Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine shared with me a situation he was in with an HB9 he was Sarging.  He found she had many qualities that appealed to him.  The “diamond in the rough”, the “needle in the haystack.”

One thing:  she had a ‘borefriend’ and, so she claimed, she had never been “in love.”

His initial approach was to explore with her the values she needs to see in herself in order to be in love, and among these she listed “vulnerability.”

Now, one of the mistakes in his thinking was he was going to try to give her an experience she never had before…being in love…in order to get her away from her current “borefriend”.

I asked him…

What if he just had to be a bit more tempting… a bit more exciting… a bit more tasty… a bit more aggressive than her borefriend?

I took an approach counter-intuitive to what my student was thinking… and that is, first focus on turning her on, opening her to a place where she could have feelings and responses she’d never had before.

Thing is, “vulnerability” is not an end value. VULNERABILITY is only valuable in that it would allow her to experience emotions and BODY FEELINGS she wasn’t having with her borefriend.

She THOUGHT she had to have that experience in the context of being “in love” and in going along, my student was buying into HER limit.

Bad thing.

Instead, I suggested he say this… “If you could imagine being totally vulnerable to this person… because for whatever reasons you knew that this person had all the qualities that let you FEEL THAT WAY…  what do you imagine being vulnerable would allow you to experience and feel… that you know you’ve always wanted?”

And once he said that, to be ready to anchor the responses and feed back her words.

So, let’s say she would reply, “Swept away… enraptured… totally taken and out of my own self”.

My student would need to be sure he anchored this… do something… tap on a packet of sugar or on the table with the intent he was anchoring the state.

Then say to her, “Wow… so if you could have THESE feelings… where do you imagine you’d first recognize on the inside… what is the first signal on the inside that would let you know… these feelings of swept away… enraptured… totally taken…are even now… beginning to flow through you?”

Get what I told him?

You want to be able to produce the feelings, anchor them and not get caught up in HER limited view that she has to be in love first.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. One of the things I’m teaching in the “Hyper-Response” model of Speed Seduction® is that 80% of the seduction is going to be powered by the information and responses SHE gives you.  To learn more and delve deeper, click here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Wow.  My post on Why Txt Msgs Sck Dck has really kicked up quite a debate.

One of the many great comments I received was asking how to manage her “autopilot” responses.  So, let me show you this video clip, taken from one of my actual live seminars where I work directly, in-person with students, where I teach you how to use a woman’s autopilot emotional responses to power her right into your bed.

After you watch the video, click here to learn more >>>

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A couple days ago, I posted here on the blog about what happens when you aren’t in your “Sarging zone” yet you’re being pushed to Sarge anyway.

Let’s look at a different set of factors that might put you out of your Sargy mood because they put you under a different kind of pressure (either real or perceived).  What if you are in your Sarging zone, there’s lots of hot women there, so you approach a few and strike out, say, four times in a row.

Ouch.  It can happen.  Even Babe Ruth struck out, else he would have had a 1.0 batting average, not a .342 average.

Your guard goes up faster than a pebble tied to a hot air balloon.  Before you put yourself out there a fifth time and give your all yet again, now you’ll want to know your odds even as you step onto plate.  By now, half the people in the place realize you’re looking to pick up chicks.  You CANNOT fail again.  Yet…

… Now Is NOT The Time To Stop Working … Just Work It A Different Way

What do I mean?

Instead of playing hardball, “just play.” Now let’s switch from baseball to fishing.  You cast your stiff fishing rod in the pond, and some fish will want to play a little, and others will want to play all the way from the pond to the pan.

Don’t worry about her being interested. Just have some fun and she’ll either be interested or not.

As I often teach, you can take a strong intent, and wrap it inside of a playful energy, and an alert mind.

Also, some intents are always present; being in rapport, in control of your state, while other intents are sequenced through time.

Analogy change – first baseball, then fishing….now driving.

