Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Check out this video clip, from one of my recent live seminars, where I have a student complete an exercise to overcome his fear of approaching and meeting women:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Here are a few worn-out, wasted, and woe-begone cliches you’ve probably heard before.

“Men and women must be in love before they have sex.” “Women will most likely have sex on the third date, but will not decide if they love him for another 6 months, because they believe love takes time.” (Is this why the “third date” is assigned so much importance?)

As you continue to master your girl-getting game and achieve more and more tight trim triumph… as you peel away the layers of doubt and beliefs that haven’t served you… please get this; discovering your false and limiting beliefs ARE GAINS!!!

As you see what actually works with women in the world, you cannot help having your old beliefs challenged and changed. As you change and challenge your old beliefs, you cannot help but make progress in the field.

This is what makes Speed Seduction® unique and special: it requires you deeply re-examine how you think about women, what attracts them, and indeed, what “attraction”, “love” “desire” really are, as PROCESSES with a structure, sequence, flow, movement etc.

Well, my belief is that you can NOT have a truly “loving” relationship WITHOUT sex. So there.

Forget about such stupid generalities as the “all important third date” and other calls to mastur-wait-ion. Those who preach these ideas base them on THEIR limits.  Just because THEY need to go on “dates” and follow the “rules” to get the chick in bed, YOU should too.  That’s how they’d have it.

I’ve had women “fall in love” with me in 20 minutes. Some never do.

Look, the real issue is: will doing as OTHERS say help YOU go where you need to?

What is the process – the methodology – by which YOU will discover what works and what is true? Do you really need written reassurances or can you move through some uncertainty with a determination to FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF WHAT WORKS?

Do you see my point? The real value is asking a better question than “when will women have sex or fall in love?”

The better question is, “How do YOU find out what is true and real, for yourself? And how do you handle the uncertainty of looking? Can you convert into excitement, curiosity, playful determination?”

More and more I am convinced that my job as a master teacher is NOT to answer the question the student asks. 70% of the time it is redirecting the student to ask the much more useful question or questions that they aren’t even thinking to ask.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. You can get some progress just by mindless imitation; but deep change and huge sastisfaction / suck-sex requires you change the filters and beliefs through which you address the world of women.  The best way to do this is twofold – reprogram the belief mentally and through ritual.  Explore my Nail Your Inner Game and Magick/Psychic Influence courses.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Sometimes when you are stuck, it is what stands far outside of what you are used to doing that has the best chance of giving you the results that are far outside of what you are used to getting and enjoying.

Here is an email exchange I just had with a potential student who just couldn’t see himself speaking to women the way I teach men to do, along with my answer.

Let me know what you think and if I made it clear to this guy.

RJ

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> Dear Ross,

> I’m 90% sure I would like to purchase your SS deluxe home Study course but, from what I’ve seen and heard from your online videos is that I have a difficult time seeing myself speaking to women in this manner. It’s just so far off from what I actually speak like. And I would consider myself NOT the the best talker. So give me that extra 10% of reassurance and convince me that I can integrate this into my personality and make it actually WORK. I’m desperate!!! Not a fucking joke, I really need help in this area of my life!!! I know you get this question a lot but I still would like your answer.

> P.S. Please respond because I’m not a customer YET, I really need help with this and I TRULY appreciate an honest answer.

> Sincerely, J.C.

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J.C,

A few answers:

1.  Could you see yourself trying out small bits and pieces of “speaking this way” just to see how they fit for size?

2. To get results far different than you are used to having, sometimes you have to do things that are far different than you are used to doing. The way you are currently speaking with women isn’t working, so what is the point of clinging to what isn’t working, simply because it feels comfortable?

3. Fortunately(very good news) Speed Seduction® also includes ways to manage and even ENJOY that initial “discomfort” when you are first using these language tools.

I am sorry my marketing didn’t make that clear enough: I will not only teach you the language tools. I will teach you how to handle, powerfully, any discomfort that you may experience along the way as you proceed to use them.

On that note, a HUGE piece of Speed Seduction® has to do with the tools I teach you to manage your own emotions, create different kinds of confidence IN ACTION, that work for your own particular personality type, how to create motivation to keep going, how to learn from mistakes quickly and rapidly.

