Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It’s time to break out of the belief fostered by certain folks that in order to have fun or have sex with a woman, you must be open to a relationship or feel you “owe” her one.

It is time, my beloved students, friends, and fans, to shut the Romance Racketeers down.

Look: when you’re out there meeting new women, exploring new avenues, enjoying rides on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle without excuses, regrets, apologies, and other bullshit so-called “price to pay” for being an HONEST man, the Romance Racketeers lose.

When you and a woman mutually agree to have some fun without complicating things, that means you both get what you want without money and time wasted on fancy dinners, flowers and chocolates, romantic cruises for two, and that rot.  The Romance Racketeers do NOT like this because they’re not getting your money.

But you, as a smart guy who masters the skills, will focus instead on having fun, making out with, and yes, f@@king the women you really want to be with.  Meanwhile the Romance Racketeers can go f@@k themselves, as far as you, me, and all of your fellow Speed Seduction® masters are concerned.

Most of us come from a background of being told to be “a nice guy”. Told, even if what you really want is some awesome sex with a hottie, to still make it known that you want a relationship and even make an effort to try to “find” one.  You know the old saw about “stuff you say to get into her panties”… and the over-generalized connotations around the phrase “Mr. Love ‘Em And Leave ‘Em.”  

Well guess what?  Many women you THOUGHT you never had a chance in Hell with, actually WOULD have slept with you, in fact masturbated while thinking about you, but were afraid to get involved with you AT ALL because they weren’t ready for a relationship and took those hints-to-the-contrary you felt “obligated” to drop, at face value.

Another clue: women who are dating other guys or have busy schedules are probably not looking for a relationship either.  A woman who has a “career first” mindset is unlikely to settle into a relationship, in fact she might get turned OFF by the idea.  But chances are she’s not committed to waiting 5 years to get laid. Have you thought of it from HER point of view?

One last thing: how many women commisserate about wishing they could find “Mr. Right” yet seem to be having a lot of sleepovers with “Mr. Right Now?”  I got news for you pal: she’s not letting Mr. Right Now in her shorts because she doesn’t want him there, even if it IS true that he’s not her “Mr. Right” that she envisions having kids and growing old with.

In fact it just might be possible she’s denying she really likes f@@king him – even complaining about what a “jerk” this “Mr. Right Now” of hers is – because she’s been programmed by the Romance Racketeer Cinema to fear “society” will call her a whore for daring to claim her choice to be a discerning, smart woman who wants to be happy and satisfied like any human being.

You know, just like the Romance Racketeers would paint you a “rake” or a “sex obsessed jerk” (the “bad guy” in any sappy romance flick…you know…the guy who f@@ks the heroine over and over before she finally “lets” the “hero” of the story be seen buying her an expensive dinner in a public place on their way to the expensive show he bought the tickets for) for daring to admit that, yes, you like a woman because she’s good in bed and you like being in bed with her.

See, these Romance Racketeer assholes are making it difficult for the women-folk too.  And that’s bullshit that needs to STOP.

Now STAND UP, cast off their chains, go up to that woman you desire, and show her a BETTER choice.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. With inflation these days, it’s easier than you think to drop a few hundred in just one evening on the stuff Romance Racketeers want you to spend money on… EACH time you want to get laid.  What if you invested that same amount of money ONCE – in YOURSELF – and claimed the skills to get laid 100 times?  Click here to learn how.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”

Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.

It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).

(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)

I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”

So let me tell you about this one weekend where I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.

I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”

Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.

What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole

Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.

“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”

(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)

Then a thought hit me.

“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.

So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.

“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”

And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.

“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”

So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.

By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”

But I wasn’t done.

“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”

And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.

“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”

At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”

Then She Did Something That Shocked Me

In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”

Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.

And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.

What Are The Lessons You Should Learn

Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:

1. Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
2. If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
3. A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
4. By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
5. Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
6. “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. From now on, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you’ll remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

How do you move closer to your destination?  Take a step toward it. 

How do you eat the giant elephant?  One bite at a time.

Claiming your results with women you truly desire is not much different.

