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Signal Recognition Process: An Introduction

Posted by Ross Jeffries on January 19th, 2012

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Any sequence of mental thinking that you go through, starts with a flow of energy in the body that kickstarts the thought process.  That’s the Signal Recognition Process.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Still Stuck In Your Own Head (And On The Couch Alone)?

Posted by Ross Jeffries on October 1st, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

More than once I’ve heard from students who have been learning the skills, gaining knowledge of the techniques, but yet, they’re still not moving forward with women like they want to be.

They get pumped up about going out and Sarging, yet somehow nightfall comes and each flip of the TV remote brings up another hourlong excuse to say “Let me just catch this one last episode, and then it’s up and at ‘em!”

Before you know it, you may be “up and at ‘em” but everyone else has gone home.

“Shucks…maybe next weekend.”

If your a$$ feels like a giant magnetic field inexorably held onto your couch while you find every non-excuse possible to avoid going out and getting some a$$, read this:

1) First, bear in mind that learning skills can be a matter of breaking the task down into smaller pieces.

So why not just break the task down into seeing if you can approach ten women and the only goal is to make them laugh? You don’t even have to introduce yourself. Just make them laugh and walk away.

Try this, “Excuse me… but I was just wondering what you are doing to keep the guys away… cuz it’s not working on me. My name is Charles.”

Then walk away. That simple.

2) When you talk to yourself about it, acknowledge and them take ownership.

Like this, “I feel stuck and I claim my ownership and management of this stuckness to the point where I find my ways to get moving and enjoy getting moving.”

3) Give yourself a larger penalty for not acting than acting.

Think of an organization you hate. Like Greenpeace or PETA or the NRA or the Republican or Democratic Party.  Whatever DOESN’T float your boat.  I personally hate televangelists, so I’d make out a $1,000 check to Geronimo Goo-Gargle Ministries. Give the check, dated 10 days from today to a trusted friend. Tell him if you can’t return to him within 10 days, and honestly tell him that you’ve spoken to 10 women, he’s to mail it to the cause you hate.

This way your mind will say, “Ok, there is no totally 100% pain free solution, but the pain I’ll get from not acting is far worse than acting, so I’ll act!”

This takes advantage of the fact that our mind uses comparison. Compared to a guaranteed way to be 100% comfortable and 100% certain you’ll succeed easily with every approach, the pain of approaching women might seem like a lot (until you claim your ownership and management). But compared to sending $1000 to an asshole like Rev. Goo-Gargle, the pain is NOTHING.

A better way to watch TV on Saturday night…AFTER sharing
“Adventures On The Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle” of course!

These are just some ways to get yourself moving.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Oh yes, here is one more. Try going out of town to another city where no one knows you and do your practicing there for a weekend.  Let me know how this helps.

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Untangling Your Deepest Fears With Women: What’s Stopping You?

Posted by Ross Jeffries on August 16th, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

[This is "Part 2" that follows up on my recent post "Untangling Your Deepest Fears With Women: A Farming Analogy"]

We left off last time with a question: what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

As with any personal change, there are the tools like guided visualization, belief change, personal coaching/group feedback, setting goals, etc.

All of these have value. All are useful. Some more than others, and for each of these, I’ve got modifications to the more standard stuff out there that I think makes my versions far more useful and effective.

However, I believe that when a person is “entrenched” in limiting and engraved ways of thinking, feeling, responding and acting, what is first and foremost needed is some “mental spaciousness”.  A place of clear, unprogrammed awareness and calm from which to use all the other tools and do all the other change work.

In any area of change there are those processes/things that:

1. Need to be subtracted out. They just don’t serve at all. They are just “noise” in the line.

These could be:

a) internal dialog that gets in your way
b) beliefs about yourself that are useless and contain no real information (I am ugly, I always fail)
c) energetic overloads-you are so amped up around women that you can’t hold still. (These can also be diminished or transmuted).

