Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In our most recent post, I began to take on the naysayers who claim that language patterns are weird and silly.

One of the key points I made was that your attitude when approaching a woman and using pattern language has a lot to do with how she will perceive your approach.

Now, I delve deeper into the realm of what pattern language does for YOU as well as details on how your attitude can change the scenario.

Bear in mind…that anything you do, ANYTHING, that:

• Increases her comfort
• Opens her imagination/emotions/body feelings in the proper directions that are useful
• Gives you useful information/insight into her
• Sets a frame where you are of great value and she has to work for your attention
• Challenges her to live up to a certain expectation
• Offers her opportunities to gain something/learn something/experience something

ANY THING that does this is a pattern.

Patterns are NOT limited to memorized speeches. Patterns, absent the right context of getting her curious, getting her involved, checking her comfort and openness, getting/gaining information about who SHE is, are just flinging s@#t against the wall.

Sure, it’s better s@#t than what you are USED to doing as an AFC.

SOME of it may stick.

But it is a crap shoot.

Now, here is another thing:

When you create rapport with someone, what you carry with you gets conveyed over to them as well.

If you are carrying a ball of anger, frustration, confusion, pain, white-hot desperation, THAT WILL BE CONVEYED.

So calm yourself, clean up and transmute your energy as best you can BEFORE YOU GO SARGING.

I’ll say it again for ALL of you to hear:

You can be as slick as Willie with your language. You can have all the analogs(tone of voice, body language, tempo control). AND if you are conveying the wrong energy, then that “tightness” is going to come through. The urgency to get acceptance and validation will come through.

On Friday, I’ll be back to this topic with some solutions to help you avoid missing out on the benefits that language patterns bestow upon you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  All of what I just explained ties back to the idea of showing up attractive, which you can learn more about by clicking here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Every so often I find it necessary to say nay to the naysayers.

Today, I must say nay to those who think that when you do seduction patterns and use pattern language, it will cause women to get weirded out.

Or similarly, they think it’s silly, like the “Jamaica” line which they swear they heard in grade school.

Look: patterns and pattern language are neither weird nor silly, when you have the whole picture.

A few thoughts…

First, it’s necessary to properly define our terms.

What are “patterns”?

What do you mean “do” patterns?

What is your attitude when you “do” patterns?

Are you helping her see a new direction?

Or, are you inflicting something?

Do you feel you are committing some minor crime like pick pocketing or stealing someone’s watch?

These are all important things to consider.

This is why it’s VERY important to clean up your energy before you go sarging.

What Do Language Patterns Mean?

Look, patterns, whatever that may mean, are designed to:

1. Gather information about what moves a woman. Get informational as well as EMOTIONAL leverage into her world.
2. Prime the “emotional pump” to get the parts of her mind that contain those responses opened up and receptive to you.
3. Lead and entrain her imagination/emotions/body feelings.
4. Enable you to screen who is available, who is worth dealing with, etc. etc.

Now, that is what “patterns” are designed to do.

Be sure to join us tomorrow for Part 2, where I will delve deeper into patterns – including more of how patterns help you in the seduction process.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

You don’t always have to say a lot to “close” a woman.  Sometimes you’re in a hurry and don’t have time for chit-chat but you are highly interested in the woman you’re speaking with now and need to move things forward quickly.

I know how much you guys love word-for-word patterns, so I know you will truly enjoy this video clip:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here’s a great example of how to combine 3-4 different concepts, tools and techniques together at the same time, effortlessly multiplying the strength and effectiveness of each in a combined “seduction strike force”!

Watch how I bring anchors from a previous round of patterning back into play, and how I use fractionating to “test the safe door”.  And notice the three different methods I give to give the safe door a tug:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine reported a challenge he was facing.  When using various seduction patterns, he found the same thing kept happening.  He was getting the “B answer” result that might have kept conversation going – as opposed to the “A answer” which would have been a turbo-charged ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Let’s hear from him:

> Hi guys, today I’m stuck at home, and I was just going true my sarge journal. I noticed that most of the time I used the natural vs social pattern I ended up in a in intellectual discussion instead of becoming more of an authority in her world. Now that I think about it I’ve had the same problem with a pattern. I don’t know what it is called but it’s a combination of apposition of opposites and the fascination pattern. Do any of you guys have recognize something you might have done wrong in the past and that I can pay attention to. Or do you have any ideas how I can prevent these patterns from becoming an intellectual discussion and turn them into trance generators?

OK, RJ here again.

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: what attitude, energy and “vibe” about yourself is being communicated ACROSS and along with the “words”?

Are you communicating a crying need for approval? Are you hiding BEHIND the patterns, hoping against hope she won’t notice what a “geek” you are? What is the message about yourself that is being communicated along with the pattern language?

