Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

A week or so ago, I posted this on my blog – a Sarge report from one of my longtime students who had met an HB8, had a few meetings in quick succession that led to an all-night makeout session… only to get a text from her the next morning in which she says they shouldn’t see each other anymore because she has a “borefriend.”

Said student read YOUR comments and thoughts and had a reaction along the lines of “DOH! What the f@@k was I thinking?!?!” and decided he’d give it another shot with her. Here’s what happened:

OK Ross, my gut told me to wait till the weekend to try contacting her, so that’s what I did. Meanwhile, on Thursday coincidentally and out of the blue she sent me a text that said “I’m so sorry, I actually don’t have a boyfriend. I wanted to see how you’d react if I did. I shouldn’t have done that.”

On Friday night I texted back “So which is it?” She followed up with basically a repeat of the above. So I called her Sunday (I deliberately dragged this out to build suspense) and she apologized profusely. I let her go on for a minute and then I said “Really, Debbie (not her real name of course), that totally threw me for a loop….I forgive you though.” We chatted for a bit. The plan is to get together this weekend coming up which is the next time our schedules match up. I’m heading over her place.

I’m not going to jump in head first. My other options still open (no “oneitis” here Ross). I’ll give her a mulligan on this one, but I’ll take this one step at a time. Give my thanks to everyone for their comments, especially the “constructive’ ones” I needed that!

You put into place the principle that a woman’s current reaction is rarely, if ever, her ‘final answer’. You remembered it a little late this time, but at least you remembered.  Next time you’ll remember sooner.

With all this suspense building, so long as you weren’t pining over her and agonizing on “what’s the right time to call” and “how long should I wait” and other dum-dum dating-game nonsense (sounds like that’s not an issue for you though).

Now let me aim the long, sharp needle at the balloon that is your ego.  SHE MIGHT NOT BE SINGLE.  Could be she has a boyfriend after all, but liked things with you so much she said what she needed to say to not lose you.  She might be getting ready to serve this guy his walking papers but wanting to interview other candidates first.  Or, maybe she just wants to f@@k around.

Before you come back all “woe is me” and “how did I let myself get suckered in” and all that rot, ask yourself – are ALL of these possibilities acceptable to YOU?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Pretty much every student of mine, even those who completely master my teachings and do everything just as I would recommend, has an experience with a woman that leaves him wondering, “What the HELL just happened???”

This one particular Sarge report I just received really stands out, so I’ll review it first:

Hey Ross, you know, you’d think by now I’d have a keen sense for women who are just looking for a cheap thrill.  Thursday night I met a hottie (I’d say she’s an HB8) and we really hit it off.  Things went so well I decided to cut it short and make her “want it more” by telling her I had to go but I’d see her tomorrow (we made plans then and there).

So next day we hang out for a couple drinks, it’s cool, and then got together again (at my place) Saturday night.  Next thing you know, we end up in a crazy-ass makeout session in my bed that goes until 7:00 AM.  She left, then I went to bed for a couple hours.  As you’d expect, I was in bed pretty early last night, then woke up at 5:00 this AM to a text from her: “I’m thinking we shouldn’t see each other anymore.”

Now, thinking to myself with a half-chuckle “Boy, THIS is gonna be good…” I texted her back “What brings this on?”  I’ll spare you the play-by-play and summarize with: turns out she has a boyfriend, she felt bad, she confessed her liaison with me to both him and me, she had been bored and horny when she met me and was looking for a good time but hadn’t planned on liking me so much, which was why she wanted to confess the truth to me, and if only she was single, etc.

In her explanation (a half-ass one if I ever read one) I got a bit offended, and I asked her “So would your boyfriend also forgive you if you confessed you wish you were single?” She replied “I’m sure he would.” I then wrote “I feel bad for the predicament he’s in.” After which she pretty much told me to F-off.  I have to admit, it bugged me a little.