2. Things/processes that need to be added in. These could be:

a) simple skill sets (knowing how to physically make moves on women, knowing how to elicit trance words, do walkups, etc)

b) beliefs that power the skill sets, (I never take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone; it’s just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or responding in THAT moment, and it’s always subject to change).

c) different mixes of energy/vibe: strong, playful, intuitive, sincere, challenging. In other words, it could be an issue on the vibrational/energetic level.

d) simply doing more repetitions: some people just need to do more of what is working. They need self-monitoring/motivation skills.

e) skills for learning from mistakes without getting stuck back in them and having an INFORMED enthusiasm. (I’ve developed a protocol for this that is truly amazing-I call it “The Extractor”.

3. Processes/things which need to be increased. That could be any of what I’ve just mentioned in 2. Things which you already do well, that contribute to your success, that already work. The increase could be in frequency, or intensity, or precision or even joy of use!

4. Those things which are useful, but need to be diminished, either in frequency or intensity, or only used in the right sequence or correct proportions with other things, or used in the right context.

Again, that could be any of the items in #2 or anything else that actually is useful that the person already does that can serve in the right
proportion or context. So you could diminish the frequency, intensity, etc.

5. Finally, there are those things which represent great sources of mental energy that neither should be diminished or eliminated, but instead transmuted and refined and then used as pure energy for the achievement of 1-4.

Note: I did NOT say “clearing”. Clearing is better than having them blocking, but transmuting takes all that energy and puts it to use.

Just imagine if all or 90% of the energy/emotion that has been weighing you down, blocking you, enfearing you, were converted to raw energy for your peace of mind, joy, discipline, creativity, etc.

Now, the women are waiting.  What, in the name of Tammy’s tights, are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Untangling Your Deepest Fears With Women: A Farming Analogy

Posted by Ross Jeffries on August 13th, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In one of the discussion forms where I check in from time to time, a participant told me that part of his fear of approaching women comes from worrying what she might think or say.

It’s more than just fear of rejection; he fears the woman will think he’s a creep and thus tell all her super hot friends. Intellectually, he knows this is unfounded because in every other area of life he can handle, no matter what people think of him.

Here is my response:

How do you know it won’t work the OTHER way: that you’ll give her the most amazingly incredible sexual satisfaction and she’ll tell ALL of her hot friends that you are a DEMON with your tongue, your fingers, your prick, your toes, your elbows, that you have ten fingers like a tongue and a tongue like ten fingers, etc. etc.?

Imagine your mind to be like a fertile field of soil. For whatever reason, you plow the soil over and over again in ONE groove, so that, over the years, that ONE groove grows deeper and deeper.

Once in a while, at random, you plow a different groove, but not very often, so that groove either gets covered over again by random drifts of dirt, by the winds, rain, etc. But still, that different groove is there a little bit.

Then, one day, you decide the soil is dry, so you want to irrigate it. You divert some water from a nearby stream and send it all flooding into the field, and lo and behold, MOST OF THE WATER GOES RIGHT INTO THE DEEPEST GROOVE.

Now, these grooves or tracks or habits of the mind are fixed patterns of perceiving/feeling/responding to our world.

Some are minor, like scratching your ass with your left hand when you are nervous. These are pretty easily spotted.

Some are more deeper into the “operating system” of the mind; for example, always assuming the WORST POSSIBLE OUTCOME to the exclusion of even considering a good outcome.

These deeper grooves tend to be invisible. People don’t even see the stuckness and instead try to work within in it; if they see things for the worst, they often don’t even recognize that and instead just try to cope with the projected horrible outcome.

Now, it gets MORE interesting.

There is raw energy bound up here. By this I mean the grooves are not just patterns of thought, but they have energy associated to and with them.  In your case, there is some energetic quality of fear, anxiety. I would guess that it has qualities of making you feel both contracted inward, like a tortoise pulling its head inside its shell and also feelings of being spread thin like you are going to disappear. I’m guessing, but it is an educated guess from helping thousands of guys.

I would guess it also has an overall “antsy” “jumpy” “agitated” “can’t sit still” flavor to it as well.

