Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Just got this great e-mail from a student of mine who has immersed himself in our Buddy To Bedmate course and, most recently, stepped up to the plate by claiming his copy of Nail Your Inner Game.

Now, he will tell us, in his own words, how these courses have turbo-charged his girl getting game:

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Hey Ross,

Thanks for free Buddy To Bedmate stuff….I’ve been absorbing as much of it as I can reading through all of the pdfs and files…and let me tell ya…this is fantastic stuff!  I’ve been trying out various strategies on some of the ones I know in the friend zone…and although we are not doing the “no-pants” dance…I am getting some very interesting responses.

The trance induction mp3 was very helpful to me.  I have listened to it 3 times…and plan to listen to it whenever I feel stuck and frustrated (I expect this when trying to connect with women…part of the learning process, eh? – no, I’m not Canadian : ) I sense a difference already in my attitude…and the crazy thought trains that used to run through my head like “the clock is ticking”  or “time is running out on me” or “this will never work” or “there are no women I can really talk to…connect with…”  …. well, you get the idea.

I appreciated especially your take on the “inner game”.  As you put it…the “double your masturbating” guy tried to talk on the inner game and had some useful stuff…but it was rather vague and undefined.  I read this year the Inner Game of Tennis by W. Timothy Gallwey and also the Inner Game of Work by the same author.  At the time I read these….I thought “wouldn’t it be great if there was an Inner Game to Seduction book?”  When I signed up for your Buddy To Bedmate system….I was happy to discover you had really “nailed” this topic!

I bought your Inner Game DVD/CD pack recently…and just watched it last night.  Fantastic stuff!  I especially appreciate your concept of transmutation…I did it today after having a tough time at work…I was all knotted up inside and found the detanglement process very, very helpful.

Now to apply this knowledge in all the right places!  : )

I have found your stuff much more practical than the other PUAs out there.  You should write a book someday -  The Art and Science of Persuasion!

With appreciation,

Ethan H.
Dallas, TX

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RJ here.  Ethan – good on you for claiming your mastery of the skills that will get you more of the women you truly desire, more of the time, and keep you from getting hit with the “F-bombs” that the Romance Racketeers just love to lob at smart men everywhere.

By the way – I’ve written a couple of books – and I do have a course called MindFrame Persuasion. 

Peace and piece,
RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I shared with you the story of the student who decided to implement a “friends first” policy in his girl-getting game.  I can think of a few F-words that go along with this policy, and I can pretty much guarantee that fornication is NOT one of them.

All too true in this particular student’s case, because now I’m going to show you how he not only didn’t get laid, but then he committed a Sargy sin.

First, the result he got when he actually did something Sargingly decent, but then allowed “friends first” to stop him from taking it to the next level:

> Just to take a sidetrack, I did some SS patterns and techniques with a girl I met at work. We were hanging out one night, talking, and we were just talking about ourselves and relationships, and somewhere in the conversation I threw in “yea, that’s why I always go for it, even if the girl does have a boyfriend…because who knows if the guy really is what she’s looking for or if she wants more…but I’m honest with myself. I have to believe that I really am better for her than her boyfriend. Then I have no problem.”

This apparently set off something in her head (she had a bf at the time, although he was far away), because that night she kissed me on the cheek from her own volition.

WOW! A KISS ON THE CHEEK! STOP THE PRESSES!

I am mocking this for a REASON.

I want him (and you, if you consider this a big score) to be slapped awake. YOU are viewing HER as the rare prize to be waited for.

WHAT STOPPED HIM from escalating when SHE initiated?  What was he waiting for, if he thought this set off something in her head that could have gotten her giving HIM head?

Spend some time thinking about rapport and calibration. What are you doing right with these?  Where could you improve to get the results YOU want?

YOU have the gift. You can create these feelings now whenever you like wherever you go. SO MOVE ON.

OK – here’s the part where he Sargily sinned:

> Well, one thing I know I’m doing right is getting feedback from one
> of my female friends. She and I are really good friends and
> understand each other very well. I ran the story of this girl by
> her, she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and
> then move in.

OH MY GOD! HE IS BEING LED ASTRAY! Why would he believe the advice this chick gave him on how to win a woman?

Sinner, please believe in your future. Believe and envision being able to create these powerful feelings as a common, every-day thing, NOT a rare event.

She isn’t the gift for RESPONDING. YOU are the gift for GIVING.

YOU are the rarety; a man who evokes powerful feelings. SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.

So move on. BELIEVE in finding someone more open. And Goddamn it, calibrate to her responsiveness and program in getting physical. YOU CAN DO IT!

