Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my recent post, I shared with you a way to leverage your way out of the “cold shower loop” by changing what you focus on. My point was: look at what’s happening in other areas of your life that might be stopping you or tripping you up.

Now, another form of leverage comes from creating something that isn’t in the system at all: an empowering, useful set of beliefs and processes for extracting maximum learning from every situation, so you cease viewing things in terms of “failure”, but really, for real, learn from everything.

Here’s a clue: can you learn to have legitimate desires for women WITH a sense of possibility and WITHOUT any of the pain / failure / limiting / sad feelings from the past, or as little as possible?

Yes, you can.

To summarize, here are three ways you can get more leverage through maximum learning:

1. Standing outside the system or process and seeing how you have been creating it in a process, rather than defining yourself as someone who “has” a “complex”. Seeing how this is NOT about “you” failing or having anything, but rather being trapped until now in a process that would guarantee that ANYONE would feel the same way and get the same results if THEY did this process.

2. Get healthy physically, have social interaction, and restore a sense of play and exploration to life, INDEPENDENT OF YOUR LEGITIMATE DESIRES FOR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN. The lack of success you have had in these areas, until now, may well be throwing ice water on your girl-getting game.

3. Install a new system for learning how to learn and learning from your learnings; this also would include learning to discern and separate out your legitimate desires for women from the entanglement and confusion with your old, painful, failing feelings that also have been driving you.

So, will you stand up, man up, and take a bold step forward, or do you wish to continue to wallow in shit?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The fulcrum lever that gets you the leverage you need to get things handled and “up” your game with women is contained in my Nail Your Inner Game course.  Stop wallowing… and start following this link to learn more.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Perhaps, in the past you’ve been so confused, and have screwed-up so bad with women, it boggles your own imagination.

To that I say: Welcome to the human condition.

So, then you make the decision to take massive action to improve your girl-getting game and start claiming the results you want with the women you truly desire.

As you continue to make gains in this area, you start discovering many of your false or limiting beliefs that you didn’t even know were there.

Please get this; discovering your false and limiting beliefs is 100% part of this process…..

…….And those discoveries ARE GAINS!!!

As you see what actually works with women in the world, you cannot help having your old beliefs challenged and changed.

As you change and challenge your old beliefs, you cannot help but make progress in the field.

This is one of the core and key distinctions between Speed Seduction® and all of the rip-offs, imitations and down-right bizarre mutations out there: Speed Seduction® requires you deeply re-examine how you think about women, what attracts them, and indeed, what “attraction”, “love” “desire” really are, as PROCESSES with a structure, sequence, flow, movement etc.

You can get some progress just by mindless imitation; but deep change and huge sastisfaction/suck-sess requires you change the filters and beliefs through which you address the world of women.

Why do you think I give guys tools for meditation?

So you can create ***spaciousness**** in your consciousness. Room to see your old beliefs and patterns WITHOUT BUYING BACK INTO THEM. Extract whatever useful and accurate info might be there, then move to something more fun, empowering, accurate and overall better.

And that, my friend, beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. With my Nail Your Inner Game system, you get a way to take any and all confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve ever experienced with women, and immediately convert it to pure, immediately usable learning, so you could bounce right back, and automatically do things right the next time.

Click here to learn more

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Many students tell me that the biggest roadblock in getting started toward Speed Seduction® mastery – a roadblock more absolute and impenetrable than a giant boulder blocking the path – is fear of what could go wrong.

So, you approach a woman, and sure, one of the following can (and sometimes does) happen:

• She gives you a bad look, like rolling her eyes or making that disgusted “ewww” face;
• Less blatant, but just as unnerving, her expression-change and body-language shift let you know she sees you as yet another guy who’s going to try to get up in her panties – maybe she even lets out a little sigh, and not the one she lets out when you first go down on her either;
• Swinging back to the blatant, she actually says something rude like, “Nice try jerk,” “Talk to the hand, this girl ain’t hearing it,” or “Bye” (in response to you saying “Hi”)

If these things have happened to you before, you may, understandably, be a tad gun-shy about climbing back up on that horse and galloping into another Sarge.

Because you’ll wonder: “What’s the problem?  Why do women act like bitches when I approach them?”