And finally, probably a sense of “urgency”. Like you have to get this handled, now.

With all of these various energetic flavors, it’s no wonder you are feeling conflicted, tired, like your system is grinding its gears. Sort of like wanting to step forward with one foot while you step back with the other, or putting the car in reverse and drive at the same time.

In short, I think the answer to all of this is NOT more “cognition” or activity in think space. It’s not to be found in your self-talk or what you visualize, not in YOUR case.

In your case, what will change all of this is the energy you are riding on and bringing in. It is THE core of the issue, the rest is just window dressing around it.

But you are trying to address it using the wrong system.

So the question becomes, what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Leverage That Gets You Out Of The “Cold Shower Loop”

Posted by Ross Jeffries on April 1st, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my 20+ years of teaching smart men like you how to get the results you want with the women you desire, I’ve found when people are stuck, their natural tendency is to push harder within the system they are using. That seldom works.

When I want to help people change, I look for leverage, and it is almost never obvious to the person seeking help.

Think of it as a “cold shower loop” keeping them on ice:

Feels lousy about failures with women————>is entangled up with—————>natural healthy desire for love, sex, fun, companionship, touch————->leads to running bad feelings and failure memories in mind———–leads to bring entangled, painful emotion, limiting sense of possibility along with legit desires, into interactions with women———>leads to freezing or little or limited actions/interactions with unsatisfying results————–>Feels lousy about failures with wome

And on and on the arrows go…

So my first thought is, if you’re caught in this loop, stop thinking of it as an inferiority “complex”.

Instead, look at the PROCESS you continue to run. If I took that process and dropped it into the head, body and energetic field of anyone, they’d be fucked up badly within a few months, even if they previously would be doing swimmingly.

BTW, even the loop I laid (ha ha) out isn’t complete. Most likely there are physiological things going on; when you don’t feel good about your life or significant portions of it, chances are you don’t take proper care of your diet, exercise, sleep etc and then your body feels even worse. A body with poor or limited energy etc is likely to lead to a mind that searches for reasons why you feel bad, when it fact, you may feel bad because your body is tired, undernourished, etc!

So into that loop I would probably put

——–> because one feels bad about this area of life, one doesn’t take proper care of physical health———> which predisposes mind to put negative interpretations on events to match the bad feelings in body

So, stop looking at yourself as having a “complex” and instead look at the process.

This is my first step, because it shows you how to start finding leverage to feel better physically and emotionally OUTSIDE of your interactions with women.

I’m not saying to shift your focus permanently off getting good skills with women. I’m saying, temporarily, put a lot more focus in other areas that might be tripping you up and holding you back.

This gets you leverage over the loop, however, there is also a gap: the effects may not show up for a few weeks or months.

But given that, all the more reason to get on it and decide that making a change is something you will do, starting right now.

The women are waiting; so what in Francesca’s flannel nighties are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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You See A Hot Girl, But What About Those Guys?

Posted by Ross Jeffries on October 24th, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Seems that yesterday’s post on the failure vibe that stifles a man’s girl-getting game from the inside really hit a nerve.

To respond to several of you who wrote with substantially the same question – what to do when it seems like every woman you see is with a man or a group of men – I’m going to share an email from a longtime fan that captures the essence of it.

The situation he brings up is common – all too common – for guys who want to meet really hot women.

You see, hot women LOVE company. They often love MALE company, because having a guy around:

  1. Keeps away the weaker, wimpier guys who assume that the escorting guy is the boyfriend.
  2. It makes them feel wanted and needed.
  3. Sometimes the guy IS the boyfriend but it doesn’t matter because, if you can approach it right, you often can STILL pull the girl.

Ok, here is the email/question:

“I had a question and I would like to hear your insight on following situation: You see a stunning girl and you would like to go and talk to her but she is surrounded with two or maybe more guys. Not in the bar or something like that..

