Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Take a moment and play this video clip from my January 2011 3-Day seminar in Los Angeles.

Watch and listen as Brother Matthew explains how, within 24 hours, he achieved lift-off in the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle with a woman he rescued from a car accident!

matthewbangsrescuegirl.mov

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Note how Matthew used specific Speed Seduction® tools to sidestep the mastur-dating and mastur-waiting nonsense and instead claim his results with this woman.  This is but 5 minutes.  Imagine what 3 days will get you when you join me this weekend in London, or any of our other cities this year.

http://www.seduction.com/blog/2011seminar/

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the tricky things when you get good with Speed Seduction® is the thorny problem of having women fall for you and fall for you hard, when all you want is a little bit of fun.

As guys, we have to be aware that even the most bitter, cynical, hardened woman can have her heart burst wide open and her feelings of wanting to be loved really come to the surface when she is properly seduced.

Let’s face it: sex can make all of us feel very vulnerable, and most especially so with many, if not most women.

To illustrate my point, let me share a note from a student facing this situation:

Dear Ross and Bros:

Went out with a young lady I met on the internet on Saturday.

Any way, one Twin Brothers pattern led to another and we ended up back at her place.  No need to go into the details, but when I left we both had big grins on our faces.

The reason I feel a little guilty is that I haven’t called her since.  I’m pretty sure that it won’t do her too much harm, but also pretty sure that it won’t make her feel too good and won’t do her self esteem too much good either.

Although I’m not that interested in developing a relationship with her, I would prefer to be able to  walk away knowing that, at the very least no damage has been done, however small that might be.

Now, I was pretty honest with her and didn’t promise her anything other than an interesting evening.  I did say that I would call her, and  later in the week I shall.  But what would be interesting from you guys would be any thoughts on how to set her up on the date so that they see the evening as a fun, exciting event and are happy not to expect too much after it.

RJ: The key here is to be honest about your intentions if she asks.  The second thing is, if you are not looking for an incredible connection, but just a roll in the hay, don’t use “connection” patterns.

I teach there are 4 doorways into any woman’s mind and emotions:

1. Getting her visualizing vividly.
2. Getting her to feel strong emotional connections
3. Getting her to feel strong, pleasurable body sensations
4. Getting to her core value structures

If you sense a woman wants too much from you, commitment–wise or is looking for than what you want, do not use doorways 2 and 4. They create a very strong emotional bond with most women.

You can use them, lightly, but mostly I’d lean on doorways 1 and 2. There are plenty of patterns to pretty much guarantee you can get in without creating deep emotional bonds.

Of course, if a girl is desperate and needy enough, she will CREATE those bonds, even though you never used any patterns at all! That’s when we can get into some trouble even though we proceeded with care. The problem isn’t with us, but with our “subject”; she’s just too friggin’ needy to deal with it.

If you sense you have a girl who is on the needy edge like this, it might be better to just let her slide and NOT have sex with her.

How’s that for having a life of real choice: you actually have so much variety and choice with women that you can feel great being able to say NO to a girl instead of it being the other way around! Imagine that!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Emotional connection patterns are VERY powerful. They do to women what high heels, push up bras, and boob jobs do to use men; they make the subject loose control!  Use them with caution.

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God, I love this job.

The other day, I shared with you the letter from a student in Greece who was concerned that some of the Speed Seduction® patterns and techniques might not work on Greek women because of the difference in how the Greek language works.

I explained to him that the key is to use your words to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and that it doesn’t matter if that woman comes from Athens or Atlanta, Santiago or Shanghai, Chicago or Cape Town: women want the same fundamental basic emotions and feelings.

Now, just to show you how it is your attitude that helps make the tools work better, let me share with you another scenario, this one from a student in South Korea who mastered Speed Seduction® quite suck-sex-fully on women who barely “speekee de Englees”.

He is an American who lived in South Korea for over 4 years and has used Speed Seduction® on women who speak English naturally and those who have had to learn it. He tells me, if he had to choose who to Sarge between the two, he would choose those who have had to learn it.

