Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I’m proud to say that Speed Seduction®, which started from such humble beginnings over 20 years ago, has now spread around the world and is being used in many, many different languages.

I guess it’s like I said: when it comes down to it, whether you are black or white or yellow or brown or red, there is only ONE color that counts: PINK.

All men are brothers when it comes to poon-tang.

Anyway, often I get questions about how to apply some of the specific Speed Seduction® methods to a foreign language.  One example I have to show by way of answer is this e-mail, from a Greek student:

Hi Ross,

I have some of your patterns and want to try them, but I have some difficulty with the language as here in Greece things are a bit different. I guess that this may be a common problem non-English speaking students may be facing in the “translation” of your patterns.

The verb “feel”

ENGLISH         GREEK

I feel          Niotho
You feel        Niothis
He feels        Niothi
We feel         Niothoume
You feel        Niothete
They feel       Niothoun

I will feel     Tha nioso
You will feel   Tha niosis
He will feel    Tha niosi
We will feel    Tha niosoume
You will feel   Tha niosete
They will feel  Tha niosoun

I can go on with the verb, but I guess you got the picture already. This seems like a pretty screwed up situation to me. Since we use NLP, I understand that we are talking directly to the woman’s subconscious.  From NLP, I have the understanding that the subconscious understands only the present tense.

However, in Greek, verbs are different for every person and tense. My question is if I can deliver the command using any person and any tense.

Best regards,
Alexander

RJ: Alex, I understand your rather technical question.  I also know that some of the ambiguities in English, like “below me” and “blow me” don’t exist in every language.

Nevertheless, while some specific small pieces may have to be modified, ALL women have a subconscious mind, ALL women have imaginations and emotions and ALL women can have their imagination and emotions captured and lead by language.

It’s sort of like driving a car. In England, people may drive on one side of the road while in the USA they drive on another. But the car still works the same way, with the same fuel, the same engine, the same steering.

Don’t get distracted by the tiny details of language that change from country to country. Just focus on these questions:

1. What can I do to control and design MY state?
2. How can I communicate in a way to capture and lead her imagination and emotions?

Now, consider that Greek is the language of the New Testament AND that the Greeks invented modern theatre, modern story telling, poetry, epics, I would say you guys have  HUGE advantage over the rest of us!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I have answered over 120 questions through video modules, on specific topics I get asked about often as well as direct, detailed responses to questions from individual students, in the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ever get the feeling that a woman is yanking your chain, just to demonstrate she can?

Like, one minute she’s hot, bothered, and just waiting for you to pick her up and take her to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.  The next, she’s cold, aloof, and giving you one-word answers while looking away from you.  Enough to make you ask…

…What GIVES?

Is she wishy-washy?  Is she confused?  Is she just a tease who gets off on the attention of men?  Does she like screwing men?

The First Question I Would Ask

In your Sarge, are you moderating, controlling, refining your immediate, urgent, hungry male desire to PENETRATE NOW?

Women sometimes seem to go “back and forth” as a control/safety issue. They get excited, then they catch themselves and think “Oooh, this feels too good. Better slow myself down.” They are not really trying to control you, but themselves.  The trick is: the control part LOOKS like the same signals women give us when they are genuinely un-interested!

I think women usually (usually) are NOT consciously trying to manipulate us. It is mostly an attempt to gain a measure of self-control and/or a means of exciting themselves by SELF-FRACTIONATING.

Yes, women get MORE excited if they pull back and then reinvest in the excitement. If we fractionate them, they will feel that excitement and also safety and they won’t have to do it for us.

There are a few basic things that set up and create willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received, and these are factors you generally CAN control:

1. Fractionating and pattern interrupting.
2. Demonstrating authority in their world
3. Given them the feeling they are being screened
4. Energetically moving among the vibes they find attractive: funny, showing authority in their world, being commanding and being sincere
5. Non verbally/non locally setting up a psychic/energtic/magick link.
6. Giving them a perceived self-image to live up to.

Armed with this knowledge, you can then re-channel her control/safety needs and help her Sarge her way right into your bed.  That sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Recently I received an e-mail from a student who is in a sort of purgatory with a woman he met a few weeks ago.

I’ll let him explain it in his own words:

Hey Ross, there is this hottie (I’d say about an HB8) who I’ve met up with a few times.  She’s kind of shy, but intelligent and fun once I get her to loosen up.  The first meet-up was a nice evening at a coffee shop.  The second, we hung out for a while at a quiet little saloon near her apartment.  The third time, we went to dinner.  Now, not only is this not going in the direction I want it to, but her behavior is perplexing.