Back when I responded to this post, I included this Sargy mantra for him to remember every time he felt compelled to implement Friends First:

Silently Sargy is watching and waiting
Come home, sinner, come home
Walking the back fence
He’s calling you homeward
Come home, sinner come home

He wandered the alleys
And danced on the rooftops
Come home, sinner, come home
So you could get pussy
And pull out all the stops

COME HOME, SINNER, COME HOME.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you, too, have found yourself astray, let me personally lead you to scintillatingly sweet Sargy success.  See me in Copenhagen in a couple weeks.  Or see me in London two weeks after that.  If you can’t make either of those, see me in Montreal, Sydney, or Melbourne this fall.  But for the sake of your Sarge, see me at a 3-day seminar!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Those of you who devotedly follow Ross Jeffries Uncensored have heard me say a few very important things about the words “dating” and “friendship.”  Let me recap three of them:

“Dating” is what you do with a woman AFTER you have slept with her.

When you’re in the “friend zone” you have what I call the “insider’s advantage” to Sarge your way right into her bed.

But the last thing you want to do is get F-bombs (as in, “we can talk as fr–n-s”) dropped on you by the women you want to get with.

I’m reminded of a note I got from a student in one of my discussion groups a few years back.  He said that, despite all of this, he had come to the “key realization” that it’s important to be a friend.  “Friends first” were his words.

According to this student, if he went in trying to be Don Juan, with the smoothest lines and the strongest male energy in the room, he’d blow them out (as in burn them out).  Rather, he wanted the woman to feel absolutely comfortable and safe talking to him about anything, and also for him to feel the same way about her.

My response?

No. NO. N-O.

The alternatives are NOT “strongest male energy in the place” and “blowing them out” OR this “friends first” pish-posh.
Remember that one of the cornerstones of Speed Seduction® is using what she gives you in terms of the vibe she puts out there.

CALIBRATE to the woman in front of you. You don’t need to blow ANYONE out if you CALIBRATE, use THEIR responses, etc.

Now, I understand gathering enough information about her and how sometimes you need a couple of meetings to get her in the sack.  That’s still Speed Seduction® in my book as long as you’re not playing the mastur-waiting game (wait before calling her, wait before asking her out again, wait until Date No. 3 or 6 or 8 before hitting the mattress with her, etc. etc. etc. ad nauseate-um).

But don’t label it “FRIENDS”. THAT IS DANGEROUS AND DESTRUCTIVE. And furthermore,  when you do this you are making HER reluctance (if it is even there at all) into YOUR reluctance.

Let me translate: when YOU don’t know how to feel comfortable patterning this girl, you project THIS discomfort onto her, rather than embracing the skills you need to learn.  You fall back on old ways (this whole “friends first” business).

What did that Rabbi say? Some of the seeds fell on bad ground, and immediately the birds of the air came and ate them.

Now, I have more on this “friends first” topic, but I’ll save it for another day.  That day cometh soon, so keep your antennae and your browsers tuned into RJU.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Experienced Speed Seducers know how to turn 20 minutes over coffee into hours of hot sex. (You’ll never have to go on a date again, unless it’s what YOU want.)

Want to know what they use to make this happen?  Click here, right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of my readers who receives our Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets newsletter is asking what, for many of you, is an important question.

He knows that I don’t recommend going to “meat markets” or “pick up joints” because they’re usually too noisy so you can’t work your Sargy magic, there’s too many people around, and besides, women will have their guards up because they know guys are there to hit on them.

I also don’t suggest meeting women online.  On dating sites, again, her guard will be up, plus what have I said about introducing any form of “dating” frames with women before you sleep with them?  Even on f@@king Facebook.  Those chat rooms and “naughty boxes”, you don’t know if, in her mind, she’s chatting with YOU, or some idealized vision of what she thinks you might be.

So, where are you going to effortlessly approach and meet women this weekend?

One of the best ways to meet women is to encounter them during the normal activities you engage in, connecting with women while they go through their normal activities.   For example…

• You think there might be some wet, willing women at the car wash?
• What about the succulent hottie standing next to you in line at the checkout?
• Maybe she’s your “friend” now, but did you know you can use the friend zone to get her in bed?
• Going out of town and flying solo?  Or, you’re staying close to home, but your wingman isn’t around to back you up this weekend?  Don’t worry, you’re covered either way.

And, yes, I’ll address the elephant in the room.  You know the old cliche about what you’ll find at the produce section in the supermarket?  Well, it’s not a cliche.  My students in southern California (where I’m from) know that you’ll usually find some fresh fare at Ralphs.

That should give you some ideas.

And I better not hear about how you got some chick’s number this weekend so you could call her up and ask her out on a date, unless she gave it to you AFTER catching her breath from the whirlwind flight on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Get out there and make it happen.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. My recommendation for today is that you get out there and DO it.  But if you need some instant, right-now access to some great videos that teach various aspects of Speed Seduction®, just click here to grab it.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever asked a woman out, to have her say “Sure, I’ll go with you, as friends”?

