Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Let’s say you’re out and about and walk-up to a hottie and really hit it off.  Or, you’re at a party and your host’s best friend is an HB10++++ and she smiles just right while hanging on your every word.

For s$%@s and giggles, maybe you’re online and chat with a woman, seeing her on “cam” verifies she actually IS hot, and she’s just so flirty and cute and 10 minutes from you and agreeing to meet you, in the succulent flesh, firm booty and huge tits and all, for coffee the next day.

All of these scenarios make you feel good.  Hey, nothing suck-seeds like suck-sess, and few things crank up the dial on a sunny day like a beautiful woman’s smile when it’s meant for you.

Problem, though.

You start to feel a new state coming on…then it erupts within you like a volcano.  Next thing, you associate her sexy eyes and twinkling smile and the way she says “babe” in her awww-shucks way…

… and are consumed by RAGING LUST, DESIRE, AND HORNINESS that obliterates any and all other feelings or senses.

Clearly, this is NOT a good state to come from when approaching women.  You end up getting invested in the result of bedding HER (rather than “interested in the woman” and “invested in sharpening your skills”) but, nevertheless, there it is.  BAM.  Your girl-getting game and experience goes out the window and it’s a very, very short ride to AFC-Ville.

How Do You Put Carnal Desire In Its Place So You Get Her Back To YOUR Place?

You realize it.  You need to get yourself into a calm, centered, powerful, playful, exploratory place, or the only good those desires will do you will be to give Jimmy a fighting chance in the hand-to-hand wrestling match you’ll have in about an hour while thinking about her.

Yet at the same time, you want to USE and CHANNEL that energy that arises from this “desire states” to HELP you get the results you want.

Here’s a quick exercise you can do, at that moment, to get these desires working FOR you, instead of just working you.  (NOTE: this requires a certain level of self-awareness and if that’s an area where you need changework, you want to check out Nail Your Inner Game).

1. Ground into your feet. Bend your knees slightly and feel your feet pressing into your shoes and the ground pressing back up through your shoes/feet
2. Tune into the lustful feelings and see if you can find the edge or border where they fade out into almost disappearing. Then hold your attention on the very border/edge of the feelings, just before they disappear. That will help.

Think about it.  Your mind full of raging lust, desire, and horniness…. or HER full of raging lust, desire, and horniness as she presses her succulent body, firm booty and huge tits and all, up against you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame – the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to getting at least three to four times more women.  Learn more about this right here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Winston Churchill said it brilliantly: When you’re going through hell, keep going!

While that is sometimes a way to “get to the other side”, it might backfire when you’re trying to overcome anxiety, as I explain here:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

A lot of smart guys have various areas of life handled – kick-ass job, success in sports and hobbies, exciting lifestyle, awesome car, nice house – even plenty of hot babes swarming about.  But still, something is lurking.

Like you’re not “good enough” for whatever it is you really want to have.

Feelings of worthlessness, shame, self-doubt can rear their ugly head and kick your will to succeed right in the cajones and have you on your knees crying uncle so fast your head will spin.  And they can be serious as a heart attack.

So, how do you blast through these feelings and light a fire under your girl-getting game?

Have you ever considered how worthless, mostly, feelings of worthlessness are? They serve no one and nothing…but…

…There Is Also A Cosmic Truth Embedded In The Shit.

Like a nice shiny piece of summer corn buried deep inside a stinking piece of poop: MOST of the experiences we have in life are impermanent and don’t last.

That’s not a reflection on you at all. It is the case and part and parcel of how things are structured.

There is also an Aspect of Life that is everlasting and outside time.

Often “shame” or “worthlessness” is a corrupted view of a great truth: most things are impermanent, but at the same time, we all have one foot inside the Immortal.

Really, what we often seek, without naming it or being able to, is transcendence. The connecting in with That which is beyond locality or time and which is already the ground of who we are anyway as we move through the impermanence of life.

There is REAL suffering and REAL bliss in life. Birth is blissful once you are delivered, but the process fucking hurts; getting kicked out of the womb, squeezed with crushing pressure by the Cootchie of Life, being suffocated in the canal, coming out covered in mucus and goo, often choking on all sorts of body goop and fluids until it is cleared out, and then you are greeted with a SMACK on the ass and yet…

…What Relief!

What triumph…you survived and now here you are!

I would say: when you feel shame or lack of worth, ask, “inside of this, how much is a true view of the impermanence of life? And from the part of me that is already taking part in the Everlasting, how can I transmute, purify and redirect as energy for my growth and my vision, all of what used be felt energetically as shame and lack of worth?”

Do not be shamed that you came out of cootchie and will die and leave a sack of flesh shell. That’s not who You are and the journey between is what keeps us entertained on the Everlasting side as we remain outside of linear time, always have and always will.