The third time, I had planned a “Part II” but she seemed distracted the whole time, and even said “can we go?” as soon as the dinner was over.  So I dropped her off and figured it was “Exit, Stage Left” time for this guy.  Fair enough.  Yet, not 30 minutes later she was texting me about what a wonderful time she had and when can we do it again, and all that.  I think I want to see her again, but not if her plan is for us to have dinner once a week, which seems to be where she is trying to take this, which is what I am resisting.

I guess what I’m asking is, how do I determine if she is simply viewing me as her “meal ticket” (literally) or if she might be playing hard to get, just shy, wanting to go to the next step but not finding her own reasons to get there and not knowing how to ask me, etc.?

First of all: I think this confusion could trigger some very supplicating behavior on your part if you don’t watch it.  You’ve already bought her dinner and you didn’t mention the part where you banged her so I’ll assume you haven’t yet. You’re already headed down that slippery slope, one nudge away from a free-fall and you better hope you don’t get splinters in your ass if the slope is wooden.

Hey, your emotions are on the line here and your clarity too. You want to move this to the next level and you think she’s trying to corral you into being her standing “dinner date.”  If you sense something is up, CALL HER ON IT in a firm, calm, and relaxed way.

The bottom line is: only she can tell you what is going on. You can approximate or guess, but that is all it is.

So, if you can’t get your primary outcome (getting her enthusiastic to fuck you) what steps can you take, what moves can you make to AT LEAST MOVE IN THE DIRECTION OF THE KIND OF MAN YOU WANT TO BE AND THE KIND OF MAN YOU ARE ALREADY EVERDAY BECOMING? WHAT MOVES WILL BEST STRETCH YOU IN THE MOST USEFUL WAYS?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It often comes up that a woman who has recently gotten out of a long-term relationship will be reluctant to sleep with you.  Even though she wants to, really bad.

A student of mine received an e-mail from a woman he had been Sarging and things were really heating up.  A little confusing with a “WTF” aspect to it, for sure.  But, check this out and then I’ll tear it up:

“I’ll be really honest with you here. I enjoy talking to you and I think you would be great in bed.  But there are a couple reasons why I’m not going to sleep with you. One – I am still very in love with my ex boyfriend. Two: I really enjoy talking about sex with someone that I’m not sleeping with. It’s just so much more honest. I’m sure that makes sense. See you Thursday, looking forward to it.”

It’s right in front of your face: this chick has ALREADY made up her mind to sleep with you. 

She needs an excuse in her mind so she can feel blameless; “well, I TRIED not to sleep with him and even told him “NO” but I just couldn’t help myself..it just HAPPENED”.

Note what she said, “I think you would be great in bed”.

STOP! How could she “think” that without FANTASIZING about it?

Just say to her,

Hey…I’m glad for your honesty. Whatever we each and BOTH feel, I don’t want to do anything unless it is BOTH something we are BOTH thinking and dreaming about and totally want to do. So let’s just relax, enjoy each other’s company and only in whatever ways are comfortable and we BOTH want to do.

This takes the pressure OFF. Then keep right on Sarging..when you start to undress her and she resists just say…“We BOTH can’t help ourselves!” then fairly aggressively peel her panties off and enjoy the “lift-off” of the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Remember: a woman’s first response to you should rarely be taken as her “final answer.”  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  In 24 hours from now, 1,440 minutes will have passed, each with a reason why it’s possible  she’ll think differently.

Sound like a lot to manage?  Not if you have this on your side and in your corner.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Today, the movie Going The Distance opens in theaters.

For those who haven’t heard, it’s a “romantic comedy” (yet another attempt by the romance industry to turn smart men into Average Frustrated Chumps or AFCs) about a man and a woman who meet, have a “summer fling” and then travel back and forth between San Francisco and New York City to see one another.

I am not telling you to NOT see the movie.  If you do, try to have compassion for the male character, Garrett, who according to the IMDb.com description of the movie “…has always had a problem with commitment and understanding what women want… he learns the hard way that he cannot speak the female language…” (FYI, I’m in Los Angeles.  Garrett, write to me, let’s do some private coaching.)

Second, I am not telling you to NOT ever engage in a long-distance relationship. I AM going to caution you about some of the realities associated with long term relationships.

