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Your “Get Out Of Rejection Jail” Card

Posted by Ross Jeffries on April 14th, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever felt a complete collapse of energy when you don’t achieve the results you wanted?  Particularly when you make your move with a woman and she shuts you down cold?

Some students who have experienced this say it gets to the point where they can almost see the future – they can perceive or predict rejection before it even happens.

Now does past rejection give us the ability to see the future?  Not really.

What happens is you want to move forward, but you also want to be totally certain before you take a step. Since these two things are not logically possible you have two conflicting desires bumping up against one another.

The resulting “friction” is what causes the suffering and the perception of “perceiving rejection”.

The solution is to release the need to be certain and then to feel the raw physical sensations of uncertainty without the internal dialog or imagery. Just track the raw sensations in your body, noting every ten seconds out loud if they are “Same” or “Changing” (veterans of some of my Speed Seduction® seminars are familiar with this technique).

Once you have the raw physical feeling separated from the imagery and dialog, it no longer feeds the limiting ideas in the imagery and dialog – there is no more fuel to power the engine of your ongoing “story” that has kept you limited, so the imagery and dialog just tend to drop without you having to attempt to drop them.

And that is your “get out of rejection jail” card…

This:

  1. Frees you to create a NEW story about how you respond, what you can do, etc.
  2. Frees up that raw energy to power the NEW story.
  3. Quiets the internal “noise/friction” in your system so you can perceive what is going on with other people: the accuracy and speed of your intuition and calibration will skyrocket WITHOUT EFFORT.
  4. Quiets the noise for your EXTERNAL communication so that what you say to others will not have to push out through your noise/friction. This means your messages can be delivered with far less “push/voltage/intensity” so they don’t creep people out/blow them out of the water/break rapport etc.
  5. Changes your vibe to one that is grounded, quiet, flexible and attractive BEFORE YOU EVEN OPEN YOUR MOUTH.

That’s not bad for one simple process, is it?

For those of you who are familiar with my Magick/PI stuff, can you imagine what this cleaned up state/cleaned up energy could do for your sigils and other forms of ritual work?

Hmmmm…

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I can promise you this: when you untangle yourself like this, it makes you MUCH more appealing, much more efficient a learning machine, creates a charisma INDEPENDENT of external validation or your social skill set, creates an INFORMED, INTELLIGENT motivation and enthusiasm that doesn’t rollercoaster up and down based on how things turn out on any particular day or with any particular woman.

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Charisma And Vulnerability: Things You Can’t Just Rehearse

Posted by Ross Jeffries on December 1st, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

When we consider the concept of “charisma”, there are two elements I often point out – particularly when they find themselves rehearsing their lines or what they’re going to say when they approach a woman.

These are: a) stepping into the unknown and b) holding space for the other person to have whatever initial response they are going to have.

A student asked me whether that means “surrendering” to the unknown (a), and making yourself vulnerable of being open to receive (b).

He was close, but here is the true meaning. If you’re feeling the need to “rehearse” or play it in your mind 100 times before just walking up to her, consider this…

1) Stepping into the unknown and being truly ok without having to know ahead of time what is going to happen. You accept that you don’t know, and maybe at first that you don’t like that you don’t know, but you don’t dramatize it or spin around it.

You just don’t know. And you decide to move forward anyway.

2)  By hold space I mean:

  • It’s ok for them to have their FIRST response. You don’t take their FIRST response as being their final response.
  • You don’t REQUIRE their permission OR their support for your new moves and your courageous action.

A lot of guys think that a woman OWES it to them to be polite open because the guy is willing to take the “risk” to go up and meet them/talk to them first.

Well, that attitude is bullshit. The woman hasn’t signed a contract saying that she is REQUIRED to support you in your efforts to improve your sex/love/social life.

You’re stepping forward because it is what YOU , as an adult, have chosen to do and because you are determined(DETERMINED) to bust through your limitations.

Now, can you be determined AND relaxed AND even have a sense of humor about it?

You can if you know how to untangle yourself.

Let me clarify one more thing: just because you don’t REQUIRE certainty or REQUIRE the other person to have a “good response” and be supportive doesn’t mean you don’t take those things as being good or something of value.

It’s just not what determines your stepping forward.

Some guys are waiting to be super-powerful and radiating charm BEFORE they make a move.

Well, yes, you CAN rehearse in charm etc, for sure.