Is this making sense?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s one thing to achieve mastery over your use of the four vibes to fearlessly and effortlessly get all the women you want.  But what happens when you have a “bad vibe” going on inside you that’s holding you back and stopping you from making your move?

Many guys tell me that they get visions of failure before they even walk up to her.  The visions just sort of “take over”, and when they do, the guy’s girl-getting game gets thrown in the hole, locked up and thrown away the key, and the only thing left on tap is this feeling and vision of failure.

Next time this happens to you, consider the following:

Those images would not be in your mind if you were not choosing to value certainty (even the certainty of FAILURE) over being uncertain.

Look: the real issue here is not even the content of what you are visualizing. Or whether you are doing so deliberately… or, as several students have put it, “It just takes over me”.

You are trying to gain information about what you can do in the world and how people will respond to you from a system/process (in this case, your internal imagery and dialog) that can’t possibly provide that information for you.

In short: you are racking your brain trying to come up with 100% CERTAIN success before you take an actual step. That isn’t possible, of course- so now the system is running the OTHER way, providing certainty for you that you will FAIL.  By doing so, you are REJECTING YOURSELF before she even gets to decide to drag you into her room and fuck your brains out.

Fear of failure isn’t pleasant. But at least you are CERTAIN you are going to fail with all that crap running through your head.

Now What Is All Of This Really Doing At A Deeper Level?

It is reinforcing your self-image as someone who needs guarantees before he takes a step into the real world.

You are so distracted by the content of your imagery and dialog that you aren’t seeing the process it is trying to serve. And you aren’t seeing the underlying self-image that is being fed by this nonsense.

Guess what?

You are NOT a goddamned fragile child.

You will NOT fall apart if someone doesn’t like you or accept your overtures.

It will simply be unpleasant. But you may also find that the energy that is released after you breakthrough and beat your fear feels better than anything you’ve ever experienced in your life.

I recommend you imagine that you can reach in and find the “you” that doesn’t need guarantees. That can let loose, say “fuck it” and just go see what happens.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Imagine your life with no need for assurance or guarantee of success of any kind before you took bold (and fun) seduction steps, as you walked like a giant where other people fear to step? Now, what if you could get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” ass, and get moving right now in the real world with the success you’ve always wanted?

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

The bad habit revealed in this video (taken from my London 2010 seminar) reveals the one bad habit that keeps so many guys stuck in whack-off-land that it just isn’t funny.

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Fix it, and you gain major leverage in your quest for pink success.

Please watch and tell me your thoughts below.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I’ve got the best, most systematic, fool proof, breakthrough system for untangling the confusion and “re-infection” that keeps guys stuck entirely, or stuck at a very underachieving level, and I’ve created a way where anyone can use it.  Click here to learn how to get yours now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I’ve had several students ask me why the following happens:

You’ve connected with a woman and brought her to “that place” where she is ready to “go for it.” It started with her giving you a curious “uhhhh, can I help you?” glance when you first approached her, and in less time than you thought, she’s now naked and on your bed and…yes…it’s on.

Just NOW, for some reason, Private Wood stops standing at attention.  He slouches on the job and can’t get back up.  Even when she goes into “drill instructor mode” (don’t you love when she gets all dominatrix-like?), your Johnson insists on tripping you up.

HOWEVER…you don’t THINK it’s erectile dysfunction: after all, normally things are “functioning” correctly.  You don’t have a problem “enjoying” fantasies or your favorite porno.  You can close the deal with Rosie and her sisters on a moment’s notice, every time.  So overall, you believe the machinery works.

“It” seems to happen ONLY when you’re actually boarding the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle with a live woman.

Let me get it out of the way: see your doctor anyway.  Every day of “I really SHOULD see a doctor” is 1,440 minutes of self-imposed flaccidity that might not have to be.  It’s YOUR life, only you can live it.

Now that we have that out of the way (made that appointment yet?), let me ask you three questions.

1. Think back to your feelings when Private Wood went AWOL.  What came up for you? Nervousness?  Fear?  Worry you might not “stand up” in the ranks of her previous lovers?  Something in your head saying “I shouldn’t be doing this?”
2. When it happened, how did you react? Did you give up?  Seek her support in getting things back on track?  Switch to pleasing her for a while until things started “looking up” for you?
3. How did SHE react? Did she throw you out (or get up and leave)?  Or did she say, with a sly grin and a cute gleam in her eye, “Hmmm, seems the ol’ hard drive is booting up a little slow.  Where’s the CD-ROM for this, so we can stick it in and get it spinning?”

It’s called “performance anxiety” because you’re anxious, not because you’re a bad person or something’s necessarily wrong with you.  (Though you still need to check with your doc – got that appointment booked?  The receptionist and/or the nurse, not to mention the doctor herself, might be sizzling hot and looking for a man like you.)

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

The overwhelming majority of you have responded by saying you want me to discuss my discoveries and thoughts regarding showing up attractive.