Why?

Well for one, the ones who have more recently learned English have to LITERALLY hang on every word and focus in more and more on what you are saying (just to understand everything correctly you are saying, and then process it.

Also, the language structure of SS is something they normally haven’t encountered. So they are learning a new style of speaking and so therefore they are automatically very interested in what and how you are saying it, and they don’t think you are manipulating them.

Also bear in mind, they sometimes don’t get the metaphors.  Is this a bad thing? Hell no. What they do is ask you (because they want to learn from you [heh heh]) “what does that mean?” Not only does their interest amplify but also it gives you further opportunities to use more descriptive languaging and amplify some more.

Not only that, but consider this.

If they don’t understand all the words, they WILL understand the frame and theme, and then THEY FILL IN THE BLANKS FOR THEMSELVES!!!!!!   The student tells me that many times he has no idea what he said to cause their overly sexual behavior towards him because they may have only understood half the words – but then he figured out they substituted their own internal processes in the language gaps and THEY JUST RAN WITH IT!

Here’s the thing: girls are very interested in mysteriously exotic things they have not or would like to explore more, and though it may not seem so, you are exotic to those who speak a different language than yours, regardless of your native tongue. So if you find yourself in another country, just stay the course.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. There’s no better set of tools to master these concepts and fearless step right through those language barriers and achieve GLOBAL Vaginal Victory than Speed Seduction® 3.0, available when you click here.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I received a tremendous response to my recent blog posts on women’s B.S. tests, specifically why women put men through them, and how men can “pass” them.

Now, let me give you three scenarios to illustrate these principles in action.

Scenario One: You call to ask her out. Her response is ambivalent, something like, “Well, I’d like to but, why don’t you call me later in the week and…”

Here’s your response: “Let me ask you a question, point blank. Is going out with me something you can take or leave or is it something that you’re smart enough that you really want to do that?” Then shut the hell up and listen for her answer.

Now, what are you doing here? You’re calling her on her ambivalence and letting her know you don’t have time to be put on hold. And you’re also suggesting she’s stupid if she doesn’t grab this opportunity.

Finally, you’re embedding a command that she really does want to go out with you. Will this work? Very often it does. It’s not what she’s expecting, and that always gets attention. Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can.

Understatement works best with this one. What if she still hesitates? Well, say this one:

You: Look. You have my number, and I’m going to leave it up to you. And you know, if you don’t call it’s going to be a loss for me, but maybe what you won’t realize until after you hang up is, that it’ll be a loss for you as well. Ok? Bye.

Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute without offering to do it again at some specific time.

Look: I’ve heard every excuse in the book, my friend, from “My parakeet is sick” to “I’ve got to shampoo the rug”. Seriously.

Here’s how it works…

Her: I can’t make it. I’ve got a rare tropical disease that’s causing me to shrink by the hour.

You: (dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk again. Just say NOTHING!!!)

Her: Hello? Are you there? What’s wrong?

You: What’s wrong is I can’t believe the bullshit I’m hearing.

Her: What?????

You: Look…you made a commitment to spend time with me and now you’re blowing me off. You’re disrespecting me and disrespecting my time and I’m NOT going to put up with it. My rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to keep it. If they can’t keep it, I need to know at least a day in advance so I can make other plans. Got it? If you can live with that rule, great…if not, sayonara!

Then, HANG UP!! Now, this may sound extreme, but man does it work well!!!

In fact, she’ll probably call back with five minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I’m not kidding here; I’ve seen the hardest, jaded bitches go to giggly little girls, eager to please me when I’ve done this. It throws some kind of switch in their heads.

I guess with some people, you don’t really get their attention until…

You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!!

Please note, I’m speaking of an attitude. I am NOT talking about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence with a woman. In fact, I am against the use or threat of the use of violence or force against ANY human being, unless there is an imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I can’t  make this too clear.  I’m talking about using your mind, NOT your fists.

Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes, or lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least that long while totally ignoring you.