My first thought is that one of them is her boyfriend and I should stay away. Especially if I see some touching going on. They could be as well close friends, but the question is, what would you say to a girl in this situation? I mean you really don’t know whether the boyfriend is next to her but in case he does what then?”

Ok, As I said above, NEVER make assumptions about whether or not a girl is “taken” or if the guy with her is her “boyfriend” (or “bore-friend” for that matter)..

For all you know, the dude is her “orbiter”. Someone who circles around her massive ego, to keep her feeling good about herself.

In any event, the key here is to approach and TALK TO THE GUY OR GUYS.

Do NOT approach the woman directly.

Simply go up to one of the guys.

Open your mouth and say, “You guys are a really cute couple. How did you meet?”

Trust me, if they are NOT a couple, she’ll quickly let you know.

From there, you are in.

Just remember: don’t ever make assumptions about whether a girl is taken or not.  When you ass-ume, you stand a greater chance of feeling like an ass because you didn’t step up, then you will of looking like an ass if you did.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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When You Worry Too Much How She’ll “Take It” From You…

Posted by Ross Jeffries on April 9th, 2010
 When You Worry Too Much How Shell Take It From You...

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Mastering your girl-getting game is a process – even for experienced Seduction masters who effortlessly approach women and know the steps to getting them hot and bothered and wanting more.

ca 63292172 180 When You Worry Too Much How Shell Take It From You...Every so often, you’ll strike out. Once in a while, you’ll hit a bit of a slump when it comes to the ladies. You might even worry that you’ve lost your touch. So let me reveal to you

A Secret, Sure-Fire Success Mindset That Keeps
Girl-Getting Masters In The Game For Extra Innings

First of all, remember: fear and anxiety and tensing up around women F@@K US UP. Stay relaxed in the immediate present.

Give yourself permission to just practice, not give a f@@k whether she says yes. Stop focusing on outcomes, because pressure to achieve those outcomes (arranging the next meeting, going back to her place, etc) will ratchet up the pressure and screw up your Sarging vibe.

You’ll feel like a loser and unattractive when you “flub your lines” and feel forced to run out of there with your tail between your legs, instead of getting some tail for tonight.

No matter WHAT happens with this (or any) chick, you don’t know what’s GOING to happen, unless you DECIDE that it will. Being PERSISTENT when things don’t at first go according to plan is KEY for “upping your game” and getting with more succulent hot babes.

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So, when you see that sultry vixen in the little black dress eyeing you up from across the way while stroking the stem of her martini glass, focus NOT on the GOAL getting her out of that dress, but instead on how your forthcoming interaction with her will improve your overall “game” with the ladies.

Worry less about how you’re gonna get her to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle and you’re MORE likely to go there with her (and many other women).

Ok guys, she’s waiting for you. Now, what in jumping Jennie’s drawers are you waiting FOR? Let’s go!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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When Past Bad Feelings Keep You In 24-Hour Lockdown, And How To Break Free!

Posted by Ross Jeffries on March 6th, 2010
 When Past Bad Feelings Keep You In 24 Hour Lockdown, And How To Break Free!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Last week here on my blog, I explained why it’s so important to stop c@&k-blocking yourself and denying yourself the opportunity to experience joy and pleasure with women because you think you’re worried she might think you’re more “not” than “hot.”

ca 67938416 180 When Past Bad Feelings Keep You In 24 Hour Lockdown, And How To Break Free!I received an e-mail from a fan who read my post and told me his dilemma. He’s 31 years old, has never gotten laid and doubts he ever will. He and has a sense of worthlesness and insecurity that he’s never “shaken” since he was a teenager who got picked on a lot in high school.

Because he got laughed at by the pretty girls he was attracted to back then, he’s still “stuck” in a pattern of being unable to approach women due to his sense that “relationships are meant for other people, not me.”

For him, it’s not about whether he’s good looking enough, it’s about what happened in his past that trips him up today.

Reach Out And Take The Key That Sets You Free
From Your Life-Sentence Of Involuntary Celibacy

I don’t know this guy’s life story, but I’d wager a dollar that his real issue is NOT where the “block” started but how, up until now, he’s been entangled in it and FEEDING it and REAFFIRMING IT.

