Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Once again, so-called “Valentine’s Day” is coming up. Once again, the Romance Racketeers are rubbing their slimy hands together with rapacious glee.

All over, guys hoping to “wow” that special someone are making reservations at swanky restaurants, snagging seventh-row seats at expensive shows, buying diamonds and jewelry and chocolates and roses, and all that rot.

(That’s right…they’ll go straight down the drain.)

They’re spending extra time at the gym, racing against time trying (and failing) to blast away the remaining holiday pudge in hopes of being in “tip top shape” for the “big date” – the EVENT that’s 13 days away from today.

Who knows, it might pay off.

She might even kiss him on the cheek along with cooing “Awwwww, how sweet!” when he springs the “big surprise” on her.

WOW. Sounds awesome!

Since Tuesday is a “work night” in many parts of the world, she’ll probably want to call it a night around 9 or 10, so she’ll send him away with another peck on the cheek and an urge to “call me, please” with a subtle hint that she “might be available” this weekend.

This is how the 14th will go for the Money Man.

Here’s the thing, though.

She’ll be peeking out the window watching for the moment Mr. Chocolates And Roses And Expensive Dinners And Shows drives off into the sunset.

At the taillights’ last gleaming as he speeds off, thinking he’s a “lock” for a hot make out session this weekend… she’ll nibble on one of the chocolates, then pull out her phone and dial up the man who, within the next 45 minutes or so, will be in her bed, tasting her sweets.

This privileged, skillful gent with money in his pockets is the Honey Man.

The Vaginal Victor On V-Day!

And the best part: he keeps his money AND gets her honey.

Which scenario sounds better to you? (That’s what I thought.)

So join me at 12:00 Noon Pacific on Tuesday, February 14 for this year’s “Give V-Day The Finger” Live Video Broadcast Event!

Here’s the link to lock in your spot now:

>>> http://www.rjspecial.com/

Peace, piece, and see you there,

RJ

P.S. There will be a limited time replay. So if you can’t make it at noon Pacific on the 14th, sign up anyway. You’ll STILL get access to the special opportunity we announce:

>>> http://www.rjspecial.com/

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Just the other day a student of mine shared an observation with me.

The moment a woman starts with “When are you going to take me out on a date?” or “I want you to wine and dine me” he immediately, instantaneously, inexorably, and irrevocably loses interest in her.

From what he tells me, it’s not because he has taken me up on my 60-day challenge or refuses to be in thrall of the romance racketeers.  Even though he does, indeed, embrace the former and reject the latter as smart men do.

As he puts it:

“There are no logistics hero action figures in the toy aisle!  Many action hero figures, though.”  

A “date” requires logistics.  Wining and dining is nothing but logistics: reservations at the restaurant, buying the wine, selecting the best after-dinner spot to enjoy the wine, transportation to/from.  And much more.

Another student told me about a street pickup he did last week that went nowhere.  She told him she is unsure of her schedule because she looks after kids, doesn’t know when she gets off work, but here’s my number, give me a call, we’ll work something out.  He’s losing faith as these phone numbers are not leading to “dates.”

Let’s review the latter case.  First I asked him:

How long did you talk with her? What states did you generate/evoke with her? How did you link these to you and to taking further action with you?

Now I’ll say it again: this isn’t about getting the behaviors you want from women: phone numbers and dates. It’s about evoking in them the emotional states and processes (fantasy, fascination, connection) that you want linked to you.

THEN the things like phone numbers and dates become logistical details.

See the difference?

If you aren’t thinking in these terms, you aren’t doing Speed Seduction®.  All that wining and dining isn’t leading to a whole lot of 69-ing, is it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Speed Seduction® 3.0 is your roadmap that zooms you from “zero to action hero” in your ways with the women.    No more will we negotiate with her i(Don’t-Actually-Answer-My)Phone to become lucky enough to buy her dinner.  Onward!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In an ideal world (assuming there’s some fantasy-island “one definition” of “ideal” that fits every person and every situation), when Sarging a woman there would be no one else within earshot, no background noises, no distractions, no cell phones blaring, and nothing on her mind, at all, except overwhelming thoughts about how the most important thing to her in this world is the prospect of riding your baloney pony.

Wouldn’t it be nice?

Now how often does that happen?

Many students report challenges when meeting and conversing with women in public places, with other people around (and seeing and hearing what’s going on), when it comes to sealing the deal with her without putting her on the spot.

For example, one in particular asked a woman out in a public place and she said “Oh, but my calendar is so full.”  He suspects she really enjoys his attention, but she’s claiming a “full calendar” because she’s not keen on saying yes to him so publicly.

So first of all I ask…

What’s this “ask her out” stuff?

