Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Join me as I once again reach into my mail bag and pull out another excellent question that was e-mailed to me by one of my best students, someone who has invested in my courses and who regularly follows the Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets.

This one deals with an issue that often comes up: what happens when you call or e-mail or text and leave a message and you don’t hear back from her. Here’s the question:

I normally don’t have problems getting girls, but I recently moved to a new city. I met a local girl who works at the pub just around the corner. She expressed great interest in me, giving me her number (without me asking) and even asking ME out on a date. On this date, she invited me to her place to order take out and watch movies. The conversation was great, and by the end of the night I even gave her a back rub. She gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek before I left, also expressing interest in making another date very soon.

The next day I texted her, just asking how see was doing, she responded by saying she was great, and asked me how I was. I responded by saying I had an awesome day, and left it at that. So I gave it two days before I messaged again, with a short text “What’s going on?”  It’s been three days, and I haven’t heard back. I would greatly appreciate your insight on this, and what I should do from here?

Alright, a few key points here:

First, foremost, important-most, and uppermost: maybe she was at a concert or something when you texted her, wasn’t able to answer, and got sidetracked.  Are you persistent, much? And what’s up with texting?  If you can text her, you have her phone number.  Give her a call.

Here’s the even bigger question: when she expressed interest in setting up another meet very soon, what stopped you from setting up the date and time, THEN AND THERE?  Why did you wait?  You know what they say about guys who wait.

You might also want to check this out, since you’re “new in town.”

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

One of the biggest discussions in the “PUA” community is about being “Alpha” or “dominant”.

As I’ve said before, when you are seeking answers from “experts” beware of answers that are half true or incomplete.

In this video, I go into what it means to be dominant, as contrasted with abusive or domineering. Also take note of the responses of the female volunteer and notice how I am very subtle in my dominance.

Watch the video then tell me what you think:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

When you pay a woman a direct compliment, you may well be buying yourself a one-way ticket to Dry Willy City rather than a pass to the all-you-can-eat buffet of erotic desire.

Direct compliments (such as “Wow, you really look good today” and “You have the most beautiful, warm, inviting eyes I’ve ever seen”) may not go over well because:

• She doesn’t really believe it about herself;
• She has reason to believe that you don’t really mean it and are just saying it to get in her pants;
• She has reason to believe you mean it, she believes it about herself too, but it just doesn’t impress her or speak to her in a way that results in her feeling positive about it. She is too used to hearing it directly, so it has lost impact. She’s heard it all before;
• Because of how she perceives your status or your degree of familiarity with her, she doesn’t believe you should be saying it.

The Power Of Implication And How It Says So Much More…
Especially Because You Don’t Directly Say It

A key point that I drive home again and again is the power of implied compliments. The implied compliment states something about women who have the qualities you are complimenting her about… and then IMPLIES by virtue of the fact that you are addressing her that she must fit into that group.

This works because making sense of what is implied is an active process. The listener has to put together the thought/connect the dots on her own. The thought is, “Oh…he is saying he thinks that about me! How sweet!”

Or, “Oh, he is saying he isn’t sure that is true about me…I better prove to him that it is!”

Here’s an example.

“It’s just that I admire women with really strong fashion sense, so I had to say hello” is saying the following:

1. I admire women who have strong fashion sense.
2. When I admire women like that I am compelled to say hello.
3. I am compelled to say hello to you.

The implication is:

She has really strong fashion sense.

See how this works?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

My recent posts on women who “run hot and cold” have struck quite a nerve.

I’m getting a ton of e-mails and responses, so I know this is an issue that many smart guys like you, including those in my Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, need assistance getting handled.

Now, talk about “hot and cold” – this next letter comes from a student who is Sarging on a woman who goes from naming the kids and planning weekends with the in-laws to not returning his calls, just like that… and he just recently met her!

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The woman in particular is an attractive, 25 yr old small-business owner who seemed to open up very quickly. I met her friends and family right away and we spent a lot of time together. She talked about children’s names and eluded to “our in-laws.” She almost disappeared July 4th and within a week of extreme distance said “you’re not like anyone I’ve ever dated and I don’t know why I’m pushing away what I truly want.”

She bought me gifts and a card the second time we went out, text me many times throughout the day and seemed so sweet, compassionate and just wonderfully feminine.

I’m not sure what went wrong but it sucks, bad. What do you guys think? Did I kill the attraction?

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First of all, what does “open up very quickly” mean? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? (That’s a yes or no question – you did or you didn’t.)

Frequently in the “Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets” ezines I hammer the point that “dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with!” Why?

