Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Just the other day a student of mine shared an observation with me.

The moment a woman starts with “When are you going to take me out on a date?” or “I want you to wine and dine me” he immediately, instantaneously, inexorably, and irrevocably loses interest in her.

From what he tells me, it’s not because he has taken me up on my 60-day challenge or refuses to be in thrall of the romance racketeers.  Even though he does, indeed, embrace the former and reject the latter as smart men do.

As he puts it:

“There are no logistics hero action figures in the toy aisle!  Many action hero figures, though.”  

A “date” requires logistics.  Wining and dining is nothing but logistics: reservations at the restaurant, buying the wine, selecting the best after-dinner spot to enjoy the wine, transportation to/from.  And much more.

Another student told me about a street pickup he did last week that went nowhere.  She told him she is unsure of her schedule because she looks after kids, doesn’t know when she gets off work, but here’s my number, give me a call, we’ll work something out.  He’s losing faith as these phone numbers are not leading to “dates.”

Let’s review the latter case.  First I asked him:

How long did you talk with her? What states did you generate/evoke with her? How did you link these to you and to taking further action with you?

Now I’ll say it again: this isn’t about getting the behaviors you want from women: phone numbers and dates. It’s about evoking in them the emotional states and processes (fantasy, fascination, connection) that you want linked to you.

THEN the things like phone numbers and dates become logistical details.

See the difference?

If you aren’t thinking in these terms, you aren’t doing Speed Seduction®.  All that wining and dining isn’t leading to a whole lot of 69-ing, is it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the biggest questions we get from students once they actually start going into the field and getting experienced using the tools and mastering the skills has to do with anchoring.

How do you capture her vibe, figuring out what moves her and motor-vates her, so that with just one gesture, word or suggestion you can bring it back at will?

One student of mine shared a story about a lunchtime meet he had with a woman who made a point of taking him to her favorite cafe and buying him a slice of their “famous” cheesecake.  She wanted him to experience the cheesecake and know how good it was.  (AHA!)

He asked her to tell him how she felt when she ate it. She got extremely excited, trying to get him to feel the feeling.

Challenge: he couldn’t quite figure out how to “anchor” that excitement so he could draw upon it at will.

Actually, it’s pretty simple:

Just tap something; tap your fork on the table or against your other hand.

But then LEAD the conversation: “I think you learn so much about people by learning where you FIND YOUR PLEASURES-me…it teaches you so much more when you learn how a person WANTS TO INDULGE…Debbie.

See how we put in suggestions and commands?

“Like, my friend likes to ask people; if you could go somewhere, where no one knew who you were…and nothing you did would get back to anyone who DID know…what kinds of things could you PICTURE YOURSELF DOING…me…I can’t help but THINK OF THAT QUESTION, from time to time.”

Etc etc etc.

See how easy this can be when you know where you want you and her to be going?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Within the walls of our 3-day seminar rooms, burned into the discs of our recorded teaching products, and locked snugly inside our instant-online-access Secret Training Collection…

… you’ll hear a lot about new directions, what happens below me, and how I close off the past so that today is the last day of the way I used to be.

Some skeptics say, “pretty much any intelligent woman is going to pick up on these double entendres and think you’re stupid.  Not for me, thanks.”

That’s a little misplaced, especially when many of my students get vaginally-victorious results just by asking women what they do for fun.

Exactly right. 

As I keep saying, there are certain questions and themes that are most likely to open up the trains of thought, waves of emotion, flows of feeling that lead a woman to feel strongly attracted, aroused, etc.

Knowing how to get these themes introduced into a “harmless” or “normal” conversation is a key skill.

Here are a few of my “tried and true” seduction questions:

• “When you really want to cut loose… escape… indulge yourself..what is it you love to do? And what’s something you’d like to do… but haven’t found a way to try (pointing to myself subtly).”
• “If you were to meet someone… when you just… feel… that… you know… and it’s not just that but also… you know… it’s ON… now… today(nodding my head)… what do you think is the one thing about you that would keep this person coming back for more….beyond just a one time thing”
• “Do you think men understand women? I don’t know if they do, but I think I can explain the psychology of men to women in just one joke…”  (I then tell them one or more suggestion laden filthy jokes!)