First, I’ll say this: what you think is the problem, isn’t really the problem.

The real problem might be your habit – up until now – of trying to predict what will happen when you walk up to her, rather than allowing yourself to go out and see for yourself.

It’s a philosophy problem; if this is happening to you, chances are it is based on the idea that you can get information about the world WITHOUT experimentation.

We call this branch of philosophy: epistemology. And if you are epistemologically confused, at least when it comes to this issue, you’ll go through life being e-piss-temologically pissed off…

…at the women you never even went up to because they MIGHT act like bitches, and at yourself for bitch-slapping yourself in advance and saving her the trouble.

Don’t you think there’s a better way?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Nail Your Inner Game gives you a way to take any and all confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve ever experienced with women, and immediately convert it to pure, immediately usable learning, so you could bounce right back, and automatically do things right the next time.  Click here to get yours right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Just received another success story from a student who has invested in several Speed Seduction products, including the 3.0 Course, the Power Pack, and Nail Your Inner Game, and who has done an in-person consult with me.

As you read, in his own words, how Brian claimed his results with the women he truly desired, consider what steps you will take to blast past whatever stuck points are holding you back and make today the last day of the way you used to be.

I came across Speed Seduction® by Ross Jeffries in February 2009 after past failed relationships where I felt I was settling and not reaching my full potential. I felt stuck and was looking for guidance to be able to choose the women I wanted to be with.

In the last year since I began incorporating these techniques, I have slept with 4 women (2 week fling, 4 month relationship with a “9″, one night stand with a “10″, and a 2 month casual relationship with a “9″). All 4 of these women were the best looking of any girls I have slept with in the past.

This is mainly due to his beliefs (from 3.0 home study course and speed life bonus), response patterns from his various products (specifically the best of RJ coaching), and self confidence techniques from Nail Your Inner Game and Unstoppable Confidence.

The most recent success came from an in-person consult that I was privileged enough to participate in with Ross. I didn’t even use language patterns with this girl. A lot of the attractiveness came from the vibes and attitudes he teaches. Just from avoiding the mistakes that most guys make, not needing to win, and having the confidence in myself not to react to her first responses, and practicing my tonality and pace at which I speak had a “9″ in my bed on New Years Eve this year.

I admire and thank Ross for his passion in teaching, and encourage anyone who is looking to make personal change in their life to participate in Speed Seduction®.

All the best,

Brian Schumacher
Detroit, Michigan

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Another way to immerse yourself in Speed Seduction® mastery is to sign up for one of our 3-Day Live Seminars.  Click here to see the full schedule and claim your seat now (Los Angeles starts in just 8 days!)

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Sometimes what gets ignored in our search for success with women is who we are and what we are bringing into the interaction.

Someone once said, “A monkey in a silk suit is still a monkey”.

This understanding is why Speed Seduction® isn’t just about the language tools with women, but how we can clean up our own pain and confusion so what we bring into the interactions as men is already a lot more attractive and fun before we even say a word.

Here is an interaction I just had, by email, with a student who was missing that point.

> Hi Ross,
>
> I first read the game in December of 2009. Up until that point, I had only had one girlfriend and had only slept with one woman (The same person… By the way, I didn’t even particularly like her!).
>
> Having come from a massively dysfunctional family, I had hugely overwhelming issues with social situations, especially involving women. I had desperately  wanted to find a girlfriend from a very early age, but just couldn’t do anything right. I always came across as needy, desperate and too keen.
>
> This year, I have been getting steadily better, but have still suffered some pretty devastating situations. Despite all the things I grew up with, I have  managed to make a fair go in certain areas of my life. I have become a very accomplished musician, I have a decent job, I drive a nice car etc, but all this stuff seems worthless without someone to share it with. Even though I have made some good advances with myself, I am still suffering massively in the area of women. I have certainly improved with them, but my abilities to communicate still simply suck!
>
> To cut a long story short, I bought your home study course. I went over it with a fine tooth comb, but I just can’t seem to make it work. I see other guys using it brilliantly, I see you blazing a trail with it, yet I just can’t seem to make it work! I’ve even got some of the other DVDs, such as Gold Walkups and a couple of other that were included as part of a package deal at the time. I’m not a bad looking guy and without sounding big headed, I’m pretty intelligent with it. I just don’t know where I’m going wrong and I am totally at my wits end! It’s even reached the point where I have considered flying out to the US to come and have a one on one with you, but I know I need to use my money to buy some property next year.
>
> I’m desperate, Ross and I know you’re a man with answers. I know your stuff works, otherwise I wouldn”t have paid for it.
>
> What can I do?
>
> B
>

B,

I think your question contains its own answer.