For those of you who, despite my thoughts on this subject, meet women on “dating” sites, have you ever messaged a woman for the very first time, only to have her respond (without any conversation with you): “I’ll let you know upfront that I’m not interested, but we can talk as friends.”

Recently, a student of mine asked a woman, “I have two tickets to the game this weekend. If I were to ask you to be my date, what would your response be?” Her response, “I would accept, just as friends though.”

Wha…wha…WHAT?  Huh?  Run that by me again?

So how did this potential ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle turn into a “friendly” “date”?

What did she mean when she said “… just as friends?”

It all starts with that word… the “D” word… date.

As Speed Seducers, don’t we want to AVOID all the “dating” terminology and thought patterns? All the auto-pilot responses that “dating” triggers in her mind?

Rather than ask what she “means” I would ask: what process did it trigger in her? What autopilot ways of thinking went off in her head in response to “date”?

Probably she thought, “Oh oh…date means he EXPECTS I’ll f@@k him. Well, I WANT to f@@k him, I HOPE I f@@k him, but I don’t want to feel PRESSURED to f@@k him. Am I really ready to f@@k ANYONE? Jeremy hurt me so bad last time. Why are men such jerks? I wonder what Tanya will think…I should text her right now and get HER opinion. Oh wait a minute, she just went to visit her boyfriend in rehab after he beat her up and got arrested by the cops. That cop who is always at Starbucks in the morning is hot. I bet he f@@ks good. Dad said never to date a cop, I bet it would be fun…”

Etc etc etc.

Do you get my point?

Stop playing dumb and stop being afraid to take a bold step forward. Breathe into the image of you who GETS IT and DOES IT.

And then DO IT.

With her.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Like how I get right to the bottom of it and lay it out there?  Want to see me do that 120 times on video and hear me do it 48 times on recorded audio?  Crack open the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection and all of that plus more is yours.

Including my bonus course, “From Buddy To Bedmate” with the formula that gets you out of the “friend” zone once and for all.

GO for it!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

This video speaks for itself.

Helping guys like this make their breakthroughs is the reason why I am still passionate about doing this work after 20 years of teaching.

Now, if I could do this for a guy like Sina-a 25 year old virgin who was desperately stuck-what could I do for you?

Watch…

Click here to view the embedded video.

Peace, piece and another student blasts through the friend zone!

RJ

P.S.  The “beta” test Sina talks about was a one day “in-field” event I did with 3 students. Don’t know if I will do it again, but you can find out about my personal consulting, monthly coaching and live 3-day seminars on my Speed Seduction® Website.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There’s a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground. Could that really be true? Frankly, I don’t know. But I will say this: 95% of the time, a woman will test you by the second meet, or sooner, to see:

1. If you’ll take her bullshit.
2. How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who look hungry, never get fed)
3. Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the relationship.

You CAN pass those tests – and do some testing of your own. Believe me, this is important.

If you’ve ever been dumped for being “too nice”, or have been told, time and again, “let’s just be friends”, it’s because you haven’t learned to recognize when you’re being tested or just haven’t yet learned how to properly respond.

You thought you would get points for being “co-operative” and “helpful”, and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the lollipop.

Why She Tests You: The Search For Strength And Certainty

Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for from a man is security; the feeling that someone is stronger than they are. When you put a woman in her place, when you set rules and boundaries for her to follow, it lets her know she can relax around you and feel comfortable and secure.

This search for strength is the single most important reason why she tests you.

The other factor is ambivalence, or what I call the “make up my mind for me” syndrome. You see, often a woman just isn’t that interested in you one way or another. Maybe you aren’t exactly the physical type she goes for, maybe she just got burned in a bad relationship, or there’s some unseen competitor who she’s waiting to hear from.

Whatever her reasons, you can tell this is happening when you hear something like, “Uh…well, I’d like to go out with you Friday, but why don’t you call me late Friday afternoon and I’ll let you know for sure?”

Finally, there is the fact that sometimes, modern women just get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do at once. And, when overwhelmed, they flake on commitments that occur during the peak of the overwhelm.

Now, stay with me… in my next post I will show you just how to handle it.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Every situation is different, as you can see there are as many reasons for a woman to give you a B.S. test as there are B.S. tests.  The best way to learn to overcome these – and other – girl-getting challenges is to learn from those who have mastered them already.  You’ll find lots of this in the 120+ videos of the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection.  Click here to get instant, lifetime access right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ok. What if you DO make an a$$ of yourself in front of a woman?

What if you Sarge but stumble on your lines?