For example, when you drive, you have intents that are always there: to stay safe, to get to where you want to go, but then you have intents that change: turn here, continue there for 4 miles, look for the landmark or turn off on the highway. They all serve the overall intents that are always present.

So if three women show lack of interest and/or are otherwise unsargeable, you’ve still got to keep driving.  These were just three detours.  You’ll get there, and it will beat a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Speed Seduction® teaches you how to use your language to create states of attraction, lust, fascination and utter desire, in any woman you want – and do it so they they think it’s their idea (so they BECOME interested).  Click here to learn more about this…

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Let me address the naysayers.  As some of you pointed out, by e-mailing or commenting the various student questions I’ve shared in this week’s “mail bag” series, the answers would SEEM simple.

I won’t quote a specific e-mail here, in this (the last installment of the “mail bag” series for now) because I’ve gotten a handful over the course of the year that say substantially the same thing – someone actually tried to call bullshit on me.  Yeah.  Really.

Now, in some of the cases we’ve studied this past week, there are a couple different ways the situation could have gone (like with the chick who told my student after-the-fact that she has a boyfriend).  But for seasoned, experienced students, the answers seemed, to some of you, almost Captain Obvious.  Yeah, I get that, except…

…There Are Some Additional Ingredients (Literally) Causing A Volatile Brew In Men’s Brains Right Now

Look: here in the States, a lot of energy is spent debating whether marijuana should be legalized.  FORGET Mary Jane for a minute… and let’s discuss the impact of consuming Debbie’s pu@@y, which is a much more potent and mind-altering substance than the grass-like stuff they also use to make paper, rope, and shirts.

Here is just a PARTIAL list of the chemicals that various scientific research studies show get released in your brain every time your ride in the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle reaches its destination: adrenaline (aka epinephrine), dopamine, endorphins, testosterone, oxytocin, serotonin, prolactin, norepinephrine, vasopressin, phenylethylamine, and the list goes on.  (Plus, don’t forget the impact of your ego when the hottest chick you’ve ever nailed tells you “wow, I’ve never actually SQUIRTED before…” as you hope you remembered to pick up the other set of bedsheets from the laundromat.)

These releases do everything from make you want to take a nap right after you finish, to causing a flare-up of Oneitis, and everything in between.  Over time they lead to the eventual transition in relationships where the passion seems to die off even while fondness and long-term attachment grows.

These are also the reasons why you’ll often find that “Exit, Stage Left” is suddenly easier-said-than-done even though it’s “obvious” you need to move on, and “intellectually” you GET it but you can’t seem to DO it.  When your friends starting singing in-chorus that “you can do a lot better than that tramp”, look to your brain for the reasons why you aren’t heeding their advice.

By the way, same thing when you wrestle with Jimmy while thinking about a chick you haven’t had sex with yet.  The chemicals still flow through your brain at the “peak” of your thoughts even though she’s not actually there, and now it’s associated with her every time you think about her or see her.  This leads to Oneitis, which more often than not leads to celibacy.

It’s also the reason why you find yourself highly attracted to women you see in real life who remind you of your favorite porn star (and why you like porn featuring chicks who look like women you really enjoyed f@@king, or want to f@@k but haven’t yet).

Pu@@y needs to be recognized as a controlled substance, I tell you. But even if it was, if getting some was wrong, I wouldn’t want to be right.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Now you know: part of why you might not always use your UPPER head when it comes to women is…due to what’s going on in your brain.  As a logical person who seeks the best life has to offer, doesn’t it make sense to acquire a greater understanding of women’s operating systems and “what’s going on” so you know the playing field and can score more? Click here to take the first step, right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Whenever I hear someone is in a relationship, my first question: is it a relationship, or a real-hate-shun-ship by default?

Before we go any further, let me be clear: if you’ve found that special someone, and it’s truly right for both of you, GOOD ON YOU!

However, about 50% of all marriages are doomed to divorce.  They say it’s because “values are changing” or “people don’t respect the sanctity of marriage anymore”, etc.  Whatever.

