Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Part of learning any new technology is understanding some basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have helped many students master the initial Speed Seduction® learning curve in a shorter amount of time.

Remember, a critical part of what I teach in Speed Seduction® is learning to use your language to…

Capture and Lead A Woman’s Imagination and Emotions!

As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a woman to imagine will be perceived by her to be her own thought, and thus will not be resisted.

Women especially like to be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then, will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave and want.

Remember, women want good feelings, and my tools and language patterns are geared toward either doing this or gathering the information you need to do this.

Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules.

Many students think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for word, that they won’t work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100% FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the structure. But they aren’t meant to be rigidly or exclusively followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you’ll be able to quickly create your own patterns.

Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being caught.

So many beginning clients feel like they are doing something wrong…a small minor crime like picking a pocket or stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to be excited about the gift you are giving her!

Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud!

The patterns are meant to be SPOKEN, not read! You can’t really master the tonality and tempo unless you practice OUTLOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!

Tip 4: Take a little bit each day!

Speed Seduction® is like learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking! Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes! Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You’ll be shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!

Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important!

One of the most crucial skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another! In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven’t done that…DO IT NOW!

Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups!

Patterns are hard to use if you don’t know how to introduce them and bring them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up!

Tip 7: Practice Your Closing!

So many guys have told me they’ve run patterns but when it comes time to closing the deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a result, you’ve got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when you need them!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Just the other day a student of mine shared an observation with me.

The moment a woman starts with “When are you going to take me out on a date?” or “I want you to wine and dine me” he immediately, instantaneously, inexorably, and irrevocably loses interest in her.

From what he tells me, it’s not because he has taken me up on my 60-day challenge or refuses to be in thrall of the romance racketeers.  Even though he does, indeed, embrace the former and reject the latter as smart men do.

As he puts it:

“There are no logistics hero action figures in the toy aisle!  Many action hero figures, though.”  

A “date” requires logistics.  Wining and dining is nothing but logistics: reservations at the restaurant, buying the wine, selecting the best after-dinner spot to enjoy the wine, transportation to/from.  And much more.

Another student told me about a street pickup he did last week that went nowhere.  She told him she is unsure of her schedule because she looks after kids, doesn’t know when she gets off work, but here’s my number, give me a call, we’ll work something out.  He’s losing faith as these phone numbers are not leading to “dates.”

Let’s review the latter case.  First I asked him:

How long did you talk with her? What states did you generate/evoke with her? How did you link these to you and to taking further action with you?

Now I’ll say it again: this isn’t about getting the behaviors you want from women: phone numbers and dates. It’s about evoking in them the emotional states and processes (fantasy, fascination, connection) that you want linked to you.

THEN the things like phone numbers and dates become logistical details.

See the difference?

If you aren’t thinking in these terms, you aren’t doing Speed Seduction®.  All that wining and dining isn’t leading to a whole lot of 69-ing, is it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Speed Seduction® 3.0 is your roadmap that zooms you from “zero to action hero” in your ways with the women.    No more will we negotiate with her i(Don’t-Actually-Answer-My)Phone to become lucky enough to buy her dinner.  Onward!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

This video is a clip from an interview I did with a German PUA site.

I’ll post a few more over the coming days.

Tell me what you think….

rjonapproachanxiety

Piece and peace,

RJ

P.S. My new 3-Day seminar schedule for 2011 is up! I’m coming to LA, Chicago, New York City, Germany, Denmark, England, Canada and Australia!

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Join me as I once again reach into my mail bag and pull out another excellent question that was e-mailed to me by one of my best students, someone who has invested in my courses and who regularly follows the Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets.

This one deals with an issue that often comes up: what happens when you call or e-mail or text and leave a message and you don’t hear back from her. Here’s the question:

I normally don’t have problems getting girls, but I recently moved to a new city. I met a local girl who works at the pub just around the corner. She expressed great interest in me, giving me her number (without me asking) and even asking ME out on a date. On this date, she invited me to her place to order take out and watch movies. The conversation was great, and by the end of the night I even gave her a back rub. She gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek before I left, also expressing interest in making another date very soon.

The next day I texted her, just asking how see was doing, she responded by saying she was great, and asked me how I was. I responded by saying I had an awesome day, and left it at that. So I gave it two days before I messaged again, with a short text “What’s going on?”  It’s been three days, and I haven’t heard back. I would greatly appreciate your insight on this, and what I should do from here?

Alright, a few key points here:

First, foremost, important-most, and uppermost: maybe she was at a concert or something when you texted her, wasn’t able to answer, and got sidetracked.  Are you persistent, much? And what’s up with texting?  If you can text her, you have her phone number.  Give her a call.

Here’s the even bigger question: when she expressed interest in setting up another meet very soon, what stopped you from setting up the date and time, THEN AND THERE?  Why did you wait?  You know what they say about guys who wait.

