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Putting Raging Lust, Desire, And Horniness In Its Place

Posted by Ross Jeffries on November 16th, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Let’s say you’re out and about and walk-up to a hottie and really hit it off.  Or, you’re at a party and your host’s best friend is an HB10++++ and she smiles just right while hanging on your every word.

For s$%@s and giggles, maybe you’re online and chat with a woman, seeing her on “cam” verifies she actually IS hot, and she’s just so flirty and cute and 10 minutes from you and agreeing to meet you, in the succulent flesh, firm booty and huge tits and all, for coffee the next day.

All of these scenarios make you feel good.  Hey, nothing suck-seeds like suck-sess, and few things crank up the dial on a sunny day like a beautiful woman’s smile when it’s meant for you.

Problem, though.

You start to feel a new state coming on…then it erupts within you like a volcano.  Next thing, you associate her sexy eyes and twinkling smile and the way she says “babe” in her awww-shucks way…

… and are consumed by RAGING LUST, DESIRE, AND HORNINESS that obliterates any and all other feelings or senses.

Clearly, this is NOT a good state to come from when approaching women.  You end up getting invested in the result of bedding HER (rather than “interested in the woman” and “invested in sharpening your skills”) but, nevertheless, there it is.  BAM.  Your girl-getting game and experience goes out the window and it’s a very, very short ride to AFC-Ville.

How Do You Put Carnal Desire In Its Place So You Get Her Back To YOUR Place?

You realize it.  You need to get yourself into a calm, centered, powerful, playful, exploratory place, or the only good those desires will do you will be to give Jimmy a fighting chance in the hand-to-hand wrestling match you’ll have in about an hour while thinking about her.

Yet at the same time, you want to USE and CHANNEL that energy that arises from this “desire states” to HELP you get the results you want.

Here’s a quick exercise you can do, at that moment, to get these desires working FOR you, instead of just working you.  (NOTE: this requires a certain level of self-awareness and if that’s an area where you need changework, you want to check out Nail Your Inner Game).


  1. Ground into your feet. Bend your knees slightly and feel your feet pressing into your shoes and the ground pressing back up through your shoes/feet
  2. Tune into the lustful feelings and see if you can find the edge or border where they fade out into almost disappearing. Then hold your attention on the very border/edge of the feelings, just before they disappear. That will help.

Think about it.  Your mind full of raging lust, desire, and horniness…. or HER full of raging lust, desire, and horniness as she presses her succulent body, firm booty and huge tits and all, up against you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame – the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to getting at least three to four times more women.  Learn more about this right here.

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Radar O’Reilly Reaches New Heights With Women!

Posted by Ross Jeffries on July 16th, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Fans of the long-running TV show, M*A*S*H, will remember the exciting girl-getting exploits of camp ladies’ man, Corporal Walter Eugene “Radar” O’Reilly.

Yes. Really. Radar.

The short, nearsighted, naive, teddy-bear-hugging, comic-book-reading, not-all-that-handsome farmboy from Ottumwa, Iowa. Radar.

You think I’m kidding? You think I’ve lost it?  Let’s go through the exhibits, and I’ll briefly recap what happened and share my feedback where I can.

(NOTE: All images are screen captures and are copyright to Twentieth Century Fox.  They are presented here as illustrations for a research project only.  I strongly urge you to support the actors by purchasing the DVDs, all of which are available for sale on leading retailers like Amazon.)

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Here we see Radar, who has been studying up on Bach and Tolstoy to impress a highly cultured new nurse.  While he utilized his girl-getting game as an opportunity to expand his overall horizons, he was doing it to impress the girl – not good.  In the end, he got so bored with the seduction he fell asleep during dinner.  (There is no shortage of women, nor are there a shortage of women for YOU.  Don’t “settle.”)

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There’s an unexploded bomb in the compound, and Radar encounters a bombshell of a nurse who has other forms of “explosion” on her mind.  He tries to wink at her, and for the effort, she takes him off to the supply tent.  A fine example of frame control, resetting the mood, and redirecting her energies in a Sargy sort of way.  Well played.

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Radar was shy around this nurse who loved poetry.  He came over to her tent one night to share a book of poems, and she pounced on him like a tigress in heat.  Turns out she thought his shyness around her was him being a “heartbreaker” and “playing hard-to-get.”  Question: what women do you know might need just a nudge to pounce on YOU?

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There are several scenes where this particular nurse comes onto Radar.  Sometimes he knows what to do and they dance or make out…sometimes he blows it.  I would ask, what would he need to get his game “on tap” so he can draw from it at-will?

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Not his finest hour.  This Korean woman claimed (falsely) that Radar fathered her baby.  Sick of being teased by the likes of Hawkeye, Trapper, and Frank, Radar, in turn, falsely claims responsibility.  (Good thing Hawkeye had the blood test results in-hand to bail Radar out!)

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But, two minutes later, the same giggly, flirty nurse from two shots up encounters Radar by chance.  Very excited to see him, she asks him out and he accepts.  Hawkeye recommends Radar wear the paratrooper scarf that seems to drive women wild.  Radar thinks about it.  (Awareness of your “style” that drives women crazy for you – and into your bed – is a critical factor.)