Listen: I’ve said it over and over and over and newbies don’t LISTEN AND GET IT NOW -

Think of the “patterns” as being more than the memorized “speeches”.

ANYTHING that opens her imagination and emotions is a “pattern” including your attitude, energy, what you notice and use in her responses, the questions you ask her, etc. etc. etc.

Now, think about this: if you wanted to send a 1,000 volt current, would you try to conduct it across a sheet of cardboard or a sheet of gold foil?

Equally good current, but the conductive medium matters.

Your attitude and energy and belief are the conductive medium across which the “voltage” of the pattern language will either go straight to her or simply go nowhere.

Second: have you ever really used your imagination and gotten some of the experience that you are describing in whatever “patterns” you are using? Do they reflect anything YOU have actually dreamed about, imagined, or experienced or are they merely empty words?

Third: Some women don’t get “abstract” concepts. Some have to have you address THEM directly: what excites them, what THEY enjoy what THEY do when they want to escape, get away, indulge themselves. Only AFTER that, can they at all open to more abstract discussions, like Natural vs. Culturally programmed woman.

How can you tell, in advance, if she’ll respond to more abstract patterns like Natural vs. Culturally programmed? Well, experience, in the field. But I would not start out with this pattern, especially with younger women. Save it for women in their late 20′s at least.

Start out with things that deal with HER world, and her direct experiences. If she responds well, build on that.

Make sure you also fractionate along the way; occasionally return to “fluff” talk. Challenge her to make sure she is adventurous enough and has a good enough imagination to explore these kinds of things.

Remember finally: THE pattern of ALL patterns is to watch her responses and utilize them! If she isn’t responding, back up, change themes, change what you are presenting, etc. etc. etc.

There is no “one” memorized pattern that works all the time for all women. Give up that fantasy. I have done “Incredible Connection” for years and some women melt into puddles in seconds, others NEVER GET IT.

So f@@king what? I haven’t just given you a single shot flintlock pistol. I’ve given you a 6,000 round per minute Phalanx II super-Gatling gun with unlimited ammo, to use a hostile metaphor.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

This is the first of two mini-lessons on hooking her interest that I’ll be sharing.  The second will arrive in a couple days.  (I know, I know, I’m a tease.)

What are some of the key, initial factors that come into play when approaching women that can enable you to hook or get attention initially?

It begins with a very important concept.  The first five minutes are designed to get her invested in the transaction. Yes, you can create connections, get her sexually turned on, etc. Remember, in the first five minutes, if you get her invested and really interested in talking to you more, you’ve gotten the job done for that portion.

Here’s what can hook attention: She might hook into the vibe you present as your approach.

Let me break that down for you.

First of all, she may hook in psychically. She may be really sensitive to NLP.

She could hook into the theme that you introduce. She may just like the theme that you introduce.

She may hook into the format you use. For example, she may really like jokes, games, quizzes and curiosity.

She may hook in to the vibe, theme, format or analog.

She may really love your voice. Many women initially tell me they just love how masculine my voice was.

She may hook in to the fact that you don’t care that she’s not hooking in. If she’s not hooking and you don’t care and are fine with it, that may really get her attention.

As part of that, she may hook into how comfortable you are with her first response. Let’s say she’s a little bit nasty or skeptical and you just laugh and are not in any way troubled by it. That may really hook her attention.

Any kind of pattern interruption or response on your part that’s positive and unexpected can really hook her in.

She may finally only hook in to your touch. You may have to touch her in order to start getting her hooked in.

She may hook in to your fun learning frame. You’re there to learn and have fun.

She may hook into the fact that you’re screening her or the implied compliment.  She may hook in to the implied, playful screening and the fact that you’re screening her in a playful way.

The trick is to have fun, steady your ground, and get stable in your feet with a nice flow of energy in your body no matter what happens and plays out. Those initial 5 (to 10) minutes are about sparring in a friendly way and seeing where she’s open.

In Part 2 of this lesson, we’ll explore how to hook her interest with your closing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  One of the things that I talked about in my recent London seminar is the path of sexualized curiosity as a way of being very powerful to hook women’s interest and seduce intelligent women.  To watch this (and 50+ more hours more of my latest and greatest) in the privacy of your own home, click here now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

On a recent “Ask Me Anything” calls for members of the Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, one of our students shared a story about how just a few simple words moved a woman from “I’m Aroused” to “It’s On”.

It went something like this.  The student had been spending time with her and had used Speed Seduction® to get her to the point where she went around naked in the room when they were hanging out, but nothing else had happened – no kiss, no nookie, no ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

He called a friend on the phone, and the friend gave him this advice: “Tell her to take her clothes off, get on top of you, and shut her f@@king mouth.” So my student said to the woman, “My friend tells you to take your clothes off, get on top of me, and f@@k me right now.”

