Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Part of learning any new technology is understanding some basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have helped many students master the initial Speed Seduction® learning curve in a shorter amount of time.

Remember, a critical part of what I teach in Speed Seduction® is learning to use your language to…

Capture and Lead A Woman’s Imagination and Emotions!

As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a woman to imagine will be perceived by her to be her own thought, and thus will not be resisted.

Women especially like to be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then, will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave and want.

Remember, women want good feelings, and my tools and language patterns are geared toward either doing this or gathering the information you need to do this.

Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules.

Many students think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for word, that they won’t work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100% FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the structure. But they aren’t meant to be rigidly or exclusively followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you’ll be able to quickly create your own patterns.

Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being caught.

So many beginning clients feel like they are doing something wrong…a small minor crime like picking a pocket or stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to be excited about the gift you are giving her!

Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud!

The patterns are meant to be SPOKEN, not read! You can’t really master the tonality and tempo unless you practice OUTLOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!

Tip 4: Take a little bit each day!

Speed Seduction® is like learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking! Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes! Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You’ll be shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!

Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important!

One of the most crucial skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another! In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven’t done that…DO IT NOW!

Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups!

Patterns are hard to use if you don’t know how to introduce them and bring them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up!

Tip 7: Practice Your Closing!

So many guys have told me they’ve run patterns but when it comes time to closing the deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a result, you’ve got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when you need them!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Many of you have heard me explain the concept of using language and patterns to seduce women, all the while making it seemingly a perfectly ordinary conversation.

Watch this video where I give you a specific question you can ask that helps you seduce her, using your curiosity:

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  The video clip you just watched is ripped straight out of the Speed Seduction® Total Immersion 2011 Seminar Footage Collection which becomes available tomorrow (Friday, August 12, 2011) at 12:00 Noon Pacific.  We’ll announce it to everyone who’s on our mailing list.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I’ve said before, on more than one occasion in fact, one of the lessons I teach is that you use the information, vibe, and feedback a woman gives you to craft your patterning and banter to connect YOU with her erotic desires, wants and needs.

Part of what gets you this information is your ability to be observant and be curious.

Now, note I said BE curious. Not SEEM curious. This student understands the distinction but is still struggling:

> I understand how to SEEM curious, I want to BE curious. I find that 9 out of 10 times when speaking to people (not just women) I couldn’t care less about what they are saying even though I do care about them as a person. My mind starts to go into overdrive thinking about everything else I have going on in life. I find this isn’t helpful at work, with family, friends or SS. I think people can definately see this when talking with them.

Ok: here’s some food for thought…

For me, curiosity is about wanting to know how things REALLY work, beneath the surface appearance. It’s about looking for the large rules, controlling principles, hidden dynamics in ALL of life.

You can’t easily get curious only about women. Get curious about EVERYTHING.

Get curious about the inner processes that drive people that they themselves aren’t even aware of.

I think you’ll find you’ll see a whole ‘nother picture and have a much different (stronger) level of clarity that will boost your success with women, not to mention other areas where your current reality falls short of the potential you know you have.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

More than once, I’ve heard from men who were scared to use my patterns for getting women irresistibly aroused (i.e. “And as you sit there looking at me, thinking about what I’m saying, you can remember what it felt like…”)

There are a number of reasons – fear of “getting caught”, worry about her laughing so hard her drink comes out her nose and the mood is ruined, concern she might think “he’s trying to get me in bed, no dice fella”.  Other reasons too.

Here’s what’s important: just because you fear doing it, doesn’t mean it won’t work.

And, if you really tune in with clarity, it isn’t fear that stops you.

It is the internal sense of suffering that is produced when two conflicting desires – the desire to say it and the desire to keep your mouth shut – bump up against each other and create tremendous internal noise and friction.

You are going to have to let go of your need for certainty and guarantees BEFORE you open your mouth or I GUARANTEE you will never make any progress AND never know what works.

“You must let go of the NEED to know.”

Nothing wrong with PREFERRING to know.

But it’s only a preference.

And if any individual woman laughs at you or asks why you are talking funny, your world won’t shake apart. Even if wave after wave of humiliation should wash over you, don’t resist it or tighten up or turn away. Relax into it and it just turns into energy.

But she may just jump your bones and beg to be fucked.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Has a woman ever pulled “The Great Disappearing Act” on you?

