Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Not too long ago, a student shared a challenge with me.  He noticed he seemed to spend a lot of time inside his head.

Many of his AFC beliefs were still there, always showing their ugly head when things with the ladies weren’t working out like he wanted.

Example: if a girl flaked on him he’d find himself spending ages thinking about it, sulking, and getting annoyed.

The challenge: how to become more positive and have more helpful beliefs, to get some peace and quiet in his head so he could step up his girl-getting game.

A few things I called attention to:

The old patterns of thinking, feeling, etc WILL come up when you make changes. Not because it is who YOU are or that you are afraid of success or have some condition like “low self esteem”.

But rather, they come up because… well… they’ve come up so many times before and they now have momentum, more clearly, what I call cognitive momentum and emotional inertia.

They are not signs that you are failing or hopeless or are a “negative” person.

They ARE signs that you are headed right into the face of your challenges and they are coming up, or offering themselves up, if you like, to be released and refocused into resources.

How do we do this?

1. By languaging them correctly, in such a way that we notice them without gluing them back to ourselves and/or making them who we are.
2. By being mindful of the actual feeling sensations in the body without fighting or feeding them.
3. Then and only then, positive rehearsal of new ways of thinking, feeling, believing, acting, responding, etc.
4. Finally, consistently acting in new ways and doing the new behaviors, ways of speaking etc.

Do this and you will, sooner than later, begin to see some amazing transformations(trance-formations).

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training,

Since today is Independence Day here in the United States, I want to share with you some thoughts about magic and freedom.

There is magic in the mastery of using language to capture and lead imagination and emotions.

There is the magic of knowing what to notice that remains invisible to the eye of most.

And, then, there is the deeper magic.

The magic of being willing to step into the unknown AND freeing the other person of any expectation about how THEY should respond or will respond.

Truly freeing them.

As in willing and able to ground yourself into a place of energetic acceptance (they can do whatever they want, **I** control where my energy goes) of their first response, whatever it may be. You are going to respond by staying grounded and holding compassion.

That doesn’t mean you STAY there or make their first response YOUR permanent “truth” about the situation.

Here is why this is so powerful, and why this brings you freedom:

Even the hottest woman has areas of her life where she feels stuck. Things or ways of being or feeling she’s like to try but doesn’t. And she wants reassurance BEFORE she steps out of the boat – so she stays in the boat and just watches the waves and wonders. EVERY WOMAN HAS A PART OF HER LIFE WHERE THIS IS SO.

So when she sees you, a person WILLING to step into what is unknown for you, willing to be open and vulnerable (but not needy) with life and living that is sexy.

She won’t be able to explain it, she’ll feel it.

By itself, that is sexy.

Now, so many people, when they finally do have a way to step beyond their comfort zone are SO filled with expectations and demands on the situation and on others.

“Hey, I opened up to you. I risked. Now I DEMAND you open up back”

So when you open up and step beyond the known as a choice for yourself WITH NO DEMANDS AT ALL ON THE OTHER PERSON, that freedom, that “not doing”, that “vacuum” around you creates a pull forward.

You place no pressure. You have no “push” on them at all.

There is no-thing for them to resist.

These two elements combined create a deeper magic few will ever even see.

And the two elements don’t add up.

They MULTIPLY.

So it’s not 100 points of attractive vibe PLUS 100 points of attractive vibe.

It’s 100 points times 100 points. That’s 10,000 points of attractive vibe.

Now, add to that:

Basic walk up energies that enable you to effortlessly approach any woman, any time, anywhere.

Language skills.

The energetic touch secrets.

I think that puts you up near the 20,000 points of attraction – right out of the gate.

None of this requires arrogant swagger or being a loudmouth.

And NONE OF IT REQUIRES ANY PAST “SUCCESS”.

You can have it now, in a heatbeat, in between the passing of one second to the next, in between the fading of this thought and the arising of the next.

Strip away the nonsense and crap that has swirled and guess what: YOU ALREADY ARE THIS.

You just have to be quiet enough to remember.

And in that, there is freedom that goes beyond words.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In honor of yesterday being June 9 (6/9), I’m going to get into a type of positioning.

Not the missionary, piledriver, 69, doggystyle, reverse cowgirl.  I mean, positioning in terms of sharing your rules and values with a woman you’re Sarging, seeing, or in a relationship with.

For example, one of my students has three main values he adheres to and expects the women in his life to also adhere to:

1. Don’t ever lie to me
2. When you say you’re going to do something, keep your word and do it
3. You have to be moving up or moving positive if we’re going to spend time together

While you’d think these are just basic Goddamn common courtesy, all too often you actually have to explain this to someone.

