Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

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Hear Sanjay tell you, in his own words, how using Speed Seduction® tools moved him from fear to charisma, to achieve moist pink abundance.

sanjaytestimonial.mov

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my last blog post, I explained the reasons why women put men through B.S. tests.

So, moving right ahead, today I will share some powerful techniques to not only “pass” these tests but rather, completely overcome them and turn things to your advantage.

So, let’s delve into…

How To Handle It….Dealing From A Position Of Strength

To get back to street fighting analogies, there’s a concept from Jeet Kun Do, the fighting style of the late, great Bruce Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way, as part of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. Coming from this perspective, an attack, rather than something to be feared, is just an unprecedented opportunity to…. KICK THE OTHER GUY’S ASS!!!!

Just so, a woman’s bullshit and tests are great opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her interest in you. In other words, your response to these tests, instead of being, “Oh no.…why is she doing this? What did I do wrong?”, from now on will be….

AH, HAH! A RESPECT OPPORTUNITY!!!

Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of behavior, every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented opportunity for you to establish respect, increase her interest, and intensify her desire to please you.

Taken from this perspective, you’ll be mentally prepared, and may even find yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit, since you know it’s your chance to get her really hot for you!!!!

Now let me add one other thing: when you do put her in her place…

IT’S GOT TO COME FROM THE RIGHT PLACE IN YOU!!!

In other words, the macho idiot who loses control and trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes late is definitely not the example to follow. All he’s doing is showing he can’t control himself and he just earns the woman’s contempt.

Notice I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t get a little pissed. Just don’t go nutso with a stream of obscenities. (Streams of obscenities are for afterwards, when you are in bed with her.)

The other thing that doesn’t work is acting like a hurt little boy. Whining stuff like, “How could you do this to me?” or, “But you promised!” won’t cut it, good buddy. No. You have to come from the calm, but firm “take it or leave it” position. This is all part of displaying the critically important………

WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY FROM HER!!!

You see, after years of experience and study, I’ve come to the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose you!

Understand that when you show this willingness to walk away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value, and they had better take advantage of the opportunity.

This is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that’s challenging you.

By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer: nowhere!

And that’s why you get nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff! If you’ve seen an initially hot relationship grow ice-cold, this is one big reason!!!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

So, she walks in.  She’s hot.  You want her.  Bad.

Then…you draw a blank.  You start talking in your head.  About how you just can’t pull it off.   Knowing (and already beating yourself…up) that you won’t be talking to her…though you’ll be pulling it…off…later, thinking about her.  (Wow, holy double entendre!)

In this video, ripped right out of my huge collection of training modules, learn some powerful tools to deal with this:

approach-anxiety

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

When we consider the concept of “charisma”, there are two elements I often point out – particularly when they find themselves rehearsing their lines or what they’re going to say when they approach a woman.

These are: a) stepping into the unknown and b) holding space for the other person to have whatever initial response they are going to have.

A student asked me whether that means “surrendering” to the unknown (a), and making yourself vulnerable of being open to receive (b).

He was close, but here is the true meaning. If you’re feeling the need to “rehearse” or play it in your mind 100 times before just walking up to her, consider this…

1) Stepping into the unknown and being truly ok without having to know ahead of time what is going to happen. You accept that you don’t know, and maybe at first that you don’t like that you don’t know, but you don’t dramatize it or spin around it.

You just don’t know. And you decide to move forward anyway.

2)  By hold space I mean:

• It’s ok for them to have their FIRST response. You don’t take their FIRST response as being their final response.
• You don’t REQUIRE their permission OR their support for your new moves and your courageous action.

A lot of guys think that a woman OWES it to them to be polite open because the guy is willing to take the “risk” to go up and meet them/talk to them first.

Well, that attitude is bullshit. The woman hasn’t signed a contract saying that she is REQUIRED to support you in your efforts to improve your sex/love/social life.