It goes something like this.  A woman you meet appears highly interested.  You spend time together, then there are e-mails, phone calls, texts, and then perhaps you meet again.

But then, all of a sudden, it’s like she no longer exists.

When you call, her phone rings but it always goes to voicemail.  She never calls back (yes, pal, YOUR voicemail is working, you can stop calling your phone company to ask, she hasn’t left you one lately).  The e-mails you send her aren’t bouncing back, but you’re not getting replies either.  (She’s not in your spam or junk mail either.)  Those places where you used to see her?  Not there either.  Without a trace.

So what happened?

Sometimes it might leave you wondering if you said or did something (came on too strong, didn’t come on strong enough, said/did something that overwhelmed her) that scared her off.

There could be MANY reasons for her (sudden lack of) behavior, other than her having caught a borefriend…or a bad cold (same difference).  Consider the following…

Hint: how much of your attractiveness is based on your belief that you have to demonstrate these super-powers of deep understanding?

Hint: there are FOUR attractive vibes. What proportions are you mixing?

Hint: if you had incredible sexual confidence, how would what you are doing change? Not just in terms of behavior, but also, in addition to that, with your vibe?

Hint: are you being at all physically forward? At what point do you seek to test for physical openness and readiness?

Hint: do you think that you need the woman to make the first move? (Meaning, she got tired of you waiting on her and just “Exit, Stage Left”-ed YOU.)  Do you think you require an engraved invitation from these girls before YOU make a move?

Hint: How is touching and being physical intergrated into your Sarging from the very beginning – as opposed to being something you only do when you are ready to “close”?

Ok, think about these items as they might “hint” you in the right direction.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Just how difficult is it to use sexual metaphor and suggestions with a woman? Is it actually, in reality, quite easy, and something you can playfully use to sexualize conversations quite rapidly?

Why, yes, my horny disciples.  Yes indeedy do!

Here is an example:

Last week, I visited a friend in San Diego who runs quite a thriving enterprise. To protect his identity, I won’t say more than that.

In any event, when I arrived, he was a bit busy, so he put me in the care of his assistant, who happened to be quite an attractive German woman.

Just to be friendly, I spoke a bit of German with her (I learned in high school).

She said, “Your pronunciation is very good. You speak like a native!”

I said, “It’s funny, but I pronounce much better than I understand. I find languages have a certain feeling and a CERTAIN SHAPE IN YOUR MOUTH.  When it’s right you can FEEL IT IN YOUR MOUTH.”

She thought about it a moment and said. “That’s very true. I speak a little French and it feels much different in my mouth.”

I said, “That’s right.  French is very soft. But German is VERY HARD IN YOUR MOUTH”.  (This time I leaned on it a bit and put more of a sexual tone to it.”

Her pupils dilated for a moment, she took in a deep breath, and visibly reddened.  As she did I gently nodded my head “yes’ and she mirrored it back, nodding gently in return without being aware of it.

At that point, I started chatting about how close Germany was to Denmark, and how I loved Denmark because my amazing girlfriend is from there.

(Hey-I may play, but I don’t stray.  Once I hook ‘em, I gotta overlook ‘em, catch and release, cause at that point I cease!)

In any case, I invite you to explore how you can/could weave some of the following sexual metaphors into your conversations with women as early on in the conversation as you can:

“So hard…”

“Hard inside you”

“New direction/nude erection”

“Feel your opening/feel you’re opening”

“Suck seed/succeed”

“Go down”

“Put it in your mouth”

When you say these, slightly (slightly) shift your tone to something a bit quieter, and go into just a little bit of a sexual state yourself.  Don’t lean “too hard” (ah ah) on it!

Have fun and let me know how it goes…

Piece and peace,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Let’s get into that age-old saying “Nice guys finish in their hand.”

Is it true?  How often has the phrase been spoken: “I would treat her like royalty, why does she keep going back to that jerk after how he treats her?”

After a while, some guys get jaded and think, “hey, if being a jerk is going to get me the girl, then I’m going to start being a jerk.”

A student of mine asked a provocative question: can he use the skills in such a way where he would be “hard” on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and then slowly change her comfort zone to reach for good feelings, open up her heart, and blow her mind?

Briefly, because this is territory fraught with pitfalls:

First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:

DETACH from the outcome. “I like this young lady, but then again, I like a lot of people, and I have to detach from the outcome; turn down my desire to bang her, make a difference, etc. It is basically an experiment, take it or leave it. I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested.”

