Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but tend to choke at “the closing”.

That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.

But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they drop the ball.

In fact, just recently,  I received the following email from a student:

“Ross,

I have had your home study course for a while, but have been tripping over my own dick for the last year.

I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed opportunities because I am used to being “shy” to make the move.

My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice looking 18 year old.  I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and she kissed me.  I still didn’t close the deal!!  Sounds pretty sad huh?

This kind of interaction has happened time and time again, even before I bought your course.

The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset after the fact.  I am willing to do what you outlined in the newsletters in order to become a more calm and confident version of myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not after the fact.

Am I the only student you have had that can’t close the deal when the girl kisses him?

Thank you in advance for your response.”

Ok, let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.

In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.

We call this fractionation.  Simply put, you put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.  Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.

I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they will be FAR more receptive when  you turn the heat back on.

So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes, then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and then resume.

We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.

Now, as for why this student didn’t “go for it”, I think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger than we are used to getting.

Over the years I have seen this happen with many students: the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do. As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery ticket in  your hand and you are staring at the numbers because you can’t believe you won!

I remember one story in particular, about a student who had just gotten his copy of Speed Seduction® and used some patterns on an attractive woman at his church social.

She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”

The student said, “But the pastor is going to be coming out with the congregation any minute!”

She said, “I don’t want the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang me!”

Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the job, so he wound up having to take a raincheck!

The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success! Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.

Peace and piece
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

So, you want to get her horny?

You’re smart enough to know that blatant sex talk is probably not going to get you there.

You want to move things to the next step, to pursue the next stage of intimacy), eliciting the states of irresistible arousal with what she really enjoys doing in her life.

Let’s say you know already she likes music, Renaissance art, taking road trips, and volunteering at the local animal rescue.

How do you use this playing field to get her horny?

I think a good model or map is helpful so you can learn WHERE to point the tools.

One model I suggest is that women have a left brain, a right brain, and deeper levels of both.

My aim is to get her attention to make a right turn, as close to 90 degrees as I can get it to go. Then I want her to make another 90 degree turn and head DOWN into the right brain, and come back up with the feelings/information/attitudes/responses that I would like to have linked to me.

Now, down there, in the deeper levels and layers of the right brain, imagine compartments, adjacent to and touching each other, sharing common walls.

The compartment where she keeps her feelings/responses/processes about sex, love, lust, letting go, etc are often right next to the compartments where she keeps her FRP’s about indulgence, adventure, escape, fantasy, fairy tales, etc.

And often, they overlap and share space!

So, I can go directly for the sex/lust/connection/surrender compartments or I can get into the ones that are next door/share space, start to shake things up, so the sex/love/lust compartments wake up to, send there signals back up to the surface of the right brain, where it comes out as visible and available responses that I can use, in the form of energy/feeling/words/self-anchors, etc.

In doing this, certain things are required on my part: state control, awareness, calibration, knowing what to spot and how to direct it.

Anyway, that is my model.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Let’s get into that age-old saying “Nice guys finish in their hand.”

Is it true?  How often has the phrase been spoken: “I would treat her like royalty, why does she keep going back to that jerk after how he treats her?”

After a while, some guys get jaded and think, “hey, if being a jerk is going to get me the girl, then I’m going to start being a jerk.”

A student of mine asked a provocative question: can he use the skills in such a way where he would be “hard” on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and then slowly change her comfort zone to reach for good feelings, open up her heart, and blow her mind?

Briefly, because this is territory fraught with pitfalls:

First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:

DETACH from the outcome. “I like this young lady, but then again, I like a lot of people, and I have to detach from the outcome; turn down my desire to bang her, make a difference, etc. It is basically an experiment, take it or leave it. I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested.”

Second, and this is key: it is NOT enough to give a person a new/better/more pleasurable experience, because THEY WILL NOT KNOW HOW TO INTEGRATE IT.