Yes, the language tools with women are SUPER-IMPORTANT. But I think you had been missing how much of SS is also about assisting YOU: how you show up for women and yourself.

I hope this helps.

Finally, you get to choose HOW you best want to learn it.  You can, in addition to getting a recorded course, join my Coaching program and get live feedback and learning with me 4 times a month. Also, you can always come to a live seminar and get personal interaction with me and watch me work with hot women live. Nothing encourages and convinces as much, for some people, as seeing this happen, right in front of you, with live women.

I care. Please write back.

RJ

P.S.  If you have a deep concern or question before you become a student, I want to hear from you, whatever it is. This helps me be a better teacher, better communicator and is vital feedback for me. Sometimes I am so immersed in my own love of teaching and my own creation, I don’t see how I am not making my point and clearly explaining. I welcome your feedback, especially if you have doubts about yourself, the material, your ability to use it, etc.

Just email me: rj@seduction.com Subject: My Doubts/Fears/Struggles    I will keep your full name and your email address fully confidential in any email response I might publish.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

We are standing on the edge of a new year, once again.

Today, Dec 28, I received the following testimonial, a very moving story of how a student moved from the deepest depression and darkness into amazing success with women.

I offer it as my gift to you and my hope it will inspire you to claim the success with women that can be yours.

It is my deep honor to be teacher, coach and guide to guys like this one, and hopefully as well to you.

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Speed Seduction® Changed My Life

Hi RJ,

Many thanks for the phone conversation earlier during the office hours regarding walk up’s and approaching, I found your points very useful and insightful as always!

I also wanted to say thank you so much for all your efforts in this field, your work has literally changed my life!

Before I found SS I was pretty much a lost soul, I didn’t fit in in most places through out my life before now. I suffered from anxiety and paranoia and later depression brought on by an extremely bad and painful break-up with an ex-girlfriend back in 2001.

This was a four and half year relationship that was a living hell for the last six months. After the break up I had lost all my self-confidence, I didn’t want to speak or socialise with anyone (something I already found difficult at the time anyway), became introverted, angry and depressed. This was for several reasons, not just the break-up but also events surrounding the break-up and a tremendous amount of verbal and psychological abuse from her, and all the time she was doing this I was believing what she was saying!!!

Anyway, I drifted deeper into a darker state of depression and confusion over the months that followed the break-up that then turned into years. During which time, every six months or so she would crawl back into my life, start to ‘patch things up’ again and then do the same thing all over…

I made the decision that something had to change and it was going to be me and I wanted drastic, permanent change! After reading several books on nlp and trying countless nlp and hypnosis products, nothing was really bringing the kind of change I needed. Then I finally came to your material by the graces of good fortune (and that is no exaggeration).

I came across your e-book, “How to get women into bed without trying”. The title amused me so I decided to give it a read. I applied the affirmations and after a while found they were making me feel quite a lot better so I visited your website and bought the BHSC, the old one from 2000 as this was the latest one at the time.

I got the BHSC and listened to it over and over. I started to do the unstoppable confidence exercises and quickly started to feel better each day. I thought the stuff in the BHSC was so f*$&%!g cool I became addicted to listening and practicing the material. This was during the time of my university studies.

People started to notice a difference in me. I was feeling better, carrying myself with more confidence and I was starting to become more popular, being invited to parties. One of the most notable differences to me at the time was people actually started to stop to listen whenever I started to speak, I mean it was quite a difference, they would more or less stop what they were doing to listen to me!

In my class at uni there was a very hot HB 9 who I had a huge crush on throughout my uni years (as did almost every other guy at that uni). We would occasionally chat and it was obvious to her that I liked her, though I tried to hide it. She was the kind of girl that liked the attention from guys and wouldn’t hesitate to exploit it when she got the chance.

On the evening of our graduation party I ran a few short patterns on her which started to get me a lot of attention from her. Then a few hours later we were talking again and I decided to run RJ’s friends into lover’s pattern. Within 10 mins or running that pattern she started making excuses that she needed to lie down and that I needed to come with her (hmm what does she mean..!) After a few minutes she was banging me senseless under a tree on the college campus, an event that took place a second time that night and then a third time the next morning, I couldn’t fucking believe it!!!