Second, and this is key: it is NOT enough to give a person a new/better/more pleasurable experience, because THEY WILL NOT KNOW HOW TO INTEGRATE IT.

So, be careful to ALWAYS, when you demonstrate something to her, to have her VERBALLY ratify that she has enjoyed it and have her VERBALLY ask for more.

Why is this seemingly (SEEMINGLY) inane bit of dialogue SO important?

By ratifying..by SPEAKING out loud how much she is enjoying it, sometimes measuring on a 1-10 scale, by having her RATIFY it and SPEAK that she likes it…

…SHE IS MAKING IT REAL FOR HER!

Not just a passing experience, but something REAL.

By having her ratify… what is accomplished?

She is reaching for more of what you have. Naturally, her conclusion is, it MUST be something of value, since she has to reach for it to get it!

I’ll say it again. SHE CONCLUDES IT MUST BE SOMETHING OF GREAT VALUE SINCE… SHE HAS TO REACH FOR IT TO GET IT!

Have you ever noticed you seem to want the things you can’t immediately have?  That you spend lots of energy working for it, if you really want it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

According to my customer service manager, one of the biggest things that students ask is where can they get even more word-for-word patterns.

You’ll find them in many of my courses – for example, I cover “Twin Brothers” at great length on the Irresistible Arousal DVD that’s included with the Power Pack.

But for today, instead of “more” patterns, let me state that most guys would be better served by learning to use the patterns they already know more powerfully.

I would also add: the best “pattern” is to evoke a woman’s own responses and processes and use them.

In this respect, the most capable Speed Seducer might be MISTAKENLY viewed as “passive”, in that, rather than seeking to create something that is not there, he instead seeks to evoke what IS there, stimulate it to life, seize hold of it and direct it to his intent.

In other words, we stay VERY strong in our intent, yet we use what is given to us by the other person, once we have them sufficiently stimulated to be responding in useful ways…from the deeper structures and processes in her body/mind.

We tune in…listen…use our intuition..use our ability to stimulate the useful processes and responses in her to life. We may seem to the untrained to be “sensitive” but in fact, we are providing a STRONG lead the entire time.

To balance this strong intent…STRONGLY LEADING…yet being open to her responses. THAT is the balance.

This balance can take months to get good at, and years to master, but once you get it, it becomes very hard NOT to attract.

Now, what are the things that get in the way of this? How can we, like sculptors, remove what doesn’t belong in us so we can get to the essence of the skills?

Removing What Is In The Way

First, we must remove our old ways of seeing women. We can see like any other guy, the things that all guys appreciate: boobs, butts, legs, lips, vulva. All good, all fine, all right…IN THE RIGHT PLACE AND TIME.

We must also learn, however, to see differently and to listen in a different way.

Talk to a woman. Stimulate her mind and imagination in a certain way, and within 2 minutes she is telling you how she can feel her uterus contracting when she is attracted to someone and you get the sound she makes to herself when she feels it..not because she says, “Oh, and I make THIS sound… ummmmmmmmmmmm… when I feel that.”

No, I’m just listening, and as she describes the process, she makes the sound at the end of it. Ummmmmmmmmm.

Now, I am listening for what I can use and NOT what stimulates ME!

Ummmmmmmmmmm is HER verbal anchor for that state.

So, for a while anyway, we must learn to put aside our own stimulation or turn it down. That is the first thing many guys most remove.

Second, we must learn to remove old beliefs about what we have to do to attract women and instead learn to look at HER processes and responses. Like the good Lord, SHE will provide what we need…IF we know how to look and listen for it and how to stimulate it into life..and HOW to use it once we have it.

Listen AND Lead

A student of mine told me he was speaking with a woman on the phone with someone with whom he’d had some brief conversations but they’d been playing phone tag.

He took the lead and said, “Why don’t we make a firm plan to meet for an hour so we can explore what is obviously intriguing us both?”

He suggested time. She said, “okayyyyyyyyy” but he noticed it was not a firm, enthusiastic “ok”. He NOTICED. He used his skill to listen. Then he moved to a STRONG lead.

He said, “you know, I want to make sure this is something we both enthusiastically want and “okayyyyyyy” is not the same as “ok…YES!”. THAT’S what I need to hear if we are going to do this. So why don’t we try later in the evening? 8PM I will meet you at _____________

She tried suggesting another place. He said, “Is it quiet? I want a quiet place to talk, so let’s meet at _____________ as I said before”.