You might also want to check this out, since you’re “new in town.”

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

The terms in which we’re programmed from early on to think of “dating” is what’s tripping so many smart guys up.

Click the Play button below to learn more and then comment to tell me your thoughts:

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The video clip you’ve just watched is a sample of what I teach at my live, 3-day seminars.   The next dates are in New York in June and London in August.  Have YOU signed up yet?   Click here to learn more.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

I’m excited. Why?

Because we’re ramping up for our January 22-24, 2010 Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar, to be held once again in Los Angeles, CA.

For three days, work with me LIVE, IN PERSON and learn how to have the hottest women soaking themselves in minutes… and begging to bang you…WHILE THEY DO 80% OF THE WORK!!

Everyone who signs up now for the Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar receives TWO FREE MONTHS in the Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, beginning immediately after the event. (If you’re already in the Coaching Program, we will add two free months as soon as the live event is over.)

And the best part? If you sign up between now and December 23, 2009, then you can bring a friend for FREE. On my coaching calls and at my local “Afternoon With Ross Jeffries” events, many students have been asking for just this. So, right now, I’m giving it to you.

Claim it. This also means if you know someone who wants to attend, the two of you can split the cost of one registration.

Sign up now: http://www.seduction.com/LAseminarJan2010

Peace, piece, and see you in January!

- RJ

P.S. Want to see what a live Speed Seduction® event with me is like?  Check out this live-video teaching clip from one of my recent events, how I claim my results early on with women I meet, within minutes of picking them up.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my 20+ years as a Seduction teacher and coach, I’ve waged battle with the “programming” that is put into the minds of smart guys like you about the “proper way” to “date” or “court” a woman.

You’ve heard all this, or something like it, before:

1. Take her for coffee on the first date, and don’t spend more than an hour. If she’s late, wait 15 minutes.
2. Wait two days after the first date before calling her. One day you’re too eager, three days you’re not interested.
3. When you do call her, don’t ask her on the next date. Just let her know you’re interested, but leave her guessing. Wait till the next time you speak to her to ask her out again.
4. Wait till the third date to have sex.
5. 5. Wait until you meet her friends and family before deciding if she’s “the one” for you.

In case you haven’t noticed, there is one word common to each of these so-called “rules of dating” …

… “Wait.”

For what, exactly, are you waiting? Let me dive deeper into “Rule” No. 2 – the one about when you should call her after you meet her.

I was working with a student earlier this week who, using my time-tested girl-getting strategies, had scored with a woman and had an awesome night of no-holds-barred, crazy sex with her. Now he was asking me how long he should wait before calling her.

I listened to his explanation for about 20 seconds, then I respectfully interrupted him with this truth. Ya ready?

If She Likes You, She Wants You To Call Her And She’ll Answer Or Call You Right Back. She’ll Be Thrilled To Hear From You.

Look: if the woman is hot for you and wants mind-blowing sex (and maybe more, if you and her view each other as potential life-partner material), it doesn’t matter one f@@king iota when you call. As long as you don’t wait too long. Really.

If you call the very next day, she’ll get all wet from hearing your voice and it will make her entire day knowing it was as good for you as it was for her.

If you don’t get to her for three days because you’re busy leading your life (and Sarging on women as hot as, if not hotter than, her) then she just spent the three days touching herself thinking about you and commiserating with her girlfriends nonstop about how hot you are and how she can’t WAIT to hear from you. By now she’s so worked up over you she might come as soon as she sees your number on the Caller ID.

Bottom line: you met her, you like her, you had a great time with her. Give her a call today, let her know you enjoyed it, and use my teachings and techniques to close her on the next meeting.

If she’s interested, she’ll leap at the chance to leap on you. If not, then you screen her out, chalk it up as experience that helps get you the next 20 women, and with all questions cleared up, focus your girl-getting energy on the women who DO want you to call.

Time ain’t gonna wait for you, pal. The other guys who are also Sarging on her (if she’s as hot as you think she is, you’re not the only guy on her radar) aren’t going to wait for you to get off your Seduction a## and pick up the damn phone before they make their play.

He who waits, masturbates.

Me, I’d rather take action – and GET action. The women are waiting … what are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

All too often, I see smart guys like you, who have bid farewell to your Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) days and are powerfully getting women excited during the initial interaction.

Problem is, all that built-up passion just WAITING to dam-burst into a long afternoon, evening, and night of crazy fun gets dumped right down the drain – and runs off into the vast nothingness of her Inbox and voicemail.

Here’s an example that was shared with me …

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I have been Sarging on 3 or 4 women every week, and there’s a pattern emerging. At the end of each Sarge, the woman ends up giving me her contact information (email or phone). When I follow up, I find the number goes directly to her voicemail. She doesn’t call back, and she doesn’t answer my e-mails.