Overall, this was well-played on my student’s part.  I would, however, add a couple things.  First let me ask: for what it’s worth, was she good in bed?  As long as she wasn’t a weak lay, ya know….

Now, I don’t think her explanation was “half-ass.”  She came right out and admitted she had been out for a good time, and in my student she found it.  She also seems to have no real qualms about playing around on her man.

It speaks to her character.  I’ve had women admit to me that they cheat on every boyfriend they have.  My response: “Why would I want to be with you then?  You just came out and admitted, in advance, you’d be unfaithful to me.”

I’m also pretty sure this pretty chick didn’t “pretty much” tell him to F-off.  I’m not a betting man, but I’ll wager a handsome sum the text read more like “Fuck off asshole, and don’t ever contact me again.” Because my student let her know in exactly so many words that he was onto her little game, and he accurately called her out on her behavior and now the spotlight burned her a little.

Look: when this happens to YOU, remember this: you met her, you got some, it’s all good, now let it go. Lots of women out there actually ARE single and ready to mingle.  A better one is waiting. Now what in the name of Becky’s bloomers are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What was missing from my student’s reaction?  I’ll tell you what: oh, yeah, he was a little offended and disappointed.  BUT his world didn’t drop out from under him, he wasn’t crushed or discouraged, and he didn’t freak out either on her or the world in general.  Hell, he was more curious to see what story she’d come up with, then worried about “losing” this cheat or worrying “what did he do wrong.”

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This woman lays it(no pun intended) all out with some serious truth butter!

What do you think?

RJ

P.S. This is from her talk at my recent Speed Seduction seminar in LA.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Most guys have gotten what’s known in some circles as “the gesture” from a hot chick.

You approach her, and before you get in two words, she makes this “waving-off” hand gesture like you’re a bug who’s swarming around her. The worst part is she doesn’t even have the decency to use words, as if you’re not worthy of even that much.

That feels like she just kicked you in the groin, except you feel it… all over!

Listen: having a really attractive woman be disrespectful to a guy she thinks is going to hit on her isn’t exactly a new concept. We’ve all been there.

Typically, guys are expected to be able to act like it’s no big deal or laugh it off, chalk it up as “her loss”, and move on. Most guys, because this is what’s expected of them, try to do this.

The problem is that it doesn’t work.

Why Getting Dissed Is No “Laughing Matter” …
And How To Kick Those Pangs Of Pain In The Jewels
And Get Your Chuckles Back

Being “dissed” triggers your threat response. It’s instinctive (meaning it’s NATURAL) and it happens faster than your cognitive brain can process the information and say “whoa there, Buckaroo, she’s just a random chick, don’t get your boxers all twisted there, pal!”

Furthermore, if it’s an extremely attractive woman who disses you, you also experience a loss of esteem, like maybe you’re not the stud you imagine yourself to be. This leads to emotional pain.

Trying to laugh it off and/or brush it off causes you to suppress your feelings. This builds pressure over time. With each new insult from an attractive woman you react to ALL the previous insults as well.

You can’t be expected to come up with an effective response to a single incident if your subconscious is reacting to every past incident.

Look: you may be scoring with the ladies left and right. A student of mine tells me he had just gotten laid by two different women on two consecutive days and now has them both calling wanting to see him again. But then this other prima-donna stuck-up b%$&h waved him off like he wasn’t even human, and now he’s REALLY mad, and hurt.

So, as you look at how your anger and hurt at being dissed is boiling up within YOURSELF, ask yourself:

• What could you begin to add to it to balance your reaction to getting “dissed”?
• What about properly applying a sense of humor to the situation?
• Could you form new beliefs that you can use to respond differently?

Get these questions answered, and soon you’ll find that instead of pretending it’s “no big deal,” you’ll have a mechanism for how to properly deal with it. And that sure beats a poke in the eye (and your pride!)

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students

It would be no exaggeration to say that many women in today’s modern world are, to put it mildly “a little bit dinged”.