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This nurse is fed up with Radar dropping off the mail and shuttering out the door. Her exact words: “When are you going to make a REAL delivery?” He resists because she outranks him.  (However, he soon gets accidentally promoted.  She then REJECTS him because she prefers the “underdog”)….

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….However, once the mistake is corrected and he’s restored to Corporal, Radar drops off that package she was asking about earlier.  (Lesson: it’s who you ARE that is more likely to attract women NOW, than who you WISH you were.)

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Radar spent an entire episode being shy, trying to figure out how to get this new nurse to notice him and using half-assed pick-up lines to attempt conversation.  Turns out, the whole time her eyes were wide open to what he offered.  All he had to to was tell her he was interested! Here you see him at the officers’ club with the “prettiest girl in camp.”  SCORE!

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Radar’s on his way back to the 4-0-Double-7 when he encounters this sizzling hot farmgirl who grew up not too far from him.  If this is an indicator, I bet when he got discharged, his homecoming was pretty sweet.  (Gee, how many double entendres are in THAT sentence?)

Here’s the thing.  If Radar can do it, so can you.  Over and out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When Radar needed mentoring and guidance on how to work it with the ladies, who did he turn to?  Hawkeye, whose own girl-getting game was par excellence.  We learn from those who have succeeded before us.

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A Student’s Journey To Juicy Joy: Part 3

Posted by Ross Jeffries on June 19th, 2010

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

We’ve been following the experiences of my student, and so far it’s been an oft-told story

… at least one that’s oft-told among my students.

ca_63317255_180Boy meets Girl.

Boy Sarges on Girl and gets her excited about exploring new worlds without resorting to bullying, begging, buying, BS, or booze (or biceps) or getting stuck in the “friend” trap.

Girl puts up resistance just when Boy thinks he’s about to score big.  Boy confidently and unflinchingly appeals to her vibe and overcomes Girl’s resistance and they’re off to the races.

Well: I’m pleased to report this story has a happy ending and they lived happily ever after. 

Part 3: (Inner) Game On!

From that moment, their subsequent dates went GREAT.  They had a great time.  She was happy with him because he was always doing different and unusual things (well, unusual because she was used to dealing with AFCs).  In doing so he adhered to the principle, “Leave her better than you found her.” He was happy because he was managing a fruitful relationship for the first time in his life.

The relationship is now over, but my student has great memories that he can appeal to every time he needs a positive feeling or “vibe” in his girl-getting game.  As a result of the experience, he’s no longer afraid of exploring his feelings and letting himself live every second without dreading the uncertainty of what’s coming next.

ca_37763993_180Now, as we wrap up here, I want to focus on a few key points.

1) Notice that he didn’t say anything about “dates” until AFTER they slept together.  He “met” her several times, but he adhered to my teaching: “Dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with.” By avoiding the “dating” rituals he actually INCREASED the odds she would become his girlfriend.

2) I said earlier they lived happily ever after.  I did NOT say they lived happily ever after TOGETHER. It doesn’t always work out quite that way, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t work out.

Remember: when you interact with a woman, your goal is not to succeed with her, but to hone and strengthen your girl-getting skills that will lead to success with many other women.

3) That said, if this particular woman turns out to be “the one”, then good on both of you!  If not, the odds just went WAY up that you’ll succeed more often with more women… and that you WILL find “the one” much sooner.

Either way, it sure beats a poke in the eye!

Much peace and many more pieces,
RJ

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Seduction Mastery…It’s Not What You Do – It’s Who You ARE!

Posted by Ross Jeffries on August 15th, 2009
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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

My most successful students are those who apply my girl-getting teachings to their own situation in a way that works best for them. When they come back and teach the community – and me – what they’ve come up with, it creates more success for all of us. That’s what it’s all about.

fotolia 2149329 small Seduction Mastery...Its Not What You Do   Its Who You ARE!In my Speed Seduction® Yahoo! Group (the community for those who take courses such as my Speed Seduction® 3.0 Course), a student posted some advice that was so good, I would be slacking in my duties as a teacher if I didn’t share it with the class:

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If your approach to women is successful, that is great. But a successful walkup should not be the same as winning the lottery. It should be a nice, pleasant experience – but at the same time, no big deal.

Think of something you do every day that is pleasant but you don’t really get all that excited about – such as drinking coffee, taking a shower, or chewing a piece of gum. Put walking up to women in that category in your mind. Stop attaching excess meaning to meeting women, and relax a little.

Also, develop the belief that meeting women is just natural for you – its “no big whoop.” Once you convince yourself you are a “walker upper,” you will be able to do walk-ups naturally.

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Truer words are rarely spoken.

Becoming a Speed Seduction® master is about taking something that was previously a “big deal” – confidently approaching that hottie and getting her so hot and bothered that she drags you back to her place and f@@ks your brains out – and making it something that’s everyday and normal for you. It all just becomes part of who you are.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Becoming a mathematical wizard involves not only memorizing, but mastering, all the formulas, theorems, and principles. For the wizard, doing complex math is just part of who you are and what you do. That’s what they mean when they say “the pros make it look easy.”

P.P.S. It’s the same with Speed Seduction® – there are principles, patterns, and techniques you use to get women hot and bothered. Getting that barista to bang you in the breakroom becomes a normal occurrence for you, just like it was natural for you to order that latte you like. All of this – and more – is in my Speed Seduction 3.0 Course. Get yours now:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/30/

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