Let me re-frame the conversation
: Imagine if all of the worthlessness and insecurity he’s ever felt or experienced could be converted/refined/recycled into PURE energy for his peace of mind, balance, informed enthusiasm, and vision of the man he has become already in other areas of his life?

What if he could learn, from a place of clear eyes and new vision, without the old filters and responses (those memories of the past) standing in the way and “jumping in his line of sight” every time he “swallows hard” and “goes for broke” and FINALLY takes a “shot” at approaching a woman?

Listen: it’s not always about what you have, but rather what you do with it, that can make all the difference.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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When Fear Stops You Dead In Your Tracks In Front Of A Woman

Posted by Ross Jeffries on December 26th, 2009
 When Fear Stops You Dead In Your Tracks In Front Of A Woman

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Have you experienced the feeling of knowing exactly what to do or say when you envision yourself powerfully commanding and mastering any life situation in your mind… but when you’re actually in the situation, you freeze up, “forget your lines,” and take no action at all because you suddenly have no idea what to do?

fotolia 1599527 small When Fear Stops You Dead In Your Tracks In Front Of A WomanNot too long ago, I got a note from a student who can easily envision what happens when he walks up to women and then gets them all hot and bothered for him.

But when he is out in public surrounded by approachable hotties who have not yet had the chance to say YES to who he is and what he gives to the world, he feels afraid and can’t get himself moving and talking to women in the real world.

Here’s my answer:

I think the problem here is you are imagining a MOUNTAIN of work and meaning rolled into one small action (the Sarge).

In other words, I think every time you see a woman you want, you approach it on the basis of your ENTIRE GIRL-GETTING GAME being on the line. Thus, simply going up and talking to her becomes (for you) one huge, massive, impossible and measureless labor.

What if you just viewed her as ONE girl? ONE chance to learn one small piece of a skill?

I think what you are experiencing is NOT fear. It’s OVERWHELM.

When you were a baby and learning to walk, you didn’t stack all that meaning on ONE step, did you? You took it one step at a time.

Also, you are hanging to certainty. Rather than accept that you simply don’t know what her response will be, you cling to the certainty that she WILL reject you!

It’s funny: humans would rather project the CERTAINTY of failure and pain, rather than embrace the uncertainty of NOT knowing!

Rather than aiming at confidence, try aiming at neutrality. Neutrality doesn’t mean projecting that you KNOW you can do it and you KNOW she will drop to her knees and blow you.

Neutrality means sticking to facts:

  1. I don’t know what is going to happen.
  2. I don’t like that I don’t know.
  3. Let’s go find out and see; maybe I will have fun and I CERTAINLY will learn SOMETHING.

Even if you learn that it was harder than you thought, that STILL is a learning that you can use to change. Or you might learn that your feet feel really good when you walk up. Or you might learn that ONE part of your body actually can relax and feel good while all the rest feels shaky!

You can ALWAYS, ALWAYS learn something.

Fact is, you don’t know WHAT you will learn.

But you CAN be certain about one thing: If you don’t get moving, you certainly WILL remain frustrated and alone! I GUARANTEE THAT!

So maybe you ought to trade that GUARANTEE for some uncertainty and see what you can learn. ONE STEP AT A TIME. Because you only learn ONE STEP AT A TIME ANYWAY! So take a step and learn whatever.

Remember: one step forward in your Sarge is one step forward toward getting laid. Stand still and you won’t get closer to getting laid; take a step and who knows – that might put you in front of the scandalously sexy babe who has been wondering when you would finally get around to making your move.

If you ask me, that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Getting That “Wrong Chick” Out Of Your Inner Mind!