What if your “friend” that you’re trying to move from buddy to bedmate calls you on it?

What if…what if…

So what? What is the very WORST that could happen?

What if it were an unprecedented opportunity to show that you can stand up for yourself and own your truth?

What if your answer to these “what if”s was:

“You know, as a man, I feel it is my duty AND my pleasure to get even better at attracting and pleasing women, and this is one thing I’m so dedicated to getting, I’m willing to go through the initial embarrassment and stumbling with people like you who won’t give me a break with it.”

Could you imagine feeling totally calm, at ease, at peace and balanced as you spoke the total truth of it to some girl who acts like a bitch to you, JUST LIKE THAT?

How free, liberated and totally awesome would it feel to be able to stand strong in that?

Now, one more bit of reassurance:

In the beginning, doing ANYTHING new, you are going to make mistakes. That’s just how life works.

But rather than demand PERFORMANCE CONFIDENCE, which is confidence based on many, many past successful experiences, with something brand new you have to substitute ACCEPTANCE CONFIDENCE.

ACCEPTANCE CONFIDENCE is a matter of giving yourself the permission to learn, to enjoy screwing up, and smiling and laughing through it. It’s determination AND the softness to step into experience without having to know what is going to happen, RIGHT OR WRONG.

The cool thing is, ACCEPTANCE CONFIDENCE is just a matter of will and perspective. You can have it, RIGHT NOW.

The cooler thing is, to women, the vibe from ACCEPTANCE CONFIDENCE is just as attractive and sexy as the vibe from PERFORMANCE CONFIDENCE. Women really can’t even tell the difference!

So..go get ‘em. And F@@K IT UP AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. You can bet ***I*** f@@ked it up tons, way back in 1988 when I was first coming up with this stuff. And there was NO one to guide me, no brotherhood of SS students, no list, NO INTERNET! So if ***I*** can do that, by comparison, YOUR task is incredibly easy!  Click here to see how I’ve made it even easier!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

How many women in your circle of friends are just that – “friends”?

Are you stuck in the “friend zone” while you have oil-wrestling matches with your little friend about what it would be like if it was much more?

Worried about losing the friendship if you make an “upgrade” play?

Tell you what…

SEDUCE THEM ANYWAY!

You Have An “Insider’s Advantage” When You Sarge On Your Sizzling Hot Female “Friends”

Here it is: it’s actually very easy.  

Since you already have the friendship, you can approach her like it’s just another day. Best part is you can spend multiple meetings on achieving the goal because after all, you ARE friends, so you’re just “hanging out” like usual.

Get her to where she craves your times together, that only you can provide. Don’t dread the friend zone.  Use the zone, to get out of the zone.

Important question: can you find the right balance between a fun/learning frame and the desire for your outcome?

Now, I would ONLY sarge a “wants to be friends” girl if I already was sarging other women, at least one of whom I was banging to take the “sexual edge” off of my efforts with the “friend” (because it might take a little work).

But women can do a 180 with their “let’s be friends” story line and want to bang you, anytime.

Are YOU going to step up and step out of “the zone”?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. At 6:00 PM Pacific Friday (September 24), claim your invite to “From Buddy To Bedmate: Out Of The Friend Zone And Into The F@@K Zone, In 30 Days Or Less”.  That’s 24 hours from now.  Click here to make it happen.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Next Friday, Sept 24th, at 6:00 PM Pacific time, I’ll be doing a one hour live video broadcast seminar on a very important and special topic: how to get that female “Friend” into your bed!

We’ve all heard the terrible words, “I just want to be friends.” And we’ve ALL been stuck in the friend zone.

So I’ve come up with ten powerful ways to turn that female “pal” into your own screaming porn princess, and believe it or not, NONE of them rely on language patterns!

(Don’t get me wrong. I love language! It’s the core of what I do. But I wanted to challenge myself to go beyond what I already know. So I’ve come up with THIS. And it rocks).

Listen: this one hour event is going to be really good. And you can expect that all of the imitators and impersonators in the seduction community will sooner or later be copying it and claiming it as their own. So before that happens, get in on the ground floor and go here to sign up.

Click the Play button to learn more and sign up now:

When you sign up you will also receive a special gift that I don’t even want to talk about here. But it is valuable and you will love it.

Again, this event is FREE. And if you miss it, you will be sent the replay link within 5 days of the live event.

This is really going to rock your world and by the way, you certainly CAN use this stuff on women who are NOT friends who you have just met to speed them into your bed even faster.

Claim your spot here.

Peace, piece and this WILL blow your mind,
RJ

P.S. Just in case you are one of the few people who have never bought any of my courses before, why not start off easy by claiming your copy of my new book, Secrets Of Speed Seduction® Mastery? Check it out for yourself right here, right now.