Tell her, “You know, I don’t have too much time, but why don’t we hang out for a while?”

DO NOT ASK WOMEN OUT ON “DATES”.

For all you know, she is very eager to f@@k, doesn’t WANT to go “out” with you, but is ready for lots of “in and out”.

When you focus on asking her “out” you are still(STILL!) thinking of sex as something that happens at the end of an evening or afternoon of “going somewhere” or “doing something”.

Guys, you must remove these chains from your mind. FREE YOUR MIND, AND *****HER***** ASS WILL FOLLOW!

I have a challenge/assignment for you. You won’t like it. You probably won’t do it. But here it is:

From now on… for the next 60 days… you will not get or accept a phone number, nor make a plan to later see/spend time with a woman until, unless and AFTER you and she have made out for at least 10 minutes.

THAT should re-orient your thinking nicely.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. And you know what else would help – having the ability to magically insert your desires into her head so that she begins to think its her idea to get with you!  These are ideas she can have, and act upon, no matter who’s eavesdropping.  Learn this and much, much more in Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In this video, seminar attendee Kyle, born without arms and legs, explains how Speed Seduction® gave him the equanimity he needed to master his girl-getting game:

kyletestimonialsmaller-desktop.m4v

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Kyle also shows us how using my teaching blasted him past surface-level thinking that holds men back claiming their results with women.  Let me teach you, live, how to master this.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the biggest blocks to mastering the skills and claiming your results with the women you truly desire is just that – having blocks.

Maybe you’re overweight and thinking you need to lose a few before women will find you attractive, so you’ve stopped Sarging till you tip the scale a bit less.  (Question: did you know that many hot women specifically like larger men?  Why are you denying them the chance to bring pleasure into your life?)

Could be that you aren’t having women over to your place because you’re worried they’ll think you live in a dump.  (One of my students had this worry, then he discovered that women love the view from the balcony of his 1-bedroom apartment.)

Or, could it be worry that women might not give you the time of day because you don’t have much coin in your pocket at the moment?

Let’s hear from someone who has the money concern:

> Hi Ross,

> First off thanks for the legendary seduction pack, it is a must read for EVERY guy, no if buts or maybe’s!!
>
> I’ve done my homework in reading your books and hearing the live seminar sessions, from there its easy to see and understand that you don’t need a ‘massive wad of cash’ to get laid and even on an extremely tight budget, this does not stop me from meeting the women i want…. It restricts my options when i try to escalate because i end up with an eye on the numbers and the most dominant thoughts on my mind just bring themselves to the front which kills my states from within every time and annihilates my chances with her… but I have to be real here, we live in a capitalist world, and a lot of things revolve around money… My cash flow crisis is a temporary mid term setback, but a man still has needs that he shouldn’t have to pay to get….
>
> Anyway moving on swiftly to matter at hand….The long and short of it is i have been successful at bringing the kind of women i want into my life applying the 3 S’s but escalation is proving a major stumbling block on empty pockets, or at least i just haven’t learnt how to skip over that one yet… I have applied all the advice in the seduction pack into my daily routine, and meeting new women is a fun process for both me and the girls i have tried it on……not to brag but I have not yet had a woman slap me for starting a conversation….no matter how crude the chat up line….
>
> What advice can you give me for handling this , ” I’m broke, no woman will want to come near me” mentality or similar scenarios you may have encountered?  RJ if you’ll forgive the pun…..I need to know how to turn these women out with turning my pockets inside out and looking like a charity case to these modern independent women that will gladly treat me, if only i know the right way to put it…..
>
> help
>
> down but not out

RJ here. I can’t tell what you mean by “escalation”. And if a woman is hot for you – if you’ve captured and led her imagination and emotions in the right way – escalation can be, “why don’t we go somewhere a little more quiet where we can relax and focus in?”

You don’t have to spend money on a date – that’s all crap in your head. And if some women DO want a guy with $$$ to go more than a few rounds with them in bed – oh well.  There are plenty who won’t care so much.

The women are waiting.  So what in the name of Ben Franklin are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What else is holding you back?  Whatever it is, I have a foolproof system that will help you blast past any and all stuck points with women.  Click here to claim yours right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever asked a woman out, to have her say “Sure, I’ll go with you, as friends”?

For those of you who, despite my thoughts on this subject, meet women on “dating” sites, have you ever messaged a woman for the very first time, only to have her respond (without any conversation with you): “I’ll let you know upfront that I’m not interested, but we can talk as friends.”

Recently, a student of mine asked a woman, “I have two tickets to the game this weekend. If I were to ask you to be my date, what would your response be?” Her response, “I would accept, just as friends though.”