Wait for her to finish, and as soon as she does say something like this:

YOU: Can I ask you a question?

HER: Sure.

YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you just accidentally acting clueless?

HER: (mouth dropping open in shock, unable to say anything!)

YOU: Don’t ever keep me waiting like this again, ok? I’ll always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same. Do you understand me?

HER: Uh..uh…yes.

The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way, you want to do the unexpected. Don’t put up with it, like a “nice guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Walk a middle ground of strength, self-control AND self-respect, and these tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your bed.

And that certainly beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

‘Til next time…

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Are you the “cute brother,” the “sweet guy,” the “adorable teddy bear” that every chick says she wants to hug tight and pinch your cheeks because you’re oh-so-cute?

Wonder why all these women think you’re so lovable and huggable – yet these same women are actually doing the lascivious lambada with guys who have none of these qualities?  If you’re so sweet, why aren’t you getting a taste?

Could be: when they say how “sweet” and “cute” you are, they’re actually saying how “nice” you are.

The real issue is: what are you doing with this, when these cute chicks compare you to their teddy bear? Are you testing with your behavior to see where you can go with it, or are you sitting in your head trying to figure it out?

This concept isn’t about the “answer” to your question. It is about THE PROCESS YOU USE TO FIND OUT.

Keep in mind the Speed Seduction® Credo: “When I don’t know what to do, I take a bold step forward.”

That said, try this, “Are you making a prediction about how I taste, or a comment about how good you feel around me?” Then lean in and kiss her. Then get up, excuse yourself and say, “Gotta go….”

See if that sweetens things up for you.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. All of this speaks to how you use Speed Seduction® to adapt the teachings to your actual, real-life situations with women.  To master the skills, you need to immerse yourself in the learning.

Best way: attend a live 3-day seminar.  Sign up now, Los Angeles is just two weeks away. Click here to register.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Once again, I reach into my lovely mail bag and pull out an e-mail I got from a student about… his attempt to e-mail an HB9 he met at a party.

Some of the patterning was good, but it came off…just…BAD because the context was WAY OFF.

> I met this girl HB9 at a party full of people 3 weeks ago. I talked with her only for a few times and for short periods.  We kept getting interrupted by her friends, an attempt by another guy to cockblock me.  She behaved also like a social butterfly talking to different people, breaking conversations fast, etc.  I managed to get her email address just before she left.

Yeah, in what context? In other words, was it done after you and she were into each other, you had captured and lead her imagination and emotions, future-paced spending time together, as in, “It’s too bad we can’t FIND A WAY TO HANG OUT AGAIN AND SEE WHAT WE COULD ENJOY”.

Or did you just say, “give me your email”?

I think it was more the latter, rather than the former.  Anyway, let’s continue.

> My first email to her was two weeks later.  It read:
>
> I am Matthew, I enjoyed meeting you at the party.  It was pleasant and without giving you the impression to be too serious, too early, I learned how much it is rare to find someone funny, authentically sympathetic, nice and charming; but enough about me, you seem to be also a potentially interesting girl
>
> By observing you that evening, I noted that you were rather sympathetic and smiling. At the same time, you showed some reserve when in contact with new people. It is as if there is an interior conflict in you between a natural reserve and a desire to connect with others.
>
> You know, with me, you can feel at ease, be completely yourself without needing to play a social part or without having fear of being judged.  The tolerance, the open mindedness and the compassion for me and the others you showed are paramount values which guide my way of being, thinking and acting.
>
> Could you describe me one of your passions? You know one of these activities in which you feel yourself completely transported, completely absorbed by what you do, where time seems to be slowing, until it stops and where you feel the spirit, the flame in you that shines. And it is in one of these moments, that you feel yourself more alive, that you feel the most passion and that you are more in contact with the spiritual force which is with each one of us and which then appears with the most clearness and beauty. For me, I am fascinated by literature and in particular by poetic creation. If you like also poetry, we could exchange poems and give our respective impressions.
>
> Please answer me,
> Matthew

After trying to salvage the situation by snagging her e-mail address from the clutches of total defeat, why did you mastur-wait for two weeks before dropping her a line?

