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Your “Get Out Of Rejection Jail” Card

Posted by Ross Jeffries on April 14th, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever felt a complete collapse of energy when you don’t achieve the results you wanted?  Particularly when you make your move with a woman and she shuts you down cold?

Some students who have experienced this say it gets to the point where they can almost see the future – they can perceive or predict rejection before it even happens.

Now does past rejection give us the ability to see the future?  Not really.

What happens is you want to move forward, but you also want to be totally certain before you take a step. Since these two things are not logically possible you have two conflicting desires bumping up against one another.

The resulting “friction” is what causes the suffering and the perception of “perceiving rejection”.

The solution is to release the need to be certain and then to feel the raw physical sensations of uncertainty without the internal dialog or imagery. Just track the raw sensations in your body, noting every ten seconds out loud if they are “Same” or “Changing” (veterans of some of my Speed Seduction® seminars are familiar with this technique).

Once you have the raw physical feeling separated from the imagery and dialog, it no longer feeds the limiting ideas in the imagery and dialog – there is no more fuel to power the engine of your ongoing “story” that has kept you limited, so the imagery and dialog just tend to drop without you having to attempt to drop them.

And that is your “get out of rejection jail” card…

This:

  1. Frees you to create a NEW story about how you respond, what you can do, etc.
  2. Frees up that raw energy to power the NEW story.
  3. Quiets the internal “noise/friction” in your system so you can perceive what is going on with other people: the accuracy and speed of your intuition and calibration will skyrocket WITHOUT EFFORT.
  4. Quiets the noise for your EXTERNAL communication so that what you say to others will not have to push out through your noise/friction. This means your messages can be delivered with far less “push/voltage/intensity” so they don’t creep people out/blow them out of the water/break rapport etc.
  5. Changes your vibe to one that is grounded, quiet, flexible and attractive BEFORE YOU EVEN OPEN YOUR MOUTH.

That’s not bad for one simple process, is it?

For those of you who are familiar with my Magick/PI stuff, can you imagine what this cleaned up state/cleaned up energy could do for your sigils and other forms of ritual work?

Hmmmm…

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I can promise you this: when you untangle yourself like this, it makes you MUCH more appealing, much more efficient a learning machine, creates a charisma INDEPENDENT of external validation or your social skill set, creates an INFORMED, INTELLIGENT motivation and enthusiasm that doesn’t rollercoaster up and down based on how things turn out on any particular day or with any particular woman.

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Leverage That Gets You Out Of The “Cold Shower Loop”

Posted by Ross Jeffries on April 1st, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my 20+ years of teaching smart men like you how to get the results you want with the women you desire, I’ve found when people are stuck, their natural tendency is to push harder within the system they are using. That seldom works.

When I want to help people change, I look for leverage, and it is almost never obvious to the person seeking help.

Think of it as a “cold shower loop” keeping them on ice:

Feels lousy about failures with women————>is entangled up with—————>natural healthy desire for love, sex, fun, companionship, touch————->leads to running bad feelings and failure memories in mind———–leads to bring entangled, painful emotion, limiting sense of possibility along with legit desires, into interactions with women———>leads to freezing or little or limited actions/interactions with unsatisfying results————–>Feels lousy about failures with wome

And on and on the arrows go…

So my first thought is, if you’re caught in this loop, stop thinking of it as an inferiority “complex”.

Instead, look at the PROCESS you continue to run. If I took that process and dropped it into the head, body and energetic field of anyone, they’d be fucked up badly within a few months, even if they previously would be doing swimmingly.

BTW, even the loop I laid (ha ha) out isn’t complete. Most likely there are physiological things going on; when you don’t feel good about your life or significant portions of it, chances are you don’t take proper care of your diet, exercise, sleep etc and then your body feels even worse. A body with poor or limited energy etc is likely to lead to a mind that searches for reasons why you feel bad, when it fact, you may feel bad because your body is tired, undernourished, etc!

So into that loop I would probably put

——–> because one feels bad about this area of life, one doesn’t take proper care of physical health———> which predisposes mind to put negative interpretations on events to match the bad feelings in body

So, stop looking at yourself as having a “complex” and instead look at the process.

This is my first step, because it shows you how to start finding leverage to feel better physically and emotionally OUTSIDE of your interactions with women.

I’m not saying to shift your focus permanently off getting good skills with women. I’m saying, temporarily, put a lot more focus in other areas that might be tripping you up and holding you back.

This gets you leverage over the loop, however, there is also a gap: the effects may not show up for a few weeks or months.

But given that, all the more reason to get on it and decide that making a change is something you will do, starting right now.

