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“I Don’t Want Her, But I Can’t Get Her Off My Mind!”

Posted by Ross Jeffries on February 22nd, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever felt like you got bitten by the “love bug” but you don’t actually want her?  Yeah…it bites.

Let’s say you meet a woman, Sarge on her, but as you explore the encounter and the woman you learn, for whatever reason there’s no way you could be with her in a relationship or any sort of involved scenario.  Either by her choice or yours.

YET, you’ve now become attached to her, maybe want to continue some sort of friendship….but…this has become your involuntary mantra:

…”Damnit, I Don’t Want Her, But I Can’t Get Her Off My Mind!”

A student of mine got fixated on a really hot 25 year old college student who, looks-wise, reminded him more than a little of the real-life chick who voices “Meg” on Family Guy.

She flirted with him like crazy, responded well to the patterns and language and so forth. But, upon getting to know her, how do I put this…this chick…actually WAS Meg Griffin inside Mila Kunis’ body.

There was NO WAY he wanted to be mixed up with her, not his idea of a “steady”.  This didn’t stop him from having the hots for her, to the point where it held him back with other women.

The answer: Reverse SRT Attraction Filter Ritual.

Here’s the procedure in a nutshell:

  1. Prepare. Do your meditation, breath exercises, unstoppable confidence affirmations etc. – things you usually do.
  2. Go inside and imagine her in front of you.
  3. Feel the energy of attraction and see the Attraction Filter between you and her.
  4. Watch as the Attraction Filter slowly loses its shape and its energy leaks to the ground.  Then watch the filter itself drop to the ground.
  5. Reset. Say: “I release any and all expectation of results.”

After doing this several times….

….the crush was gone!

He simply couldn’t “find” it anymore.

With the fixation out of the way, he is in a place where he can enjoy those aspects of her that he finds appealing, but he’s no longer overwhelmed by the desire to seduce her or the overpowering thoughts of her at all hours of the day.

Seeing things clearly when it comes to women…now if that doesn’t beat a poke in the eye, I don’t know what DOES.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Seducing When They Barely Understand English

Posted by Ross Jeffries on February 10th, 2011

God, I love this job.

The other day, I shared with you the letter from a student in Greece who was concerned that some of the Speed Seduction® patterns and techniques might not work on Greek women because of the difference in how the Greek language works.

I explained to him that the key is to use your words to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and that it doesn’t matter if that woman comes from Athens or Atlanta, Santiago or Shanghai, Chicago or Cape Town: women want the same fundamental basic emotions and feelings.

Now, just to show you how it is your attitude that helps make the tools work better, let me share with you another scenario, this one from a student in South Korea who mastered Speed Seduction® quite suck-sex-fully on women who barely “speekee de Englees”.

He is an American who lived in South Korea for over 4 years and has used Speed Seduction® on women who speak English naturally and those who have had to learn it. He tells me, if he had to choose who to Sarge between the two, he would choose those who have had to learn it.

Why?

Well for one, the ones who have more recently learned English have to LITERALLY hang on every word and focus in more and more on what you are saying (just to understand everything correctly you are saying, and then process it.

Also, the language structure of SS is something they normally haven’t encountered. So they are learning a new style of speaking and so therefore they are automatically very interested in what and how you are saying it, and they don’t think you are manipulating them.

Also bear in mind, they sometimes don’t get the metaphors.  Is this a bad thing? Hell no. What they do is ask you (because they want to learn from you [heh heh]) “what does that mean?” Not only does their interest amplify but also it gives you further opportunities to use more descriptive languaging and amplify some more.

Not only that, but consider this.

If they don’t understand all the words, they WILL understand the frame and theme, and then THEY FILL IN THE BLANKS FOR THEMSELVES!!!!!!   The student tells me that many times he has no idea what he said to cause their overly sexual behavior towards him because they may have only understood half the words – but then he figured out they substituted their own internal processes in the language gaps and THEY JUST RAN WITH IT!

Here’s the thing: girls are very interested in mysteriously exotic things they have not or would like to explore more, and though it may not seem so, you are exotic to those who speak a different language than yours, regardless of your native tongue. So if you find yourself in another country, just stay the course.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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The Stop-Seduction-Slippage-On-The-Fly Checklist

Posted by Ross Jeffries on January 25th, 2011

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

So, you are in the course of Sarging and seducing a woman.  Everything seems to be going great – as far as you can tell, you’ve captured and led her interest, now you’re getting ready to buckle up for a rip-roarin, snatch-soarin’ ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Then, like out of nowhere, she starts flaking, going cold, losing interest.

“What happened?!?!?!” you ask yourself as you vision the cold winter sea water of a seduction-sliding-south engulfing you as things sink faster than the Titanic.

It’s Time To Take Stock, Not Slip Into Shock

Here is a “quicksand-stopping checklist” you can work through when, despite your best efforts, the seduction sizzle starts dissipating into soon-to-be-masturbatory fizzle. Learn it, and you’ll find a “jumping back in point” when you need one.

First, you can diagnose according to certain categories…

Add, Increase, Eliminate, Subtract

  1. What needs to be added? Is there something you are missing entirely that needs to be put in?
  2. What needs to be increased-maybe there is something you need to do more of-more repetitions, more intensity, more volume, etc.?
  3. What needs to be eliminated-something needs to be removed entirely?
  4. What needs to be diminished (subtracted)-ok to keep doing it, but less of it-less intense, less volume, less frequent?