You’re stepping forward because it is what YOU , as an adult, have chosen to do and because you are determined(DETERMINED) to bust through your limitations.

Now, can you be determined AND relaxed AND even have a sense of humor about it?

You can if you know how to untangle yourself.

Let me clarify one more thing: just because you don’t REQUIRE certainty or REQUIRE the other person to have a “good response” and be supportive doesn’t mean you don’t take those things as being good or something of value.

It’s just not what determines your stepping forward.

Some guys are waiting to be super-powerful and radiating charm BEFORE they make a move.

Well, yes, you CAN rehearse in charm etc, for sure.

But for some guys, it’s a mistake because they are already too much in their heads and, or THEM, the rehearsing just gets in the way of taking action.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

An interesting nuance about how human emotions work, how they impact our thoughts and behaviors, is the similarities between these emotions with respect to where they come from and how they impact us.

For example, let’s look at Fear and Excitement. Seemingly two completely opposite reactions, right?  Well, yes and no.

Physiologically, there’s not much difference.  Both raise your pulse. The difference is in how your emotional energy flows and how they make you FEEL.

When you experience fear, the energy is flowing inward. It inhibits you, stops you dead in your tracks, compresses you so you warily hunker down within your comfort zone.  That sultry vixen in the little black dress who you’ve had your eye on from the moment you walked in will never know what she’s missing because you won’t approach her and let her know.

Excitement, on the other hand, is an outward flow of energy. This is an outpouring of exuberant vibe, a sense of liberation, a groundswell of unstoppable confidence that pushes you to climb to new heights.  Excitement is what will have that little black dress she’s wearing at the moment, flung casually on the floor next to your bed in about an hour or so.

They’re Both Forms Of Arousal: It’s All About How You Process It

Think of it like this: physiologically, fear and excitement are both forms of arousal. Fear has a “negative” emotional component, excitement is very “positive”, but they are otherwise very, very similar. You probably know how to label them differently, based on the context you are in right now, and also your past experiences.

If you had a history of past experiences of banging lots of beautiful women, it’s unlikely another HB10 would cause you fear, but you almost definitely will get excited about nailing her.

If your mind is full of clutter, fear, and suppression because you view all women through the lens of the first girl who refused to dance with you in junior high while her friends joined her in laughing at you for asking, then your pulse will still race – but from your internal defense mechanisms “bracing you” for another assault from a bitch-pack.

See the difference?  It’s often a very SUBTLE difference so it’s important to focus on what sort of arousal you’re dealing with.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

In yesterday’s blog post about the dominant vibe, I explained how in over-reaching in trying to be commanding, many otherwise smart guys come across as desperate supplicators in denial and ironically reveal themselves to be Average Frustrated Chumps (AFC).

Today, I want to delve into a very common scenario that makes many guys feel the need to put on “dominant” airs.

Let’s say you’re at a regular hangout, and there’s a chick you see and you want like nothing else to Sarge on her.  Then this other guy (who you often see there) comes along, usually just as you’re preparing to approach her.  He’s always very aggressive with women.  He completely lacks any real methodical girl-getting game; all he brings to the game is just a lot of touching and bodily contact.

But there’s one catch,  Many chicks think he’s “better looking” than you, so he gets lots of ass on his looks alone.  It’s happened more than once that you were actually Sarging on a woman when he comes over, pats you on the shoulder in mock-friendship that makes YOU look like the jerk if you get pissy, and then steals the show.  And the girl.

It’s gotten to the point where if he shows up, your girl-getting game goes gummy (as in the bears).  Your confidence sags.  You’re defeated before the first shot is fired since you stand no chance vs. his “superior” looks.  That, and because he’s so aggressive and Johnny on the spot, you can’t even find the opening to approach her and get the ball rolling, much less keep him away.

But all is not lost.

Here’s How To Beat This Jerk At His Own Game
And Have Him Wishing He Was You

There’s really only one way to master this situation, and that’s to do it vibrationally and enegertically FIRST, and THEN through language.

