Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A couple weeks ago, I issued a challenge to all of my students.  To repeat:

From now on… for the next 60 days… you will not get or accept a phone number, nor make a plan to later see/spend time with a woman until, unless and AFTER you and she have made out for at least 10 minutes.

How many of you are doing this?

Here’s a perfect example to illustrate why you must stop “getting her digits” and “asking her out” on “a date”.

A student reported this experience with a woman, and I’ll let him tell you in his own words (the names are changed to protect the innocent):

> So, I wanted this bisexual black HB 9 to hang out with us tonight. She verified her number when I ran into her last night, and said that she wanted to pick up women with us.
>
> I call her and leave her this message: “Hi Debbie, this is Dick Dickerson. I’m not sure if you’re the type of woman to be fun and adventurous enough to hang out with us and meet some beautiful babies tonight, but if you are, call me at XXX-XXXX. We’re going to be at X area all night. Bye.”

His full Sarge report contains more detail that can all be summarized in one sentence: They texted back and forth a few times that evening but she never showed up. 

So, listen:

Someone like this moves toward whatever is most stimulating in her environment in THAT moment, whatever it might be. She’s not reliable and can’t make plans and seldom thinks beyond the next few hours.

You either f@@k this kind right away, or not at all, or serve as their attention supply when they are bored, lonely or feeling alone.

SHIT CAN IT and move on.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I see it happen, just all too often: one mistake can beget another.

One minute things are going well, then there’s a shift in a non-Sargy direction and everything goes downhill from there.  It’s like you fall behind then it can be a real struggle to get caught up.

Check this out: a dissection of a Sarge report from a student who found himself sliding down the slippery slope to Sargy smithereens with a chick, and didn’t even realize it until it was too late.

Stay with me for just a moment and watch how something seemingly innocuous can set the wrong frame and knock the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle right out of its orbital flight path.

> We agreed to meet each other sometime but she blew me off and I was content to walk away for…

RJ: Let me point out where you already went wrong: “agreeing to meet sometime” is NO agreement at all. It shows no leadership on your part and no investment on her part. Leadership on your part=investment on her part.

> a while, knowing my chance would come at some stage

RJ: No, your “chance” is only for those without SKILL. F@@k chance in the ass with a red-hot fireplace poker.  And what is this about YOUR chance? SHE is the one who is lucky to get the shot at being with YOU.

RJ: Or at least it is useful to frame it that way.

> She tells me she is taking the day off on Monday and could we do something then. I say, sure, I’ll have to check my schedule, anything in particular you feel you would really like to do?

RJ: No, no. Why are you asking HER to take the wheel? YOU ARE THE DRIVER!

> She tells me, bring me, surprise her, bring her a flower or a cake (yeah, right!) I tell her I’ll be in touch. We hug some more, later we dance together, then I kiss her goodbye and go home as the remaining guests are starting to get ready for bed.  I send her the following text message, early Sunday Afternoon:

RJ; CLUE: txt msgs sck dck and r a stp bckwrds on the intmcy ldder.

And also, this is beginning to smack of being a “date”. You already had her making out with you, right? At least a little bit? So now why “date”? No, the answer is, “let’s watch a movie. I’ll pick one funny and one adventure. ”

> Hi Gina, thanks very much for Friday, lovely evening promised to do something with you tomorrow so will pick you up around 4pm for a drink.

RJ: Pick her up? PICK HER UP? You only pick up someone whom you are going to go out and DATE. You are climbing back DOWN the intimacy ladder!

> I get this response from her: “Hey can we check in tomorrow? I have made plans to go for a walk at four and my day seems to have filled up. Really want to see this healer but if I can’t may be able to do earlier. Do you mind if we check in tomorrow? Thanks for coming on Friday ”

RJ: Translation: you got me turned on. I’ve been thinking about you sexually. But you just asked me on a “date” and now all my objections and problems with “dating” are coming up in my mind. I don’t want to date anyone right now. I want to FUCK, FUCK, FUCK.

> I mail back:

RJ: Mail? As in email? Wow, email is even LOWER on the intimacy ladder.