If you’re just starting out, a “newbie” who has had a bit of success using the techniques but feeling a little intimidated because you haven’t yet effortlessly landed the terrific threesome with Debbie and her succulent sorority sister Sarah, think about what HAS happened for you.

You’ve made the decision that today is the last day of the way you used to be.

Perhaps you personally haven’t changed all that much, but the way you see things and the world in general HAS changed – for the WAY better.

With increased confidence that comes from seeing SOME success, you feel like the world is your oyster and you will grab it by the balls and squeeze until they crunch.  (Ha ha ha. I don’t think oysters HAVE balls, but I dig the picturesque metaphor in any event.)

What comes up many times for “newbies” who have gotten better at approaching and conversing with women: challenges mastering the Close, sealing the deal with women.

Hint: stop thinking about the “Close” as a separate stage, but as something that starts before you even walk out the door and continues with each further step of comfort, openness, challenge, excitement and desire you create in and with her and with the first initial friendly/warm touches/physical contact, which should be happening early on.

HINT HINT: If she isn’t comfortable or is frozen with that initial, friendly, non-sexual touching, RUN.

HINT HINT HINT: learn to screen women. What personality traits must be there in her for you to want to move forward? Can you mentally rehearse getting up from the table, smiling, shaking your head and saying, “No way” and just walking out the door, feeling 10 feet tall and humming out loud, “ANCHORS AWAY, MY BOYS! ANCHORS AWAAAAAY!”

Newbies: this is important, that last hint. Do it.

Start acting like you have choice and standards even if you currently don’t and your dick for the past ten years has been dry as nun’s pussy in the Sahara desert! It’s the most paradoxical, counter-intuitive mindset, but it W-O-R-K-S! Start believing, feeling, act-as-if you ALREADY have a world of choice.

And most of all, remember my rule: When I don’t know what to do, I take a bold step forward.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the most powerful tools in the world for personal change is simple RECURSIVE Focus; returning again and again to the object of your chosen awareness, after periods of being focused elsewhere.

Without focus there is NO devotion, without devotion, there is merely focus that goes nowhere to no end.

Now, what are the things that distract from focus?

1. Unrealistic expectations. You try something once, expect it to work perfectly well or to perfectly execute it and then when it doesn’t, you give up.

2. Great luck. Something works exactly right, the first time, so you give up practicing and stick with the first success!

3. Ultra-creativity. You’re so super-creative you can’t/won’t bring yourself to repeat the same thing over and over until you reach mastery. For years, this was MY greatest stumbling block.

Don’t get me wrong: you can and SHOULD adopt the material to the unique situations and unique women you are meeting, for sure!

I’m simply saying, once you create something that works, keep practicing it so you have it down before you move on to the next thing! TRUST ME ON THIS!

4. Failure to properly schedule/allot the time. Perhaps you have bad organzational skill. Learning to plan is important.

5. Lack of physical energy/fatigue. Ya can’t sarge if your clock is all run down from bad diet, no exercise, no sleep, etc. Be good to the biological robot that you operate!

6. Distractions from environmental demands - work, family issues, etc.

7. Fear of failure.

8. Fear of success.

9. Not knowing how many tests/repetitions constitute a fair try.

10. Lack of proper encouragement/guidance/feedback support/mechanisms (come to one of my seminars or join my Coaching Program and you’ll get lots of these)

Notice that nowhere here did I list “not understanding the material”.

For most guys, I would say 1-4 are the dominant interruptions. And number 9 is probably VERY, VERY common.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When you come and learn, drill and experience your breakthroughs with me, you get just that: me. No flunkies, trainees, or churned out by the “franchise factory” clone instructors – you get the best. And I’m giving my best in Montreal.  Click here to get my best.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Nothing brings me more joy and satisfaction (well, maybe a few things do hehe) than hearing from you, my fans, friends, and students, about how Speed Seduction® gets you real results with real women in the real world.