So, be careful to ALWAYS, when you demonstrate something to her, to have her VERBALLY ratify that she has enjoyed it and have her VERBALLY ask for more.

Why is this seemingly (SEEMINGLY) inane bit of dialogue SO important?

By ratifying..by SPEAKING out loud how much she is enjoying it, sometimes measuring on a 1-10 scale, by having her RATIFY it and SPEAK that she likes it…

…SHE IS MAKING IT REAL FOR HER!

Not just a passing experience, but something REAL.

By having her ratify… what is accomplished?

She is reaching for more of what you have. Naturally, her conclusion is, it MUST be something of value, since she has to reach for it to get it!

I’ll say it again. SHE CONCLUDES IT MUST BE SOMETHING OF GREAT VALUE SINCE… SHE HAS TO REACH FOR IT TO GET IT!

Have you ever noticed you seem to want the things you can’t immediately have?  That you spend lots of energy working for it, if you really want it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

So there’s a woman you’ve been seeing, things seem to be going great.  And now, you’re stepping things up – or trying to.

When you try to kiss her, she leans away.

When you ask her to come back to your place, she tells you she needs time to get to know you better.  Even though this is now the third or fourth time you’ve met up, and, as far as you can tell, things go great until you try to make a move.

Ah.  Resistance.  What is causing it?

Who knows…

It could be she has serious intimacy issues.

It could be she is fucking someone and feels guilty about being intimate with you.

Or it could be you simply haven’t sufficiently captured and led her imagination to the point where she is feeling the feelings inside that let her know she wants to kiss/grope/fuck a guy (you).

One thing you can be sure of: for whatever combination of factors, she has NOT yet felt the flow of feelings inside; the flood of feelings on the inside that lets her know: I HAVE TO HAVE THIS MAN.

You see, the key to dealing with resistance is to understand the three levels of dealing with any response:

1. The beliefs that enable you to stay calm and utilize what YOU see as “resistance”.
2. The energetic control to keep your intent focused and strong.
3. The actual patter or words you say.

Could be, she needs to feel more comfort and connection with you.

Are you are trying to “date” her; to shove Speed Seduction® into the dating frame?  That triggers both her “check list” for a guy and her own fears about being labeled a slut, etc.

One quick thought: if she pulls back when you go for the kiss, are you touching her in some way before you go in for the kiss?

As I tell guys, the CLOSE starts the minute you first talk to her. Which means, early on, establish some comfort in touch.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In a recent post I addressed a scenario where a student attempted to persuade a woman to leave her ‘borefriend’ for him by getting her to fall in love with him, based on her statement that she’d never been “in love” before.

I walked through a scenario where, rather than buying into her limits (she listed “vulnerability” as one of the values she needed to see in herself in order to be in love), he used the information she gave him to open her up and get her excited about exploring her feelings and life in a different way.

The narrative I shared got a number of you curious, so let me draw a map for you now. 

Here it is:

1. BEAR IN MIND THE PRINCIPLE THAT 80 PERCENT OF THE SEDUCTION IS POWERED BY HER RESPONSES AND INFORMATION

2. Get the value or quality she looks for that is missing: vulnerable

3. Understand that “vulnerable”, by itself, is not enough to get her to access the feelings and emotions that would flood through her, were she to feel “vulnerable”.

4. Get her to imagine being vulnerable and to tune into what feelings and emotions she would experience in THAT place….have her REALLY get into the fantasy on a deep body feeling and emotional level.

5. Get her even more precisely tuned into those feelings by asking signal recognition questions. What would be the first signal on the inside that lets her know..she’s beginning now to feel X Y Z where XYZ equal what being vulnerable would allow her to experience.

See, what you are doing here is taking what is probably a vaguely formed fantasy on her part and making it VERY vivid and real..and THEN getting hold of those feelings and linking them to yourself.

Final step:

GET HER TO ACT

6. As you fire the anchors say, “so… if you were to realize that at last.. .you really could feel these feelings… that X, Y, Z..as the energy flows from(use her signal recognition answers)…where would you also begin to feel the feelings that let you know… just how strongly… you have to have this… NOW?”