She said, ENTHUSIASTICALLY and with FULL agreement, “OK! I’m looking forward to it!”

Now, this is a SIMPLE example… Not dripping with juice or phone sex, but simple and important. He NOTICED her response, brought it out to the surface, and redirected things WITH A STRONG LEAD.

You see, macho doesn’t work because MACHO DOESN’T NOTICE OR LISTEN. So it only works on women who are dumb or weak or destroyed enough to not want to be heard.

Just listening doesn’t work, because WOMEN WANT A STRONG LEAD. You must listen to her responses then STRONGLY LEAD her using them and what you’ve learned from them.

Do both.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names when it comes to scoring BIG with the ladies.

What could please me more than that, you ask?

Hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.

Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin’ loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.

So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I’m proud, delighted beyond delight’s sweet delight.

So, imagine my good feelings when I read the following email, from an attendee of a previous 3-day seminar in London, UK (note: the DVDs he mentions are all inside the Speed Seduction@ Power Pack):

Hi Ross,

I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you – especially the newer SS students.

After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.

After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things  were off to a great start – the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD.

The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING  GUYS.

I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD.

Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING – he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.

After this, women were approaching  him, and there was no more fear of approaches – he hit the 100 openers’ mark by the end of the night.

Then came Selig.

This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed  some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.

After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.

Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.

I’m sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.

John Stein – Cork, Ireland

RJ here again.  John, what can I say? A huge “right on” for helping out your fellow Speed Seduction® students.  May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist pink relief!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say?  This is one of many topics we’ll be covering in our Speed Seduction® 3-Day Seminars.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Using something known as an “implied compliment” is a fabulous way to capture a woman’s attention and make her receptive to your approach.  For many reasons, in fact, it’s better than paying her any sort of direct compliment.

There are several reasons why.  Let’s go through them:

1) When you IMPLY something, a woman has to use her active imagination to make sense of what you are saying.

As I have taught for years:

WHATEVER YOU CAN GET A WOMAN TO ACTIVELY IMAGINE WILL BE PERCEIVED BY HER AS BEING HER OWN THOUGHT. THEREFORE IT WILL NOT BE RESISTED AS SHE IS THE ONE WHO THOUGHT IT!

Implying something is a sub-category of being vague and using ambiguity. In order to make sense of what you are saying, the listener HAS to employ their active imagination.

When you say something with clear, direct meaning, the listener may or may not respond positively.

2) Very attractive women are used to direct compliments, so they can (but not necessarily WILL) more easily shrug them off.

4) One of the other principles I teach is to get attention in a positive way by doing or saying something different. Since women are not used to implied compliments, and since they are always positively received, it works out nicely to have you stand out from the crowd.

Ok, now that I’ve intrigued you with the theory, let’s get to the practice.

Let’s say you’re at Whole Foods waiting to pay for something at the counter.

Next to you at the counter you see a lovely, lovely blonde woman wearing those ubiquitous UGG brand boots.

You look at her and said, “Nice footgear. Those look comfortable”.

She responds, “They are very comfortable”

You say, “I guess when you have beauty to burn you can afford to dress for comfort”.

She melts at that.

Maybe she’s married, maybe she’s in a real-hate-shun-ship, whatever.  Test this combination with several women and watch how often you get a positive response.

Now, do you guys see how the compliment is implied.

1. Directly state/establish she is wearing shoes for comfort by stating it AND having her agree. Remember in the example she said, “They ARE comfortable”. So you have her agreement; she takes the first part of what you say as being true and acceptable and non-threatening.

2. Link that with an ambiguous use of the term “you”, not once, but twice.

(You used it when you talked about dressing for comfort AND having beauty to burn)

Just who does “you” refer to? “You” meaning people at large?  “You” meaning her, personally? It’s not clear, so to make sense of it she has to use her active imagination.

When you stack ambiguities like this, closely together in time, their power MULTIPLIES as opposed to merely adding.

3. Finally, not only did you not DIRECTLY say you thought she was beautiful, you were also vague about WHAT aspects of her are beautiful.

You didn’t say, “Beautiful hair or beautiful teeth or beautiful eyes”.

She might not agree if you were that specific.

You just said, “beauty to burn”. What kind of beauty? According to what standards?? As judged by whom?

Ok, I want to open this up for discussion. Using this structure, how else might you come up with some original implied compliments?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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