By this, I mean that this clotheshorse clearly understands the use of the “dominant” vibe. But he’s not using the other three:

• Showing understanding of her world
• Being vulnerable
• Being funny and fun

More importantly, he doesn’t understand that by randomly fractionating back and forth between these vibes, the power of them multiplies rather than adds.

When you’re exponentially expanding your vibes and erotically executing your master plan, soon the ladies will be wondering who that pushy, obnoxious, needy, pathetic jerk is who keeps following you around trying in vain to cock-block you.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

I’ll tell you a big reason why a lot of guys don’t approach women: fear of embarrassment.

Hey, you’re walking up to this chick who you’ve never met before, you know nothing about her, and for all you know, she could be one of those meanies who gets her kicks off kicking guys in the nuts (metaphorically or literally).

Even in less drastic scenarios, you feel like you’re putting yourself on a limb.

What if you “draw a blank” mid-Sarge?

What if she throws you a curveball and you miss your swing?

What if she says something unforeseen that just floors you?

What if she’s so cold to you that just by being snooty and ignorant to you, she reduces you to a muttering, empty shell of a man as you slink away, sensing that everyone around who was half-listening is now snickering at you.

Stick with me for a moment while I reveal…

The Gift Of Being Embarrassed And How It Gets You More Women Overall

OK, so you took a chance, and the chance took you.  It happens.  What we need to look at right now is your approach to it.

Repeat after me: “Just because it didn’t feel good doesn’t mean it isn’t a useful learning.”

Where do we get the idea that it’s shameful for a competent, able person to f@@k up and even feel lousy about it, at least for a while?  How about a bit of compassion for yourself?

These experiences can make you gun-shy about approaching women, because now you’re conscious it might be a wasted effort.  OK, so you want to avoid all “wasted effort”?  Then don’t breathe. Ultimately, breathing, which sustains your life, is wasted effort, because eventually you’ll die anyway.

Look: when we feel hurt, it is natural to want to protect yourself. But in reality, it just lets the person who hurt you define not only who you were while you were with them, but who you are GOING to be even after they are gone.

Fuck that.  Instead, I see it as a gift.  In sales, you have to go through “no” to get to “yes.”  Same with getting women.  Every “no” you receive simply clarifies your options and gets you closer to “yes”…then the next yes…then the one after that…then three yes-es when all three of the prior “yes”-es (who turn out to be sorority sisters on the cheerleading squad) come home with you at the same time.  (Beats a poke in the eye?  I sure think so.)

Plus, you’ve drawn some useful lessons that sharpen your girl-getting game.  You won’t be feeling embarrassed when she’s riding you reverse cowgirl while screaming “YES, YES, YES!”

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. “It” happens.  And when it does, you need the tools and techniques that help you blast through the tough times and powerfully handle every situation you encounter as you meet and seduce more and more women.  You’ll find that inside Speed Seduction® 3.0.  Check it out.  You’ll be glad you did.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Yesterday, I shared with you Part 1 of my student’s Sarge report.  We left off with him and his hot, enticing new acquaintance at the bookstore, with him laying the groundwork for irresistible arousal.

So let’s jump to the third meeting….

Part 2: She Taps The Brakes

At their third meeting, riding upon the strong connection already established in the last two meetings, he kissed her and they started making out.  Then – here it comes – her last minute resistance.  My student guessed (correctly) that sex wasn’t on the dessert menu that night.  Maybe this was due to her personal values, her fear of seeming too “easy” or in it for “just one thing.”  Who knows?

Rather than being daunted, he gave her another chance.  He took her out and used the anchoring he did in their previous meetings to rekindle her sense of security and romanticism that she had lacked for a long time.  This time, everything went perfect and even the last minute resistance was easily skipped this time.

