Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the premises that I lay (haha) down for my students is that there are four vibes that women find appealing.  A key to effective Sarging is knowing when, and how, to shift these vibes.

Watch this video (where our Chief Furball Officer, Tazzleberry Cat, makes a cameo appearance):

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here’s a clip from the 3.0 Course you’ll really like. Notice how I use a non-sequitur to get things going and then quickly move her into a fantasy scenario, with me inserted right into the fantasy WITH her:

Talk about accessing her imagination and erotic emotions in record time…and opening up the most useful levels of her mind.

This is part of the 3.0 philosophy of getting her involvement and investment right away, right out of the chute.

No working for it, throwing stuff against the wall or trying to squeeze out a response.

This accomplishes three objectives:

1. Makes it an active participation on her part, eliminating any buyer’s remorse, resistance, or friction, plus conditioning her unconsciously to actively participate from then on.

2. She does MOST of the work

3. She supplies you exactly the verbal and non-verbal responses that you channel into and incorporate into any memorized patterns or other methods you care to use.

Please give me your comments and feedback. I truly feel sorry for anyone who is competing against you for hot women if you know this stuff and THEY don’t. It really is unfair…

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Oh yes, one more thing: this also allows you to screen for women who have the qualities I teach you to screen for in the Speed Seduction®3.0 Course.  Screening is one of the  3 “S’s” 3.0 emphasizes!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

How do you move closer to your destination?  Take a step toward it. 

How do you eat the giant elephant?  One bite at a time.

Claiming your results with women you truly desire is not much different.

If you’re just starting out, a “newbie” who has had a bit of success using the techniques but feeling a little intimidated because you haven’t yet effortlessly landed the terrific threesome with Debbie and her succulent sorority sister Sarah, think about what HAS happened for you.

You’ve made the decision that today is the last day of the way you used to be.

Perhaps you personally haven’t changed all that much, but the way you see things and the world in general HAS changed – for the WAY better.

With increased confidence that comes from seeing SOME success, you feel like the world is your oyster and you will grab it by the balls and squeeze until they crunch.  (Ha ha ha. I don’t think oysters HAVE balls, but I dig the picturesque metaphor in any event.)

What comes up many times for “newbies” who have gotten better at approaching and conversing with women: challenges mastering the Close, sealing the deal with women.

Hint: stop thinking about the “Close” as a separate stage, but as something that starts before you even walk out the door and continues with each further step of comfort, openness, challenge, excitement and desire you create in and with her and with the first initial friendly/warm touches/physical contact, which should be happening early on.

HINT HINT: If she isn’t comfortable or is frozen with that initial, friendly, non-sexual touching, RUN.

HINT HINT HINT: learn to screen women. What personality traits must be there in her for you to want to move forward? Can you mentally rehearse getting up from the table, smiling, shaking your head and saying, “No way” and just walking out the door, feeling 10 feet tall and humming out loud, “ANCHORS AWAY, MY BOYS! ANCHORS AWAAAAAY!”

Newbies: this is important, that last hint. Do it.

Start acting like you have choice and standards even if you currently don’t and your dick for the past ten years has been dry as nun’s pussy in the Sahara desert! It’s the most paradoxical, counter-intuitive mindset, but it W-O-R-K-S! Start believing, feeling, act-as-if you ALREADY have a world of choice.

And most of all, remember my rule: When I don’t know what to do, I take a bold step forward.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

On a recent “Ask Me Anything” calls for members of the Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, one of our students shared a story about how just a few simple words moved a woman from “I’m Aroused” to “It’s On”.

It went something like this.  The student had been spending time with her and had used Speed Seduction® to get her to the point where she went around naked in the room when they were hanging out, but nothing else had happened – no kiss, no nookie, no ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

He called a friend on the phone, and the friend gave him this advice: “Tell her to take her clothes off, get on top of you, and shut her f@@king mouth.” So my student said to the woman, “My friend tells you to take your clothes off, get on top of me, and f@@k me right now.”

Seems all of the work he had done building connections got her turned on, but when he just gave her a command… within 30 seconds, they were f@@king.

Now, let me make something clear: If you’re doing all the patterns, you’re in the driver’s seat and she’s sitting there passively listening, you can’t expect her to suddenly take the wheel.  The deeper in they go, the more you have to be the one who strongly takes the action.  On the flip side, women who are knowingly teasing you really need to be told to fuck off. They need that strong hand.

Here‟s the way I’ll paint it for you. What this student was doing up until then DID get her turned on.  She was responding and walking around naked, right?

First of all, get this understanding. Any girl who is walking around naked in front of you but won’t make out with you is teasing. She wants you to tell her to fuck off and do as she’s told. Do you understand that?

