Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Let’s say you’re out and about and walk-up to a hottie and really hit it off.  Or, you’re at a party and your host’s best friend is an HB10++++ and she smiles just right while hanging on your every word.

For s$%@s and giggles, maybe you’re online and chat with a woman, seeing her on “cam” verifies she actually IS hot, and she’s just so flirty and cute and 10 minutes from you and agreeing to meet you, in the succulent flesh, firm booty and huge tits and all, for coffee the next day.

All of these scenarios make you feel good.  Hey, nothing suck-seeds like suck-sess, and few things crank up the dial on a sunny day like a beautiful woman’s smile when it’s meant for you.

Problem, though.

You start to feel a new state coming on…then it erupts within you like a volcano.  Next thing, you associate her sexy eyes and twinkling smile and the way she says “babe” in her awww-shucks way…

… and are consumed by RAGING LUST, DESIRE, AND HORNINESS that obliterates any and all other feelings or senses.

Clearly, this is NOT a good state to come from when approaching women.  You end up getting invested in the result of bedding HER (rather than “interested in the woman” and “invested in sharpening your skills”) but, nevertheless, there it is.  BAM.  Your girl-getting game and experience goes out the window and it’s a very, very short ride to AFC-Ville.

How Do You Put Carnal Desire In Its Place So You Get Her Back To YOUR Place?

You realize it.  You need to get yourself into a calm, centered, powerful, playful, exploratory place, or the only good those desires will do you will be to give Jimmy a fighting chance in the hand-to-hand wrestling match you’ll have in about an hour while thinking about her.

Yet at the same time, you want to USE and CHANNEL that energy that arises from this “desire states” to HELP you get the results you want.

Here’s a quick exercise you can do, at that moment, to get these desires working FOR you, instead of just working you.  (NOTE: this requires a certain level of self-awareness and if that’s an area where you need changework, you want to check out Nail Your Inner Game).

1. Ground into your feet. Bend your knees slightly and feel your feet pressing into your shoes and the ground pressing back up through your shoes/feet
2. Tune into the lustful feelings and see if you can find the edge or border where they fade out into almost disappearing. Then hold your attention on the very border/edge of the feelings, just before they disappear. That will help.

Think about it.  Your mind full of raging lust, desire, and horniness…. or HER full of raging lust, desire, and horniness as she presses her succulent body, firm booty and huge tits and all, up against you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame – the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to getting at least three to four times more women.  Learn more about this right here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Recently I received an e-mail from a student who is in a sort of purgatory with a woman he met a few weeks ago.

I’ll let him explain it in his own words:

Hey Ross, there is this hottie (I’d say about an HB8) who I’ve met up with a few times.  She’s kind of shy, but intelligent and fun once I get her to loosen up.  The first meet-up was a nice evening at a coffee shop.  The second, we hung out for a while at a quiet little saloon near her apartment.  The third time, we went to dinner.  Now, not only is this not going in the direction I want it to, but her behavior is perplexing.

The third time, I had planned a “Part II” but she seemed distracted the whole time, and even said “can we go?” as soon as the dinner was over.  So I dropped her off and figured it was “Exit, Stage Left” time for this guy.  Fair enough.  Yet, not 30 minutes later she was texting me about what a wonderful time she had and when can we do it again, and all that.  I think I want to see her again, but not if her plan is for us to have dinner once a week, which seems to be where she is trying to take this, which is what I am resisting.

I guess what I’m asking is, how do I determine if she is simply viewing me as her “meal ticket” (literally) or if she might be playing hard to get, just shy, wanting to go to the next step but not finding her own reasons to get there and not knowing how to ask me, etc.?

First of all: I think this confusion could trigger some very supplicating behavior on your part if you don’t watch it.  You’ve already bought her dinner and you didn’t mention the part where you banged her so I’ll assume you haven’t yet. You’re already headed down that slippery slope, one nudge away from a free-fall and you better hope you don’t get splinters in your ass if the slope is wooden.

Hey, your emotions are on the line here and your clarity too. You want to move this to the next level and you think she’s trying to corral you into being her standing “dinner date.”  If you sense something is up, CALL HER ON IT in a firm, calm, and relaxed way.

The bottom line is: only she can tell you what is going on. You can approximate or guess, but that is all it is.

So, if you can’t get your primary outcome (getting her enthusiastic to fuck you) what steps can you take, what moves can you make to AT LEAST MOVE IN THE DIRECTION OF THE KIND OF MAN YOU WANT TO BE AND THE KIND OF MAN YOU ARE ALREADY EVERDAY BECOMING? WHAT MOVES WILL BEST STRETCH YOU IN THE MOST USEFUL WAYS?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Need to find your way out of the “pattern” of buying drinks at bars or clubs hoping that will get women to like and sleep with you, or taking women on expensive dinner dates hoping that’ll get them in your bed?  Or, worse yet, avoiding falling into this “trap”? All of this, and more, is inside Speed Seduction® 3.0.  Click here to get yours now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Many guys are so concerned that they might flub their lines or look silly when approaching women, that they never find the energy to get started.  Even experienced girl-getters sometimes need a little boost.