From the “Fatal Attraction” violent loonies, to the loopy New-Age “dolphin channelers”, whacked out femmes are in abundant supply.

Zack’s Nightmare Beyatch From Hades

Case in point: last week, I hung out with a friend I haven’t seen in years, my old buddy Zack. And he was telling me about his last girlfriend whom he dated for a year.

“Man, RJ, “he said. “She was fucking NUTS!”

Here is what he told me: after he told her he was breaking up with him, she walked into his apartment while he was about to fall asleep, after he had taken an Ambien(which he uses for insomnia).

She opens up his mouth and feeds him the remaining 5 pills in the bottle!

I shit you not.

The chick tried to OD him while he was already zonked out!

It gets better:  she gets on his Myspace page and proceeds to deface it with false confessions of liking kiddie porn, tax evasion, etc etc etc.

And so, dear reader, while you may not have had some savagely insane skank try to feed you dangerous meds while you already are in a stupor, I’m sure you’ve met your own nutty nut bars of some kind.

So I open it for discussion below: how do YOU define “Crazy Chick”? What are the various categories and types of Loop-de-Loop chicas that populate our modern world?

Best answer wins a “No Prize” from me.

Peace, piece and let’s hear what you have to say NOW!

RJ

P.S. I will share my wackiest chick story tomorrow.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

One of the most important components of Seduction is the “vibe” you put out there – meaning, how women perceive who you are and what you give to the world when you approach them.

There will always be women who are simply unable or unwilling, for reasons that are not yours to figure out, to accept the gifts you offer.

I’m frequently asked: what is the right way to handle women behaving toward you in a very rude manner?

For example, blatantly insulting you while you both wait in line at a pizza shop for no reason? Or being rude to you as if she’s testing you, or as if she has more of a right to exist than you do?

First, realize that anyone who gets rude or angry at your genuine, decent behaviour has a problem. It is about THEM, not YOU.

Here are three ways you can powerfully handle the situation and turn it to your advantage:

1. Use humour. Shake your head, and say, “Wow..I hope you get over the guy who really f@@ked you up…do you spell that “Daddy” or “Papa”?
2. Just hold compassion for them as a person in pain and say nothing, or say, “Wow. I’m sorry I interrupted you while you were being miserable.” (Credit to Stephane Hemon of ideaGasms for that one!)
3. Challenge them to something better, say,“Wow..what a rude, cold way to PRETEND to act”. Emphasize the PRETEND.

A couple months ago, I was at Whole Foods and approached a woman with one of my tried-and-true pick-up lines – one that has worked for me hundreds of times.

Her response (with dirty look and loud disgusted sigh): “What the F@@k do YOU want?”

Me: “You know, I know what your boyfriend looks like.”

Her: “Really now? What DOES my boyfriend look like, since you know it ALL?”

Me: “I see his face in the mirror every morning when I shave.”

Her (really angry and almost shouting, not getting it): “Are you in my bathroom, m^#$*rf@@ker? What the…. F@@K?!?!?!?”

Me: (points to her, laughs hysterically, and then in mock drawl) “Well then…. looks like…. ‘Exit, Stage Left!’ for me!” (walks away, not concerned that she might be giving me the finger behind my back)

Again: when you don’t take crappy behaviour from women (and people in general, for that matter) personally, it doesn’t happen as much. But it still happens. When you approach women with integrity and good intentions… the spiteful behavior of a few meanies won’t trip your game.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Many times here on my blog, I’ve shared stories of how my students have applied my teachings to powerfully handle situations with women who flake, women who “run hot and cold,” women who say they have a “bore-friend,” and women who drop the “F-bomb” as in “Let’s be friends.”

That last one makes my skin crawl, frankly.

Using Speed Seduction®, you can often turn that “friend” into your devoted lover, and many students have done so. However, some women cannot make the transition from thinking of you as a “brother” to screaming “OH BROTHER!” as you take her for a spin on the carnal carousel.