Wha…wha…WHAT?  Huh?  Run that by me again?

So how did this potential ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle turn into a “friendly” “date”?

What did she mean when she said “… just as friends?”

It all starts with that word… the “D” word… date.

As Speed Seducers, don’t we want to AVOID all the “dating” terminology and thought patterns? All the auto-pilot responses that “dating” triggers in her mind?

Rather than ask what she “means” I would ask: what process did it trigger in her? What autopilot ways of thinking went off in her head in response to “date”?

Probably she thought, “Oh oh…date means he EXPECTS I’ll f@@k him. Well, I WANT to f@@k him, I HOPE I f@@k him, but I don’t want to feel PRESSURED to f@@k him. Am I really ready to f@@k ANYONE? Jeremy hurt me so bad last time. Why are men such jerks? I wonder what Tanya will think…I should text her right now and get HER opinion. Oh wait a minute, she just went to visit her boyfriend in rehab after he beat her up and got arrested by the cops. That cop who is always at Starbucks in the morning is hot. I bet he f@@ks good. Dad said never to date a cop, I bet it would be fun…”

Etc etc etc.

Do you get my point?

Stop playing dumb and stop being afraid to take a bold step forward. Breathe into the image of you who GETS IT and DOES IT.

And then DO IT.

With her.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Like how I get right to the bottom of it and lay it out there?  Want to see me do that 120 times on video and hear me do it 48 times on recorded audio?  Crack open the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection and all of that plus more is yours.

Including my bonus course, “From Buddy To Bedmate” with the formula that gets you out of the “friend” zone once and for all.

GO for it!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Take a moment and play this video clip from my January 2011 3-Day seminar in Los Angeles.

Watch and listen as Brother Matthew explains how, within 24 hours, he achieved lift-off in the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle with a woman he rescued from a car accident!

matthewbangsrescuegirl.mov

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Note how Matthew used specific Speed Seduction® tools to sidestep the mastur-dating and mastur-waiting nonsense and instead claim his results with this woman.  This is but 5 minutes.  Imagine what 3 days will get you when you join me this weekend in London, or any of our other cities this year.

http://www.seduction.com/blog/2011seminar/

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

The other day here on my blog, I delved into the difference between a woman deliberately trying to manipulate you, versus her need for safety and control by self-fractionating.

As I explained in that post, there are a few basic things that set up and create her willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received and usually are factors you generally CAN control.

Now, recently, a few students have commented on my blog posts because they thought I was saying that sometimes, you cannot control the woman’s response. To that I would reply by beginning with: sometimes, factors that are beyond your control CAN work in your favor.

These include:

1) She happens to be among the 15% of the population that are sonambulistic; that is, she will readily accept and make real ANY set of suggestions anyone gives to her. She will sit with her doggy dinner bowl as you recite patterns word for word, go right in to trance and have exactly the responses you want. CAUTION: she also has a loose grip on reality and when she makes YOU her grip on reality, watch it when you try to get that grip to loosen.

2) You happen to match her “checklist”; you have the height, weight, looks, age range, job, status, etc. Given that, any patterning you do will be very well received.

3) She happens to be readily open and looking for whatever it is you happen to present, so it matches her perceived reality; she is looking to get laid that night, you present that opportunity in your patterns, and she jumps on it.

4) She has hidden/suppressed needs and the patterns bring those needs to the surface. You grab on to them and link them to you.

Now What If…

What if none of these factors work in your favor? 

What if she’s not suggestible to ANYTHING?  What if you don’t meet the criteria on her “checklist”?  Perhaps she’s not interested in getting laid at all, and she’s so intent on NOT getting laid she might even catch on to your patterns?  Her hidden/suppressed needs aren’t rising to the surface tonight?

Consider this:

• Despite all of the above, a woman’s current response should rarely be taken as her final answer.  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  That can change…in a moment.
• Why did she pull out her “checklist?” Is it because you took her on a “date” complete with dinner, movie, and a “romantic walk” in the park?  Remember: dating is what you do with women you are ALREADY sleeping with.  Also note, the checklist CAN change.
• Her looks might be hotter than her libido. Look around.  Ask yourself.  “Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”
• Remember what I say: “Interested in the girl, invested in mastering the skills.”

Could any of the above apply?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. In the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection, you’ll find (among other things) an entire section of exclusive video lessons on patterns, language skills, and poetry that help you when it seems you have “no control” over the result.  Not to mention actual, live demonstrations of Speed Seduction® as well as my critiques on Sarges done by students! 

Click here to get exclusive, lifetime access now and make 2011 your Vaginal Victory Year.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Recently I received an e-mail from a student who is in a sort of purgatory with a woman he met a few weeks ago.

