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“I Don’t Want Her, But I Can’t Get Her Off My Mind!”

Posted by Ross Jeffries on February 22nd, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever felt like you got bitten by the “love bug” but you don’t actually want her?  Yeah…it bites.

Let’s say you meet a woman, Sarge on her, but as you explore the encounter and the woman you learn, for whatever reason there’s no way you could be with her in a relationship or any sort of involved scenario.  Either by her choice or yours.

YET, you’ve now become attached to her, maybe want to continue some sort of friendship….but…this has become your involuntary mantra:

…”Damnit, I Don’t Want Her, But I Can’t Get Her Off My Mind!”

A student of mine got fixated on a really hot 25 year old college student who, looks-wise, reminded him more than a little of the real-life chick who voices “Meg” on Family Guy.

She flirted with him like crazy, responded well to the patterns and language and so forth. But, upon getting to know her, how do I put this…this chick…actually WAS Meg Griffin inside Mila Kunis’ body.

There was NO WAY he wanted to be mixed up with her, not his idea of a “steady”.  This didn’t stop him from having the hots for her, to the point where it held him back with other women.

The answer: Reverse SRT Attraction Filter Ritual.

Here’s the procedure in a nutshell:

  1. Prepare. Do your meditation, breath exercises, unstoppable confidence affirmations etc. – things you usually do.
  2. Go inside and imagine her in front of you.
  3. Feel the energy of attraction and see the Attraction Filter between you and her.
  4. Watch as the Attraction Filter slowly loses its shape and its energy leaks to the ground.  Then watch the filter itself drop to the ground.
  5. Reset. Say: “I release any and all expectation of results.”

After doing this several times….

….the crush was gone!

He simply couldn’t “find” it anymore.

With the fixation out of the way, he is in a place where he can enjoy those aspects of her that he finds appealing, but he’s no longer overwhelmed by the desire to seduce her or the overpowering thoughts of her at all hours of the day.

Seeing things clearly when it comes to women…now if that doesn’t beat a poke in the eye, I don’t know what DOES.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Performance Anxiety: When Private Wood Doesn’t Stand His Post

Posted by Ross Jeffries on September 5th, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I’ve had several students ask me why the following happens:

You’ve connected with a woman and brought her to “that place” where she is ready to “go for it.” It started with her giving you a curious “uhhhh, can I help you?” glance when you first approached her, and in less time than you thought, she’s now naked and on your bed and…yes…it’s on.

Just NOW, for some reason, Private Wood stops standing at attention.  He slouches on the job and can’t get back up.  Even when she goes into “drill instructor mode” (don’t you love when she gets all dominatrix-like?), your Johnson insists on tripping you up.

HOWEVER…you don’t THINK it’s erectile dysfunction: after all, normally things are “functioning” correctly.  You don’t have a problem “enjoying” fantasies or your favorite porno.  You can close the deal with Rosie and her sisters on a moment’s notice, every time.  So overall, you believe the machinery works.

“It” seems to happen ONLY when you’re actually boarding the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle with a live woman.

Let me get it out of the way: see your doctor anyway.  Every day of “I really SHOULD see a doctor” is 1,440 minutes of self-imposed flaccidity that might not have to be.  It’s YOUR life, only you can live it.

Now that we have that out of the way (made that appointment yet?), let me ask you three questions.

  1. Think back to your feelings when Private Wood went AWOL.  What came up for you? Nervousness?  Fear?  Worry you might not “stand up” in the ranks of her previous lovers?  Something in your head saying “I shouldn’t be doing this?”
  2. When it happened, how did you react? Did you give up?  Seek her support in getting things back on track?  Switch to pleasing her for a while until things started “looking up” for you?
  3. How did SHE react? Did she throw you out (or get up and leave)?  Or did she say, with a sly grin and a cute gleam in her eye, “Hmmm, seems the ol’ hard drive is booting up a little slow.  Where’s the CD-ROM for this, so we can stick it in and get it spinning?”

It’s called “performance anxiety” because you’re anxious, not because you’re a bad person or something’s necessarily wrong with you.  (Though you still need to check with your doc – got that appointment booked?  The receptionist and/or the nurse, not to mention the doctor herself, might be sizzling hot and looking for a man like you.)

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Going The Distance: Do Long-Distance Relationships Work?

Posted by Ross Jeffries on September 3rd, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Today, the movie Going The Distance opens in theaters.

For those who haven’t heard, it’s a “romantic comedy” (yet another attempt by the romance industry to turn smart men into Average Frustrated Chumps or AFCs) about a man and a woman who meet, have a “summer fling” and then travel back and forth between San Francisco and New York City to see one another.

I am not telling you to NOT see the movie.  If you do, try to have compassion for the male character, Garrett, who according to the IMDb.com description of the movie “…has always had a problem with commitment and understanding what women want… he learns the hard way that he cannot speak the female language…” (FYI, I’m in Los Angeles.  Garrett, write to me, let’s do some private coaching.)

Second, I am not telling you to NOT ever engage in a long-distance relationship. I AM going to caution you about some of the realities associated with long term relationships.

Why “Going The Distance” Might Get You Further Away
From Suck-Sess With Women, Near And Far

Long distance relationships sometimes work.  Here’s something to keep in mind, if you are thinking about placing yourself in one.

You’ll be doing a LOT of communicating by email, phone, and IM.  Now, it’s one thing IF you have already been f@@king like weasels BEFORE “long distance” and “relationship” become part of the same statement (like, if one of you gets a job in a new city, the other can’t move because of THEIR work, but you together decide to try to make it work).

But if you declare yourself “in a relationship” with some stranger (and yes, she is a stranger) you met on the internet PRIOR to f@@king, you run the danger of her merely enjoying the fantasy attention.  I see WAY too much of this happening anymore.  One of two things will happen.

  1. When you guys “take the plunge” and decide to meet in person, you might get an email from her the day before your flight where it becomes clear to you that all that “ooooohh” and “aaahhhh” and “I waaaaannnttt yyyooouuuu” she was typing in the “naughty box” was just her acting out a fantasy.
  2. She’ll find a man locally who can please her, and she’ll hit the power-off button on you, since at that point you’re just “words on a screen.”

Remember: you never know where you stand with a woman until you make that first SERIOUS physical pass, so I don’t consider a woman a serious prospect until AFTER we’ve “gone the distance” in the sack.

And one question for you: if you are in a long-distance relationship, is it really a relationship, or a crutch so you don’t have to risk “going the distance” with the wonderful, willing women who are HERE, NOW?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If I were on the writing team for Going The Distance, I’d add a scene where Garrett goes to my website and orders Speed Seduction® 3.0.  It would make for a pretty short movie, though, as he wouldn’t have had to work nearly as hard to claim the success with women he deserves.   Ready to “go the distance” with your girl getting gameClick here to learn how

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