How do you know she liked you on that first meeting?  From what you described, it seems like you were struggling to get two words in.  How do you know?  And then what? A personality reading? It comes across as begging for her approval, trying to impress her.  Total AFC here.

Next, how was she tolerant, open minded and compassionate?  How do you get all that from a casual chat at a party that kept getting interrupted?

Speed Seduction® isn’t about reciting speeches that have NO relation to the context, the person or anything that you yourself have experienced. These aren’t Magick chants.

Well, She Answered The Following Day

And…it was a doozy.  I knew she’d answer – but I saw this coming before I even read that far.

> hi matthew,
>
> thank you for your message, but, how did you have my email??  you know, I spoke with many people that evening. what did we talk about, at which moment of the evening?  what do you look like?  sorry I can’t remember.
>
> unless you tell me more about you, I am sorry but I won’t be able to talk to you further.

Ouch. She didn’t even fucking recognize who you were. That’s my point. In a seduction situation, email, texting, phone calls, can work, but without a command of non-local influence, you have to put in the work IN PERSON, FACE TO FACE.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What this student was trying to do was shift her thoughts without saying a word and without even having to be in her presence.  Right idea, wrong formula.  Join me where I show you the RIGHT way in our Secrets Of Energized Magick, Manifestation and “Non-Local” Influence Seminars.  Click here to reserve your seat now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

As a decent, caring person, many smart guys will find themselves wanting to help and support the women they care about.

Yet, there’s that balance, between being strong and supportive, versus becoming her therapist, or worse, her emotional tampon.  Let’s say she is going through a really tough time.  In empathy, you want her to really open up and share everything in her life with you.

Be careful though.  When we care about someone, we can get pulled into their stuff so deep that it colors who we are and our own energy and sense of possibility and approach to life.  It will certainly affect the energy she feels coming from YOU.

Let me say this: some issues are best resolved ENERGETICALLY, as opposed to behavior or language. Pay attention to your own behavior and vibe when you are with her. Set the intent to understand where she is at, WITHOUT HAVING TO GO THERE FOR YOURSELF.

Do you notice what I said? I said without HAVING TO. Doesn’t mean you can’t, it means it is a choice.

When we care about someone, the heart opens and EVERYTHING comes out. Joy, lust, caring, sadness, grief, anger. If she’s carrying around a lot of painful baggage, she may want to hold it in and being around you makes that impossible; you open her heart and out it comes.

Women revive the emotions associated with the topics that they are talking about.  Therefore, it is crucial to know what topics to introduce to get her emotions moving in the way we want them to move – towards lust, desire, fascination, desire, connection, etc.  And away from the pain.

Doesn’t that just make sense?  And aren’t you serving HER by helping her make a NEW CHOICE?

Here are a few topics that you should always have a way to bring up with women.

• Fantasy, escape, diversion, adventure
• Indulgence, cravings, spoiling herself
• Connections, with others, nature, beauty, something bigger and more beautiful than she expected

Look: life brings pain. No avoiding that. It’s what we wisely do with it.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. For many many, many more easy ways to direct a woman’s energy and emotions in a way that serves BOTH of you…all the way to your bed (or floor or couch), check out Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It often comes up that a woman who has recently gotten out of a long-term relationship will be reluctant to sleep with you.  Even though she wants to, really bad.

A student of mine received an e-mail from a woman he had been Sarging and things were really heating up.  A little confusing with a “WTF” aspect to it, for sure.  But, check this out and then I’ll tear it up:

“I’ll be really honest with you here. I enjoy talking to you and I think you would be great in bed.  But there are a couple reasons why I’m not going to sleep with you. One – I am still very in love with my ex boyfriend. Two: I really enjoy talking about sex with someone that I’m not sleeping with. It’s just so much more honest. I’m sure that makes sense. See you Thursday, looking forward to it.”