Next, we need to look at levels.

  1. Improve conceptual understanding. Is there a key concept or concepts you are not using or understanding?
  2. Energy/vibe-do you need to correct something on the vibe/energy level?
  3. Beliefs-is there something needing correction/improvement in your beliefs? Your cognitions about what moves women and what is required to bed them?
  4. Tools/behavior-do you need to polish some individual tool or tools? Actions you ought to be taking but aren’t?
  5. Analogs-do you need to correct body language, tonaity, volume, tempo?

Look: every girl-getting situation is different, but once you master the skills, you’ll be doing a lot more of it (girl-getting, that is).  The above is by no means an exhaustive list, but it gives some good “quick start” places to look when you’re trying to save a Sarge on the fly.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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When You Can’t Get Her Off Your Mind (Even Though You Know Better)

Posted by Ross Jeffries on February 28th, 2010
 When You Cant Get Her Off Your Mind (Even Though You Know Better)

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever had it happen where for some reason, you just can’t stop thinking about a particular chick?

Like, you spend hours visioning what your next meeting (or even phone call) will be like, exactly what you’re going to say?

ca 63290464 180 When You Cant Get Her Off Your Mind (Even Though You Know Better)Then, you find yourself agonizing over the right time of day you should call her? Suddenly worried that she might see what you put on your Facebook wall and fretting that she might interpret your status a certain way (that keeps your willy dry)?

Normally I ask, when I get questions like this I ask, first, foremost, uppermost, and important-most,

Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman
on the whole freaking planet???

However. in this case I think you realize that she isn’t. It’s just that there’s something inside of you keeping you fixated on this one chick.

First, you’re probably placing too much importance on this one chick. Have you f@@ked her yet? (It’s a yes or no question; either your Junior Explorer has explored her woman cave, or it hasn’t.)

Next
, define “importance”. Importance as in sexually wanting her, or importance is in her being someone you connect with on an emotional/caring level?

I’d be VERY careful about connecting too strongly with women, emotionally, unless you are well into f@@king them. Most guys underestimate their need to care for someone and emotionally connect with.

A lot of times guys find their “stuckness” can be exacerbated by being confused by that woman’s emotional 180s, fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other deeply frustrating and seemingly (to you) irrational actions. Sound familiar?

Sometimes I feel I stand at the fulcrum between two things: the living wall of fire that it is my lust and the flood of water that is my compassion and my need to connect and care. Can make things at times confusing, yes?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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I Laughed When The Blond B***h Flipped Me The Bird

Posted by Ross Jeffries on January 19th, 2010
 I Laughed When The Blond B***h Flipped Me The Bird

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

[This is something I wrote a while ago, but it's one of my all-time favourites and it teaches a very important lesson.  So for you, I am pulling it out of the vault...]

ca 39160310 180 I Laughed When The Blond B***h Flipped Me The BirdLife sure is funny, sometimes.

Today, I was driving my SAAB convertible from the dealer, after having it repaired. (Note: SAABS are fun as hell, but expensive to maintain. Any SAAB lover will tell you it is worth it, but don’t get one if you aren’t willing to fork over some cash from time to time.)

Anyway, as I was driving, some blond girl in a beat up Honda Civic was tail-gating me.

Apparently, 45 miles an hour wasn’t fast enough for her. So she was right on my tail.

I thought, “Honey, you are going to try to shut ME down when I’m in this turbo-charged rocket? No way.”

I just tapped the accelerator and my SAAB shot off like a rocket, leaving her eating my California clean-air-standard- compliant exhaust emissions.

Here is the really funny part.

She caught up to me, behind me, at the red light.

And when the light turned green, she whipped around me in the right turn lane, and illegally proceeded to cross back in the intersection so she could “cut me off” and pass me.

As she did, she flipped me the bird.

I burst out laughing.

Then I thought, “Now, why was that so funny?”

What was funny is how stuck that poor girl was.

She really thought she HAD to “beat” me.

She was willing to break the law and endanger herself and others just so she could have her “victory”.

And she had to flip me off and make it personal into the bargain.

But you know what?

After she took off, I was STILL in my beautiful, joy-to-drive, incredible SAAB.

And she will still be driving around all day today, and probably for the next few years, in her crappy, beat-up, falling-apart, shitty Civic.

Now, this is NOT about the car you drive.

ca 36858504 325 I Laughed When The Blond B***h Flipped Me The BirdIt’s about looking where you THINK you are finding your little “victories” without realizing that you are really just re-enforcing being stuck.

And it’s about not being reactive to other people’s stuff.

I could have taken offense at that girl.

Instead, I laughed at her need to “beat” me.

Sometimes, the best thing to do in life is just let the idiots zoom by you, thinking that they’ve won.

And the seduction lesson is this:

Women are running around on auto-pilot 99% of the time.

The actions they take often have NOTHING to do with you, but their own pre-programmed stuff.

So when you run into a woman who responds in a cruel or bitchy way when you have really done nothing to merit it, just picture my little blond bitch in the shitty Civic, flipping me off.

And realize she’s done you a huge favor.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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