Why “Going The Distance” Might Get You Further Away
From Suck-Sess With Women, Near And Far

Long distance relationships sometimes work.  Here’s something to keep in mind, if you are thinking about placing yourself in one.

You’ll be doing a LOT of communicating by email, phone, and IM.  Now, it’s one thing IF you have already been f@@king like weasels BEFORE “long distance” and “relationship” become part of the same statement (like, if one of you gets a job in a new city, the other can’t move because of THEIR work, but you together decide to try to make it work).

But if you declare yourself “in a relationship” with some stranger (and yes, she is a stranger) you met on the internet PRIOR to f@@king, you run the danger of her merely enjoying the fantasy attention.  I see WAY too much of this happening anymore.  One of two things will happen.

1. When you guys “take the plunge” and decide to meet in person, you might get an email from her the day before your flight where it becomes clear to you that all that “ooooohh” and “aaahhhh” and “I waaaaannnttt yyyooouuuu” she was typing in the “naughty box” was just her acting out a fantasy.
2. She’ll find a man locally who can please her, and she’ll hit the power-off button on you, since at that point you’re just “words on a screen.”

Remember: you never know where you stand with a woman until you make that first SERIOUS physical pass, so I don’t consider a woman a serious prospect until AFTER we’ve “gone the distance” in the sack.

And one question for you: if you are in a long-distance relationship, is it really a relationship, or a crutch so you don’t have to risk “going the distance” with the wonderful, willing women who are HERE, NOW?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If I were on the writing team for Going The Distance, I’d add a scene where Garrett goes to my website and orders Speed Seduction® 3.0.  It would make for a pretty short movie, though, as he wouldn’t have had to work nearly as hard to claim the success with women he deserves.   Ready to “go the distance” with your girl getting game?  Click here to learn how

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Whenever I hear someone is in a relationship, my first question: is it a relationship, or a real-hate-shun-ship by default?

Before we go any further, let me be clear: if you’ve found that special someone, and it’s truly right for both of you, GOOD ON YOU!

However, about 50% of all marriages are doomed to divorce.  They say it’s because “values are changing” or “people don’t respect the sanctity of marriage anymore”, etc.  Whatever.

No. NOT true.

Why do guys stay in “real-hate-shun-ships by default?”

Here are some of the stunning reasons I’ve heard over the years, often from guys who otherwise seem to have life handled:

• “It’s cheaper to keep her.”  (He fears having to pay up in a divorce settlement, so he endures a living hell and possibly finding the REAL woman of his dreams, simply to avoid writing a check which might be his ticket to lifetime happiness.)
• “She was my high school sweetheart, and our families have been friends for generations.  It would upset a lot of people if we broke up.” (So, WHO ARE YOU MARRIED TO, pal???)
• “We stay together for the kids.” (Yeah, the kids who live in a miserable home because your real-hate-shun-ship ain’t workin’.  Kids DO see what’s going on.)
• “I was taught: you’re supposed to be married by the time you’re 30, and you have a responsibility to provide grandchildren for your parents.” (So, everyone in your family has ALWAYS been HAPPY and has made PRODUCTIVE CONTRIBUTIONS?)
• “Man, I’ve never had a girl as fine as she is.  And hey, nothing’s perfect.  I can deal with her spazzing out on me because I probably won’t find one THIS hot ever again.” (Correction: I calculate there are 34,000 women at least as hot as she is.)
• “Happiness is what they put in the movies.  This is REAL LIFE, Ross, not some fairy tale.  I don’t play games.” (No XBox for you, huh?)

Let me add: Speed Seduction® ain’t just about getting laid.  Want a girlfriend?  Looking for a wife?  Great!  Then use my teachings to cut through the bull***t “dating rituals” and “social programming” and you’re MORE LIKELY to find a life partner who will satisfy you in every way.  In fact, my teachings also help guys who are married and in relationships keep the “spark” burning hot.

Look: it’s your life.  You deserve the opportunity to create the results and the happiness with the women you truly desire.  Are you living a life of fulfillment, or a life by default?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training,

Last week I shared a video lesson called “Kill The Mystery” where I explained what it really means when a woman says the “C” word (as in, “chemistry”). Based on the barrage of e-mails and blog comments I’ve received, it really struck a nerve.

In fact, one of my best students sent me a Sarge report on how he applied Speed Seduction® in his interactions with a woman to stimulate  desire, overcome her resistance, and ultimately create an amazing experience that will enrich the rest of his life.