Please take a moment to explore how this student used seemingly innocent conversation when getting to know a woman he just met and how it led to them getting VERY acquainted…

Ross,

For the longest time, I was confused, anxious, and deeply depressed when it came with women.  I resorted to tactics of begging to get phone numbers and they often led nowhere.  A friend had recommended your products along time ago and after purchasing the product, I used it for a couple weeks, felt it was a bunch of bullshit (having never actually used it) and it sat in my large collection of PUA material for about 2 years.

Fast forward to November 2010, after breaking up with a girl that I only met through being ‘setup’, I found myself reading and learning the material once again.  I practiced as Manny Martian for a couple weeks at a local mall.  I had no results other than a few laughs and being asked kindly to leave the mall.  This made me more determined and I wasn’t ready to give up just yet.  I was invited to a local coffee house/bar to which found a very hot estonian woman in her early 20′s with long legs and green eyes.  She was gorgeous.  I sat at the bar for the longest time afraid to approach her as I thought the guy standing next to her was her boyfriend.  “There is no way a girl that hot is single.” I kept telling myself.

Eventually I worked up the courage to go speak with her and said, “Excuse me, but I noticed if I didn’t say something we’d never have a chance to meet. I’m Jack.”  She smiled, and introduced herself as Eliisabet.  We talked for a couple hours about everything from her ideal vacation spot, rollercoasters on the discovery channel, to anticipation and compulsion. She said, “I’m tired of baby sitting my friend, I want to go somewhere quiet and get to know you better” and that is when we went back to my place to “get to know each other better.”

So, I know this material works.  I still am learning how it works and why it works… but it 100% works!!

Jack R. Thomas
Toronto, Ontario

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What differentiates this student from everyone else who gave Speed Seduction® a cursory glance and dismissed it?  He went back to it, immersed himself in it, and let it guide him to the ripe fields of moist pink abundance.  You, too, will have this when you click here now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you “assume” it makes an ass-of-u-and-me.  What happens when you “insist”?

Watch this short video where I share two great attitudes that will help you meet, seduce, and succeed with the women you truly desire:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. This clip is from our April 2011 3-day seminar in London.  Our next seminar dates are in June, and are in Copenhagen and London.  Don’t miss out, click here for details and to sign up now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Really… how was your weekend with women?

Was it a vaginally-victorious, ripe-for-harvest, 69-acre field of moist pink abundance?

Did you meet a great new woman, easily and effortlessly, despite any imperfections in yourself or in her, and powerfully capture her interest and create a new space where the two of you could take things, together, in a new direction?

Did you get laid?

If some hottie threw you a curveball – gave you a nasty glare, shot you down cold before you had a chance to work your Sargy magic (or Magick), or otherwise threw a wrench in the gears – did you know what to do?  How to handle it?  How to turn things around your way to still get the results you want?

OK, so maybe you’ve been seeing someone.  Have you slept with her yet? Things heatings up between you two?

(Or you three, if she, like her salaciously succulent sorority sister, is the freaky girl that many of my students would like to meet at least once… or maybe again and again)?

I get it – maybe you’re in a serious, committed relationship and this is indeed the woman you think you might want to marry.  After all, you did take her home to meet your momma and it was already like your parents “didn’t lose a son, but gained a daughter”. 

Is it a relationship, or a real-hate-shun-ship? Are you sure?  Do you know what to do if you really like her but so far it seems like you real-hate too much?

Seriously, let me know.  I want to hear from you.  Leave a comment below, please.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If your actual weekend with women didn’t quite add up to the “perfect HB10″ equation I described above, click here and/or click here to learn two ways you can improve things, starting now.  Today.  Getting the ball rolling for wetter, wilder, wonderful-er weekends with women.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Today I want to talk about something that is often just not discussed.

I have a student in my coaching program who I would have to describe as successful in most areas of life.

He’s extremely smart.  He’s built his own successful business using his brains, his discipline and his drive.

But he has, at 29 years of life, never had a girlfriend and never been laid in his life.

Did You Ever Wake Up One Day And Think, “I Just Don’t Get It..Why Can’t I Use My Brains To Succeed With Women The Way I Have To Succeed In The Rest Of My Life?”

The standard answer most guys in this situation will hear is, “You can’t use your intelligence with women because women aren’t logical”.   Or, equally stupid and useless, “Intelligence doesn’t attract women. Women want strength and dominance and power”.