Because when the interaction turns to “dating,” women instinctively pull out their “checklist” of what the “perfect man” is and start rating whether you are “her type.” If you have not yet connected with her emotionally and set the “anchors” that make any “checklist” irrelevant, you don’t want to be “dating” her.

For the same reason, I’m not in a hurry to meet family and friends. It puts too much “meaning” on things, and immediately that often triggers a woman’s “is he REALLY the one” fractionation / emotional interruption mechanism.

Now, she’s talking about kids’ names and in-laws that early on? That means she is trying out that kind of thinking because she thinks it is how she SHOULD be thinking instead of wanting to go out with her girlfriends, get laid, have fun, etc. She’s trying to convince herself.

Right now, you’re in knots from her “running hot and cold” (the gifts and cards, followed by the “extreme distance”) because you are hooked on the validation and attention. So when she pulls it away, you freak out, get clingy, drive her away, instead of being aware of that response as it first arises and being able to redirect.

It’s time to break the “hot and cold” cycle caused by your need for validation by this (or ANY) woman, and find the woman (or women) who will just want consistent, steaming-hot fun.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and stop letting her “give it and take it away” – for good!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

About a week ago on my blog, I told you the story of the student who was facing challenges from a hot babe who kept cranking his faucet knob by “running hot and cold,” with the end result that she wasn’t cranking his other knob.

Last night, I received an e-mail from one of you who tells a similar tale, but with an interesting twist. And it got me thinking. So, let me share it with you now along with some more insights to help you create irresistible arousal and avoid the trap of “getting cranked”:

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My situation is that me and this incredible babe I’ve been seeing are probably more in the category of “intimate” in the sense that we are not just flirting and being sexual but there is also lots of holding hands and hugs, etc., and I have always stayed the night instead of it just being “hit and run.” We dont see that much of each other – maybe about once a week – so I can’t say things are really serious. Although, what I would like to know from her is would she like it to be serious!

However, and this is the big BUT…. I like affection, I like intimacy and the problem lies in that I will often if not always find myself initiating kissing with her, and sometimes I go to kiss her and she kind of doesn’t react at all, like she holds her mouth still, which I find weird. She is also texting me alot saying she can’t wait to get her hands on me and other flirty stuff. But when we are together in person she is far more reserved.

In the past, I would chase girls or frighten them away (especially the the ones I like), hence I want to learn from my mistakes and not do it again.

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I have three rules to share, or rather, axioms:

Rule/Axiom #1:

CONFUSED PEOPLE BEHAVE IN CONFUSING WAYS.

It sounds to me like this lady can’t tell what she wants, from what she’s getting, from what she thinks she SHOULD want, etc etc.
You’re spending the night on the “every so often” occasions you see her. She acts all excited with anticipation when there’s a date planned, but then when you kiss her, she doesn’t move her lips?

Rule/Axiom #2:

IN ANY CONFLICT BETWEEN WHAT A WOMAN SAYS AND WHAT A WOMAN DOES, PAY ATTENTION AND GIVE WEIGHT TO WHAT SHE ****DOES****

As a Seduction master, it’s your job to receive and interpret the “vibe” she puts out, and feed it back to her in a way that gets her hot and bothered and inserting you into her fantasies, so when she lives them out, she lives them out with you.

Rule/Axiom #3:

WOMEN ARE CHAOTIC SYSTEMS. AS SUCH, WHAT THEY WANT AND WHAT THEY “RESPOND” TO MAY VARY FROM DAY TO DAY, WEEK TO WEEK, EVEN HOUR BY HOUR, DEPENDING ON ALL SORTS OF ENVIRONMENTAL FACTORS, HER OWN INTERNAL HORIZONTAL AND VERTICAL FRACTIONATION PROCESSES, HEALTH/MONTHLY CYCLE, etc.

Again, you need to remain in control of the situation and remember also that a woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” Using Speed Seduction®, you have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing. (And if not, you do “Exit, Stage Left!” and Sarge on the next hottie you see!)

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and start using your power to guide the path of her desires – TOWARD you!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

First of all, it’s that time of year again! On January 22-24, 2010, we will be holding our next Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar in Los Angeles, CA. More details on that and a special, limited time offer when you click here.

And now …

I believe every guy out there has a vision of what his “dream woman” looks like, sounds like, acts like, tastes like, etc.

We all have “tastes”, just like some people like chocolate ice cream more than vanilla. Even though they may like the vanilla, it’s the chocolate ice cream he desires most. I, too, have certain “types” of women who really rev my engine and inspire my girl-getting game. And when I see what I like, I am far more likely to approach her.