So, take down the “Manny The Martian” exercise and you’ll have an automatic, “on tap” opener whenever you need it:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

When it comes to your girl-getting game, your success begins before you walk out the door in how you prepare yourself and the meaning that you give these things.

Watch this short video clip in which I explain different “frames” you can use to approach women:

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(This is taken from a recent video presentation I did on Day Game.)

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. As you watch this video, consider the many changes – some grand and others very subtle – that would boost your suck-sess with sizzling sweeties into the stratosphere.  Then, click here to see how to get all of it, in a box.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Check out this video where I demonstrate an actual touching technique that drives her crazy and gets her hot and bothered for you.

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It’s another way you can “innocently” extend an invitation to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle while sharing a cup of coffee.  Let me know your thoughts.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Part of what sets Speed Seduction® apart is it goes so much deeper than pick-up lines.  It goes deeper than even showing you how to touch her just that certain way.  It shows you the deeper-level interactions and mind work that gets more of the women you want in your bed and in your life.  Click here to learn how you will get several more hours of what you just watched.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Watch this video (right out of my Coaching Program):

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Is it possible to talk about something that sounds completely innocent, while subtly steering the conversation toward your bed (and her in it?) How do you use a seemingly innocent conversation to embed commands (fascination, connection, attraction, list) that get her hot and bothered?

I may do a mini video on this topic soon, in fact.  In the meantime, be sure to leave a comment…

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

One of the patterns I teach is the “Boyfriend Destroyer” which you’d use when you approach a woman and she tells you she has a boyfriend.

This pattern has some naysayers.  Here are a couple of them:

“Doesn’t that make you a small man, having to go after someone else’s woman?”

“Why would you want to spend time on a woman who’s going to lie to you within 3 minutes of meeting you?  Why would you want to be with a woman who cheats?”

“Why would you waste your time on a woman who is taken or says she is?  What about these tens of thousands of women you say I can get?”

Well, today I call bullshit on the naysaying with a few facts about “boyfriend destroying.”

It’s just a sad fact that many women who SAY they have a boyfriend either are lying outright, responding out of auto-pilot, or they are stuck in real-hate-shun-ships by default.

The reality is, most very attractive women ARE probably going to be with someone.  Most women regardless of their place on the HB scale are “seeing someone” – but does that mean it’s “exclusive?”

If you wait until you find girls who are totally officially “single” you may be waiting a long time.

Think about this:

You can use fire to heat your camp at night. Or you can use it to burn down a building.

You can use a knife to stab an innocent person in the heart. Or you can use it to cut someone’s bonds and set them free.

I believe that not caving in to a woman’s first “knee-jerk” response is a good thing.

I’m creating a space for her to have a new choice, to respond with more freedom and act differently.  By doing this, I serve HER.

Listen: if she really, REALLY loves the guy, she will let you know and you aren’t going to get anywhere anyway.  So you “Exit, Stage Left” but she’ll probably think you’re a nice guy.  Maybe nice enough she’ll introduce you to her actually-single friends.  But what you WILL get EVERY time is the practice that sharpens the skills that will get you your next ten successes with women.

Is THAT such a bad thing?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you want to learn how to meet women easily, anytime, anywhere, and totally have them eating out of the palm of your hand (and the  fly of your pants) despite her “I have a boyfriend” opening statement, just click here.

You’ll be doing you, and her, a service.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

I’ll tell you a big reason why a lot of guys don’t approach women: fear of embarrassment.

Hey, you’re walking up to this chick who you’ve never met before, you know nothing about her, and for all you know, she could be one of those meanies who gets her kicks off kicking guys in the nuts (metaphorically or literally).

Even in less drastic scenarios, you feel like you’re putting yourself on a limb.

What if you “draw a blank” mid-Sarge?

What if she throws you a curveball and you miss your swing?

What if she says something unforeseen that just floors you?

What if she’s so cold to you that just by being snooty and ignorant to you, she reduces you to a muttering, empty shell of a man as you slink away, sensing that everyone around who was half-listening is now snickering at you.

Stick with me for a moment while I reveal…

The Gift Of Being Embarrassed And How It Gets You More Women Overall

OK, so you took a chance, and the chance took you.  It happens.  What we need to look at right now is your approach to it.

Repeat after me: “Just because it didn’t feel good doesn’t mean it isn’t a useful learning.”

Where do we get the idea that it’s shameful for a competent, able person to f@@k up and even feel lousy about it, at least for a while?  How about a bit of compassion for yourself?

These experiences can make you gun-shy about approaching women, because now you’re conscious it might be a wasted effort.  OK, so you want to avoid all “wasted effort”?  Then don’t breathe. Ultimately, breathing, which sustains your life, is wasted effort, because eventually you’ll die anyway.

Look: when we feel hurt, it is natural to want to protect yourself. But in reality, it just lets the person who hurt you define not only who you were while you were with them, but who you are GOING to be even after they are gone.