Now get this.  I’m going to get criticized by people who deliberately misquote me. So let me be clear.

I am NOT saying that all women want you to rip their clothes off and tell them, “Get on top of me, shut your mouth and f@@k.” I AM saying that if a woman is walking around naked in front of you and has taken her clothes off, she knows she’s teasing you and turning you on.

If she’s teasing you by taking her clothes off and parading around naked but won’t make out with you, you have the bull by the horns. You can either tell her to get the f@@k out or climb on top of you. That is clearly a case of teasing. She needs to know that you’re strong enough to say, “Get lost!”

Listen to this also: I’m sure this kind of woman is turned on. She’s turned on by the fact that you’re turned on by her teasing, but she’s also turned on by the patterns.

Just because she’s turned on doesn’t mean “it’s on” now. She can be extremely aroused, but what pushes her from very aroused to “It’s On” is a display of strength and not caring on your part. That’s for this specific kind of woman.

Now, let me unpack that and make it very clear.

For some women, doing language patterns and then touching and kissing them is enough to get them from, “I’m aroused,” to “It’s on.” You need to understand that just because a woman is aroused doesn’t mean it’s on and she’s ready.

For some women, doing patterns and being mildly aggressive is enough. It’ll move them from aroused to, “It’s on.”

For other women, they won’t be moved to, “It’s on,” even if they are aroused, unless you show that display of, “Fuck you! I don’t care. Please me.” That’s a subset of women.

I’m willing to bet, in this case, this woman is either very young, has very low “self-esteem” or both, if she’s in that category. She’s excited by displays of dominance and power. I want to make it very clear. The patterns were turning her on, but it wasn’t enough because of her psychology.

Make sense?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

“Linkage” is using gestures to make sure that the great states we create in women through the Sarging process are linked to us.

Watch this video where I expound in greater detail:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my previous post, we explored how you can get more of the kind of women you really want when you master the skills and apply the techniques that boost your girl-getting game.

A lot of it comes from creating her motivation and desire to respond.  We have so far explored five ways to get that initial locking in of attention and desire to respond – analogs, vibe, format, touch, and when “you don’t care that they don’t care.”

And now, here are seven more approaches or techniques that may work for you.

6) Pattern interrupts: doing or saying the unexpected that is slightly puzzling or ambiguous. As in, “Your pirispinals are laterally asymmetrical” Did you just insult her or compliment her?  She can’t tell so it creates curiosity.  Or an unexpected and reframing response to one of her auto-pilot utterances, such as the “Boyfriend Destroyer.”

7) Demonstrating authority in her world: showing that you deeply understand something or can read her. This creates fascination, a great conductive medium across which you can throw anything and get strong responses!

Humor: make ‘er laugh and loosen her up.

9) Demonstrating dominance: Lots of ways to do this. Personally, I prefer to go in with funny dominance. For instance, a while ago I was out with some students. We got in line at a coffee place. A very cute blond was in front of me in line. I turned to my students and said in a very loud, but playful way, “OK, who’s buying me my ice tea?”

The blond laughed. (Just what I was aiming at). So I turned to her and said, “Ok, YOU are buying me my ice tea!”

It’s not always playful dominance but that is how I prefer to START.

10) Non-sequitur: sudden change of subject serves as a pattern interrupt that can get attention.

11) Fractionating among the different vibes: dominant, demonstrating deep understanding, being funny and playful, revealing what you are really thinking and feeling in the moment(authentic)

12) Looks: Yes, believe it or not, some women will just like your looks! Even if you don’t.  Hooray!

The women are waiting.  What, I ask, in the name of Isabella’s ice cream cones, are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I need to make the following crystal clear: Speed Seduction® gets you more success with more of the women you truly desire, more of the time…

…without having to get sucked into the mastur-waiting game or resort to the 5 Bs’ (bullying, buying, begging, BS, and booze – as well as #6, biceps).

A student of mine, while explaining how he bedded a woman using specific techniques he picked up by spending an hour in the Secret Training Collection, then added the qualifier “she’s sort of thick and a little chubby in the belly area…but I like that on her.”  As if to defend himself for having invited a thick chick for a ride on his baloney pony.

I only had one issue with this: he felt the need to defend his choice.  (Yet another example of how social programming and the “media” with their false “ideals” are brainwashing smart men right out of their power of choice with women.)  Turns out, he has a thing for big, tall, thick women.  Bonus if she has long, curly black hair.

Let me say it again: more success with more of the women YOU truly desire, more of the time. 

Instead of a life by default, an existence where “getting lucky” is an event rather than part of who you are and what you do, now YOU claim YOUR choice with the women you find most attractive, according to YOUR preferences.  No more settling for whomever gives you the time of day, if you’re “lucky.”