Over the next 3 days, I am going to share with you exactly what went down and how it all worked out, with a few of my own observations.  So without further ado….let’s get started:

Part 1: A “Power-Packed” Approach

Recently, my student was introduced to a woman by her best friend.  Using what I teach, he engaged her in some playful banter, focusing on the fun and enjoyment of the interaction.

On that first night they met (when they were surrounded by friends), he established a deep, emotional connection, using techniques such as getting her to open up about her feelings, hopes and dreams and evoking bright images throughout detailed descriptions and well-chosen adjectives. Ultimately he anchored her love for coffee to help her recall the feelings of comfort and relaxation she seemed to need (she had recently gotten out of a real-hate-shun-ship and had been quite busy in life).  Then he “closed” her by scheduling their next meeting, a more personal, one-on-one interaction.

For their next meeting, they went to a bookshop with a nice cafeteria and spent 5 hours talking about their dreams and passions.  Through it all, he maintained a constant and subtle teasing pattern, to remind her he wasn’t a “friend” to take for granted, but a non-needy man who was enjoying time with her.

OK… so far, so good!

What can we take away from the first leg of this student’s journey with this woman?

First, he is clear on the ultimate goal.  Of course, he’s looking to succeed, get laid, take things to a whole ‘nother level.  However, he remains interested in her, but not invested in the result.  He focuses on enjoying his time with her, not “how can I get this chick in bed right now?”  This is critical.

Remember: when you are Sarging on a woman, the ultimate goal is not to succeed with this one woman, but to hone and sharpen the skills that will get you results with her AND the next ten women who cross your path.

Note, also, how he uses the information she gives him  to capture her vibe and anchor her passions.  With Speed Seduction®, it’s all about using her vibe as a roadmap that leads straight to the Cape Carnal-Veral shuttle pointed at her poonanny.

Tomorrow, we’ll delve into what happened on their third meeting….for now, leave your comments below!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I’m covering all of this, and much more, in my upcoming seminars.  The next one is next weekend, in New York City.  Have you signed up yet?  We’ve just filled a number of seats and pretty soon I will need to close the doors to maintain the interactive nature of the seminar.  Don’t be left out in the cold ==> http://www.rjseminar.com/nyc/

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever had it happen where for some reason, you just can’t stop thinking about a particular chick?

Like, you spend hours visioning what your next meeting (or even phone call) will be like, exactly what you’re going to say?

Then, you find yourself agonizing over the right time of day you should call her? Suddenly worried that she might see what you put on your Facebook wall and fretting that she might interpret your status a certain way (that keeps your willy dry)?

Normally I ask, when I get questions like this I ask, first, foremost, uppermost, and important-most,

Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman
on the whole freaking planet???

However. in this case I think you realize that she isn’t. It’s just that there’s something inside of you keeping you fixated on this one chick.

First, you’re probably placing too much importance on this one chick. Have you f@@ked her yet? (It’s a yes or no question; either your Junior Explorer has explored her woman cave, or it hasn’t.)

Next, define “importance”. Importance as in sexually wanting her, or importance is in her being someone you connect with on an emotional/caring level?

I’d be VERY careful about connecting too strongly with women, emotionally, unless you are well into f@@king them. Most guys underestimate their need to care for someone and emotionally connect with.

A lot of times guys find their “stuckness” can be exacerbated by being confused by that woman’s emotional 180s, fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other deeply frustrating and seemingly (to you) irrational actions. Sound familiar?

Sometimes I feel I stand at the fulcrum between two things: the living wall of fire that it is my lust and the flood of water that is my compassion and my need to connect and care. Can make things at times confusing, yes?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

My recent posts on women who “run hot and cold” have struck quite a nerve.

I’m getting a ton of e-mails and responses, so I know this is an issue that many smart guys like you, including those in my Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, need assistance getting handled.

Now, talk about “hot and cold” – this next letter comes from a student who is Sarging on a woman who goes from naming the kids and planning weekends with the in-laws to not returning his calls, just like that… and he just recently met her!

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The woman in particular is an attractive, 25 yr old small-business owner who seemed to open up very quickly. I met her friends and family right away and we spent a lot of time together. She talked about children’s names and eluded to “our in-laws.” She almost disappeared July 4th and within a week of extreme distance said “you’re not like anyone I’ve ever dated and I don’t know why I’m pushing away what I truly want.”