Get it? See the beauty of the new model?  Think perhaps, just maybe, it might beat a poke in the eye?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine shared with me a situation he was in with an HB9 he was Sarging.  He found she had many qualities that appealed to him.  The “diamond in the rough”, the “needle in the haystack.”

One thing:  she had a ‘borefriend’ and, so she claimed, she had never been “in love.”

His initial approach was to explore with her the values she needs to see in herself in order to be in love, and among these she listed “vulnerability.”

Now, one of the mistakes in his thinking was he was going to try to give her an experience she never had before…being in love…in order to get her away from her current “borefriend”.

I asked him…

What if he just had to be a bit more tempting… a bit more exciting… a bit more tasty… a bit more aggressive than her borefriend?

I took an approach counter-intuitive to what my student was thinking… and that is, first focus on turning her on, opening her to a place where she could have feelings and responses she’d never had before.

Thing is, “vulnerability” is not an end value. VULNERABILITY is only valuable in that it would allow her to experience emotions and BODY FEELINGS she wasn’t having with her borefriend.

She THOUGHT she had to have that experience in the context of being “in love” and in going along, my student was buying into HER limit.

Bad thing.

Instead, I suggested he say this… “If you could imagine being totally vulnerable to this person… because for whatever reasons you knew that this person had all the qualities that let you FEEL THAT WAY…  what do you imagine being vulnerable would allow you to experience and feel… that you know you’ve always wanted?”

And once he said that, to be ready to anchor the responses and feed back her words.

So, let’s say she would reply, “Swept away… enraptured… totally taken and out of my own self”.

My student would need to be sure he anchored this… do something… tap on a packet of sugar or on the table with the intent he was anchoring the state.

Then say to her, “Wow… so if you could have THESE feelings… where do you imagine you’d first recognize on the inside… what is the first signal on the inside that would let you know… these feelings of swept away… enraptured… totally taken…are even now… beginning to flow through you?”

Get what I told him?

You want to be able to produce the feelings, anchor them and not get caught up in HER limited view that she has to be in love first.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. One of the things I’m teaching in the “Hyper-Response” model of Speed Seduction® is that 80% of the seduction is going to be powered by the information and responses SHE gives you.  To learn more and delve deeper, click here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Using something known as an “implied compliment” is a fabulous way to capture a woman’s attention and make her receptive to your approach.  For many reasons, in fact, it’s better than paying her any sort of direct compliment.

There are several reasons why.  Let’s go through them:

1) When you IMPLY something, a woman has to use her active imagination to make sense of what you are saying.

As I have taught for years:

WHATEVER YOU CAN GET A WOMAN TO ACTIVELY IMAGINE WILL BE PERCEIVED BY HER AS BEING HER OWN THOUGHT. THEREFORE IT WILL NOT BE RESISTED AS SHE IS THE ONE WHO THOUGHT IT!

Implying something is a sub-category of being vague and using ambiguity. In order to make sense of what you are saying, the listener HAS to employ their active imagination.

When you say something with clear, direct meaning, the listener may or may not respond positively.

2) Very attractive women are used to direct compliments, so they can (but not necessarily WILL) more easily shrug them off.

4) One of the other principles I teach is to get attention in a positive way by doing or saying something different. Since women are not used to implied compliments, and since they are always positively received, it works out nicely to have you stand out from the crowd.

Ok, now that I’ve intrigued you with the theory, let’s get to the practice.

Let’s say you’re at Whole Foods waiting to pay for something at the counter.

Next to you at the counter you see a lovely, lovely blonde woman wearing those ubiquitous UGG brand boots.

You look at her and said, “Nice footgear. Those look comfortable”.

She responds, “They are very comfortable”

You say, “I guess when you have beauty to burn you can afford to dress for comfort”.

She melts at that.