Anyway, this unexpected turn of events really convinced me that your stuff is real! I mean, I was very aware of a difference in how I felt and knew the affirmations and visualisations were working but this event convinced me that your language patterns are also real too! Well actually I didn’t doubt that completely but rather if I could also do this too.

To cut a long story short, I have since had several successes using SS but still have some challenges hence our conversation earlier tonight.

I wanted to let you know of the changes to my life your influence and your material has made. Since that fortunate moment of buying your BHSC and following and applying the material I have never been the same. From consistent practice of the meditations, visualisations and magik rituals that you teach I am now a very confident and popular person and in some circumstances I can even come across as somewhat charismatic.

I also wanted to point out that I feel it was the affirmations and visualisation exercises that brought me out of the depression. Later when I learnt your transmuter exercise, I feel that is responsible for solving the paranoia, something I though would plague me for the rest of my life, since I had suffered from it since a child.

Since using your material I have also had several healthy and rewarding relationships with some great women. Although my time in these relationships did slow my SS progress as I chose to remain monogamous at these times, I continued to practice the exercises and study the material which, I practiced on my partner at the time making the relationship much more enjoyable and rewarding for both of us. Every woman I have used SS with definitely enjoy the experience and I truly believe it is something that is benefiting them too.

Through studying the material I have also been able to see what I was doing wrong in the past (I actually can’t believe it now how I use to be), have gained deeper insight into the differences between men and women and I have also become aware of the elements and the structure of attraction.

Thank you once again Ross, you have had such a positive impact on my life and I am truly a better person for it.

Kind Regards

Steve Simms
London, England

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

The other day here on my blog, I delved into the difference between a woman deliberately trying to manipulate you, versus her need for safety and control by self-fractionating.

As I explained in that post, there are a few basic things that set up and create her willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received and usually are factors you generally CAN control.

Now, recently, a few students have commented on my blog posts because they thought I was saying that sometimes, you cannot control the woman’s response. To that I would reply by beginning with: sometimes, factors that are beyond your control CAN work in your favor.

These include:

1) She happens to be among the 15% of the population that are sonambulistic; that is, she will readily accept and make real ANY set of suggestions anyone gives to her. She will sit with her doggy dinner bowl as you recite patterns word for word, go right in to trance and have exactly the responses you want. CAUTION: she also has a loose grip on reality and when she makes YOU her grip on reality, watch it when you try to get that grip to loosen.

2) You happen to match her “checklist”; you have the height, weight, looks, age range, job, status, etc. Given that, any patterning you do will be very well received.

3) She happens to be readily open and looking for whatever it is you happen to present, so it matches her perceived reality; she is looking to get laid that night, you present that opportunity in your patterns, and she jumps on it.

4) She has hidden/suppressed needs and the patterns bring those needs to the surface. You grab on to them and link them to you.

Now What If…

What if none of these factors work in your favor? 

What if she’s not suggestible to ANYTHING?  What if you don’t meet the criteria on her “checklist”?  Perhaps she’s not interested in getting laid at all, and she’s so intent on NOT getting laid she might even catch on to your patterns?  Her hidden/suppressed needs aren’t rising to the surface tonight?

Consider this:

• Despite all of the above, a woman’s current response should rarely be taken as her final answer.  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  That can change…in a moment.
• Why did she pull out her “checklist?” Is it because you took her on a “date” complete with dinner, movie, and a “romantic walk” in the park?  Remember: dating is what you do with women you are ALREADY sleeping with.  Also note, the checklist CAN change.
• Her looks might be hotter than her libido. Look around.  Ask yourself.  “Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”
• Remember what I say: “Interested in the girl, invested in mastering the skills.”

Could any of the above apply?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. In the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection, you’ll find (among other things) an entire section of exclusive video lessons on patterns, language skills, and poetry that help you when it seems you have “no control” over the result.  Not to mention actual, live demonstrations of Speed Seduction® as well as my critiques on Sarges done by students! 

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ever get the feeling that a woman is yanking your chain, just to demonstrate she can?

Like, one minute she’s hot, bothered, and just waiting for you to pick her up and take her to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.  The next, she’s cold, aloof, and giving you one-word answers while looking away from you.  Enough to make you ask…

…What GIVES?

Is she wishy-washy?  Is she confused?  Is she just a tease who gets off on the attention of men?  Does she like screwing men?

