Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Any sequence of mental thinking that you go through, starts with a flow of energy in the body that kickstarts the thought process.  That’s the Signal Recognition Process.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Is there something wrong with having sex with a woman, knowing or believing she just wants and enjoys sex for its own sake?

Some men believe that ultimately he has to “pay for it” one way or another – often in the form of “proving” he’s in it for more than “just sex”.  He tries to believe that it’s ok, that she wants and enjoys sex.  “If I don’t give it to her, someone else will.” 

But it just doesn’t work out that way for him.

Could there be some sort of guilt involved?

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: in order to have the belief that there’s something wrong with f@@king a woman for nothing, what has to be missing from your sensory experience?

What is your perception and experience of making love with a woman? Can you sense her pleasure as she is feeling it? Can you feel her arousal as it ebbs and flows in her? Can you feel her pussy twitching when you hold her afterwards, even when you are no longer inside her, it is still twitching and pulsing for you?

To me, this is NOT about beliefs. It’s about your direct experience of the exchange of pleasure, erotic energy and sensuality that is the heart of good sex, as opposed to mechanical pounding away and discharging your sexual energy (and dumping your load).

If you are only humping mechanically or have little or no sensitivity or sensuality then that is the REAL issue.

The only way you could possibly hold the belief that she isn’t enjoying it is if you are shut down to sensing her energy and yours and what is going on with that dance.

As far as guilt: are you sure? How do you KNOW it is guilt? Maybe it is just uncertainty mixed with a vague sense that sex can be a lot more for you as well as for her, whomever “her” might be.

Ok, maybe the belief that women don’t enjoy sex has shut you down to opening your senses and sensuality. So the solution is to open the sensuality and the senses.

Don’t look at it as “guilt complex” Look at it as an information-block and a shutting down of senses to experience that now has to be awakened.

If this is the case, the next time you are with a woman, TAKE YOUR TIME. Do NOT f@@k her no matter what. See how you can enjoy just the kissing, the touching, with no hurry at all. Make your aim to create a nice erotic haze that you can blissfully share for a morning, or evening or afternoon. Do NOT put it in until they say, “I want you inside me” or words to that effect.

This is as much about you discovering your own sensuality and openness to energy than anything else.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

[This is "Part 2" that follows up on my recent post "Untangling Your Deepest Fears With Women: A Farming Analogy"]

We left off last time with a question: what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

As with any personal change, there are the tools like guided visualization, belief change, personal coaching/group feedback, setting goals, etc.

All of these have value. All are useful. Some more than others, and for each of these, I’ve got modifications to the more standard stuff out there that I think makes my versions far more useful and effective.

However, I believe that when a person is “entrenched” in limiting and engraved ways of thinking, feeling, responding and acting, what is first and foremost needed is some “mental spaciousness”.  A place of clear, unprogrammed awareness and calm from which to use all the other tools and do all the other change work.

In any area of change there are those processes/things that:

1. Need to be subtracted out. They just don’t serve at all. They are just “noise” in the line.

These could be:

a) internal dialog that gets in your way
b) beliefs about yourself that are useless and contain no real information (I am ugly, I always fail)
c) energetic overloads-you are so amped up around women that you can’t hold still. (These can also be diminished or transmuted).

2. Things/processes that need to be added in. These could be:

a) simple skill sets (knowing how to physically make moves on women, knowing how to elicit trance words, do walkups, etc)

b) beliefs that power the skill sets, (I never take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone; it’s just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or responding in THAT moment, and it’s always subject to change).

c) different mixes of energy/vibe: strong, playful, intuitive, sincere, challenging. In other words, it could be an issue on the vibrational/energetic level.

d) simply doing more repetitions: some people just need to do more of what is working. They need self-monitoring/motivation skills.

e) skills for learning from mistakes without getting stuck back in them and having an INFORMED enthusiasm. (I’ve developed a protocol for this that is truly amazing-I call it “The Extractor”.

3. Processes/things which need to be increased. That could be any of what I’ve just mentioned in 2. Things which you already do well, that contribute to your success, that already work. The increase could be in frequency, or intensity, or precision or even joy of use!

4. Those things which are useful, but need to be diminished, either in frequency or intensity, or only used in the right sequence or correct proportions with other things, or used in the right context.

Again, that could be any of the items in #2 or anything else that actually is useful that the person already does that can serve in the right
proportion or context. So you could diminish the frequency, intensity, etc.