When she said, “I don’t want to give you the wrong impression, but it’s not going to happen,” my student calmly replied, “Did I ask for that?” This made her seem like she was the only one thinking about sex, so she relaxed.  Everything went great from there.

Well… this is good stuff!

So guys, what can we learn from this?

For me, three things stand out:

1. A woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” You have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing.
2. Notice how my student confidently deflected her concerns and put her at ease. For another example of this, check out this story of how I got laid by putting on TWO pairs of pants.
3. Negation is a powerful thing. You should check out this article, too.

Get your ass back here tomorrow when we go “long term” in our view on all this…

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

All too often, I hear guys complain with a variation of this theme:

“I just wish I could find a girl who’s right for me. I’ve had so much bad luck with women that I don’t know if I’ll EVER find a woman I want to be with.”

Or, “I’m never going to have this much fun again with someone so hot ever again” (often uttered right after “losing” the “best” woman you’ve ever had, so you think).

Really, now?

Tell you what: let’s break down some numbers.

As of yesterday (April 9, 2010), the United States Census Bureau estimated there are 6,813,600,000 people on Planet Earth.

About half (or 3.4 BILLION) of them are women.

Now, let’s say that only 1 in 1,000 are available, within your age range, or otherwise Sargeable by you. You’ve still got 3.4 MILLION women.

And let’s assume, conservatively, that you can have chemistry with 1% of these women. All said and done, that leaves you 34,000 women who are available to you.

If you were to approach one woman per day until you approach all 34,000…that’s enough women for the next 93 YEARS.

Have you seen at least ONE hot woman today you could approach? Is there some hottie you’ve wanted to put the moves on, but you just haven’t brought yourself to do it yet?

Look up from above your computer monitor, if you’re in a public area, such as a coffee shop or other place where you’re using the public Wi-Fi. If you’re a student in a computer lab, same thing.

Is there at least ONE woman there, RIGHT NOW who looks like she might be worth saying hello to? If not, there’s a 50/50 chance you’ll see one within the next half hour.

Me, I like those odds. And if I don’t get anywhere with the next woman I meet (or claim my choice that I can do better and “Exit, Stage Left”), I’ve got DECADES worth of women who are still out there.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Now you know: almost 100 years’ worth of opportunity is available to you. The “right woman” for you IS there, you just haven’t let her know yet.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Mastering your girl-getting game is a process – even for experienced Seduction masters who effortlessly approach women and know the steps to getting them hot and bothered and wanting more.

Every so often, you’ll strike out. Once in a while, you’ll hit a bit of a slump when it comes to the ladies. You might even worry that you’ve lost your touch. So let me reveal to you…

A Secret, Sure-Fire Success Mindset That Keeps
Girl-Getting Masters In The Game For Extra Innings

First of all, remember: fear and anxiety and tensing up around women F@@K US UP. Stay relaxed in the immediate present.

Give yourself permission to just practice, not give a f@@k whether she says yes. Stop focusing on outcomes, because pressure to achieve those outcomes (arranging the next meeting, going back to her place, etc) will ratchet up the pressure and screw up your Sarging vibe.

You’ll feel like a loser and unattractive when you “flub your lines” and feel forced to run out of there with your tail between your legs, instead of getting some tail for tonight.

No matter WHAT happens with this (or any) chick, you don’t know what’s GOING to happen, unless you DECIDE that it will. Being PERSISTENT when things don’t at first go according to plan is KEY for “upping your game” and getting with more succulent hot babes.

So, when you see that sultry vixen in the little black dress eyeing you up from across the way while stroking the stem of her martini glass, focus NOT on the GOAL getting her out of that dress, but instead on how your forthcoming interaction with her will improve your overall “game” with the ladies.

Worry less about how you’re gonna get her to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle and you’re MORE likely to go there with her (and many other women).

Ok guys, she’s waiting for you. Now, what in jumping Jennie’s drawers are you waiting FOR? Let’s go!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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