So here we go with that part of the discussion. I’ll be posting videos as well as written articles and I encourage your feedback.  As in my live events, the more you participate the more you receive from me.

Getting Out Of Your Own Way

Over the years, I’ve noticed that guys who come to this work are significantly getting in their own way by reinfecting and reinforcing  the very patterns of thinking and acting  that have been keeping them stuck. As by I’ve said, it’s very difficult to free yourself from your prison when you are consistently re-creating the prison from moment to moment.

Rumination, Rehearsal And Ruins

Whenever I give a talk or teach a seminar, one of the first questions I ask is: “How many here dwell on their mistakes with women? Raise your hand if you spend a lot of time running your mistakes or disappointments over and over in your head.”

At least 70 percent of the room will raise their hand.  The other remaining 30% are either returning students who are doing very well with women thanks to studying and applying my material or they are too embarrassed to raise their hands.

The fact is that ruminating on mistakes, disappointments and fuck-ups is a very common human activity, and even more common for the men who are seeking massive improvement in their love and sex lives.

The next question I always ask is: how many here think they are doing this because they have “low self-esteem”?  Or a “fear of success”?  Or because Mommy made them stay down in the basement and dress like a girl?

There is, in fact, only one reason “why” you might dwell on your mistakes with women: you are trying to find a solution to the situation so you can do better and enjoy the results you want.

But here is the thing: if you could have figured it out that way, you would have done so by now.  That process just doesn’t work, no matter what kind of content you put through it.  No matter what you put in the refrigerator it is never going to be a toaster. That’s not its purpose, function or design.

Even Worse…

Here is the greater challenge: dwelling on mistakes, over and over, is actually a very effective way to virtually guarantee the mistake gets repeated.

The basic rule is this: there is no basic difference between what you dwell on, over and over again, and what you rehearse. And what you rehearse over and over again, is basically what you are programming your brain to do.

Which means this: the very act of dwelling and ruminating on mistakes almost certainly guarantees you will achieve the opposite of what you intend.  Rather than find a solution to the challenge, you will program back in the error.

There is far, far more to say about this.  But for now I’d like to invite your feedback on this.   Tell me what you think and if you think it is an accurate picture of one of the challenges you have faced or currently do face.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

I don’t know about you, but I’m really enjoying this week’s “mail bag” series.

I don’t get a chance to do these very often, and I’ll be blunt: this is only a smattering of the girl-getting wisdom and teaching that you’ll find inside my Coaching Program.  You should really check it out.

In today’s installment, let’s look at a student who seems to be “stuck” on some chick and he’s trying to fix some real or purported “damage”…

I’m not old, fat, or ugly. I’m a student and lead singer of a band. I never had a problem getting girls, BUT the one girl I do want is more confusing than anything – and I’m at my wits end.

I’ve been on and off with her for three years and initially she was always ready to please sexually and otherwise – she claims I hurt her and now she is “emotionally damaged” … has no interest in sex and refuses to do anything sexual at all. I would like to seal the deal and be monogamous with this one girl but cannot because of the sexual issues. I’ve tried talking about it, being nice, yelling, threatening, all to no avail. She has random bursts of sexual interest but this stops short of actual intercourse.  Considering there are quite a few other girls willing to fulfill my needs it’s getting more and more difficult to stay faithful. I want a healthy, functioning sexual relationship again.

You say it’s getting more difficult to stay faithful?  To WHAT? Did I miss the part where you said she is currently your girlfriend and you and her are building a life TOGETHER?  She claims you hurt her and emotionally damaged her, and at random intervals she’ll show “some” interest but you never actually board the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.  And you have other women wanting to fulfill your needs.  Consider this:

• Whether you did or didn’t really “emotionally damage” her, you need to figure out why that has you revolving your whole life around trying to “fix” it.  What, within you, is holding you back from resolving this for YOURSELF?
• Even if you COULD fix whatever damage was done, you can’t do it with her unless you fix it WITHIN YOU first.
• What, inside you, compels you to feel the need to “fix” her at expense of your own emotional power?  (It’s written between the lines.)
• That being said…dude…you’re a rock star with women pining for you.  Maybe you’re not picking the ripest cherries from this bushel because of the unresolved issues (within yourself) behind Door Number One?

All the more reason to get clear with YOURSELF.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If I had a dollar for every student who actually did screw up with a chick he was really into and beat himself up over it, I’d be living on a yacht with Tabbatha Jean and Tazzleberry Marie, on a 12-month (instead of 3-week) Speed Seduction® 3.0 Live Tour.  There’s a way past it, but it doesn’t have anything to do with HER.  Click here to see what I mean.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Pretty much every student of mine, even those who completely master my teachings and do everything just as I would recommend, has an experience with a woman that leaves him wondering, “What the HELL just happened???”