To which I say, “Bullshit”.

My friend, if you are in this situation, you can indeed use your intelligence to have massive success with women. But it is a different kind of intelligence than what you’ve used for business or school.

It’s an intelligence that involves:

1. Changing the orientation of your thinking.
2. Cultivating the skill set of present state and present time awareness.
3. Cultivating a “spacious” consciousness so you can notice your old responses without them distorting your perception and driving your behavior.
4. Cultivating your creative consciousness so you can effectively tap into your intuition and imagination to make much better calls and flexibly explore much more fun and powerful responses, behaviors, beliefs, insights and practices that actually get you laid.

If this is a topic that interests you, please respond with a comment (leave one below) and I’ll do more on it.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I’d love to hear about whatever event triggered your “awakening” moment where you asked yourself that question.  Please share by leaving a comment below.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the tricky things when you get good with Speed Seduction® is the thorny problem of having women fall for you and fall for you hard, when all you want is a little bit of fun.

As guys, we have to be aware that even the most bitter, cynical, hardened woman can have her heart burst wide open and her feelings of wanting to be loved really come to the surface when she is properly seduced.

Let’s face it: sex can make all of us feel very vulnerable, and most especially so with many, if not most women.

To illustrate my point, let me share a note from a student facing this situation:

Dear Ross and Bros:

Went out with a young lady I met on the internet on Saturday.

Any way, one Twin Brothers pattern led to another and we ended up back at her place.  No need to go into the details, but when I left we both had big grins on our faces.

The reason I feel a little guilty is that I haven’t called her since.  I’m pretty sure that it won’t do her too much harm, but also pretty sure that it won’t make her feel too good and won’t do her self esteem too much good either.

Although I’m not that interested in developing a relationship with her, I would prefer to be able to  walk away knowing that, at the very least no damage has been done, however small that might be.

Now, I was pretty honest with her and didn’t promise her anything other than an interesting evening.  I did say that I would call her, and  later in the week I shall.  But what would be interesting from you guys would be any thoughts on how to set her up on the date so that they see the evening as a fun, exciting event and are happy not to expect too much after it.

RJ: The key here is to be honest about your intentions if she asks.  The second thing is, if you are not looking for an incredible connection, but just a roll in the hay, don’t use “connection” patterns.

I teach there are 4 doorways into any woman’s mind and emotions:

1. Getting her visualizing vividly.
2. Getting her to feel strong emotional connections
3. Getting her to feel strong, pleasurable body sensations
4. Getting to her core value structures

If you sense a woman wants too much from you, commitment–wise or is looking for than what you want, do not use doorways 2 and 4. They create a very strong emotional bond with most women.

You can use them, lightly, but mostly I’d lean on doorways 1 and 2. There are plenty of patterns to pretty much guarantee you can get in without creating deep emotional bonds.

Of course, if a girl is desperate and needy enough, she will CREATE those bonds, even though you never used any patterns at all! That’s when we can get into some trouble even though we proceeded with care. The problem isn’t with us, but with our “subject”; she’s just too friggin’ needy to deal with it.

If you sense you have a girl who is on the needy edge like this, it might be better to just let her slide and NOT have sex with her.

How’s that for having a life of real choice: you actually have so much variety and choice with women that you can feel great being able to say NO to a girl instead of it being the other way around! Imagine that!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Emotional connection patterns are VERY powerful. They do to women what high heels, push up bras, and boob jobs do to use men; they make the subject loose control!  Use them with caution.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

This video speaks for itself.

Helping guys like this make their breakthroughs is the reason why I am still passionate about doing this work after 20 years of teaching.

Now, if I could do this for a guy like Sina-a 25 year old virgin who was desperately stuck-what could I do for you?

Watch…

Click here to view the embedded video.

Peace, piece and another student blasts through the friend zone!

RJ

P.S.  The “beta” test Sina talks about was a one day “in-field” event I did with 3 students. Don’t know if I will do it again, but you can find out about my personal consulting, monthly coaching and live 3-day seminars on my Speed Seduction® Website.