The First Question I Would Ask

In your Sarge, are you moderating, controlling, refining your immediate, urgent, hungry male desire to PENETRATE NOW?

Women sometimes seem to go “back and forth” as a control/safety issue. They get excited, then they catch themselves and think “Oooh, this feels too good. Better slow myself down.” They are not really trying to control you, but themselves.  The trick is: the control part LOOKS like the same signals women give us when they are genuinely un-interested!

I think women usually (usually) are NOT consciously trying to manipulate us. It is mostly an attempt to gain a measure of self-control and/or a means of exciting themselves by SELF-FRACTIONATING.

Yes, women get MORE excited if they pull back and then reinvest in the excitement. If we fractionate them, they will feel that excitement and also safety and they won’t have to do it for us.

There are a few basic things that set up and create willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received, and these are factors you generally CAN control:

1. Fractionating and pattern interrupting.
2. Demonstrating authority in their world
3. Given them the feeling they are being screened
4. Energetically moving among the vibes they find attractive: funny, showing authority in their world, being commanding and being sincere
5. Non verbally/non locally setting up a psychic/energtic/magick link.
6. Giving them a perceived self-image to live up to.

Armed with this knowledge, you can then re-channel her control/safety needs and help her Sarge her way right into your bed.  That sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

In this video, ripped right out of my huge collection of training modules, watch my analysis and discussion of this concept that I taught in a recent 3-day seminar:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Gain the confidence, the skills, and the tools you need to effortlessly walk up to her, seduce her…and actually make her WANT to be seduced…anytime, anyplace, any woman YOU want to get with… Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

When we consider the concept of “charisma”, there are two elements I often point out – particularly when they find themselves rehearsing their lines or what they’re going to say when they approach a woman.

These are: a) stepping into the unknown and b) holding space for the other person to have whatever initial response they are going to have.

A student asked me whether that means “surrendering” to the unknown (a), and making yourself vulnerable of being open to receive (b).

He was close, but here is the true meaning. If you’re feeling the need to “rehearse” or play it in your mind 100 times before just walking up to her, consider this…

1) Stepping into the unknown and being truly ok without having to know ahead of time what is going to happen. You accept that you don’t know, and maybe at first that you don’t like that you don’t know, but you don’t dramatize it or spin around it.

You just don’t know. And you decide to move forward anyway.

2)  By hold space I mean:

• It’s ok for them to have their FIRST response. You don’t take their FIRST response as being their final response.
• You don’t REQUIRE their permission OR their support for your new moves and your courageous action.

A lot of guys think that a woman OWES it to them to be polite open because the guy is willing to take the “risk” to go up and meet them/talk to them first.

Well, that attitude is bullshit. The woman hasn’t signed a contract saying that she is REQUIRED to support you in your efforts to improve your sex/love/social life.

You’re stepping forward because it is what YOU , as an adult, have chosen to do and because you are determined(DETERMINED) to bust through your limitations.

Now, can you be determined AND relaxed AND even have a sense of humor about it?

You can if you know how to untangle yourself.

Let me clarify one more thing: just because you don’t REQUIRE certainty or REQUIRE the other person to have a “good response” and be supportive doesn’t mean you don’t take those things as being good or something of value.

It’s just not what determines your stepping forward.

Some guys are waiting to be super-powerful and radiating charm BEFORE they make a move.

Well, yes, you CAN rehearse in charm etc, for sure.

But for some guys, it’s a mistake because they are already too much in their heads and, or THEM, the rehearsing just gets in the way of taking action.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Do you believe…I mean REALLY believe…that when you offer your gifts to the world and in particular to the women you desire, it IS a
gift?

Do you believe that women want these feelings and that you can have many of them responding to you in a great way?

Because if you do, why would you bother with a woman who is clearly deeply uncomfortable with herself, with men and with sex?

I bring this up because two days ago I got an e-mail from a student who shared a report on a “Five Minute Sarge” with a (seemingly) EXTREMELY INTERESTED woman, that abruptly crashed and burned when a) she said she had to first check on her child’s babysitter’s schedule and she wouldn’t know her schedule till tomorrow, and b) when my student then did Plan B and said he’d call her the next day once she had the schedule, the woman said, “uhhh….can I call you instead?”