Seems all of the work he had done building connections got her turned on, but when he just gave her a command… within 30 seconds, they were f@@king.

Now, let me make something clear: If you’re doing all the patterns, you’re in the driver’s seat and she’s sitting there passively listening, you can’t expect her to suddenly take the wheel.  The deeper in they go, the more you have to be the one who strongly takes the action.  On the flip side, women who are knowingly teasing you really need to be told to fuck off. They need that strong hand.

Here‟s the way I’ll paint it for you. What this student was doing up until then DID get her turned on.  She was responding and walking around naked, right?

First of all, get this understanding. Any girl who is walking around naked in front of you but won’t make out with you is teasing. She wants you to tell her to fuck off and do as she’s told. Do you understand that?

Now get this.  I’m going to get criticized by people who deliberately misquote me. So let me be clear.

I am NOT saying that all women want you to rip their clothes off and tell them, “Get on top of me, shut your mouth and f@@k.” I AM saying that if a woman is walking around naked in front of you and has taken her clothes off, she knows she’s teasing you and turning you on.

If she’s teasing you by taking her clothes off and parading around naked but won’t make out with you, you have the bull by the horns. You can either tell her to get the f@@k out or climb on top of you. That is clearly a case of teasing. She needs to know that you’re strong enough to say, “Get lost!”

Listen to this also: I’m sure this kind of woman is turned on. She’s turned on by the fact that you’re turned on by her teasing, but she’s also turned on by the patterns.

Just because she’s turned on doesn’t mean “it’s on” now. She can be extremely aroused, but what pushes her from very aroused to “It’s On” is a display of strength and not caring on your part. That’s for this specific kind of woman.

Now, let me unpack that and make it very clear.

For some women, doing language patterns and then touching and kissing them is enough to get them from, “I’m aroused,” to “It’s on.” You need to understand that just because a woman is aroused doesn’t mean it’s on and she’s ready.

For some women, doing patterns and being mildly aggressive is enough. It’ll move them from aroused to, “It’s on.”

For other women, they won’t be moved to, “It’s on,” even if they are aroused, unless you show that display of, “Fuck you! I don’t care. Please me.” That’s a subset of women.

I’m willing to bet, in this case, this woman is either very young, has very low “self-esteem” or both, if she’s in that category. She’s excited by displays of dominance and power. I want to make it very clear. The patterns were turning her on, but it wasn’t enough because of her psychology.

Make sense?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Many of you have heard me explain the concept of using language and patterns to seduce women, all the while making it seemingly a perfectly ordinary conversation.

Watch this video where I give you a specific question you can ask that helps you seduce her, using your curiosity:

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  The video clip you just watched is ripped straight out of the Speed Seduction® Total Immersion 2011 Seminar Footage Collection which becomes available tomorrow (Friday, August 12, 2011) at 12:00 Noon Pacific.  We’ll announce it to everyone who’s on our mailing list.

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Dear Speed Seduction Student®,

Check out this quick video clip where I demonstrate how to use language and touch to begin the sexualization process:

NOTE: this is but a tiny sample of what you will find when we release our Seminar Training Collection in the next week or so.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Every so often I find it necessary to debunk the naysayers.  Today is that “every so often.”

For example, those who say Speed Seduction® is silly or that “any intelligent woman would see right through it and think you’re a weirdo/perv/psycho.”

This particular band of naysayers say that if they used patterns and suggestive language, the woman they were using them on would lose her arousal right along with the soda pop that gushed through her nose as she laughed uncontrollably while taking a sip.

Here’s the thing: understanding phonological ambiguity and how it applies to phrases like “go inside”, “below me,” and “new day” is only half of the pie.  People hear those phrases almost every day but don’t automatically have sexual thoughts and images appear in their head.  Consciously, there often is no sexual connotation at all.

Meaning, OF COURSE that chick you’re chatting up isn’t automatically going to think of Private Wood showing up for calisthenics just because you drop the phrase “new direction” at a random point in conversation with her.

And if you use tonality incorrectly or at random, when you’re telling her about your latest ski trip and all of a sudden you change your tonality and say “new direction” with an abrupt lascivious look in your eye: yes, she’ll “get it”, and no, you probably won’t…”get it”.

So let’s amp up your understanding a little.

Do you ever have dreams at night? Do you CONSCIOUSLY think them up?

MOST of how we think, respond, act, feel and behave is outside of our conscious choice and awareness anyway.

As for the phrases like “below me” and “go inside”:

These things aren’t used in isolation. They are used as part of a chain of suggestions that are, themselves, part of an overall theme of discussion.

By themselves, isolated, they have no effect.

But as part of a chain of ideas, they have powerful effect.

Are you starting to get it now?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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