No. NOT true.

Why do guys stay in “real-hate-shun-ships by default?”

Here are some of the stunning reasons I’ve heard over the years, often from guys who otherwise seem to have life handled:

• “It’s cheaper to keep her.”  (He fears having to pay up in a divorce settlement, so he endures a living hell and possibly finding the REAL woman of his dreams, simply to avoid writing a check which might be his ticket to lifetime happiness.)
• “She was my high school sweetheart, and our families have been friends for generations.  It would upset a lot of people if we broke up.” (So, WHO ARE YOU MARRIED TO, pal???)
• “We stay together for the kids.” (Yeah, the kids who live in a miserable home because your real-hate-shun-ship ain’t workin’.  Kids DO see what’s going on.)
• “I was taught: you’re supposed to be married by the time you’re 30, and you have a responsibility to provide grandchildren for your parents.” (So, everyone in your family has ALWAYS been HAPPY and has made PRODUCTIVE CONTRIBUTIONS?)
• “Man, I’ve never had a girl as fine as she is.  And hey, nothing’s perfect.  I can deal with her spazzing out on me because I probably won’t find one THIS hot ever again.” (Correction: I calculate there are 34,000 women at least as hot as she is.)
• “Happiness is what they put in the movies.  This is REAL LIFE, Ross, not some fairy tale.  I don’t play games.” (No XBox for you, huh?)

Let me add: Speed Seduction® ain’t just about getting laid.  Want a girlfriend?  Looking for a wife?  Great!  Then use my teachings to cut through the bull***t “dating rituals” and “social programming” and you’re MORE LIKELY to find a life partner who will satisfy you in every way.  In fact, my teachings also help guys who are married and in relationships keep the “spark” burning hot.

Look: it’s your life.  You deserve the opportunity to create the results and the happiness with the women you truly desire.  Are you living a life of fulfillment, or a life by default?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Are you fed up having to settle for low quality, average women, or worse – being alone?  Well, if you CHOOSE to live a life by default, it really is your fault.  Because you don’t have to.  Click here for a solution that skips over the nonsense and gets you the women you REALLY want.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Speed Seduction® is the system, the strategy, and the skillset that gets smart guys like you more success with the women you truly desire. And it’s not just for those who are looking to get laid, either.

When you are looking to get laid and have lots of hot, sizzling action with incredibly sexy women, Speed Seduction® gives you the the tools to get her irresistibly aroused so you get what you want, faster, and more often. (Show me better, show me more, show me more, show me better… NOW!)

If you’re looking to find a girlfriend or life partner, Speed Seduction® cuts through the “dating game” so you get there faster (life’s too short for bulls#&$ games, pal) by quickly identifying and succeeding with the women (and ultimately the one woman) who is most compatible with who you are and what you give to the world.

Does Speed Seduction® work for married couples too? This student is asking…

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I am having a hard time having sex. With my wife. I’ve been married for a while, we have kids and are busy raising a family. We used to f@@K like crazy when we first got married, but with time, things have cooled off a little.

I want to have the crazy wild sex with her again like we used to have… before one of your students gets to her and has sex with her that is! How can you help me?

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A few things to keep in mind. (This is for everyone, not just you guys who are married or in committed relationships.)

First of all, attraction, romance, and love don’t “just happen.” People don’t just “magically” find their “soulmate” and live happily ever after. If you believe this, stop watching sappy romantic movies and get your a@% out in the field Sarging on real, live women. NOW, before it’s too late.

Mutual attraction, chemistry, and “romance” are generated by the interactions between people and the way they react to sensory inputs. A Seduction master uses the vibe and feedback that women give him to tap into her psyche and guide her responses toward the results he wants.

Second, people change. In the years you’ve been married, since the kids have been born and are now growing, things have changed. You’ve changed. She’s changed. She’s not the same girl you married – even if she’s just as hot (or even hotter) than she was the day you first created attraction with her. Believe it.