I’ll let him explain it in his own words:

Hey Ross, there is this hottie (I’d say about an HB8) who I’ve met up with a few times.  She’s kind of shy, but intelligent and fun once I get her to loosen up.  The first meet-up was a nice evening at a coffee shop.  The second, we hung out for a while at a quiet little saloon near her apartment.  The third time, we went to dinner.  Now, not only is this not going in the direction I want it to, but her behavior is perplexing.

The third time, I had planned a “Part II” but she seemed distracted the whole time, and even said “can we go?” as soon as the dinner was over.  So I dropped her off and figured it was “Exit, Stage Left” time for this guy.  Fair enough.  Yet, not 30 minutes later she was texting me about what a wonderful time she had and when can we do it again, and all that.  I think I want to see her again, but not if her plan is for us to have dinner once a week, which seems to be where she is trying to take this, which is what I am resisting.

I guess what I’m asking is, how do I determine if she is simply viewing me as her “meal ticket” (literally) or if she might be playing hard to get, just shy, wanting to go to the next step but not finding her own reasons to get there and not knowing how to ask me, etc.?

First of all: I think this confusion could trigger some very supplicating behavior on your part if you don’t watch it.  You’ve already bought her dinner and you didn’t mention the part where you banged her so I’ll assume you haven’t yet. You’re already headed down that slippery slope, one nudge away from a free-fall and you better hope you don’t get splinters in your ass if the slope is wooden.

Hey, your emotions are on the line here and your clarity too. You want to move this to the next level and you think she’s trying to corral you into being her standing “dinner date.”  If you sense something is up, CALL HER ON IT in a firm, calm, and relaxed way.

The bottom line is: only she can tell you what is going on. You can approximate or guess, but that is all it is.

So, if you can’t get your primary outcome (getting her enthusiastic to fuck you) what steps can you take, what moves can you make to AT LEAST MOVE IN THE DIRECTION OF THE KIND OF MAN YOU WANT TO BE AND THE KIND OF MAN YOU ARE ALREADY EVERDAY BECOMING? WHAT MOVES WILL BEST STRETCH YOU IN THE MOST USEFUL WAYS?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Need to find your way out of the “pattern” of buying drinks at bars or clubs hoping that will get women to like and sleep with you, or taking women on expensive dinner dates hoping that’ll get them in your bed?  Or, worse yet, avoiding falling into this “trap”? All of this, and more, is inside Speed Seduction® 3.0.  Click here to get yours now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

A few weeks ago I was at one of my local hangouts in LA, working on some e-mails on the WiFi while checking out the bevy of bodacious babes that were swarming the place….and Sarging on a few of them.

My concentration got interrupted by a scene caused by a very desperate looking fellow.

See, this is the type of place where, after you finish your food order, you take the tray up and dump your garbage in the trash receptacle and then leave your tray.

Apparently, he had gotten some hot chick’s number and had accidentally left it on his tray when he tossed it. He left the restaurant, then realized his mistake, and came back hoping to get the phone number back. He was pleading with the manager for help. Coincidentally, the restaurant staff had just emptied that particular receptacle and taken its trash out to the dumpster in the back.

So he said to the manager: “No problem, I’ll just go into the dumpster and dig it out. No problem. It’s the one on top right?”

Manager’s flat-out, no-bullshit, no-messing-around response: “No, you won’t.”

Cut to the chase: guy who thought he was about to score with some babe, walks out dejected, knowing he “blew it.“

Yeah, I’d say he blew it.

He blew it from the moment he set “scoring the digits” as his goal. If this chick was so hot (and hot for him), what stopped him from scheduling a follow up meeting with her, then and there? What stopped him from making his move, then and there? Why did he take what was happening RIGHT THEN and willfully postpone it until an undefined “later” that might (and now DEFINITELY will) never come?

Too many smart guys are programmed into following “dating rituals.” Wait to get her number…wait two days to call her…then wait two days to see her…wait till the end of the date to give her a kiss…then wait till the next day to call her to say it was great…and then wait a day before calling back to ask for the next “date.”

Look: “wait” on THIS.

It’s true, the women ARE waiting. For you. So, champ, what are YOU waiting FOR?

If she’s here, now... and she seems interested, now… make your move, NOW. If she says no, fine, move on. But when she says yes (and she’s more likely to say yes because the vibe in the air that has her intrigued RIGHT NOW will dissipate if you go away and try to come back later), the results will sure beat a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Ready to stop wasting your time (and money) on “dating rituals” hoping to the heavens that women will like and sleep with you? Had enough of the “waiting game?” I’ve got the foolproof system that cuts through all that bullshit and gets you more women, now. Click here to see what it’s all about!