5. Finally, there are those things which represent great sources of mental energy that neither should be diminished or eliminated, but instead transmuted and refined and then used as pure energy for the achievement of 1-4.

Note: I did NOT say “clearing”. Clearing is better than having them blocking, but transmuting takes all that energy and puts it to use.

Just imagine if all or 90% of the energy/emotion that has been weighing you down, blocking you, enfearing you, were converted to raw energy for your peace of mind, joy, discipline, creativity, etc.

Now, the women are waiting.  What, in the name of Tammy’s tights, are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In one of the discussion forms where I check in from time to time, a participant told me that part of his fear of approaching women comes from worrying what she might think or say.

It’s more than just fear of rejection; he fears the woman will think he’s a creep and thus tell all her super hot friends. Intellectually, he knows this is unfounded because in every other area of life he can handle, no matter what people think of him.

Here is my response:

How do you know it won’t work the OTHER way: that you’ll give her the most amazingly incredible sexual satisfaction and she’ll tell ALL of her hot friends that you are a DEMON with your tongue, your fingers, your prick, your toes, your elbows, that you have ten fingers like a tongue and a tongue like ten fingers, etc. etc.?

Imagine your mind to be like a fertile field of soil. For whatever reason, you plow the soil over and over again in ONE groove, so that, over the years, that ONE groove grows deeper and deeper.

Once in a while, at random, you plow a different groove, but not very often, so that groove either gets covered over again by random drifts of dirt, by the winds, rain, etc. But still, that different groove is there a little bit.

Then, one day, you decide the soil is dry, so you want to irrigate it. You divert some water from a nearby stream and send it all flooding into the field, and lo and behold, MOST OF THE WATER GOES RIGHT INTO THE DEEPEST GROOVE.

Now, these grooves or tracks or habits of the mind are fixed patterns of perceiving/feeling/responding to our world.

Some are minor, like scratching your ass with your left hand when you are nervous. These are pretty easily spotted.

Some are more deeper into the “operating system” of the mind; for example, always assuming the WORST POSSIBLE OUTCOME to the exclusion of even considering a good outcome.

These deeper grooves tend to be invisible. People don’t even see the stuckness and instead try to work within in it; if they see things for the worst, they often don’t even recognize that and instead just try to cope with the projected horrible outcome.

Now, it gets MORE interesting.

There is raw energy bound up here. By this I mean the grooves are not just patterns of thought, but they have energy associated to and with them.  In your case, there is some energetic quality of fear, anxiety. I would guess that it has qualities of making you feel both contracted inward, like a tortoise pulling its head inside its shell and also feelings of being spread thin like you are going to disappear. I’m guessing, but it is an educated guess from helping thousands of guys.

I would guess it also has an overall “antsy” “jumpy” “agitated” “can’t sit still” flavor to it as well.

And finally, probably a sense of “urgency”. Like you have to get this handled, now.

With all of these various energetic flavors, it’s no wonder you are feeling conflicted, tired, like your system is grinding its gears. Sort of like wanting to step forward with one foot while you step back with the other, or putting the car in reverse and drive at the same time.

In short, I think the answer to all of this is NOT more “cognition” or activity in think space. It’s not to be found in your self-talk or what you visualize, not in YOUR case.

In your case, what will change all of this is the energy you are riding on and bringing in. It is THE core of the issue, the rest is just window dressing around it.

But you are trying to address it using the wrong system.

So the question becomes, what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Have you ever encountered a “man hater”, a woman who is closed and has deep “man issues,” or a woman who you reasonably believe is only one slight nudge away from becoming a schlong slicer?

Are you one of those guys who seem to be a love-hate figure with the ladies?  Meaning, some women strongly enjoy being around you and others instantaneously hate you, everything you stand for, and everything you like just because you like it?

Well, before worrying that you might have to change your name to Bobbitt, consider this.

Behind every angry response, look for the resentment, or jealousy or even most commonly, THE FEAR.

Maybe this woman who “hates” you has had pain from her past attraction to men whom she PERCEIVES you are like.

She associates pain to that attraction she felt to you because, in the past, men whom she PERCEIVES you are like, caused her pain (and/or she caused herself pain by her automatic reactions to these men, expecting more from them than they wanted, or something different than they wanted.

Just like the AFC chump/nice guy EXPECTS women to be attracted to his niceness and then is disappointed and angry and fearful when they don’t!