I am kind of stuck, as all the Sarges are ending with me leaving her email and voice messages and my earlier interaction with her is nothing more than her 40-50 emotional “time pass”. Don’t know what I need to do for her to have that urgency, or desperate desire, to see me again. Am I doing something wrong in my Sarge that’s falling flat? Any pointers would be helpful.

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The issue is not so much in your Sarge, as long as you’re following my teaching. It’s in the “end goal” of your initial interaction with her. You’re trying to get her phone number so you can call her up and ask her on a date.

Two things you need to understand, and put into practice IMMEDIATELY:

1. If you’re aiming for the phone number you are focusing on the wrong thing.
2. “Dating” is what you do with women you are already sleeping with.

If you’re getting a phone number so you can follow up later, you’re actually taking AWAY the urgency and desperate desire you just built up in your Sarge.

Instead of adding a new phone number to your cell phone, focus on the sensations you want that woman to undergo … and how you get her excited, hot and bothered, and urgently and desperately desiring to make out with you then and there. AFTER you experience hot, burning passion with her, she’ll give you her number without you having ask, and when you get back home, there’ll be an e-mail waiting for you where she tells you how she can’t WAIT to see you again tomorrow.

That’s a better “end goal,” if you ask me. Sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. When you’re Sarging, you should be focusing on getting her intrigued and fascinated, with desires and strong emotions for you so you capture and lead her imagination to places filled with excitement and pleasure. Not on getting her number so you can plan a date to get coffee. Coffee is for the next morning after a night of crazy wild fun at her place.

Since enjoying damn near ridiculous levels of success, satisfaction and pleasure with the most amazing women around is something you are highly interested in, get your personal copy of my Speed Seduction® 3.0 course and you’ll have what you need to know to get past the “numbers game.” Claim yours now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the major differences between Speed Seduction® and the other so-called “systems” out there is how much time I spend teaching you guys about how society’s programming keeps you away from the success with women that you truly want.

Listen: the other day, I was doing my monthly office hours for my Speed Seduction® Coaching program.

The guy who had called in to my cell phone to talk to me was telling me that he had met a girl at a wedding with whom he seemed to “hit it off”.    He told me that he had been texting with her back and forth for “the past week” and then she suddenly stopped returning his texts and he could not get a hold of her.

He wanted to know how to get her to respond to him and text him back, at which point I said, “has it ever occurred to you that your entire model of success with women sucks donkey dick?”

(BTW, “suck donkey dick” is a scientific and clinical term in the self-help industry that means, “stupid, self-defeating, and incorrect”).

Here’s what I mean: his model of success with women was:

1.    You meet her and chat her up.

2.    You get some kind of contact number.

3.    You attempt to make contact with her again.

4.    You get her on the phone, make plans

5.    You hang out with her another time.

6.    You lunge at her and try to get her to make out with you and fuck you.

Now listen: that whole model sucks. It just doesn’t work. Yet that is what presented to us guys by popular media-movies, tv, etc-as what we should be doing.

Here is what I find really interesting: it never even occurred to this guy that he could have used Speed Seduction(R) to so capture and lead this woman’s imagination and emotions that…..

…She Would Have Banged Him At That Wedding In Some Closet Or Back Room, Or Gone Home With Him That Very Same Day, Right Away!!

Look: my larger point beyond this guy and his situation is how our thinking as men  when it comes to attracting women is so programmed, we usually don’t even see it.  We just assume that is the way things work.

The aspect of Speed Seduction® that teaches you to wake up to your useless programming and to choose something better is not a footnote to the Speed Seduction® technology. It’s a major, core part of it.  It’s a major part of my job as a teacher to show you how your own habitual ways of thinking have been getting in your way and to point out a better(and pinker and wetter) way to do things with the ladies.

Peace, piece and remember:

Free Your Mind And Her Ass Will Follow!

RJ

P.S. Seriously guys, the “dating game” is the high fructose corn-syrup of getting laid. It’s in everything in our popular culture and it causes great hidden damage.   If you want the real goods that deliver the pink without bullying, begging, buying or booze, go here.

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

In today’s episode of of this month’s ongoing “Swipe File” series from my coaching program, I offer this video answer to EricNYC who wanted to know how to notice a woman’s responses(including trance) and utilize them to seduce her.

Notice how I tell him how to notice the different states of absorbtion, fascination and trance-all good indicators, in my experience, that her pussy is lubricating and her mind is descending into the gutter! These include the “Mini-o” lip and the “eye scan”.

Peace, piece and tell me if you want to see more.

RJ

P.S. You can check out my coaching program right here.

P.P.S. Goddamn it, comment below on what you think of this videos. What did you enjoy?  What are your questions? Should I do a live video broadcast on this topic?