U rlly scrwd up bg tme.

> “Bad girl, you just lost 10 points! Monday was your suggestion after all Seriously though, I am tied up tomorrow earlier in the day so that’s not going to work for me. I am pretty much committed in the evenings for the rest of this week so tomorrow afternoon / evening is all I can offer you until next week. Just to be clear from the outset, though, I have two value requirements for any kind of relationship…

RJ: Relationship? RELATIONSHIP? Dude, she’s ready to f@@k, not date. Your old-fashioned thinking warped you right out of her bed into being a “groper” and a “lustful f@@k salesman”

> business or social: Trust and respect. Call me with pleasure if you want to see me and I will say yes because I’d like that, but don’t ever flake on me again.”

RJ: You had no firm plan. You ask her to set the lead. And now you call her a “flake”?

> Thing is, I knew she would flake, although, meeting her friends, I could see that she did manage to keep long term friendships. She is obviously used to guys fawning and taking what scraps she offers.

RJ: I wouldn’t call what you did fawning. I would call it FUMBLING.

> Note, the main challenge was the lack of opportunity to use the tools. I know she is in to me, but that doesn’t mean she’ll act on it.

RJ: She certainly won’t now.

Look: this is perhaps the worst f@@k up-no, make that SERIES of f@@k ups – I have ever seen in my 20+ years of coaching and teaching. See what happens when you begin to slide down the slippery slope to Sargy smithereens?

This is why it’s important to master the skills and set the tone early on.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Just the other day I received an e-mail from a great student of mine, someone who TAKES ACTION, who read my recent post on The Great Disappearing Act.

Remember: one of the goals of Speed Seduction® is to give you not only the patterns and techniques, but also the success tools to apply the teachings to YOUR situation.

It seems this student had his own “disappearing act” on his hands.  It started off as a great success, as many of these do.  It was the first girl he’d had sex with in nearly two years – a former cheerleader at his college in fact.

Now let’s hear from him (I’ll leave his name out of it and edited it down a bit) because my response to him is something EVERYONE needs to hear…

We were hanging out for about a month and had great sex. Both sides were satisfied in that regard, as I gave her at least two orgasms every time we had sex. It seemed the intensity/chemistry was only growing the last time we hung out and then she started acting really distant. Finally, I told her straight up that I felt she’d been noticeably distant and I’m not going to keep expending energy if I’m not getting the same from her. Her response was just that it was a busy stretch at work and she didn’t think she could give me what I was looking for, especially since we live about an hour away from each other.

RJ: OK, let me briefly stop here.  The “work” thing is bullshit. A woman digs a guy, she will crawl an hour to see him!  To continue:

I asked a female friend about this and she said that sometimes when women aren’t confident – instead of expressing their emotions verbally they’ll put out physically because they know a guy won’t reject that. She suggested hanging out with her a couple of times, not trying to have sex with her but still being flirty and she will likely soon start coming on to me again.

RJ: Critical teaching point here: NEVER ASK A WOMAN ADVICE ABOUT GETTING LAID! E-V-E-R.

Well, I didn’t get that far. I suggested we get together sometime soon and got another vague answer – ‘possibly.’

I’m perplexed, yet somewhat intrigued too. I’m getting further each time but every other time I’ve been able to figure out where I went wrong. Should I just let it go? Or is there a way to get that smoking body back in my bed? Even though I’ve moved on to others I guess I’m just worried this will happen again…

Anyways, thanks for all you do. It’s really helped raise my confidence with the ladies. I was for sure the nice guy everyone came to with their problems but the psychology of speed seduction has given me the posture I’d been lacking. I’m still a work in progress but keyword there is ‘progress.’

Good attitude to have. I’d say this woman, for whatever reason, moved on. My guesses (and they are just that: guesses):

1. She wants more than sex and you don’t appear to be long term relationship or marriage material to her.

2. There is someone else who has re-emerged from the backround and you were her “filling station” to keep her excited and validated until he came back.

3. She’s got some other deeper issues she is running from. Trouble with the law, family crisis, alien implants, CIA kidnapping-who the fuck knows.