Fuck that.  Instead, I see it as a gift.  In sales, you have to go through “no” to get to “yes.”  Same with getting women.  Every “no” you receive simply clarifies your options and gets you closer to “yes”…then the next yes…then the one after that…then three yes-es when all three of the prior “yes”-es (who turn out to be sorority sisters on the cheerleading squad) come home with you at the same time.  (Beats a poke in the eye?  I sure think so.)

Plus, you’ve drawn some useful lessons that sharpen your girl-getting game.  You won’t be feeling embarrassed when she’s riding you reverse cowgirl while screaming “YES, YES, YES!”

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. “It” happens.  And when it does, you need the tools and techniques that help you blast through the tough times and powerfully handle every situation you encounter as you meet and seduce more and more women.  You’ll find that inside Speed Seduction® 3.0.  Check it out.  You’ll be glad you did.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Everybody has their own “Sarging zone.”

For some guys, it’s the bars and clubs.  Others lay their mack down at the bookstores and coffee shops.

I have students who go grocery shopping every day, buying just what they need to make dinner that day, because it keeps them in play daily in a place where women of all levels of hotness can be found, pretty much any time.

Others, I kid you not, religiously attend services every week because there are a lot of women there.  (Something can be said for that: you know from the jump you have something in common that’s extremely important to both of you!)

So how annoying is it when you’re at a bar or club and you just want to hang out and enjoy a couple drinks, and your buddies keep razzing you because you just don’t want to walk right up to that hottie up at the bar, right this second.  Even worse when they say “Awww come on, show us some of that Speed Seduction® stuff you talk about.  Show us how you ‘Sarge’ will ya?”

While one of the goals of Speed Seduction® is the ability to effortlessly and fearlessly meet women anytime, anyhow, anywhere, THAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO, EVERY SINGLE FREAKING TIME.

Maybe you’re at the bookstore because you want to buy a f@@king BOOK.  Maybe you have a headache, or you just found out your investments bellied-up and you’re just not thinking about getting laid RIGHT THAT SECOND.

So, why, when you’re in a club, do you HAVE to do this or that?  Is there some rule that forces you to turn into a hound-dog just because you saw it in some movie?

Look: at 51 years of age, I DON’T GO TO CLUBS.  It’s just not my thing.  I CAN and DO easily pick-up women in almost any other environment. As in VERY easily. So if someone’s giving you a hard time because, on a finger-snap, you’re not racing up to every single woman like a Pavlovian dog, first of all have compassion.  Could be your friends mean well, but they aren’t getting any and are looking to live vicariously through you.

Part of the power of Speed Seduction® is the power of CHOICE.  You CHOOSE what you want to do at this very moment.  Maybe in a moment from now, you’ll see the woman you CHOOSE to approach and claim your results with.  That, to me, beats a “friendly jab”… or a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Since getting in control of your life and meeting, flirting, dating, seducing, and sleeping with sexy, beautiful women, fast and easy, when YOU want to is something that’s of interest to you,  click here and start taking charge of YOUR game, starting now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

An interesting thing, this.

Through the media, the “romance industry” tries to create an “ideal” for how guys should look, act, and be in order to “fall in love” and “find their soul mate.”  To summarize: it atttempts to “program” us into resorting to the “5 Bs” (bullying, begging, buying, BS, and booze… and biceps… alright, someday I’ll start calling it the 6 Bs.)

But then this same media shows you examples of guys who are not all that bright, not all that good looking and with “issues”, and really just plain, who successfully use the same techniques that got Finch his show-stopping home runs with Stiffler’s Mom.

Okay: today we’re going to talk about real life.

What would it be like when instead of jumping through hoops, playing the waiting game (eh, I mean dating game – but same thing), and having to agonizingly process every step until she “lets you” in… your girl-getting experience looked a little more like this:

• You effortlessly approach a “bitch pack”, without a wingman or even a specific plan, and not only have them all hanging on your every word, but the choicest of these choice females finds herself irresistibly drawn to you so much that even if her friends were to try to cock-block you, it wouldn’t work;
• Instead of your credit card getting all the action (from floating all those lavish dinners, ski trips, expensive show tickets, and other forms of bribery), YOU were getting all the action, in many cases without spending a blessed penny;
• While those other guys at the party are showing off trying to “impress” the ladies, you’re huddled in a quiet spot, and soon will be heading out with, the very chick these other guys will later say at the after-party (where likely no women will be present) “dude…that one chick…in that red dress…man, I would have NAILED her!” While YOU are nailing her back at her place.

And most of all:

• Women who, until recently, would have had it with you at “hello” because on first sight you didn’t meet their “ideal man” criteria, are now saying “You’re not the kind of man I’m used to…. I don’t even know why I like you… but I really, really do!”

You think you could “like” that?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. How about if you had the ability to not only powerfully get the women you really want, but also take many of those same skills and apply them to everything else you do – work, business, sports, friendships, family – and have other people wondering why they’re THRILLED to do your bidding, even though they’re not quite sure why?  Click here to learn more about this.