Finally, here’s how a student of mine explained, how HE made it work:

Personally I like to ask them about what they do for fun.  1 chick I was sargin went into a long drawn out description of how she loves to ride a motor bike. She was going thru all the motions as well, really describing it and acting like she was on a bike as she pretended to go around a corner making the noises.  You could actually see her reliving the scene out in realtime. It was even exciting for me to listen to her describe it so I was kinda getting her to relive what she likes to do most and she gets all those feelings of excitement back as she’s thinking about it and describing it.

I thought it was pretty damn cool it was like as if she was entertaining me

Keep learning.  Keep mastering.  Keep Sarging.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As the latest building block in the “Wall Of Proof” I’ve mentioned to my Facebook followers that I’m building, containing REAL results that REAL students like you get when applying my teachings to claim ultimate success with the women you truly desire, please read the following:

OK, so I tried just a few things I read on your website with a coworker just to see what would happen.  She is a mom with school kids through high school.

When I get to the office, I stopped by her desk.  I didn’t even say hi, I just said, “The best thing about having kids is the worst thing about having kids, (long pause) wet (very slight pause, barely noticeable) moist (same barely noticeable pause) sloppy kisses.”

She totally responded to it! I mean, I set the stage with the whole kid thing, but she still filled her thoughts with whatever she wanted…   Of course I showed disbelief that she thought I was making a sexual comment, “What, I’m talking about my kids, where are you going with it?!”  Then I switched to small talk and snuck in maybe three or four phrases in the next couple of minutes, such as “wide open” “feel so comfortable,” “hard” and I can’t remember what else. I was winging it.

She was visibly hot and not so bothered!  It was crazy, I didn’t even try that hard, just messing around, but yet I was able to create a partial scene and let her mind fill it.  I just left her hanging there, I didn’t want to take it too far.

What I found so interesting is that throughout the day, whenever we had normal conversation, she would just gaze very intently at me, very hypnotic!  I would even just stare back at her just to see when she would break the gaze, expecting her to feel uncomfortable at some point.  She would just lock into a gaze. Her body language and eyes weren’t really telling me, “I want to eat you.”  It was more of a, “you did something to me, I really like it, and I want you to keep doing it.”

She is a lady that keeps her space, is very guarded and discreet, so I was shocked with the amount of eye contact and her physical proximity. She even started sharing about her personal life, and telling me about her husband and wishing he could be home more often (travels a lot and gone 3-6 months at a time), talking about how when he’s home he just wants to play golf and hunt. And she was just very… intense.  It was crazy!

What’s even crazier is that the the only knowledge I have about the seduction scene is reading your blog!  I can’t believe it, I can only imagine what the paid stuff teaches.  I haven’t even read The Game, only a book review that led me to your website!

What do you have that’s specifically sales oriented. I’m in sales and if I can influence buyers to a sale in a 15 minute period like I partially seduced my coworker in just a 5 minute conversation, I am very interested.

Alex Rodriguez, real estate investor
El Paso, TX

See what I mean?  The real power of Speed Seduction® is the ability to master the skills and then apply them to your own unique situations with women.  That sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. And to answer Alex’s question, many of the same techniques work across the spectrum – from the bedroom to the boardroom.  Check out my MindFrame Persuasion® Course!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I shared with you the story of the student who decided to implement a “friends first” policy in his girl-getting game.  I can think of a few F-words that go along with this policy, and I can pretty much guarantee that fornication is NOT one of them.

All too true in this particular student’s case, because now I’m going to show you how he not only didn’t get laid, but then he committed a Sargy sin.

First, the result he got when he actually did something Sargingly decent, but then allowed “friends first” to stop him from taking it to the next level:

> Just to take a sidetrack, I did some SS patterns and techniques with a girl I met at work. We were hanging out one night, talking, and we were just talking about ourselves and relationships, and somewhere in the conversation I threw in “yea, that’s why I always go for it, even if the girl does have a boyfriend…because who knows if the guy really is what she’s looking for or if she wants more…but I’m honest with myself. I have to believe that I really am better for her than her boyfriend. Then I have no problem.”