Maybe she’s married, maybe she’s in a real-hate-shun-ship, whatever.  Test this combination with several women and watch how often you get a positive response.

Now, do you guys see how the compliment is implied.

1. Directly state/establish she is wearing shoes for comfort by stating it AND having her agree. Remember in the example she said, “They ARE comfortable”. So you have her agreement; she takes the first part of what you say as being true and acceptable and non-threatening.

2. Link that with an ambiguous use of the term “you”, not once, but twice.

(You used it when you talked about dressing for comfort AND having beauty to burn)

Just who does “you” refer to? “You” meaning people at large?  “You” meaning her, personally? It’s not clear, so to make sense of it she has to use her active imagination.

When you stack ambiguities like this, closely together in time, their power MULTIPLIES as opposed to merely adding.

3. Finally, not only did you not DIRECTLY say you thought she was beautiful, you were also vague about WHAT aspects of her are beautiful.

You didn’t say, “Beautiful hair or beautiful teeth or beautiful eyes”.

She might not agree if you were that specific.

You just said, “beauty to burn”. What kind of beauty? According to what standards?? As judged by whom?

Ok, I want to open this up for discussion. Using this structure, how else might you come up with some original implied compliments?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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God, I love this job.

The other day, I shared with you the letter from a student in Greece who was concerned that some of the Speed Seduction® patterns and techniques might not work on Greek women because of the difference in how the Greek language works.

I explained to him that the key is to use your words to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and that it doesn’t matter if that woman comes from Athens or Atlanta, Santiago or Shanghai, Chicago or Cape Town: women want the same fundamental basic emotions and feelings.

Now, just to show you how it is your attitude that helps make the tools work better, let me share with you another scenario, this one from a student in South Korea who mastered Speed Seduction® quite suck-sex-fully on women who barely “speekee de Englees”.

He is an American who lived in South Korea for over 4 years and has used Speed Seduction® on women who speak English naturally and those who have had to learn it. He tells me, if he had to choose who to Sarge between the two, he would choose those who have had to learn it.

Why?

Well for one, the ones who have more recently learned English have to LITERALLY hang on every word and focus in more and more on what you are saying (just to understand everything correctly you are saying, and then process it.

Also, the language structure of SS is something they normally haven’t encountered. So they are learning a new style of speaking and so therefore they are automatically very interested in what and how you are saying it, and they don’t think you are manipulating them.

Also bear in mind, they sometimes don’t get the metaphors.  Is this a bad thing? Hell no. What they do is ask you (because they want to learn from you [heh heh]) “what does that mean?” Not only does their interest amplify but also it gives you further opportunities to use more descriptive languaging and amplify some more.

Not only that, but consider this.

If they don’t understand all the words, they WILL understand the frame and theme, and then THEY FILL IN THE BLANKS FOR THEMSELVES!!!!!!   The student tells me that many times he has no idea what he said to cause their overly sexual behavior towards him because they may have only understood half the words – but then he figured out they substituted their own internal processes in the language gaps and THEY JUST RAN WITH IT!

Here’s the thing: girls are very interested in mysteriously exotic things they have not or would like to explore more, and though it may not seem so, you are exotic to those who speak a different language than yours, regardless of your native tongue. So if you find yourself in another country, just stay the course.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Wow.  My post on Why Txt Msgs Sck Dck has really kicked up quite a debate.

One of the many great comments I received was asking how to manage her “autopilot” responses.  So, let me show you this video clip, taken from one of my actual live seminars where I work directly, in-person with students, where I teach you how to use a woman’s autopilot emotional responses to power her right into your bed.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Worried that you might offend her when you lay it on thick or use a phrase like “Blowjob Pattern”?

In this video, ripped right out of the brand-new Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection, I reveal a clip of me demonstrating actual Sarging techniques with Christine at one of my recent live 3-Day Seminars.

It’s chock-full of morsels of girl-getting wisdom, so watch it now:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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