One thing is clear; she isn’t communicating with you. So she either can’t – in which case you are fucked.  Or she doesn’t want to/won’t, in which case she certainly doesn’t even have the decency to clear up the confusion and set you free.

To hell with her, either way.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Has a woman ever pulled “The Great Disappearing Act” on you?

It goes something like this.  A woman you meet appears highly interested.  You spend time together, then there are e-mails, phone calls, texts, and then perhaps you meet again.

But then, all of a sudden, it’s like she no longer exists.

When you call, her phone rings but it always goes to voicemail.  She never calls back (yes, pal, YOUR voicemail is working, you can stop calling your phone company to ask, she hasn’t left you one lately).  The e-mails you send her aren’t bouncing back, but you’re not getting replies either.  (She’s not in your spam or junk mail either.)  Those places where you used to see her?  Not there either.  Without a trace.

So what happened?

Sometimes it might leave you wondering if you said or did something (came on too strong, didn’t come on strong enough, said/did something that overwhelmed her) that scared her off.

There could be MANY reasons for her (sudden lack of) behavior, other than her having caught a borefriend…or a bad cold (same difference).  Consider the following…

Hint: how much of your attractiveness is based on your belief that you have to demonstrate these super-powers of deep understanding?

Hint: there are FOUR attractive vibes. What proportions are you mixing?

Hint: if you had incredible sexual confidence, how would what you are doing change? Not just in terms of behavior, but also, in addition to that, with your vibe?

Hint: are you being at all physically forward? At what point do you seek to test for physical openness and readiness?

Hint: do you think that you need the woman to make the first move? (Meaning, she got tired of you waiting on her and just “Exit, Stage Left”-ed YOU.)  Do you think you require an engraved invitation from these girls before YOU make a move?

Hint: How is touching and being physical intergrated into your Sarging from the very beginning – as opposed to being something you only do when you are ready to “close”?

Ok, think about these items as they might “hint” you in the right direction.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I received a tremendous response to my recent blog posts on women’s B.S. tests, specifically why women put men through them, and how men can “pass” them.

Now, let me give you three scenarios to illustrate these principles in action.

Scenario One: You call to ask her out. Her response is ambivalent, something like, “Well, I’d like to but, why don’t you call me later in the week and…”

Here’s your response: “Let me ask you a question, point blank. Is going out with me something you can take or leave or is it something that you’re smart enough that you really want to do that?” Then shut the hell up and listen for her answer.

Now, what are you doing here? You’re calling her on her ambivalence and letting her know you don’t have time to be put on hold. And you’re also suggesting she’s stupid if she doesn’t grab this opportunity.

Finally, you’re embedding a command that she really does want to go out with you. Will this work? Very often it does. It’s not what she’s expecting, and that always gets attention. Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can.

Understatement works best with this one. What if she still hesitates? Well, say this one:

You: Look. You have my number, and I’m going to leave it up to you. And you know, if you don’t call it’s going to be a loss for me, but maybe what you won’t realize until after you hang up is, that it’ll be a loss for you as well. Ok? Bye.

Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute without offering to do it again at some specific time.

Look: I’ve heard every excuse in the book, my friend, from “My parakeet is sick” to “I’ve got to shampoo the rug”. Seriously.

Here’s how it works…

Her: I can’t make it. I’ve got a rare tropical disease that’s causing me to shrink by the hour.

You: (dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk again. Just say NOTHING!!!)

Her: Hello? Are you there? What’s wrong?

You: What’s wrong is I can’t believe the bullshit I’m hearing.

Her: What?????

You: Look…you made a commitment to spend time with me and now you’re blowing me off. You’re disrespecting me and disrespecting my time and I’m NOT going to put up with it. My rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to keep it. If they can’t keep it, I need to know at least a day in advance so I can make other plans. Got it? If you can live with that rule, great…if not, sayonara!

Then, HANG UP!! Now, this may sound extreme, but man does it work well!!!

In fact, she’ll probably call back with five minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I’m not kidding here; I’ve seen the hardest, jaded bitches go to giggly little girls, eager to please me when I’ve done this. It throws some kind of switch in their heads.