The women are waiting; so what in Francesca’s flannel nighties are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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The One-Two-Three-Four That Short-Sells Your Score

Posted by Ross Jeffries on December 11th, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

When things don’t quite go your way…when you strike out with every woman you meet today (or all week long), when you feel hurt, it is natural to want to protect yourself.

It triggers off a “one-two-three-four” thought process…

  • Why did this happen to me?
  • This is ALWAYS going to happen to me.
  • This ONLY happens to me.
  • This happened because of something I did wrong.

The easiest way to protect yourself : don’t put yourself out there. Don’t approach any more women, ever.  Never Sarge.  When a woman throws herself at you, rather than run the risk she might not be THE ONE, just forget the possibility that it might be the best fucking lay you’ve ever had.  Rosie and her sisters are always there, anyway.  Right?

Wrong Song, Mr. Strong…

Newsflash: every person experiences fear, sorrow and hesitation and backsliding, suffering and restriction.

No need to feel bad about it, as the song says “Everybody hurts, sometime.”

Let’s see if we can oppose these lies with more neutral ideas. Let’s return you to neutrality before we aim to return you to other aspects of power.

Somewhere, somehow, you have some very vague representation of handling this better and want to find a better model for handling this.

All of the above are TRUE statements, no drama, no extra weight in that baggage.

Now, let’s tackle the lies and other less than useful things:

  1. Why did this happen to me? Wrong question. Focuses your mind on what went wrong and your “failures”. Better question: what can I do to prevent this kind of thing from happening again without zapping my zest for life and openness to new adventures? If not, how can I now best view this as the worthwhile price to pay for having an open mind and life?
  2. This is ALWAYS going to happen to me. Unlikely, if you learn what you need to. People can always change their feelings, that is true, but so can you. If someone can change their loving feelings for you because of your behavior then why can’t you change your negative feelings about yourself because of NEW behavior? Hmmmm… Change does and will happen. It’s how you choose to handle it. No guarantees on this rotating mudball other than naked baby in, stop breathing to leave.
  3. This ONLY happens to me. Horseshit. Read “Dear Abby”. Watch Oprah. She had this guy on whose fiance called off the wedding 5 hours before it was supposed to go on. He wound up writing a book called Honeymoon with My Brother. Best thing that ever happened to him.
  4. This happened because of something I did wrong. Here is a tricky one as it IS possible that some old patterns of emotional response or old patterns of behavior reared up and kept you from having the kinds of responses that would have kept you more in the drivers seat.

In which case, THIS GIRL WHO JUST DISSED YOU IS A GREAT SPIRITUAL GURU AND TEACHER HERE TO SLAP YOU AWAKE WITH THE PAIN SO YOU CAN SEE THESE PATTERNS AND RESOLVE THEM.

Look, what you did “wrong” isn’t the entire contents in the book of your life. They are just “markers” to show you what needs to be read and re-written.

ANYTHING THAT COMES UP COMES UP TO BE LEARNED FROM, HANDLED, PURIFIED, REFINED, RECYCLED, TRANSMUTED, RELEASED towards the vision of whom you everyday are more and more becoming.

So…find a place of objective, clear, grounded clarity to view what happened and find the patterns where you would like more power and choice.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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When You Worry Too Much How She’ll “Take It” From You…

Posted by Ross Jeffries on April 9th, 2010
 When You Worry Too Much How Shell Take It From You...

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Mastering your girl-getting game is a process – even for experienced Seduction masters who effortlessly approach women and know the steps to getting them hot and bothered and wanting more.

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A Secret, Sure-Fire Success Mindset That Keeps
Girl-Getting Masters In The Game For Extra Innings

First of all, remember: fear and anxiety and tensing up around women F@@K US UP. Stay relaxed in the immediate present.

Give yourself permission to just practice, not give a f@@k whether she says yes. Stop focusing on outcomes, because pressure to achieve those outcomes (arranging the next meeting, going back to her place, etc) will ratchet up the pressure and screw up your Sarging vibe.

You’ll feel like a loser and unattractive when you “flub your lines” and feel forced to run out of there with your tail between your legs, instead of getting some tail for tonight.

No matter WHAT happens with this (or any) chick, you don’t know what’s GOING to happen, unless you DECIDE that it will. Being PERSISTENT when things don’t at first go according to plan is KEY for “upping your game” and getting with more succulent hot babes.

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So, when you see that sultry vixen in the little black dress eyeing you up from across the way while stroking the stem of her martini glass, focus NOT on the GOAL getting her out of that dress, but instead on how your forthcoming interaction with her will improve your overall “game” with the ladies.

Worry less about how you’re gonna get her to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle and you’re MORE likely to go there with her (and many other women).

Ok guys, she’s waiting for you. Now, what in jumping Jennie’s drawers are you waiting FOR? Let’s go!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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