Sometimes, you just gotta cut your losses, as this student learned:

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Hey Ross! After listening to your girl-getting teachings in the Unstoppable Confidence course I finally decided to live up to Affirmation #5.

I called up a female friend of mine whom I had had a crush on for longer than I’d like to admit. I was her nice-guy, girl-friend, “brother I never had” and it was bringing me down. I told her that I believed that, in this point in time, being friends with her wasn’t good for me and I explained why in a polite a way as possible.

She said that she was my friend and understood that it was something I had to do, and we left it that once I feel I can be friends with her without it being a hindrance to my moral and self esteem that I’d get in contact with her again. She actually said that the idea that I’m going to eventually get back with her to resume our friendship is “The only thing keeping her sane right now” and cried a bit (she seemed to take it a lot harder than I did), but I knew this was something that I had to do because I couldn’t honestly look into the future and see things getting any better.

I don’t think it’s really set in yet, but I believe that not being friends at this point in my life will be far more beneficial to myself than continuing along the way things were. I hope this is inspirational to any other brothers out there who feel they need to do something similar.

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First of all, congratulations on claiming your integrity and alignment with who you are and what you give to the world. This is what it’s all about. Good on you!

There’s another reason why you broke off your “friend-ship” with her. You don’t come out and say it, perhaps because you realize it on a subconscious but not “on the table” and “in your face” sort of way.

She told you that the POSSIBILITY that you MIGHT be friends again SOMEDAY is the only thing keeping her sane… and then she burst into tears.

Your gut was telling you that, aside from her having dropped the “F-Bomb” and consigned you to “Justfriendsville,” that there’s something dinged about this chick. This is why you couldn’t look into the future and see things getting better with her.

Here’s what I see in your future: You’ll move on to Seduction success with the open, interested, willing steaming-hot women you truly desire and DESERVE.

Meanwhile, in a separate storybook that you won’t read, she will find some Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) to be her “brother from another mother” and serve as her ironing-board for her emotional angst while she avoids taking necessary steps to claim what SHE deserves.

Look: the women who won’t lob “F-bombs” at you are waiting. Now that you’ve stopped being a target, what are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

[This is something I wrote a while ago, but it's one of my all-time favourites and it teaches a very important lesson.  So for you, I am pulling it out of the vault...]

Life sure is funny, sometimes.

Today, I was driving my SAAB convertible from the dealer, after having it repaired. (Note: SAABS are fun as hell, but expensive to maintain. Any SAAB lover will tell you it is worth it, but don’t get one if you aren’t willing to fork over some cash from time to time.)

Anyway, as I was driving, some blond girl in a beat up Honda Civic was tail-gating me.

Apparently, 45 miles an hour wasn’t fast enough for her. So she was right on my tail.

I thought, “Honey, you are going to try to shut ME down when I’m in this turbo-charged rocket? No way.”

I just tapped the accelerator and my SAAB shot off like a rocket, leaving her eating my California clean-air-standard- compliant exhaust emissions.

Here is the really funny part.

She caught up to me, behind me, at the red light.

And when the light turned green, she whipped around me in the right turn lane, and illegally proceeded to cross back in the intersection so she could “cut me off” and pass me.

As she did, she flipped me the bird.

I burst out laughing.

Then I thought, “Now, why was that so funny?”

What was funny is how stuck that poor girl was.

She really thought she HAD to “beat” me.

She was willing to break the law and endanger herself and others just so she could have her “victory”.

And she had to flip me off and make it personal into the bargain.

But you know what?

After she took off, I was STILL in my beautiful, joy-to-drive, incredible SAAB.

And she will still be driving around all day today, and probably for the next few years, in her crappy, beat-up, falling-apart, shitty Civic.

Now, this is NOT about the car you drive.

It’s about looking where you THINK you are finding your little “victories” without realizing that you are really just re-enforcing being stuck.

And it’s about not being reactive to other people’s stuff.

I could have taken offense at that girl.

Instead, I laughed at her need to “beat” me.