I guess with some people, you don’t really get their attention until…

You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!!

Please note, I’m speaking of an attitude. I am NOT talking about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence with a woman. In fact, I am against the use or threat of the use of violence or force against ANY human being, unless there is an imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I can’t  make this too clear.  I’m talking about using your mind, NOT your fists.

Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes, or lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least that long while totally ignoring you.

Wait for her to finish, and as soon as she does say something like this:

YOU: Can I ask you a question?

HER: Sure.

YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you just accidentally acting clueless?

HER: (mouth dropping open in shock, unable to say anything!)

YOU: Don’t ever keep me waiting like this again, ok? I’ll always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same. Do you understand me?

HER: Uh..uh…yes.

The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way, you want to do the unexpected. Don’t put up with it, like a “nice guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Walk a middle ground of strength, self-control AND self-respect, and these tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your bed.

And that certainly beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

‘Til next time…

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

So, you are in the course of Sarging and seducing a woman.  Everything seems to be going great – as far as you can tell, you’ve captured and led her interest, now you’re getting ready to buckle up for a rip-roarin, snatch-soarin’ ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Then, like out of nowhere, she starts flaking, going cold, losing interest.

“What happened?!?!?!” you ask yourself as you vision the cold winter sea water of a seduction-sliding-south engulfing you as things sink faster than the Titanic.

It’s Time To Take Stock, Not Slip Into Shock

Here is a “quicksand-stopping checklist” you can work through when, despite your best efforts, the seduction sizzle starts dissipating into soon-to-be-masturbatory fizzle. Learn it, and you’ll find a “jumping back in point” when you need one.

First, you can diagnose according to certain categories…

Add, Increase, Eliminate, Subtract

1. What needs to be added? Is there something you are missing entirely that needs to be put in?
2. What needs to be increased-maybe there is something you need to do more of-more repetitions, more intensity, more volume, etc.?
3. What needs to be eliminated-something needs to be removed entirely?
4. What needs to be diminished (subtracted)-ok to keep doing it, but less of it-less intense, less volume, less frequent?

Next, we need to look at levels.

1. Improve conceptual understanding. Is there a key concept or concepts you are not using or understanding?
2. Energy/vibe-do you need to correct something on the vibe/energy level?
3. Beliefs-is there something needing correction/improvement in your beliefs? Your cognitions about what moves women and what is required to bed them?
4. Tools/behavior-do you need to polish some individual tool or tools? Actions you ought to be taking but aren’t?
5. Analogs-do you need to correct body language, tonaity, volume, tempo?

Look: every girl-getting situation is different, but once you master the skills, you’ll be doing a lot more of it (girl-getting, that is).  The above is by no means an exhaustive list, but it gives some good “quick start” places to look when you’re trying to save a Sarge on the fly.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ever get the feeling that a woman is yanking your chain, just to demonstrate she can?

Like, one minute she’s hot, bothered, and just waiting for you to pick her up and take her to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.  The next, she’s cold, aloof, and giving you one-word answers while looking away from you.  Enough to make you ask…

…What GIVES?

Is she wishy-washy?  Is she confused?  Is she just a tease who gets off on the attention of men?  Does she like screwing men?

The First Question I Would Ask

In your Sarge, are you moderating, controlling, refining your immediate, urgent, hungry male desire to PENETRATE NOW?

Women sometimes seem to go “back and forth” as a control/safety issue. They get excited, then they catch themselves and think “Oooh, this feels too good. Better slow myself down.” They are not really trying to control you, but themselves.  The trick is: the control part LOOKS like the same signals women give us when they are genuinely un-interested!

I think women usually (usually) are NOT consciously trying to manipulate us. It is mostly an attempt to gain a measure of self-control and/or a means of exciting themselves by SELF-FRACTIONATING.

Yes, women get MORE excited if they pull back and then reinvest in the excitement. If we fractionate them, they will feel that excitement and also safety and they won’t have to do it for us.