Bottom line: she liked the attention that comes from SEEMING open and adventurous, with all her flirting and use of words like “babe” and “love” with guys who hit on her, but when it came time to put the game behind her name, she clammed up faster than a statue with lockjaw.

If these things happen to you, I ask now: why are you doing “emotional dentistry” trying to pull her impacted erotic wisdom teeth?

It is not, you see, that you only attract the crazy ones, the flaky ones, the cock-teases. More likely you are only approaching/talking to women who SEEM very open to be in some way approached, rather than women who are desirable to you AFTER you’ve spoken to them and screened them.

Let me put that another way: screwy women (of all types) are often very desperate for male attention, and so, in that respect, they SEEM friendly and open to talking. So guys who have issues with approaching will be drawn to these girls, who SEEM friendly.

When in reality, these ladies are not truly friendly at all. Rather:

1. They have very bad boundaries.
2. They desperately need rescue/attention/validation

Another metaphor; a predator in the wild will usually seek out the weak/sick prey animals rather than tackling the healthy ones.

What if you try this instead:

1. Work on approaching/talking to women who may not be giving off “talk to me” signals. Create the approachability in them by how you approach, rather than waiting for them to look approachable.
2. Determine, once you do get talking, to screen out ANY woman who gives off any kind of signal or communication that she is not comfortable with sex, sexuality, or that she is angry, emotionally closed, etc.

Watch your girl-getting game skyrocket with your ability to approach and seduce any woman, anytime, anywhere thus turbo-charged.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Approaching more women who may seem cold, aloof, not necessarily interested, not just waiting for you to come up and lay the mack down – that’s a colder environment than when she says “babe” and “love” and makes goo-goo eyes, right?  No, it’s different when you have Speed Seduction® 3.0.  Click here to heat things up starting now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Let’s say you’re out and about and walk-up to a hottie and really hit it off.  Or, you’re at a party and your host’s best friend is an HB10++++ and she smiles just right while hanging on your every word.

For s$%@s and giggles, maybe you’re online and chat with a woman, seeing her on “cam” verifies she actually IS hot, and she’s just so flirty and cute and 10 minutes from you and agreeing to meet you, in the succulent flesh, firm booty and huge tits and all, for coffee the next day.

All of these scenarios make you feel good.  Hey, nothing suck-seeds like suck-sess, and few things crank up the dial on a sunny day like a beautiful woman’s smile when it’s meant for you.

Problem, though.

You start to feel a new state coming on…then it erupts within you like a volcano.  Next thing, you associate her sexy eyes and twinkling smile and the way she says “babe” in her awww-shucks way…

… and are consumed by RAGING LUST, DESIRE, AND HORNINESS that obliterates any and all other feelings or senses.

Clearly, this is NOT a good state to come from when approaching women.  You end up getting invested in the result of bedding HER (rather than “interested in the woman” and “invested in sharpening your skills”) but, nevertheless, there it is.  BAM.  Your girl-getting game and experience goes out the window and it’s a very, very short ride to AFC-Ville.

How Do You Put Carnal Desire In Its Place So You Get Her Back To YOUR Place?

You realize it.  You need to get yourself into a calm, centered, powerful, playful, exploratory place, or the only good those desires will do you will be to give Jimmy a fighting chance in the hand-to-hand wrestling match you’ll have in about an hour while thinking about her.

Yet at the same time, you want to USE and CHANNEL that energy that arises from this “desire states” to HELP you get the results you want.

Here’s a quick exercise you can do, at that moment, to get these desires working FOR you, instead of just working you.  (NOTE: this requires a certain level of self-awareness and if that’s an area where you need changework, you want to check out Nail Your Inner Game).

1. Ground into your feet. Bend your knees slightly and feel your feet pressing into your shoes and the ground pressing back up through your shoes/feet
2. Tune into the lustful feelings and see if you can find the edge or border where they fade out into almost disappearing. Then hold your attention on the very border/edge of the feelings, just before they disappear. That will help.

Think about it.  Your mind full of raging lust, desire, and horniness…. or HER full of raging lust, desire, and horniness as she presses her succulent body, firm booty and huge tits and all, up against you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame – the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to getting at least three to four times more women.  Learn more about this right here.