Sometimes sharing your rules can mean feeling a bit vulnerable, especially if you show a bit of genuine anger.

But it CAN (read: MIGHT) create the chance for the other person to feel free to be vulnerable.

This all depends. How well do you know the person? How bad is the behavior?

Back when I was single I had a woman flake on me at the last minute after she and I had hung out a couple of times. It REALLY pissed me off.

So after a few days, I got her on the phone and calmly but with a bit of pissed off going as well, I strongly told her my rules about friends not flaking at the last minute; that I expected friends to respect and appreciate the gift of my time, that she had thrown a major monkey wrench into the process of our getting to know each other, and that it was up to her to pull it out.

She called back, I let voice mail take it. She angrily defended herself, admitted she had also done wrong etc.

I called her back, she answered, apologizing, saying I was right. I let her know that she would have to make it up to me.

You know, sometimes I think women do things to piss us off just to see if we will own our position and show some genuine anger. It’s not so much a “shit” test as a “trust” test.

They’ve been lied to a zillion times before by guys sweet talking them, telling them what they want to hear. What guy would THINK that they(women) WANT to hear anger? No guy would think that, so since you are showing anger, you MUST be sincere. You are being honest.

As long as the anger is not expressed with an attack, like “You rude fucking bitch. What a thoughtless idiot you are!”

The anger has to express what YOUR rules are, how she violated it and what YOU expect.

Be careful, however. Some women want you to get angry because THEY are angry and want a good match.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. A great next step forward: learn how to show her that you’re the alpha male that can satisfy her in the bedroom without using any words.  That’s just one of many, many vaginally-victorious teachings you’ll find inside Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Making the transition from a life by default – where you simply accept whatever success with women happens to fall into your lap because you don’t this part of life handled – to becoming a Speed Seduction® Master can have its moments of overwhelm and frustration.

One of the biggest causes: now that you’re seriously laser-focused on meeting more women, getting laid more, finding a girlfriend or wife, etc. you’re paying attention to every interaction or Sarge and evaluating yourself.

What’s more, you second-guess yourself as in “Cripes, why didn’t I just go for it, I mean, was she or was she not giving me the doggy bowl dinner look?”

I certainly understand. It can be confusing to take on new learnings and, more importantly…

….An entirely new relationship to frustration and confusion.

I want to say that again, in another way.

Learning seduction is not just about learning to successfully seduce women.

It’s also about learning to successfully relate to frustration and confusion.

You can score big victories in one, or the other, or both.

When it’s not yet working with women, you can STILL win in regard to how you handle frustration and confusion.

This is as key a skill set as knowing how to do walk ups, knowing how to get women hot and ready, etc.

When overwhelm and frustration rear their ugly heads, start by doing these 6 things:

1. Chunk down. Start small. Get good at ONE skill at a time. For example, get good at walking up and the introduction BEFORE you try to go any further.
2. Work on changing your orientation to first and foremost NOTICING WHAT WORKED. Remember, it takes training to recognize progress in an area of life that’s been loaded up with negativity.
3. Have a reward system in place. Anytime you do ANYTHING right, however small, reward yourself in some way.
4. Have a weekly reward: I recommend a weekly, good, therapeutic massage(not happy ending!).
5. Keep getting support from fellow smart men who have blazed the same trail you are.
6. Keep a journal to record what you did, what happened, and what you learned.

Try this out and see how your frustration and overwhelm subside.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. With my Nail Your Inner Game system, you’ll have no further need for pre-assurance or upfront-guarantee of success of any kind before you take bold (and fun) seduction steps.  You will walk like a giant where previously you feared to step.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Two days ago, I shared a video clip where I showed Chocolate Daddy an exercise that helped him overcome his fear of approaching and meeting women.

Today, he tells you about his overall experience at the seminar.  Click here to hear him say it, in his own words:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I’m so sure you’ll love this live learning event, with me, that I’ll even guarantee your satisfaction and money back for a full 90 days after you’ve attended. I dare ANYONE in the seduction community to even try to match that promise!

Click here to pick your date and town and lock in your seat (and you can bring a friend too):

http://www.seduction.com/blog/2011seminar/

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Sometimes what gets ignored in our search for success with women is who we are and what we are bringing into the interaction.

Someone once said, “A monkey in a silk suit is still a monkey”.

This understanding is why Speed Seduction® isn’t just about the language tools with women, but how we can clean up our own pain and confusion so what we bring into the interactions as men is already a lot more attractive and fun before we even say a word.

Here is an interaction I just had, by email, with a student who was missing that point.