Congratulations on discovering something: women are human.

THEY HAVE AUTOPILOT RESPONSES and FALSE perceptions, just like us guys! They see things through the filters of the past and ASSUME that what they perceive is accurate and real.

In her mind, the possibility that you could have many of the attractive characteristics of these guys from the past, WITHOUT being arrogant or cruel or hurtful DOESN’T OCCUR TO HER.  She only sees the potential to be hurt YET AGAIN.

And probably concludes, in addition, that she is DOOMED to be hurt and can NEVER find a guy she could be attracted to AND who will treat her well.

So, it goes back to her fear. If she was utterly neutral about it and didn’t have any charge on it at all, she would care less about you, one way or the other.

We OFTEN fear what we are attracted to, because that attraction can make us feel out of control. Or can remind us of past pain. It’s not hate – it’s F-E-A-R.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When you know what to look for and how to use a woman’s emotional responses, she will actually provide almost all of the energy for the seduction.  This is just a sliver of what we’ll cover in our London 3-day seminar, which starts just seven days from now.  You in?  Click here to get your seat before it’s too late.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Let’s talk about a fear of something that many might consider a tad ironic.

What happens when you do such a great job of mastering your girl-getting game, that you find yourself with a woman who you think may be “The One?”

On the one hand, isn’t this what you’ve always wanted?  Isn’t this why you took a bold step forward and committed to mastering the skills – to achieve ultimate success with the women (or woman) you truly desire?

On the other hand… do you want to risk missing out on someone even better by settling down with this one particular woman?

Let’s hear from a student who’s actually afraid to Sarge because he just might meet that special lady:

> I’m very aware of some conflicting “forces” inside of me that
> have kept me stuck about learning Speed Seduction®. I have been
> studying the courses for some months now, but I really haven’t
> given it true attention. Here are my issues (I know some may
> sound stupid
>
> I’m afraid of falling in love for the first girl who’s beautiful
> and likes me. Because that way I’ll never meet enough girls to find
> the one I really want. And, because I wanna have choice with women, I
> wanna become really good with Speed Seduction®. And if I get stuck on
> one girl I can’t do that. So, because of that, I’m afraid of sarging
> girls because I’m afraid of getting attached. As a consequence I end
> not sarging at all.

Instead of “conflicting” forces, maybe it is more useful and accurate to think of them as “conflated”, meaning they are jumbled up and mixed together and not clearly separated out.

What we have here is a conflation of:

1. A legitimate desire to keep focused on your outcome, which is lots of experience with lots of women…..

…with…

2. A neurotic level of desire to control and predict an outcome PRIOR to acting.

The assumption in all of this is that you are better off trying to work it all out in your head, rather than go out into the world, get your hands(and heart and dick) kinda messy, experience some confusion, and LEARN FROM EXPERIENCE.

Really, this isn’t just about women, but an approach to LIFE that says, “the best way to handle uncertainty is to try to game out every scenario in your head before you take a step.”

Intellectually, that is a formula for confusion and ignorance.

So I would encourage you to work out the difference between 1 and 2. 1 is legit, but 2 isn’t helping. And information wise, it has you stalemated.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my 20+ years of teaching smart men like you how to get the results you want with the women you desire, I’ve found when people are stuck, their natural tendency is to push harder within the system they are using. That seldom works.

When I want to help people change, I look for leverage, and it is almost never obvious to the person seeking help.

Think of it as a “cold shower loop” keeping them on ice:

Feels lousy about failures with women————>is entangled up with—————>natural healthy desire for love, sex, fun, companionship, touch————->leads to running bad feelings and failure memories in mind———–leads to bring entangled, painful emotion, limiting sense of possibility along with legit desires, into interactions with women———>leads to freezing or little or limited actions/interactions with unsatisfying results————–>Feels lousy about failures with wome

And on and on the arrows go…

So my first thought is, if you’re caught in this loop, stop thinking of it as an inferiority “complex”.

Instead, look at the PROCESS you continue to run. If I took that process and dropped it into the head, body and energetic field of anyone, they’d be fucked up badly within a few months, even if they previously would be doing swimmingly.

BTW, even the loop I laid (ha ha) out isn’t complete. Most likely there are physiological things going on; when you don’t feel good about your life or significant portions of it, chances are you don’t take proper care of your diet, exercise, sleep etc and then your body feels even worse. A body with poor or limited energy etc is likely to lead to a mind that searches for reasons why you feel bad, when it fact, you may feel bad because your body is tired, undernourished, etc!