It’s right in front of your face: this chick has ALREADY made up her mind to sleep with you. 

She needs an excuse in her mind so she can feel blameless; “well, I TRIED not to sleep with him and even told him “NO” but I just couldn’t help myself..it just HAPPENED”.

Note what she said, “I think you would be great in bed”.

STOP! How could she “think” that without FANTASIZING about it?

Just say to her,

Hey…I’m glad for your honesty. Whatever we each and BOTH feel, I don’t want to do anything unless it is BOTH something we are BOTH thinking and dreaming about and totally want to do. So let’s just relax, enjoy each other’s company and only in whatever ways are comfortable and we BOTH want to do.

This takes the pressure OFF. Then keep right on Sarging..when you start to undress her and she resists just say…“We BOTH can’t help ourselves!” then fairly aggressively peel her panties off and enjoy the “lift-off” of the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Remember: a woman’s first response to you should rarely be taken as her “final answer.”  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  In 24 hours from now, 1,440 minutes will have passed, each with a reason why it’s possible  she’ll think differently.

Sound like a lot to manage?  Not if you have this on your side and in your corner.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Watch this video (right out of my Coaching Program):

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Is it possible to talk about something that sounds completely innocent, while subtly steering the conversation toward your bed (and her in it?) How do you use a seemingly innocent conversation to embed commands (fascination, connection, attraction, list) that get her hot and bothered?

I may do a mini video on this topic soon, in fact.  In the meantime, be sure to leave a comment…

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Here you are seeing just a fraction of the girl-getting power you will find in Speed Seduction® 3.0.  Want to get the tools, methods, and proven strategies that get your cucumber into her strawberry basket?  Click here now…

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

One of the most powerful “side effects” of mastering your girl-getting game is also achieving a level of power and mastery in other walks of life that you never thought possible.

Reminds me of a Sarge report I got from a student not too long ago about how my teachings not only got him the girl, but also saved him from getting his head caved in!

You heard it here first: Speed Seduction® is a life-saver – literally!

Join me for a moment as we explore…

How The “Boyfriend Destroyer” Pattern Got Him The Girl…
Then Sargy Persuasion Kept Him From Getting Destroyed…
By The Boyfriend!

Here’s what happened.  A student of mine was on the phone with another student of mine, then next thing you know, he sees some guy come charging into his apartment (without knocking) DEMANDING to speak with his roommate. My student put the phone down and dealt with this confrontation with this intruder, who is screaming and yelling and about to start tearing the place up…

My student manages to persuade this guy to wait outside while he gets his roommate, then gets back to his phone call.  Things cooled off for a minute… then next thing you know, the intruder is back… and angrier than ever.  Charges right past my student and goes to his roommate’s door and starts pounding on the door, saying “Get out here so I can kick your f@@king a@@ RIGHT NOW you lousy son of a….”

So my student sets the phone down again, gets the intruder to slow down just a bit, and says to the intruder, “Stop and imagine how you would feel if someone were to force their way into your home. Wouldn’t you want them to be cool and go outside?”

It was like magic.  The angry boyfriend instantly chilled out and was easily led outside.  Crisis diffused!

Why Was This Intruder So Flippin’ Angry??

Here’s what happened: my student’s roommate was banging this angry guy’s girlfriend (she told him she was single… what my student’s roommate should do about this lying chick is another story)… and she was in his room AT THAT MOMENT. The boyfriend put two and two together and followed her there, then sat outside for awhile getting good and pissed off before bounding up to destroy this “boyfriend destroyer” who was making his chick.

My student made strategic use of suggestions and embedded commands to diffuse the situation and lead the intruder’s imagination… outside.  Go back up and read what my student told this angry boyfriend and tell me how many commands and suggestions you find.  See how this works?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Moral of the story: see what happens when you have Sargy, persuasive power?  It becomes a reservoir of knowledge you can draw upon at-will, whenever necessary or desired, anytime, anyplace, anywhere.

Click here to learn how to get people eagerly doing your bidding in every walk of life…