She bought me gifts and a card the second time we went out, text me many times throughout the day and seemed so sweet, compassionate and just wonderfully feminine.

I’m not sure what went wrong but it sucks, bad. What do you guys think? Did I kill the attraction?

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First of all, what does “open up very quickly” mean? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? (That’s a yes or no question – you did or you didn’t.)

Frequently in the “Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets” ezines I hammer the point that “dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with!” Why?

Because when the interaction turns to “dating,” women instinctively pull out their “checklist” of what the “perfect man” is and start rating whether you are “her type.” If you have not yet connected with her emotionally and set the “anchors” that make any “checklist” irrelevant, you don’t want to be “dating” her.

For the same reason, I’m not in a hurry to meet family and friends. It puts too much “meaning” on things, and immediately that often triggers a woman’s “is he REALLY the one” fractionation / emotional interruption mechanism.

Now, she’s talking about kids’ names and in-laws that early on? That means she is trying out that kind of thinking because she thinks it is how she SHOULD be thinking instead of wanting to go out with her girlfriends, get laid, have fun, etc. She’s trying to convince herself.

Right now, you’re in knots from her “running hot and cold” (the gifts and cards, followed by the “extreme distance”) because you are hooked on the validation and attention. So when she pulls it away, you freak out, get clingy, drive her away, instead of being aware of that response as it first arises and being able to redirect.

It’s time to break the “hot and cold” cycle caused by your need for validation by this (or ANY) woman, and find the woman (or women) who will just want consistent, steaming-hot fun.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and stop letting her “give it and take it away” – for good!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

About a week ago on my blog, I told you the story of the student who was facing challenges from a hot babe who kept cranking his faucet knob by “running hot and cold,” with the end result that she wasn’t cranking his other knob.

Last night, I received an e-mail from one of you who tells a similar tale, but with an interesting twist. And it got me thinking. So, let me share it with you now along with some more insights to help you create irresistible arousal and avoid the trap of “getting cranked”:

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My situation is that me and this incredible babe I’ve been seeing are probably more in the category of “intimate” in the sense that we are not just flirting and being sexual but there is also lots of holding hands and hugs, etc., and I have always stayed the night instead of it just being “hit and run.” We dont see that much of each other – maybe about once a week – so I can’t say things are really serious. Although, what I would like to know from her is would she like it to be serious!

However, and this is the big BUT…. I like affection, I like intimacy and the problem lies in that I will often if not always find myself initiating kissing with her, and sometimes I go to kiss her and she kind of doesn’t react at all, like she holds her mouth still, which I find weird. She is also texting me alot saying she can’t wait to get her hands on me and other flirty stuff. But when we are together in person she is far more reserved.

In the past, I would chase girls or frighten them away (especially the the ones I like), hence I want to learn from my mistakes and not do it again.

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I have three rules to share, or rather, axioms:

Rule/Axiom #1:

CONFUSED PEOPLE BEHAVE IN CONFUSING WAYS.

It sounds to me like this lady can’t tell what she wants, from what she’s getting, from what she thinks she SHOULD want, etc etc.
You’re spending the night on the “every so often” occasions you see her. She acts all excited with anticipation when there’s a date planned, but then when you kiss her, she doesn’t move her lips?

Rule/Axiom #2:

IN ANY CONFLICT BETWEEN WHAT A WOMAN SAYS AND WHAT A WOMAN DOES, PAY ATTENTION AND GIVE WEIGHT TO WHAT SHE ****DOES****

As a Seduction master, it’s your job to receive and interpret the “vibe” she puts out, and feed it back to her in a way that gets her hot and bothered and inserting you into her fantasies, so when she lives them out, she lives them out with you.

Rule/Axiom #3:

WOMEN ARE CHAOTIC SYSTEMS. AS SUCH, WHAT THEY WANT AND WHAT THEY “RESPOND” TO MAY VARY FROM DAY TO DAY, WEEK TO WEEK, EVEN HOUR BY HOUR, DEPENDING ON ALL SORTS OF ENVIRONMENTAL FACTORS, HER OWN INTERNAL HORIZONTAL AND VERTICAL FRACTIONATION PROCESSES, HEALTH/MONTHLY CYCLE, etc.

Again, you need to remain in control of the situation and remember also that a woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” Using Speed Seduction®, you have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing. (And if not, you do “Exit, Stage Left!” and Sarge on the next hottie you see!)

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and start using your power to guide the path of her desires – TOWARD you!