Now, sometimes it gets frustrating when you have no problem getting women in general, but you just can’t seem to land the “woman of your dreams.” Case in point: this note I received from a student of mine.

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Hey Ross! I’ve been struggling to find just the woman I want to be with. I’m a good looking guy, 36 years old, with a nice face and a sculpted body. Women have told me I have hypnotic eyes. I’ve slept with lots of women. But none of them have been quite the women I want.

I’m very selective, and I have a vision of the woman I want. She has a slender body, short black hair, and is about 5′5 (I’d like her to be about 6 inches shorter than me). I get lots of girls – don’t get me wrong, I have no problem attracting women – but I’m at a point in my life where I want to settle down, and I have a specific vision of what she should look like.

Is there anyway you can help?

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Let me challenge your thinking on this. I had a student who could only feel attraction to a woman if she had long, curly, jet-black hair, deep brown eyes, wide hips, and long legs. Preferably, she would be Italian, or of Italian descent. This held my student back from many exciting adventures with women because he pushed away women with blond or red hair, even when they threw themselves at him begging for him to take them to sexual heights they’d never seen. When he found what he WAS looking for, he came on too strong and repelled her.

His desire for this “type” was driven by an extreme sense of deprivation. In middle school he was publicly spurned by a classmate who was full-blooded Italian and looked like his “dream woman.” He felt the need to compensate by Sarging on all the black-curly-haired, brown-eyed, wide-hipped, long-legged Italian women he could find. Unfortunately, not many of them seemed to want him back (because he came across as needy), so he had a LOT of dates with Rosie and her sisters.

Once he recognized and accepted his sense of loss, it was no time at all before his girl-getting game climbed to new heights. Ironically, in addition to all the blondes and redheads who now see him differently than ever before, he now attracts more women who are his “type” because he is no longer projecting “neediness” caused by relentless efforts to compensate for what happened to him when he was 13 years old.

So do an inventory and see if there is some slender-bodied, short-black-haired, five-foot-something hottie from the past who you’re still chasing after. Stop chasing her and the odds go up that you’ll find her.

Peace and piece,

- RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Not too long ago, I was a guest speaker at an event hosted by a fellow seduction guru. I seldom do this, but you wouldn’t believe how many of these guys are secret fans of mine, and anyway, this guy made me pretty famous again in his book.

I started my talk by asking a question, which was this:

“By a show hands, how many here find themselves dwelling over and over again on mistakes they make with women? Situations that just haven’t or don’t work out?”

Would you believe that every single person in the room – there were over 150 smart guys there- raised their hand. Every one.

So I picked a guy out of the audience.

“Let me ask you this,” I said. “How many times would you guess you’ve run these failures in your head over the past 6 months? Just a rough guess.”

Now, do you think it was less than 100? You would be wrong.

Do you think it was less than 1,000? Guess again.

No, this otherwise seemingly together guy, who looked on the surface like he’d be a master of this stuff, had run these failure scenarios in his mind over 5,000 times!

Now, here we have this guy who really wants to change with women. He really wants success and satisfaction. But this same guy is repeating in his mind, over and over, what he did wrong, feeling all the bad feelings he felt at the time, seeing himself doing and responding the same useless things in the same way.

So given that he is doing all this, (and doing it mostly outside of his conscious awareness) is it any friggin’ wonder that his brain, given such repeated instructions…

….Keeps Him Repeating His Same Mistakes Over And Over And Over Again?

Is any of this sounding familiar to you?

I bet it is. I bet it is. I bet it is.

Now, was this guy some sort of self-hating, self-sabotager who is “afraid of success” or suffers from “low self-esteem”?

It’s unlikely. After teaching thousands of guys to succeed with women over 20 years, I’m convinced guys want to succeed, big time, when it comes to desirable women.

What’s actually going on is that he’d been dwelling on his mistakes in an effort to learn from them and correct them.

But the way he in which he was trying to learn from his mistakes it-and likely the way you are too-was just reprogramming the mistakes back in.

That is why it is not enough to positively program yourself for success. You must also come up with an efficient way to notice what you are doing incorrectly, without re-programming your errors back in.

The key to this is to create what I call a “self-review/optimum learning state”.

In this state, you are looking at what you did from a relaxed, calm, alert state. And most importantly, you are looking at your mistakes through a set of positive beliefs and filters, so you can extract maximum information, learn what you need to, then move on.

That is what this guy needed. Likely it is what you need. And you can learn it all in my Nail Your Inner Game Program. Your copy is waiting for you, so go here to check out what you could be learning and putting to use for your ultimate sarging success.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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