeper magic.

The magic of being willing to step into the unknown AND freeing the other person of any expectation about how THEY should respond or will respond.

Truly freeing them.

As in willing and able to ground yourself into a place of energetic acceptance (they can do whatever they want, **I** control where my energy goes) of their first response, whatever it may be. You are going to respond by staying grounded and holding compassion.

That doesn’t mean you STAY there or make their first response YOUR permanent “truth” about the situation.

Here is why this is so powerful, and why this brings you freedom:

Even the hottest woman has areas of her life where she feels stuck. Things or ways of being or feeling she’s like to try but doesn’t. And she wants reassurance BEFORE she steps out of the boat – so she stays in the boat and just watches the waves and wonders. EVERY WOMAN HAS A PART OF HER LIFE WHERE THIS IS SO.

So when she sees you, a person WILLING to step into what is unknown for you, willing to be open and vulnerable (but not needy) with life and living that is sexy.

She won’t be able to explain it, she’ll feel it.

By itself, that is sexy.

Now, so many people, when they finally do have a way to step beyond their comfort zone are SO filled with expectations and demands on the situation and on others.

“Hey, I opened up to you. I risked. Now I DEMAND you open up back”

So when you open up and step beyond the known as a choice for yourself WITH NO DEMANDS AT ALL ON THE OTHER PERSON, that freedom, that “not doing”, that “vacuum” around you creates a pull forward.

You place no pressure. You have no “push” on them at all.

There is no-thing for them to resist.

These two elements combined create a deeper magic few will ever even see.

And the two elements don’t add up.

They MULTIPLY.

So it’s not 100 points of attractive vibe PLUS 100 points of attractive vibe.

It’s 100 points times 100 points. That’s 10,000 points of attractive vibe.

Now, add to that:

Basic walk up energies that enable you to effortlessly approach any woman, any time, anywhere.

Language skills.

The energetic touch secrets.

I think that puts you up near the 20,000 points of attraction – right out of the gate.

None of this requires arrogant swagger or being a loudmouth.

And NONE OF IT REQUIRES ANY PAST “SUCCESS”.

You can have it now, in a heatbeat, in between the passing of one second to the next, in between the fading of this thought and the arising of the next.

Strip away the nonsense and crap that has swirled and guess what: YOU ALREADY ARE THIS.

You just have to be quiet enough to remember.

And in that, there is freedom that goes beyond words.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Imagine a life that has no further need for assurance or guarantee of success of any kind before you took bold (and fun) seduction steps, where you walk like a giant where other people fear to step.

No matter what is holding you back, now is the time to break free of the chains, get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” ass, and get moving right now in the real world with the success you’ve always wanted.

Click here to learn more…

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Have you seen a TV show called “King Of The Hill?”

I don’t watch the show too often, but the episode I happened to catch recently was a PERFECT example that relates to what I teach.

One of the main characters is a guy named Boomhauer, who doesn’t talk much and comes off as a sort of spaced-out airhead if you don’t know him well. When he does speak, you can barely make out what he’s saying.

BUT, for some reason he’s never short of succulent, hot babes to go out with. He’s viewed as a “ladies’ man” by his buddies, most of whom (from what I could tell) either haven’t mastered a girl-getting game or are stuck in “real-hate-shun-ships by default.”

Anyway, one day Boomhauer offers to teach Hank Hill’s son Bobby, who is just starting to like girls and want to learn how to pick up chicks, how to approach and impress women. Boomhauer and Bobby go to a ladies’ shoe store, and, like my best students, Boomhauer gets to work and starts Sarging …

… well, sort of.

Boomhauer’s approach is that he simply walks right up to every woman in the store – and I mean EVERY woman – and asks for her phone number. As I said, he speaks unintelligibly so it comes out like “Something something dang ol’ something something you know give me your number and something something call you up sometime or something.” You see him get repeatedly yelled at and slapped. This happens, I think, about 20 times.

But then a woman writes her number on a card and hands it to him. Boomhauer walks up to Bobby, shows him the card, and says something like, “See, look at that, man. Dang ol’ piece of cake.”

Bobby wonders what he’s talking about, since he just witnessed Boomhauer getting shot down over and over. Boomhauer replies that it doesn’t matter, because he got the digits from a hottie. Then he walks off with all the confidence and serenity of a man who owns his game, who KNOWS he’s going to get laid.

So … What Can We Learn From Boomhauer?

Yes, his approach is rough and primitive, and if he was my student, in no time flat he wouldn’t need to approach 20 women to get results, or ask for numbers anymore. But there are some general principles Boomhauer teaches us.

• When you Sarge on a woman, it’s not just about succeeding with THAT ONE woman. It’s about honing and mastering your skills to succeed with that woman AND the next ten women you approach (one of whom might be her even hotter roommate or neighbor).
• Even the most experienced expert girl-getters don’t succeed with every woman. The real goal is to approach and Sarge on as many women as possible to find the creme de la creme of sizzling hotties. With Speed Seduction®, you gain the skill set that gets you the results you want – that you deserve – a far higher percentage of the time.
• Persistence is the name of the game. Not every woman will respond to who you are and the vibe you broadcast in the world. You got shot down 10 times tonight already? So? Is there an eleventh woman? Could SHE be the one who gets dripping wet as soon as you approach and takes you on the ride of your life tonight?