Sometimes, the best thing to do in life is just let the idiots zoom by you, thinking that they’ve won.

And the seduction lesson is this:

Women are running around on auto-pilot 99% of the time.

The actions they take often have NOTHING to do with you, but their own pre-programmed stuff.

So when you run into a woman who responds in a cruel or bitchy way when you have really done nothing to merit it, just picture my little blond bitch in the shitty Civic, flipping me off.

And realize she’s done you a huge favor.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students And Fans,

Man, do my calves hurt me again today.

I have no idea why.

And speaking of non-sequiturs, here is the second of my three free, “teasse ‘em to promote the official launch of Best Of RJ Coaching Program, Volume 1, on Thursday, Nov 12, at 12 Noon Pacific”.

This one is about three different ways to transition to hypnotic, panty-wetting, leg-spreading language, rapidly and easily.

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So comment below me, all you free-stuff whores and RJ junkies.

My calves hurt.

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you make the transition from Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) to Amazing Fascinating Champ who approaches, attracts and succeeds with the hottest, most desirable women, you become a powerful seduction master who refuses to resort to what I call the “5 Bs” – bullying, begging, buying, bs or booze – in your pursuit of happiness.

This doesn’t mean that the women you used to settle for – the ones you “accidentally” attracted – won’t still “slip under radar.” A student of mine thought he was picking up a hottie for a fun adventure, and instead found himself seated before the Grand Inquisition. In the spirit of Halloween, check out this “horror story”:

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Saturday night I went to meet a woman I picked up at a local club a few nights earlier. I was going to meet her at her friend’s house, and me and her were going off for a “night on the town.” It was going to be a night she would remember for the rest of her life. I was in my “zone,” ready to claim what was mine.

So I get to her friend’s house. I’m ready to get going but my date wants me to meet “the family” first. I figured I’d spend a minute doing “nice to meet you” and then me and my date would be on our way. Next thing I know, I’m sitting on their porch. My date, her friend, her friend’s niece, and their neighbor are sitting on the porch swing, with me seated on a chair opposite. The friend, niece, and neighbor are giving me the third degree trying to find out if I am psycho or something. This was NOT the “hard time” I expected tonight.

After about an hour of this nonsense “the family” left, and it was finally me and my date alone. She invited me to join “us” at a local bar. I know the place – it’s a dump where I wouldn’t be caught dead. I said “raincheck” and she said, “I’m sorry they put you through this, they just look out for me. Next time, we’ll go out and it will be just me and you.” So we set the next date and time and I was on my way.

You know, one of the standards I have for women is that she be assertive, strong, and not make life decisions based on what others tell her to do. I thought this was her, but I’m not so sure now. She’s really hot and I enjoyed the first night I met her and our phone conversations. I do want to see her again, but how do I make sure I don’t have to sit through another torture session to be with her?

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She’s sorry about what “they” put you through? First of all, it wasn’t THEY. It was SHE who put you through it. I don’t have to point this out but I will anyway.

And if you would have gone to that s&$%hole with “them” you would have gotten more of the same from more “friends” of hers who “happened” to be there. You would have gotten in a fistfight – her way of finding out if you could “protect” her if you were her boyfriend. You saw this coming, that’s why you called “raincheck” - good on you, for that!

If she was capable of thinking and acting independently, she wouldn’t have brought you to her friend’s house. On the outside, she’s a juicy, delicious goddess-woman who knows how to make you laugh. But her behaviour showed a high-school girl trying to decide if her “popularity level” would go up or down if she was seen talking to you in the hall, much less making out with you at the pep rally.

Next time you are brought before the Grand Inquisition, fake an urgent call on your cell phone, plead “emergency” and get out of there. Or better yet, don’t. Stand up, say you need to go, don’t explain why, and walk out.

Let “them” know that you ain’t playing THEIR games. And since the night’s still young, find yourself another hottie and hit a grand slam.

Peace, piece, and not pieces,

RJ

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