> Hi Ross,
>
> I first read the game in December of 2009. Up until that point, I had only had one girlfriend and had only slept with one woman (The same person… By the way, I didn’t even particularly like her!).
>
> Having come from a massively dysfunctional family, I had hugely overwhelming issues with social situations, especially involving women. I had desperately  wanted to find a girlfriend from a very early age, but just couldn’t do anything right. I always came across as needy, desperate and too keen.
>
> This year, I have been getting steadily better, but have still suffered some pretty devastating situations. Despite all the things I grew up with, I have  managed to make a fair go in certain areas of my life. I have become a very accomplished musician, I have a decent job, I drive a nice car etc, but all this stuff seems worthless without someone to share it with. Even though I have made some good advances with myself, I am still suffering massively in the area of women. I have certainly improved with them, but my abilities to communicate still simply suck!
>
> To cut a long story short, I bought your home study course. I went over it with a fine tooth comb, but I just can’t seem to make it work. I see other guys using it brilliantly, I see you blazing a trail with it, yet I just can’t seem to make it work! I’ve even got some of the other DVDs, such as Gold Walkups and a couple of other that were included as part of a package deal at the time. I’m not a bad looking guy and without sounding big headed, I’m pretty intelligent with it. I just don’t know where I’m going wrong and I am totally at my wits end! It’s even reached the point where I have considered flying out to the US to come and have a one on one with you, but I know I need to use my money to buy some property next year.
>
> I’m desperate, Ross and I know you’re a man with answers. I know your stuff works, otherwise I wouldn”t have paid for it.
>
> What can I do?
>
> B
>

B,

I think your question contains its own answer.

What we bring into even the very best technology for dealing with others, will effect how we apply that technology and the results we get.

Some people just come into this “game” with more pain, more unconscious patterns that get in the way, more confusion etc than others. All humans have some pain and confusion-that is the human condition. But some of us (as I did too) come with more pain from dysfunctional families and even a genetic load that  predisposes us to be more anxious than others.

The good news:

Remember Speed Seduction® isn’t just about the technology for dealing with women successfully. It’s also about technology for cleaning up who WE are and  what we bring forward into our interactions with women AS we use the language patterns, etc.

There is plenty in SS to deal with this.  I suggest the Nail Your Inner Game program, or even more precisely, my Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection.  This  is the past 2 years recorded content from my coaching program and contains modules for dealing with the emotional and other issues that you are bringing  forward into what you do.

You deserve a shot at having a clean slate.  NYIG and the Training collection will do that for you.

If you feel you want to work with me personally, try the Coaching Program. You get immediate access to all the vault content (but not organized by subject, as the Vault is – in the Coaching Program you have it organized by each month I create it), plus you get to talk with me live 4 times a month. Twice on a group phone bridge, once on my personal cell phone, and once by live group video conferencing.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. One more thought – if you’d like to experience 3 full days of immersion training with me, consider attending one of our live seminars – we have numerous dates throughout the year and numerous locations throughout the world.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

In yesterday’s blog post about the dominant vibe, I explained how in over-reaching in trying to be commanding, many otherwise smart guys come across as desperate supplicators in denial and ironically reveal themselves to be Average Frustrated Chumps (AFC).

Today, I want to delve into a very common scenario that makes many guys feel the need to put on “dominant” airs.

Let’s say you’re at a regular hangout, and there’s a chick you see and you want like nothing else to Sarge on her.  Then this other guy (who you often see there) comes along, usually just as you’re preparing to approach her.  He’s always very aggressive with women.  He completely lacks any real methodical girl-getting game; all he brings to the game is just a lot of touching and bodily contact.

But there’s one catch,  Many chicks think he’s “better looking” than you, so he gets lots of ass on his looks alone.  It’s happened more than once that you were actually Sarging on a woman when he comes over, pats you on the shoulder in mock-friendship that makes YOU look like the jerk if you get pissy, and then steals the show.  And the girl.

It’s gotten to the point where if he shows up, your girl-getting game goes gummy (as in the bears).  Your confidence sags.  You’re defeated before the first shot is fired since you stand no chance vs. his “superior” looks.  That, and because he’s so aggressive and Johnny on the spot, you can’t even find the opening to approach her and get the ball rolling, much less keep him away.

But all is not lost.

Here’s How To Beat This Jerk At His Own Game
And Have Him Wishing He Was You

There’s really only one way to master this situation, and that’s to do it vibrationally and enegertically FIRST, and THEN through language.