What we bring into even the very best technology for dealing with others, will effect how we apply that technology and the results we get.

Some people just come into this “game” with more pain, more unconscious patterns that get in the way, more confusion etc than others. All humans have some pain and confusion-that is the human condition. But some of us (as I did too) come with more pain from dysfunctional families and even a genetic load that  predisposes us to be more anxious than others.

The good news:

Remember Speed Seduction® isn’t just about the technology for dealing with women successfully. It’s also about technology for cleaning up who WE are and  what we bring forward into our interactions with women AS we use the language patterns, etc.

There is plenty in SS to deal with this.  I suggest the Nail Your Inner Game program, or even more precisely, my Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection.  This  is the past 2 years recorded content from my coaching program and contains modules for dealing with the emotional and other issues that you are bringing  forward into what you do.

You deserve a shot at having a clean slate.  NYIG and the Training collection will do that for you.

If you feel you want to work with me personally, try the Coaching Program. You get immediate access to all the vault content (but not organized by subject, as the Vault is – in the Coaching Program you have it organized by each month I create it), plus you get to talk with me live 4 times a month. Twice on a group phone bridge, once on my personal cell phone, and once by live group video conferencing.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. One more thought – if you’d like to experience 3 full days of immersion training with me, consider attending one of our live seminars – we have numerous dates throughout the year and numerous locations throughout the world.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Here are a few worn-out, wasted, and woe-begone cliches you’ve probably heard before.

“Men and women must be in love before they have sex.” “Women will most likely have sex on the third date, but will not decide if they love him for another 6 months, because they believe love takes time.” (Is this why the “third date” is assigned so much importance?)

As you continue to master your girl-getting game and achieve more and more tight trim triumph… as you peel away the layers of doubt and beliefs that haven’t served you… please get this; discovering your false and limiting beliefs ARE GAINS!!!

As you see what actually works with women in the world, you cannot help having your old beliefs challenged and changed. As you change and challenge your old beliefs, you cannot help but make progress in the field.

This is what makes Speed Seduction® unique and special: it requires you deeply re-examine how you think about women, what attracts them, and indeed, what “attraction”, “love” “desire” really are, as PROCESSES with a structure, sequence, flow, movement etc.

Well, my belief is that you can NOT have a truly “loving” relationship WITHOUT sex. So there.

Forget about such stupid generalities as the “all important third date” and other calls to mastur-wait-ion. Those who preach these ideas base them on THEIR limits.  Just because THEY need to go on “dates” and follow the “rules” to get the chick in bed, YOU should too.  That’s how they’d have it.

I’ve had women “fall in love” with me in 20 minutes. Some never do.

Look, the real issue is: will doing as OTHERS say help YOU go where you need to?

What is the process – the methodology – by which YOU will discover what works and what is true? Do you really need written reassurances or can you move through some uncertainty with a determination to FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF WHAT WORKS?

Do you see my point? The real value is asking a better question than “when will women have sex or fall in love?”

The better question is, “How do YOU find out what is true and real, for yourself? And how do you handle the uncertainty of looking? Can you convert into excitement, curiosity, playful determination?”

More and more I am convinced that my job as a master teacher is NOT to answer the question the student asks. 70% of the time it is redirecting the student to ask the much more useful question or questions that they aren’t even thinking to ask.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. You can get some progress just by mindless imitation; but deep change and huge sastisfaction / suck-sex requires you change the filters and beliefs through which you address the world of women.  The best way to do this is twofold – reprogram the belief mentally and through ritual.  Explore my Nail Your Inner Game and Magick/Psychic Influence courses.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

When things don’t quite go your way…when you strike out with every woman you meet today (or all week long), when you feel hurt, it is natural to want to protect yourself.