Just keep Sarging, and you’ll be having more and more dang ol’ good times with the women you REALLY desire.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you make the transition from Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) to Amazing Fascinating Champ who approaches, attracts and succeeds with the hottest, most desirable women, you become a powerful seduction master who refuses to resort to what I call the “5 Bs” – bullying, begging, buying, bs or booze – in your pursuit of happiness.

This doesn’t mean that the women you used to settle for – the ones you “accidentally” attracted – won’t still “slip under radar.” A student of mine thought he was picking up a hottie for a fun adventure, and instead found himself seated before the Grand Inquisition. In the spirit of Halloween, check out this “horror story”:

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Saturday night I went to meet a woman I picked up at a local club a few nights earlier. I was going to meet her at her friend’s house, and me and her were going off for a “night on the town.” It was going to be a night she would remember for the rest of her life. I was in my “zone,” ready to claim what was mine.

So I get to her friend’s house. I’m ready to get going but my date wants me to meet “the family” first. I figured I’d spend a minute doing “nice to meet you” and then me and my date would be on our way. Next thing I know, I’m sitting on their porch. My date, her friend, her friend’s niece, and their neighbor are sitting on the porch swing, with me seated on a chair opposite. The friend, niece, and neighbor are giving me the third degree trying to find out if I am psycho or something. This was NOT the “hard time” I expected tonight.

After about an hour of this nonsense “the family” left, and it was finally me and my date alone. She invited me to join “us” at a local bar. I know the place – it’s a dump where I wouldn’t be caught dead. I said “raincheck” and she said, “I’m sorry they put you through this, they just look out for me. Next time, we’ll go out and it will be just me and you.” So we set the next date and time and I was on my way.

You know, one of the standards I have for women is that she be assertive, strong, and not make life decisions based on what others tell her to do. I thought this was her, but I’m not so sure now. She’s really hot and I enjoyed the first night I met her and our phone conversations. I do want to see her again, but how do I make sure I don’t have to sit through another torture session to be with her?

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She’s sorry about what “they” put you through? First of all, it wasn’t THEY. It was SHE who put you through it. I don’t have to point this out but I will anyway.

And if you would have gone to that s&$%hole with “them” you would have gotten more of the same from more “friends” of hers who “happened” to be there. You would have gotten in a fistfight – her way of finding out if you could “protect” her if you were her boyfriend. You saw this coming, that’s why you called “raincheck” - good on you, for that!

If she was capable of thinking and acting independently, she wouldn’t have brought you to her friend’s house. On the outside, she’s a juicy, delicious goddess-woman who knows how to make you laugh. But her behaviour showed a high-school girl trying to decide if her “popularity level” would go up or down if she was seen talking to you in the hall, much less making out with you at the pep rally.

Next time you are brought before the Grand Inquisition, fake an urgent call on your cell phone, plead “emergency” and get out of there. Or better yet, don’t. Stand up, say you need to go, don’t explain why, and walk out.

Let “them” know that you ain’t playing THEIR games. And since the night’s still young, find yourself another hottie and hit a grand slam.

Peace, piece, and not pieces,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever heard the saying “Nice guys finish last?”

Many smart guys, in their quest to succeed with more women, have been frustrated to wits end by the number of times they have made their move on that hottie, only to end up going home alone … while she goes home with some jerk.

Some guys end up buying into the idea that women like jerks, and confuse the idea of being confident around women, with acting like a jerk to get her hot and bothered.

More often than not, what ends up happening is … you just look like a jerk. Case in point: this student’s dilemma…

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I need some help to get over this. I seem to have a deeply embedded reflex of being a total jerk to almost every woman I meet. I get so caught up in challenging her that I come across as a complete jerk. This is not on purpose, however. This is a natural reaction that has formed over the years, and it’s not helping me at all. I’ve been told it’s because I’m angry or it’s something from my past. Anybody know of a way to rid myself of all this hostility and aggresivity?

I had dinner with a girl named Amanda. It was a great dinner, then we went back to her place. The night ended rather well, although no physical contact. But then, I met her roommate a couple of days later. In an attempt at being playful and messing with her head, as I like to do with women, I hinted that Amanda had a threesome with two of my buddies. Well, Amanda got wind of this and got really POed at me, saying I called her a whore.

This exchange happened through email, since Amanda won’t meet me in person. Now I’m lucky if she’ll say “hi” to me if she sees me around. Is there any way to fix this? I’ve heard that making her feel such a powerful emotion of hating me is actually very good if I could get her to convert her hate into love or the like. Is this anywhere near plausible?

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You said that you think you might be angry (at women) because of something from your past. The past explains how you got to where you are today. It’s not to be denied. The past represented the BEST you could do, up till now. Now, THANK the part of you that was acting like a total jerk.

Acknowledge the past, do whatever you need to do to clean up the mess, AND then focus on how you want to be from this moment on. And: ask the part of you that has been making you a jerk if it would be responsible to generate some NEW choices in your thinking and behavior that could serve its ORIGINAL intent, but do it in new and exciting ways.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. No matter what you’ve been through, experienced or encountered, that has made you angry and frustrated or made you need (or want) to act like a jerk, you can turn it around now, turn confusion to clarity and losing to learning!

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P.P.S. Another great way to overcome past frustrations is through interactive exercises, in real-time. On October 16-18, in New York City, spend two days with me LIVE in my next Speed Seduction® seminar and we’ll walk through some exercises together:

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