View the changes (in you, in your wife, in the world, in your lives) not as a challenge or a detriment, but as an opportunity. A chance to do something new… explore exciting new avenues of carnal pleasure. Approach her (and your sex life) from angles you’ve never tried before.

The results will sure beat a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I think just about every smart guy out there knows what it’s like when his Sarge is derailed – either within the first 30 seconds, or when he’s just 30 seconds from f@@king her brains out – but then she says the “B” word.

You know which “B” word… as in, “I have a Boyfriend.”

In my teachings on how to approach women, I go in-depth on patterns such as the “Boyfriend Destroyer” and “Boyfriend Ignorer.” Sometimes, though, the chick is all but outright begging you to persuade her to dump her “borefriend”, or at least forget him for a while.

Not sure what to do? Here’s a student facing this issue:

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I need help, Ross. I’ve been Sarging this amazing hottie. She’s incredible. Oh man. she has wonderful qualities – successful, happy, unabused, low-maintenance, intelligent. But she’s with this borefriend. Here’s the thing though – according to her, she’s never actually been in love!!

In my Sarging, I’ve been exploring with her some of the values she sees herself to be in a state of ‘love’. She says, ‘vulnerability’! She is one who never wants to be vulnerable in normal life, and will spend hours into the night making herself bulletproof in her presentations and her work. But she expects that she needs to be vulnerable to a man, before she will get to the next level of ‘love’ via being vulnerable to this partner.

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Let me digress for one second. Recently on my blog, I covered the issue of when you’re working too hard and not getting anywhere, how to let 80% of the seduction be powered by the information and responses SHE gives you.

That being said, I think she’s already given you a lot to work from. So let me challenge your thinking.

One of the mistakes in your approach is you are going to try to give her an experience she has never had before … being in love … in order to get her away from her current “borefriend”. You might be working too hard here.

What if you just had to be a bit more tempting…a bit more exciting…a bit more tasty…a bit more aggressive…a bit more whatever, than him?

Think about all you’ve learned thus far and how to use it.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. If you already know what’s on her mind, how her mind works…if she’s already TOLD YOU WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW TO GET HER IN BED…why are you still trying to figure it out?

That’s like pulling an all-nighter for your midterm after the TA you’ve been nailing already gave you the answers.

She’s not in love with this “borefriend” of hers, and she’s handed you the keys to her door. Now it’s time to get her soaking herself until she can’t take it anymore and ditches him for you. Let me show you how, by revealing my Secrets Of Hyper-Response And “Core-Attraction”. Get yours, and start getting some, now:

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It’s an age old problem.

Boy sees girl. Boy walks up to girl. Boy Sarges on girl.

But it feels like he’s working his Seduction ass off to keep the conversation going, yes it’s not getting him any closer to the part where…

… Boy nails girl and makes her scream his name with delight as she c*m*s over and over and over.

Why are things getting bogged down? I just got this S.O.S. from a student who is pretty good at starting the engine, but he just can’t seem to get it to the races…

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Sometimes I get stuck asking too many questions to the woman. Maybe it’s too passive an approach.

Although I am not going to knock just asking questions because I know lots of guys who claim to have great success from doing almost nothing but asking questions, in most contexts, it feels like doing nothing but asking questions is setting the therapist/patient frame; not the Seduction frame.

Most real players I know ask questions, but ask questions sparingly, even you, Ross. You’re great at pacing a woman, but I think for you it’s more about leading her. Am I on the right track here?

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Look: for me, questions aren’t about just satisfying my curiosity. They have a strategic intent; I am asking questions to stimulate those parts of her mind and those responses that will drive her in the direction I want her to go, and also to get information (her key trance words, for example) that will assist me in my Sarge.

You need to know what KINDS of questions lead to the right answers and non-verbal responses…and then know what you are going to DO with them to get her to jump you and beg you to f@@k her.

And you’re right; I AM leading all the time (though to untrained eyes it would not look that way), but the questions I ask evoke responses and information I then strategically use to make her jump me.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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