This one particular Sarge report I just received really stands out, so I’ll review it first:

Hey Ross, you know, you’d think by now I’d have a keen sense for women who are just looking for a cheap thrill.  Thursday night I met a hottie (I’d say she’s an HB8) and we really hit it off.  Things went so well I decided to cut it short and make her “want it more” by telling her I had to go but I’d see her tomorrow (we made plans then and there).

So next day we hang out for a couple drinks, it’s cool, and then got together again (at my place) Saturday night.  Next thing you know, we end up in a crazy-ass makeout session in my bed that goes until 7:00 AM.  She left, then I went to bed for a couple hours.  As you’d expect, I was in bed pretty early last night, then woke up at 5:00 this AM to a text from her: “I’m thinking we shouldn’t see each other anymore.”

Now, thinking to myself with a half-chuckle “Boy, THIS is gonna be good…” I texted her back “What brings this on?”  I’ll spare you the play-by-play and summarize with: turns out she has a boyfriend, she felt bad, she confessed her liaison with me to both him and me, she had been bored and horny when she met me and was looking for a good time but hadn’t planned on liking me so much, which was why she wanted to confess the truth to me, and if only she was single, etc.

In her explanation (a half-ass one if I ever read one) I got a bit offended, and I asked her “So would your boyfriend also forgive you if you confessed you wish you were single?” She replied “I’m sure he would.” I then wrote “I feel bad for the predicament he’s in.” After which she pretty much told me to F-off.  I have to admit, it bugged me a little.

Overall, this was well-played on my student’s part.  I would, however, add a couple things.  First let me ask: for what it’s worth, was she good in bed?  As long as she wasn’t a weak lay, ya know….

Now, I don’t think her explanation was “half-ass.”  She came right out and admitted she had been out for a good time, and in my student she found it.  She also seems to have no real qualms about playing around on her man.

It speaks to her character.  I’ve had women admit to me that they cheat on every boyfriend they have.  My response: “Why would I want to be with you then?  You just came out and admitted, in advance, you’d be unfaithful to me.”

I’m also pretty sure this pretty chick didn’t “pretty much” tell him to F-off.  I’m not a betting man, but I’ll wager a handsome sum the text read more like “Fuck off asshole, and don’t ever contact me again.” Because my student let her know in exactly so many words that he was onto her little game, and he accurately called her out on her behavior and now the spotlight burned her a little.

Look: when this happens to YOU, remember this: you met her, you got some, it’s all good, now let it go. Lots of women out there actually ARE single and ready to mingle.  A better one is waiting. Now what in the name of Becky’s bloomers are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What was missing from my student’s reaction?  I’ll tell you what: oh, yeah, he was a little offended and disappointed.  BUT his world didn’t drop out from under him, he wasn’t crushed or discouraged, and he didn’t freak out either on her or the world in general.  Hell, he was more curious to see what story she’d come up with, then worried about “losing” this cheat or worrying “what did he do wrong.”

How would YOU like that THAT mindset?  Click here to learn how to get it.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Ever heard the term “woman hater”?  It’s the first thing that comes to mind when I relate this story about a student of mine:

The problem: he was prone to use terms like bit*h, sl*t, and who*e (without the astericks of course) when talking about (and sometimes TO) women.  It’s like showing a sign of hate toward them.

I called him on it, and he explained it as a “love-hate” thing – he disliked women, but he loved them even more.  He was trying to figure out where the dislike comes that led them to use these bad words in describing them.

He used to have a girlfriend (for over 3 years) and he would call her a “fat sl*t” all the time.  Like a self-fulfilling prophecy, she gained a lot of weight… and also cheated on him.  My student “got even” (as he put it) when she called him one morning and another woman (who had stayed the night with him) picked up and told her never to call him again.

So the bottom line: he didn’t want to have this feeling of bit*h, sl*t, and who*e, etc. with women.  Instead, he wanted a “better vision” when it came to approaching women.

Here’s What You’re Probably REALLY
So Angry About

If this student’s tale is something YOU can relate to, STOP beating yourself up and LISTEN to what I’m about to say.

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: the past isn’t who you are and it isn’t what you deserve.

I’ve always held that once you completely let go of whatever makes you angry at women, you’ll find that deep down inside there is a fear of rejection.

I’m not normally a betting man, but I’ll wager that as you meet good, quality women, you will realize that whatever happened between you and your ex (or any other women you’ve been mean to in the past) really wasn’t a big deal, at least not in the “grand scheme.”

It was a mistake or a misunderstanding between two people and there is no reason to hold it against yourself or anyone else.  So you did wrong – accept it, respect it, LEARN FROM IT.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The key is to take any and all confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve ever experienced with women, and convert it to pure, immediately usable learning, so you can bounce right back, and automatically do things right with the next woman.  Click here to learn how to go about this…