You Can Have The Kind Of Woman You Want, When You Create The Motivation To Respond

How do you initially hook in and grab the attention in a way where more of the kind of women you want become OPEN to “seduction oriented” patterns, suggestions, etc?

This is from an email discussion I had not too long ago with a friend.  First of all, it isn’t so sequentially cut and dried. I always do everything, all the time, while also being aware of what I need to do in sequence.

Here is what I’ve found works to get that initial locking in of attention and desire to respond.  This may work for you as well.

A woman can hook into:

1) Analogs: she may like your tone of voice, tempo of speaking, body language.

2) “Vibe”: for lack of a better term. Some women pick up on “energy” and are attracted, unconsciously, before they are even aware of it consciously. It filters up or percolates up once you start talking to them. You may do this by ritually preparing and “programming” this with what are known as sigils.

3) The format: some women love games and quizzes. Suggestions put through that format work and get responses whereas in other formats: like questions or direct demos of trance, they don’t.

4) Some women hook into touch: You may have to TOUCH them to open them up to more.

5) Sometimes they may hook into you not caring that they are not hooking in! Not exactly a Mystery Method “freeze-out”.  just a sense that you don’t care that they don’t care.

Now, this is just Part 1.  Yes, there’s more.  I know, I’m such a tease some days.  Meet me back here in 24 hours and we’ll explore 7 more.

In the meantime, remember: her looks, her personality, her essence, all of that is HB10 based on how YOU define it.  Go for the kind of woman YOU want, for YOUR reasons.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When it looks like she’s pushing you away, could be something else is happening.  As a follow up to what we discussed Tuesday about fractionation, watch this clip from a recent seminar where I explore in more detail:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but tend to choke at “the closing”.

That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.

But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they drop the ball.

In fact, just recently,  I received the following email from a student:

“Ross,

I have had your home study course for a while, but have been tripping over my own dick for the last year.

I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed opportunities because I am used to being “shy” to make the move.

My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice looking 18 year old.  I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and she kissed me.  I still didn’t close the deal!!  Sounds pretty sad huh?

This kind of interaction has happened time and time again, even before I bought your course.

The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset after the fact.  I am willing to do what you outlined in the newsletters in order to become a more calm and confident version of myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not after the fact.

Am I the only student you have had that can’t close the deal when the girl kisses him?

Thank you in advance for your response.”

Ok, let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.

In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.

We call this fractionation.  Simply put, you put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.  Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.

I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they will be FAR more receptive when  you turn the heat back on.

So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes, then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and then resume.

We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.

Now, as for why this student didn’t “go for it”, I think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger than we are used to getting.

Over the years I have seen this happen with many students: the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do. As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery ticket in  your hand and you are staring at the numbers because you can’t believe you won!

I remember one story in particular, about a student who had just gotten his copy of Speed Seduction® and used some patterns on an attractive woman at his church social.

She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”

The student said, “But the pastor is going to be coming out with the congregation any minute!”

She said, “I don’t want the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang me!”

Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the job, so he wound up having to take a raincheck!

The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success! Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.

Peace and piece
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

So, you want to get her horny?

You’re smart enough to know that blatant sex talk is probably not going to get you there.

You want to move things to the next step, to pursue the next stage of intimacy), eliciting the states of irresistible arousal with what she really enjoys doing in her life.

Let’s say you know already she likes music, Renaissance art, taking road trips, and volunteering at the local animal rescue.

How do you use this playing field to get her horny?

I think a good model or map is helpful so you can learn WHERE to point the tools.

One model I suggest is that women have a left brain, a right brain, and deeper levels of both.

My aim is to get her attention to make a right turn, as close to 90 degrees as I can get it to go. Then I want her to make another 90 degree turn and head DOWN into the right brain, and come back up with the feelings/information/attitudes/responses that I would like to have linked to me.

Now, down there, in the deeper levels and layers of the right brain, imagine compartments, adjacent to and touching each other, sharing common walls.

The compartment where she keeps her feelings/responses/processes about sex, love, lust, letting go, etc are often right next to the compartments where she keeps her FRP’s about indulgence, adventure, escape, fantasy, fairy tales, etc.

And often, they overlap and share space!

So, I can go directly for the sex/lust/connection/surrender compartments or I can get into the ones that are next door/share space, start to shake things up, so the sex/love/lust compartments wake up to, send there signals back up to the surface of the right brain, where it comes out as visible and available responses that I can use, in the form of energy/feeling/words/self-anchors, etc.

In doing this, certain things are required on my part: state control, awareness, calibration, knowing what to spot and how to direct it.

Anyway, that is my model.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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