Posted by Ross Jeffries on December 17th, 2009
 Getting That Wrong Chick Out Of Your Inner Mind!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Almost every day I get e-mails and phone calls from students who have figured out how to overcome their fear with women. Oftentimes they don’t even know what caused it. Then they figure it out – and master it.

ca 0000001 small 163x300 Getting That Wrong Chick Out Of Your Inner Mind!Please keep the emails coming. This is why I teach smart guys like you how to master your girl-getting game. Today, I’m going to let one of them do the talking. Here goes:

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Dear Ross, as a student of yours, I want to tell you how much Speed Seduction® has changed not just what I do, but my entire way of thinking about women.

Here’s the scoop:

Back when I was in college I had a “summer love” girlfriend. It was all romance and making out until I went back to school and she stayed back home. She cried when I went back to school and told me she planned to come visit me soon. For the next few weeks we’re emailing and calling every day, and then suddenly she goes cold on me. I found out, through a mutual friend, that she had dumped me and not bothered to tell me!

Next time I was home I saw her and (politely) confronted her. She told me she was sorry, not for what she did, but that I found out. She even outright said she was more upset that our friend had “ratted her out” to me than she was bothered that the whole thing hurt me in some way.

Back then I was what you call an “average frustrated chump” in ALL areas of my life. Even then, you’d think I’d realize this chick was messed up and needed help and that the best thing to do was drop it and move on. But I couldn’t “snap out” of my desire for / devotion to her. For months. I agonized over what I had done wrong. (Sounds crazy? SHE dumped ME without telling me, and I’m worried what I did wrong?????)

Right after she dumped me I had two women I saw every day who I could have had for the asking. I got along with them great and my flirting with them was reciprocated. One even asked “so when are you going to forget this b***h and make a move on me?” But I killed my chances by droning on about my “ex” until these two (and other) women got sick of me.

I was pathetic, obsessed over a chick who wanted nothing to do with me, 200 miles away, when I was at college with 20,000 women at my immediate disposal.

To an extent that I didn’t realize, this incident was a gusher of ice water that flowed like an eternal cold-shower on my ability to pick up chicks for the next 10 years. Several times I got lucky and met someone, but I made excuses and sabotaged things so I wouldn’t put myself at emotional risk again.

But then, after studying your teaching on conquering fear around women, I figured out I was driven by a need to “make right” the wrong that had been done to me by her. Being willfully cut off from even being able to participate in the “closure” made me to think about it all the time.

I translated that need for….closure? revenge? something else? into desire for her. It drained my emotional capacity. I’d be at parties surrounded by mind-blowing hot chicks and my mind would be skipping like a broken record on the “ex” who never deserved me at all. It was still happening years later, even after I was finally “over her,” but I was programmed that way so bad I didn’t even remember the cause.

After I realized what happened I was able to finally let her go, using what you teach. Now, I’m the kind of man who can be in a room full of people and can fearlessly approach the HOTTEST BABE THERE like it’s everyday routine. I liked your story about the student who snuggled with the married chick on the airplane. Stuff like that happens for me all the time now.

I’m still what you would call “single and looking” but I’m “finding” many more women, having great times with the nice ones and spotting the users and abusers immediately.

Thanks Ross! I think I’m gonna come to your next seminar!

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This is AWESOME – and I congratulate you on stepping up and claiming the success, results, and future that belong to you by getting past your barriers. What happened to you isn’t unique. The way we are programmed can stay with us long after the programmer (in your case, that girl who did you wrong) is out of the picture, and we don’t even remember why we got that way in the first place.

Now that you’ve gotten that chick who did you wrong out of your inner brain, keep showing up, and keep having great times with the women who do you RIGHT.

Peace and piece,

RJ

SpeedSeductionDeluxe200 Getting That Wrong Chick Out Of Your Inner Mind!P.S. One quick clarification. Stuff like hooking up with hot chicks on airplane rides doesn’t “happen to” this student all the time now. Rather, he’s mastered the girl-getting mindset and seduction skills needed to effortlessly and routinely MAKE it happen.

And so can you.

With what I teach you throughout my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you’ll remain calmly in control of every interaction and situation with women – even when she stomps on your heart and tries to make it YOUR fault somehow.

Click here to claim yours today!

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