This apparently set off something in her head (she had a bf at the time, although he was far away), because that night she kissed me on the cheek from her own volition.

WOW! A KISS ON THE CHEEK! STOP THE PRESSES!

I am mocking this for a REASON.

I want him (and you, if you consider this a big score) to be slapped awake. YOU are viewing HER as the rare prize to be waited for.

WHAT STOPPED HIM from escalating when SHE initiated?  What was he waiting for, if he thought this set off something in her head that could have gotten her giving HIM head?

Spend some time thinking about rapport and calibration. What are you doing right with these?  Where could you improve to get the results YOU want?

YOU have the gift. You can create these feelings now whenever you like wherever you go. SO MOVE ON.

OK – here’s the part where he Sargily sinned:

> Well, one thing I know I’m doing right is getting feedback from one
> of my female friends. She and I are really good friends and
> understand each other very well. I ran the story of this girl by
> her, she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and
> then move in.

OH MY GOD! HE IS BEING LED ASTRAY! Why would he believe the advice this chick gave him on how to win a woman?

Sinner, please believe in your future. Believe and envision being able to create these powerful feelings as a common, every-day thing, NOT a rare event.

She isn’t the gift for RESPONDING. YOU are the gift for GIVING.

YOU are the rarety; a man who evokes powerful feelings. SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.

So move on. BELIEVE in finding someone more open. And Goddamn it, calibrate to her responsiveness and program in getting physical. YOU CAN DO IT!

Back when I responded to this post, I included this Sargy mantra for him to remember every time he felt compelled to implement Friends First:

Silently Sargy is watching and waiting
Come home, sinner, come home
Walking the back fence
He’s calling you homeward
Come home, sinner come home

He wandered the alleys
And danced on the rooftops
Come home, sinner, come home
So you could get pussy
And pull out all the stops

COME HOME, SINNER, COME HOME.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you, too, have found yourself astray, let me personally lead you to scintillatingly sweet Sargy success.  See me in Copenhagen in a couple weeks.  Or see me in London two weeks after that.  If you can’t make either of those, see me in Montreal, Sydney, or Melbourne this fall.  But for the sake of your Sarge, see me at a 3-day seminar!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Just how difficult is it to use sexual metaphor and suggestions with a woman? Is it actually, in reality, quite easy, and something you can playfully use to sexualize conversations quite rapidly?

Why, yes, my horny disciples.  Yes indeedy do!

Here is an example:

Last week, I visited a friend in San Diego who runs quite a thriving enterprise. To protect his identity, I won’t say more than that.

In any event, when I arrived, he was a bit busy, so he put me in the care of his assistant, who happened to be quite an attractive German woman.

Just to be friendly, I spoke a bit of German with her (I learned in high school).

She said, “Your pronunciation is very good. You speak like a native!”

I said, “It’s funny, but I pronounce much better than I understand. I find languages have a certain feeling and a CERTAIN SHAPE IN YOUR MOUTH.  When it’s right you can FEEL IT IN YOUR MOUTH.”

She thought about it a moment and said. “That’s very true. I speak a little French and it feels much different in my mouth.”

I said, “That’s right.  French is very soft. But German is VERY HARD IN YOUR MOUTH”.  (This time I leaned on it a bit and put more of a sexual tone to it.”

Her pupils dilated for a moment, she took in a deep breath, and visibly reddened.  As she did I gently nodded my head “yes’ and she mirrored it back, nodding gently in return without being aware of it.

At that point, I started chatting about how close Germany was to Denmark, and how I loved Denmark because my amazing girlfriend is from there.

(Hey-I may play, but I don’t stray.  Once I hook ‘em, I gotta overlook ‘em, catch and release, cause at that point I cease!)