So into that loop I would probably put

——–> because one feels bad about this area of life, one doesn’t take proper care of physical health———> which predisposes mind to put negative interpretations on events to match the bad feelings in body

So, stop looking at yourself as having a “complex” and instead look at the process.

This is my first step, because it shows you how to start finding leverage to feel better physically and emotionally OUTSIDE of your interactions with women.

I’m not saying to shift your focus permanently off getting good skills with women. I’m saying, temporarily, put a lot more focus in other areas that might be tripping you up and holding you back.

This gets you leverage over the loop, however, there is also a gap: the effects may not show up for a few weeks or months.

But given that, all the more reason to get on it and decide that making a change is something you will do, starting right now.

The women are waiting; so what in Francesca’s flannel nighties are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names when it comes to scoring BIG with the ladies.

What could please me more than that, you ask?

Hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.

Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin’ loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.

So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I’m proud, delighted beyond delight’s sweet delight.

So, imagine my good feelings when I read the following email, from an attendee of a previous 3-day seminar in London, UK (note: the DVDs he mentions are all inside the Speed Seduction@ Power Pack):

Hi Ross,

I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you – especially the newer SS students.

After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.

After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things  were off to a great start – the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD.

The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING  GUYS.

I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD.

Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING – he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.

After this, women were approaching  him, and there was no more fear of approaches – he hit the 100 openers’ mark by the end of the night.

Then came Selig.

This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed  some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.

After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.

Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.

I’m sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.

John Stein – Cork, Ireland

RJ here again.  John, what can I say? A huge “right on” for helping out your fellow Speed Seduction® students.  May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist pink relief!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say?  This is one of many topics we’ll be covering in our Speed Seduction® 3-Day Seminars.

P.P.S. For the “in the box” version that gets you in HER box more often, you’ll want Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Either way, let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Click the Play button below to watch this testical-monial from my latest 3-day live seminar.

Hear Sanjay tell you, in his own words, how using Speed Seduction® tools moved him from fear to charisma, to achieve moist pink abundance.

sanjaytestimonial.mov

Peace and piece,
RJ

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http://www.seduction.com/blog/2011seminar/

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my last blog post, I explained the reasons why women put men through B.S. tests.

So, moving right ahead, today I will share some powerful techniques to not only “pass” these tests but rather, completely overcome them and turn things to your advantage.

So, let’s delve into…

How To Handle It….Dealing From A Position Of Strength

To get back to street fighting analogies, there’s a concept from Jeet Kun Do, the fighting style of the late, great Bruce Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way, as part of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. Coming from this perspective, an attack, rather than something to be feared, is just an unprecedented opportunity to…. KICK THE OTHER GUY’S ASS!!!!

Just so, a woman’s bullshit and tests are great opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her interest in you. In other words, your response to these tests, instead of being, “Oh no.…why is she doing this? What did I do wrong?”, from now on will be….

AH, HAH! A RESPECT OPPORTUNITY!!!

Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of behavior, every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented opportunity for you to establish respect, increase her interest, and intensify her desire to please you.

Taken from this perspective, you’ll be mentally prepared, and may even find yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit, since you know it’s your chance to get her really hot for you!!!!

Now let me add one other thing: when you do put her in her place…

IT’S GOT TO COME FROM THE RIGHT PLACE IN YOU!!!

In other words, the macho idiot who loses control and trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes late is definitely not the example to follow. All he’s doing is showing he can’t control himself and he just earns the woman’s contempt.

Notice I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t get a little pissed. Just don’t go nutso with a stream of obscenities. (Streams of obscenities are for afterwards, when you are in bed with her.)

The other thing that doesn’t work is acting like a hurt little boy. Whining stuff like, “How could you do this to me?” or, “But you promised!” won’t cut it, good buddy. No. You have to come from the calm, but firm “take it or leave it” position. This is all part of displaying the critically important………

WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY FROM HER!!!

You see, after years of experience and study, I’ve come to the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose you!

Understand that when you show this willingness to walk away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value, and they had better take advantage of the opportunity.

This is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that’s challenging you.

By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer: nowhere!

And that’s why you get nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff! If you’ve seen an initially hot relationship grow ice-cold, this is one big reason!!!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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