There are a few basic things that set up and create willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received, and these are factors you generally CAN control:

1. Fractionating and pattern interrupting.
2. Demonstrating authority in their world
3. Given them the feeling they are being screened
4. Energetically moving among the vibes they find attractive: funny, showing authority in their world, being commanding and being sincere
5. Non verbally/non locally setting up a psychic/energtic/magick link.
6. Giving them a perceived self-image to live up to.

Armed with this knowledge, you can then re-channel her control/safety needs and help her Sarge her way right into your bed.  That sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I recently received an e-mail from a student who has taken the “Up To Speed With Speed Seduction®” course that is part of our Coaching Program.

The challenge he shared speaks to one of the fears that many smart guys have – what if I touch her and she really doesn’t like it?

Here’s the situation:

He and his female friend were parked in his car, and during the course of their encounter he touched her boobs.  She freaked out and demanded he take her home, which he did.

Now, he  tried calling her a few days later, only for her to angrily tell him to f&$# off and not call him again.  What he’s trying to figure out is, why is she so mad?  They’ve known each other for a long time, and it’s not like he touched her boobs often.  Why did she explode on him?  Since then, nothing.  Text messages he sends her get no response.  No more phone calls.  No more meetings. 

Why Did Him Touching Her Boobs
Rub Her The Wrong Way?

A couple points to ponder.

First, foremost, important-most and uppermost: it’s one thing to touch a woman in a way that excites her and builds her connection to you, and it’s another thing to grope her.  Before you tested her melons, what work have you done with touching in general?  There are many touches that are subtle but unmistakable in how you build a rapport, and a power that makes her WANT to do your bidding.  The back-of-the-neck thing is just one example.

Second, when you made a grab for her boobs, did you work your way up to it, so that this was a natural next step?  Or did you just reach out and give them a good squeeze?  Was it within the context of something else, such as holding her close from behind while pondering the view from wherever you were parked and letting your hands explore invited?

Third, this student also suspects she likes when he takes her out to dinner, to shows, and the like.   If this is the pattern you’ve set, it creates, in and of itself, a No Boobies Zone.

Long-time aficionados of Ross Jeffries Uncensored will remember the super-squirter who dried up and flaked.  After that first night of gushing delight, my student’s next move with her, 4 days later, was to take her to dinner and a show.

Money-wise, he spent $7.50 on the coffee meeting that led to her coming home with him, then ponied up almost $100 on a “date” where he had to compete for her attention with her iPhone and she outright asked to end the night early.  There was no “next night.”

Fourth, what was YOUR reaction? Were you a deer in the headlights when she looked at you after your hands made contact?  Did you have a “recovery pattern” on tap to re-frame the experience, get her calmed down, and restore the earlier vibe so you could try again later?  Could be, she freaked out because YOU freaked out.

Let me conclude by adding: a woman’s immediate reaction should never be interpreted as her “final answer.”  But if you went into panic mode, you might have helped her get there herself.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

A week or so ago, I posted this on my blog – a Sarge report from one of my longtime students who had met an HB8, had a few meetings in quick succession that led to an all-night makeout session… only to get a text from her the next morning in which she says they shouldn’t see each other anymore because she has a “borefriend.”

Said student read YOUR comments and thoughts and had a reaction along the lines of “DOH! What the f@@k was I thinking?!?!” and decided he’d give it another shot with her. Here’s what happened:

OK Ross, my gut told me to wait till the weekend to try contacting her, so that’s what I did. Meanwhile, on Thursday coincidentally and out of the blue she sent me a text that said “I’m so sorry, I actually don’t have a boyfriend. I wanted to see how you’d react if I did. I shouldn’t have done that.”

On Friday night I texted back “So which is it?” She followed up with basically a repeat of the above. So I called her Sunday (I deliberately dragged this out to build suspense) and she apologized profusely. I let her go on for a minute and then I said “Really, Debbie (not her real name of course), that totally threw me for a loop….I forgive you though.” We chatted for a bit. The plan is to get together this weekend coming up which is the next time our schedules match up. I’m heading over her place.