In any case, I invite you to explore how you can/could weave some of the following sexual metaphors into your conversations with women as early on in the conversation as you can:

“So hard…”

“Hard inside you”

“New direction/nude erection”

“Feel your opening/feel you’re opening”

“Suck seed/succeed”

“Go down”

“Put it in your mouth”

When you say these, slightly (slightly) shift your tone to something a bit quieter, and go into just a little bit of a sexual state yourself.  Don’t lean “too hard” (ah ah) on it!

Have fun and let me know how it goes…

Piece and peace,
RJ

P.S. I am seriously contemplating designing an on line program dedicated to the topic of different ways to quickly sexualize your interactions with wonen: verbal, vibe and touch.  What say ye to this?  It would probably run about 5-7 video modules, plus, when I create it, some live video broadcasts with Q and A. Maybe sell it for $97.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In a recent post I addressed a scenario where a student attempted to persuade a woman to leave her ‘borefriend’ for him by getting her to fall in love with him, based on her statement that she’d never been “in love” before.

I walked through a scenario where, rather than buying into her limits (she listed “vulnerability” as one of the values she needed to see in herself in order to be in love), he used the information she gave him to open her up and get her excited about exploring her feelings and life in a different way.

The narrative I shared got a number of you curious, so let me draw a map for you now. 

Here it is:

1. BEAR IN MIND THE PRINCIPLE THAT 80 PERCENT OF THE SEDUCTION IS POWERED BY HER RESPONSES AND INFORMATION

2. Get the value or quality she looks for that is missing: vulnerable

3. Understand that “vulnerable”, by itself, is not enough to get her to access the feelings and emotions that would flood through her, were she to feel “vulnerable”.

4. Get her to imagine being vulnerable and to tune into what feelings and emotions she would experience in THAT place….have her REALLY get into the fantasy on a deep body feeling and emotional level.

5. Get her even more precisely tuned into those feelings by asking signal recognition questions. What would be the first signal on the inside that lets her know..she’s beginning now to feel X Y Z where XYZ equal what being vulnerable would allow her to experience.

See, what you are doing here is taking what is probably a vaguely formed fantasy on her part and making it VERY vivid and real..and THEN getting hold of those feelings and linking them to yourself.

Final step:

GET HER TO ACT

6. As you fire the anchors say, “so… if you were to realize that at last.. .you really could feel these feelings… that X, Y, Z..as the energy flows from(use her signal recognition answers)…where would you also begin to feel the feelings that let you know… just how strongly… you have to have this… NOW?”

Get it? See the beauty of the new model?  Think perhaps, just maybe, it might beat a poke in the eye?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Speed Seduction® 3.0 will teach you how to use your language to create states of attraction, lust, fascination and utter desire, any woman you want – and do it so they they think it’s their idea!  Click here to get yours now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Take a moment and play this video clip from my January 2011 3-Day seminar in Los Angeles.

Watch and listen as Brother Matthew explains how, within 24 hours, he achieved lift-off in the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle with a woman he rescued from a car accident!

matthewbangsrescuegirl.mov

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Note how Matthew used specific Speed Seduction® tools to sidestep the mastur-dating and mastur-waiting nonsense and instead claim his results with this woman.  This is but 5 minutes.  Imagine what 3 days will get you when you join me this weekend in London, or any of our other cities this year.

http://www.seduction.com/blog/2011seminar/

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the tricky things when you get good with Speed Seduction® is the thorny problem of having women fall for you and fall for you hard, when all you want is a little bit of fun.

As guys, we have to be aware that even the most bitter, cynical, hardened woman can have her heart burst wide open and her feelings of wanting to be loved really come to the surface when she is properly seduced.

Let’s face it: sex can make all of us feel very vulnerable, and most especially so with many, if not most women.

To illustrate my point, let me share a note from a student facing this situation:

Dear Ross and Bros:

Went out with a young lady I met on the internet on Saturday.

Any way, one Twin Brothers pattern led to another and we ended up back at her place.  No need to go into the details, but when I left we both had big grins on our faces.

The reason I feel a little guilty is that I haven’t called her since.  I’m pretty sure that it won’t do her too much harm, but also pretty sure that it won’t make her feel too good and won’t do her self esteem too much good either.