But for some guys, it’s a mistake because they are already too much in their heads and, or THEM, the rehearsing just gets in the way of taking action.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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When You Worry Too Much How She’ll “Take It” From You…

Posted by Ross Jeffries on April 9th, 2010
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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Mastering your girl-getting game is a process – even for experienced Seduction masters who effortlessly approach women and know the steps to getting them hot and bothered and wanting more.

ca 63292172 180 When You Worry Too Much How Shell Take It From You...Every so often, you’ll strike out. Once in a while, you’ll hit a bit of a slump when it comes to the ladies. You might even worry that you’ve lost your touch. So let me reveal to you

A Secret, Sure-Fire Success Mindset That Keeps
Girl-Getting Masters In The Game For Extra Innings

First of all, remember: fear and anxiety and tensing up around women F@@K US UP. Stay relaxed in the immediate present.

Give yourself permission to just practice, not give a f@@k whether she says yes. Stop focusing on outcomes, because pressure to achieve those outcomes (arranging the next meeting, going back to her place, etc) will ratchet up the pressure and screw up your Sarging vibe.

You’ll feel like a loser and unattractive when you “flub your lines” and feel forced to run out of there with your tail between your legs, instead of getting some tail for tonight.

No matter WHAT happens with this (or any) chick, you don’t know what’s GOING to happen, unless you DECIDE that it will. Being PERSISTENT when things don’t at first go according to plan is KEY for “upping your game” and getting with more succulent hot babes.

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So, when you see that sultry vixen in the little black dress eyeing you up from across the way while stroking the stem of her martini glass, focus NOT on the GOAL getting her out of that dress, but instead on how your forthcoming interaction with her will improve your overall “game” with the ladies.

Worry less about how you’re gonna get her to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle and you’re MORE likely to go there with her (and many other women).

Ok guys, she’s waiting for you. Now, what in jumping Jennie’s drawers are you waiting FOR? Let’s go!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Breaking Free Of The Shackles Of Worry About Rejection!

Posted by Ross Jeffries on February 26th, 2010
 Breaking Free Of The Shackles Of Worry About Rejection!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Recently on my blog, I delved into how to handle it when a woman cancels a meeting or date and gives an “excuse” – especially when it happens through a text message. Even skilled Seduction masters run up against this from time to time – it’s a challenge almost every guy faces.

ca 30407762 180 Breaking Free Of The Shackles Of Worry About Rejection!Sometimes, this form of rejection can really get you down. (What’s that they say about how all your “ups and downs” with women should be in the bedroom?) A student wrote to me in response to that post; apparently a chick he was really into had just flaked via text message and he wasn’t taking it well…

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Ross, your post about chicks who cancel through text message hit me right at home. I have been seeing this one chick for about four weeks now, and I thought things were going well. She was supposed to come over tonight. Then, I got a text message where she cancelled and made no mention of rescheduling or even that she was sorry she had to cancel.

How should I respond to it? My energy just collapsed when she said this. In previous situations this would be enough for me to say “f@@k you, you’re out” and move on. For some reason, I perceived this rejection was coming way before it happened. What should I do?

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Sounds like you want to move forward, but you also need to be totally certain before you take a step. However, these two things are two conflicting desires bumping up against one another. The resulting “friction” is what causes the suffering and you “perceiving rejection”.

The All-Important First Step That Breaks You Free
Of The Shackles Of Uncertainty And The Feeling
Of “Impending Doom”

ca 83930534 325 Breaking Free Of The Shackles Of Worry About Rejection!You need to let go of the need to be certain. Be aware of your uncertainty, but separate the raw physical sensations of uncertainty from the internal dialog or imagery you put yourself through when you’re worried she might cancel a meeting or dump you altogether.

Once you accomplish this, there is no more fuel to power the engine of your ongoing “story” that has kept you chained to the restraints of doubt. Now, you have the energy to create a NEW story about how you respond, what you can do, etc., that will get you laid far more often.

With this change, the “vibe” you put out to women will be grounded, quiet, flexible and attractive BEFORE YOU EVEN OPEN YOUR MOUTH. It will no longer have to push out through your noise/friction. Your messages can be delivered with far less “push/voltage/intensity,” so they don’t creep women out / blow them out of the water / break the rapport necessary to get her into your bed.

That’s not a bad result for one simple process, is it?

Bet that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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