I’m not going to jump in head first. My other options still open (no “oneitis” here Ross). I’ll give her a mulligan on this one, but I’ll take this one step at a time. Give my thanks to everyone for their comments, especially the “constructive’ ones” I needed that!

You put into place the principle that a woman’s current reaction is rarely, if ever, her ‘final answer’. You remembered it a little late this time, but at least you remembered.  Next time you’ll remember sooner.

With all this suspense building, so long as you weren’t pining over her and agonizing on “what’s the right time to call” and “how long should I wait” and other dum-dum dating-game nonsense (sounds like that’s not an issue for you though).

Now let me aim the long, sharp needle at the balloon that is your ego.  SHE MIGHT NOT BE SINGLE.  Could be she has a boyfriend after all, but liked things with you so much she said what she needed to say to not lose you.  She might be getting ready to serve this guy his walking papers but wanting to interview other candidates first.  Or, maybe she just wants to f@@k around.

Before you come back all “woe is me” and “how did I let myself get suckered in” and all that rot, ask yourself – are ALL of these possibilities acceptable to YOU?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Pretty much every student of mine, even those who completely master my teachings and do everything just as I would recommend, has an experience with a woman that leaves him wondering, “What the HELL just happened???”

This one particular Sarge report I just received really stands out, so I’ll review it first:

Hey Ross, you know, you’d think by now I’d have a keen sense for women who are just looking for a cheap thrill.  Thursday night I met a hottie (I’d say she’s an HB8) and we really hit it off.  Things went so well I decided to cut it short and make her “want it more” by telling her I had to go but I’d see her tomorrow (we made plans then and there).

So next day we hang out for a couple drinks, it’s cool, and then got together again (at my place) Saturday night.  Next thing you know, we end up in a crazy-ass makeout session in my bed that goes until 7:00 AM.  She left, then I went to bed for a couple hours.  As you’d expect, I was in bed pretty early last night, then woke up at 5:00 this AM to a text from her: “I’m thinking we shouldn’t see each other anymore.”

Now, thinking to myself with a half-chuckle “Boy, THIS is gonna be good…” I texted her back “What brings this on?”  I’ll spare you the play-by-play and summarize with: turns out she has a boyfriend, she felt bad, she confessed her liaison with me to both him and me, she had been bored and horny when she met me and was looking for a good time but hadn’t planned on liking me so much, which was why she wanted to confess the truth to me, and if only she was single, etc.

In her explanation (a half-ass one if I ever read one) I got a bit offended, and I asked her “So would your boyfriend also forgive you if you confessed you wish you were single?” She replied “I’m sure he would.” I then wrote “I feel bad for the predicament he’s in.” After which she pretty much told me to F-off.  I have to admit, it bugged me a little.

Overall, this was well-played on my student’s part.  I would, however, add a couple things.  First let me ask: for what it’s worth, was she good in bed?  As long as she wasn’t a weak lay, ya know….

Now, I don’t think her explanation was “half-ass.”  She came right out and admitted she had been out for a good time, and in my student she found it.  She also seems to have no real qualms about playing around on her man.

It speaks to her character.  I’ve had women admit to me that they cheat on every boyfriend they have.  My response: “Why would I want to be with you then?  You just came out and admitted, in advance, you’d be unfaithful to me.”

I’m also pretty sure this pretty chick didn’t “pretty much” tell him to F-off.  I’m not a betting man, but I’ll wager a handsome sum the text read more like “Fuck off asshole, and don’t ever contact me again.” Because my student let her know in exactly so many words that he was onto her little game, and he accurately called her out on her behavior and now the spotlight burned her a little.

Look: when this happens to YOU, remember this: you met her, you got some, it’s all good, now let it go. Lots of women out there actually ARE single and ready to mingle.  A better one is waiting. Now what in the name of Becky’s bloomers are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What was missing from my student’s reaction?  I’ll tell you what: oh, yeah, he was a little offended and disappointed.  BUT his world didn’t drop out from under him, he wasn’t crushed or discouraged, and he didn’t freak out either on her or the world in general.  Hell, he was more curious to see what story she’d come up with, then worried about “losing” this cheat or worrying “what did he do wrong.”

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