Although I’m not that interested in developing a relationship with her, I would prefer to be able to  walk away knowing that, at the very least no damage has been done, however small that might be.

Now, I was pretty honest with her and didn’t promise her anything other than an interesting evening.  I did say that I would call her, and  later in the week I shall.  But what would be interesting from you guys would be any thoughts on how to set her up on the date so that they see the evening as a fun, exciting event and are happy not to expect too much after it.

RJ: The key here is to be honest about your intentions if she asks.  The second thing is, if you are not looking for an incredible connection, but just a roll in the hay, don’t use “connection” patterns.

I teach there are 4 doorways into any woman’s mind and emotions:

1. Getting her visualizing vividly.
2. Getting her to feel strong emotional connections
3. Getting her to feel strong, pleasurable body sensations
4. Getting to her core value structures

If you sense a woman wants too much from you, commitment–wise or is looking for than what you want, do not use doorways 2 and 4. They create a very strong emotional bond with most women.

You can use them, lightly, but mostly I’d lean on doorways 1 and 2. There are plenty of patterns to pretty much guarantee you can get in without creating deep emotional bonds.

Of course, if a girl is desperate and needy enough, she will CREATE those bonds, even though you never used any patterns at all! That’s when we can get into some trouble even though we proceeded with care. The problem isn’t with us, but with our “subject”; she’s just too friggin’ needy to deal with it.

If you sense you have a girl who is on the needy edge like this, it might be better to just let her slide and NOT have sex with her.

How’s that for having a life of real choice: you actually have so much variety and choice with women that you can feel great being able to say NO to a girl instead of it being the other way around! Imagine that!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Emotional connection patterns are VERY powerful. They do to women what high heels, push up bras, and boob jobs do to use men; they make the subject loose control!  Use them with caution.

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God, I love this job.

The other day, I shared with you the letter from a student in Greece who was concerned that some of the Speed Seduction® patterns and techniques might not work on Greek women because of the difference in how the Greek language works.

I explained to him that the key is to use your words to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and that it doesn’t matter if that woman comes from Athens or Atlanta, Santiago or Shanghai, Chicago or Cape Town: women want the same fundamental basic emotions and feelings.

Now, just to show you how it is your attitude that helps make the tools work better, let me share with you another scenario, this one from a student in South Korea who mastered Speed Seduction® quite suck-sex-fully on women who barely “speekee de Englees”.

He is an American who lived in South Korea for over 4 years and has used Speed Seduction® on women who speak English naturally and those who have had to learn it. He tells me, if he had to choose who to Sarge between the two, he would choose those who have had to learn it.

Why?

Well for one, the ones who have more recently learned English have to LITERALLY hang on every word and focus in more and more on what you are saying (just to understand everything correctly you are saying, and then process it.

Also, the language structure of SS is something they normally haven’t encountered. So they are learning a new style of speaking and so therefore they are automatically very interested in what and how you are saying it, and they don’t think you are manipulating them.

Also bear in mind, they sometimes don’t get the metaphors.  Is this a bad thing? Hell no. What they do is ask you (because they want to learn from you [heh heh]) “what does that mean?” Not only does their interest amplify but also it gives you further opportunities to use more descriptive languaging and amplify some more.

Not only that, but consider this.

If they don’t understand all the words, they WILL understand the frame and theme, and then THEY FILL IN THE BLANKS FOR THEMSELVES!!!!!!   The student tells me that many times he has no idea what he said to cause their overly sexual behavior towards him because they may have only understood half the words – but then he figured out they substituted their own internal processes in the language gaps and THEY JUST RAN WITH IT!

Here’s the thing: girls are very interested in mysteriously exotic things they have not or would like to explore more, and though it may not seem so, you are exotic to those who speak a different language than yours, regardless of your native tongue. So if you find yourself in another country, just stay the course.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. There’s no better set of tools to master these concepts and fearless step right through those language barriers and achieve GLOBAL Vaginal Victory than Speed Seduction® 3.0, available when you click here.

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