By this, I mean that this clotheshorse clearly understands the use of the “dominant” vibe. But he’s not using the other three:

• Showing understanding of her world
• Being vulnerable
• Being funny and fun

More importantly, he doesn’t understand that by randomly fractionating back and forth between these vibes, the power of them multiplies rather than adds.

When you’re exponentially expanding your vibes and erotically executing your master plan, soon the ladies will be wondering who that pushy, obnoxious, needy, pathetic jerk is who keeps following you around trying in vain to cock-block you.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Sick and tired of getting rejected, ignored, humiliated, overlooked, shut down or standing there frozen and speechless by beautiful women, especially when these “dominant” men interrupt your patterns?  Click here for the shield that keeps your girl-getting game going gangbusters.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ever had it happen where a woman’s “talk” takes giant, behemoth strides… but her “walk” is more like her standing in place?

You find that most (if not) all the time, you are the one initiating any kissing or making out or making whoopee or making-what-have you.  Not only that, but half the time her reaction is more tepid than water that’s just been sitting in a cup on the table since last night.

Sometimes, it feels like she’s actually holding her mouth still while you’re trying to kiss her.

BUT: between meetings you get all kind of texts and voicemails and e-mails from her.  She tells you she can’t wait to get her hands on you, she’s going crazy thinking about you and what she’s going to do when she sees you next.  But when you do see her, she’s so reserved she might as well have a “RESERVED” sign on her.

So, you ponder and wonder…

… What’s Going On That’s Taking Away Her Playful Thunder?

Let me preface by saying: a woman’s current response should rarely be taken as her final decision or answer.  It’s a response to what’s going on with her (emotionally, environmentally, and elsewise-ally) AT THAT VERY MOMENT.

It’s also possible, especially when there are many moments like these, that she doesn’t have much experience with men and is trying out some new ways of talking, if not acting, with you.

Also, she’s conflicted: she would like to be more emotionally intimate, in theory, but in fact, in the flesh, it scares her.

Sort of like a guy who would LOVE to approach and pick up a hot girl but he’s scared, so his behavior is contradictory. He takes a few steps towards her and then veers off.

Here’s the thing…

She wants to “go there”.  Many a time, she’s gazed longingly upon the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle wanting to have a little “lift off”.  But she just can’t quite figure out how to get to the station.  That’s where YOU come in.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Having the skills and confidence to stimulate any woman’s subconscious sexual triggers using your words is one of the best skills in the world to have because it will give you complete seduction mastery even over the choosiest (or shyest) women. Click here to learn how you, too, can have it…

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

What does it REALLY mean when she says “let’s be friends”?  And is it really your best deal?  Watch this brief video (from a recent seminar) and then tell me your thoughts:

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Owwww…. the “friend zone!” About as nice a place to be as a porcupine patch.  Want to avoid getting the “F-bomb” dropped on you because you’ll be too busy riding the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle with women who are more than just friendly?  Click here to learn how to get it.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Ever heard the term “woman hater”?  It’s the first thing that comes to mind when I relate this story about a student of mine:

The problem: he was prone to use terms like bit*h, sl*t, and who*e (without the astericks of course) when talking about (and sometimes TO) women.  It’s like showing a sign of hate toward them.

I called him on it, and he explained it as a “love-hate” thing – he disliked women, but he loved them even more.  He was trying to figure out where the dislike comes that led them to use these bad words in describing them.

He used to have a girlfriend (for over 3 years) and he would call her a “fat sl*t” all the time.  Like a self-fulfilling prophecy, she gained a lot of weight… and also cheated on him.  My student “got even” (as he put it) when she called him one morning and another woman (who had stayed the night with him) picked up and told her never to call him again.

So the bottom line: he didn’t want to have this feeling of bit*h, sl*t, and who*e, etc. with women.  Instead, he wanted a “better vision” when it came to approaching women.

Here’s What You’re Probably REALLY
So Angry About

If this student’s tale is something YOU can relate to, STOP beating yourself up and LISTEN to what I’m about to say.

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: the past isn’t who you are and it isn’t what you deserve.

I’ve always held that once you completely let go of whatever makes you angry at women, you’ll find that deep down inside there is a fear of rejection.

I’m not normally a betting man, but I’ll wager that as you meet good, quality women, you will realize that whatever happened between you and your ex (or any other women you’ve been mean to in the past) really wasn’t a big deal, at least not in the “grand scheme.”

It was a mistake or a misunderstanding between two people and there is no reason to hold it against yourself or anyone else.  So you did wrong – accept it, respect it, LEARN FROM IT.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The key is to take any and all confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve ever experienced with women, and convert it to pure, immediately usable learning, so you can bounce right back, and automatically do things right with the next woman.  Click here to learn how to go about this…