Should I Turn The Other Cheek When She Flips Out?
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
There is a debate over whether it’s worth it to confront a woman when she gets all up in your face when you were trying to be nice.
Should you take it when a woman freaks out on you? Conventional wisdom tells us it’s a bad idea. Let her get away with it once – “be nice” – and never again (or not ever) receive “nice-nice” from her (and potentially other women).
See here’s the thing, though: this really to me is not about “nice” but about how much dominance people require to feel relaxed enough to be kind to you in return.
I prefer to treat people as equals and come from respect and affinity.
Most people handle that well; however some view it as a sign of weakness and a signal to go on the attack.
Case In Point: An Extreme Example (From A Long, Long Time Ago)
I remember years ago I belonged to this one gym, and a woman was blocking the turnstile to let me in. I said, “pardon me, m’am, but I need to get by”.
She just ignored me and kept right on talking, so I repeated it, a bit louder, “Pardon me , m’am, I need to get by”.
She sneered at me so I said louder and firmer, “M’am, I need to get by”.
She exploded at me, “fuck you. You gotta problem! Fuck you, fool!”
But she DID get out of the way.
Some people have anger issues, other people are used to bullying as a way of life. They don’t even know they are doing it.
I turned back on this woman, raised my self to my full height, got right in her face and yelled at the top of my lungs, “Hey…FUCK YOU! YOU have the problem. I was polite, I called you”m’am”. Fuck you and the hole you crawled out of!”
She looked scared, mumbled “sorry” and walked away.
Now, If I Could Get A Do-Over…
Now, in retrospect, I should have let it go. For all I know she could have gone to her car and gotten a gun, and being older and wiser today, I would have just let it go now adays.
My point is this: some few people WILL see courtesy as a sign to attack. It’s true. Deal with it. Choose to see it as their problem.
I think women will often turn on the jerky aspects of their personalities as a sign that they are seeking dominance, or as a fearful way to put the brakes on their own feelings. In this case, being “nice” is not the right response. The response is either to call them on it immediately and say, “Hey…wait a minute…what’s with the cold shoulder shit?” or to mirror it back and shut them out.
If a guy responds to this crap by getting weak and showing MORE interest in her, he’s probably gone to be gone. If she freaks out on you, you do have the option of “Exit, Stage Left” and in many cases that’s the best policy. But if you are finding your own reasons to get to the bottom of it, either call her on it, or mirror it back, even stronger. Withdraw from her completely until she comes back your way. I strongly recommend pointing it out and calling her on it.
When the woman pulls this cold/rude stuff, don’t waste your time trying to figure out why. Call her on it and ask her what’s up with it.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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