It triggers off a “one-two-three-four” thought process…

• Why did this happen to me?
• This is ALWAYS going to happen to me.
• This ONLY happens to me.
• This happened because of something I did wrong.

The easiest way to protect yourself : don’t put yourself out there. Don’t approach any more women, ever.  Never Sarge.  When a woman throws herself at you, rather than run the risk she might not be THE ONE, just forget the possibility that it might be the best fucking lay you’ve ever had.  Rosie and her sisters are always there, anyway.  Right?

Wrong Song, Mr. Strong…

Newsflash: every person experiences fear, sorrow and hesitation and backsliding, suffering and restriction.

No need to feel bad about it, as the song says “Everybody hurts, sometime.”

Let’s see if we can oppose these lies with more neutral ideas. Let’s return you to neutrality before we aim to return you to other aspects of power.

Somewhere, somehow, you have some very vague representation of handling this better and want to find a better model for handling this.

All of the above are TRUE statements, no drama, no extra weight in that baggage.

Now, let’s tackle the lies and other less than useful things:

1. Why did this happen to me? Wrong question. Focuses your mind on what went wrong and your “failures”. Better question: what can I do to prevent this kind of thing from happening again without zapping my zest for life and openness to new adventures? If not, how can I now best view this as the worthwhile price to pay for having an open mind and life?
2. This is ALWAYS going to happen to me. Unlikely, if you learn what you need to. People can always change their feelings, that is true, but so can you. If someone can change their loving feelings for you because of your behavior then why can’t you change your negative feelings about yourself because of NEW behavior? Hmmmm… Change does and will happen. It’s how you choose to handle it. No guarantees on this rotating mudball other than naked baby in, stop breathing to leave.
3. This ONLY happens to me. Horseshit. Read “Dear Abby”. Watch Oprah. She had this guy on whose fiance called off the wedding 5 hours before it was supposed to go on. He wound up writing a book called Honeymoon with My Brother. Best thing that ever happened to him.
4. This happened because of something I did wrong. Here is a tricky one as it IS possible that some old patterns of emotional response or old patterns of behavior reared up and kept you from having the kinds of responses that would have kept you more in the drivers seat.

In which case, THIS GIRL WHO JUST DISSED YOU IS A GREAT SPIRITUAL GURU AND TEACHER HERE TO SLAP YOU AWAKE WITH THE PAIN SO YOU CAN SEE THESE PATTERNS AND RESOLVE THEM.

Look, what you did “wrong” isn’t the entire contents in the book of your life. They are just “markers” to show you what needs to be read and re-written.

ANYTHING THAT COMES UP COMES UP TO BE LEARNED FROM, HANDLED, PURIFIED, REFINED, RECYCLED, TRANSMUTED, RELEASED towards the vision of whom you everyday are more and more becoming.

So…find a place of objective, clear, grounded clarity to view what happened and find the patterns where you would like more power and choice.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Actually, I have two suggestions to help you with this, depending where you are.  One is my Nail Your Inner Game system.  The other is my classic course, Beyond Confidence.   Check them out.

Oh, and if you want to beat the one-two-three-four get them both and save 15% on today’s investment, just click here for a special discount link.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

When we consider the concept of “charisma”, there are two elements I often point out – particularly when they find themselves rehearsing their lines or what they’re going to say when they approach a woman.

These are: a) stepping into the unknown and b) holding space for the other person to have whatever initial response they are going to have.

A student asked me whether that means “surrendering” to the unknown (a), and making yourself vulnerable of being open to receive (b).

He was close, but here is the true meaning. If you’re feeling the need to “rehearse” or play it in your mind 100 times before just walking up to her, consider this…

1) Stepping into the unknown and being truly ok without having to know ahead of time what is going to happen. You accept that you don’t know, and maybe at first that you don’t like that you don’t know, but you don’t dramatize it or spin around it.

You just don’t know. And you decide to move forward anyway.

2)  By hold space I mean:

• It’s ok for them to have their FIRST response. You don’t take their FIRST response as being their final response.
• You don’t REQUIRE their permission OR their support for your new moves and your courageous action.

A lot of guys think that a woman OWES it to them to be polite open because the guy is willing to take the “risk” to go up and meet them/talk to them first.

Well, that attitude is bullshit. The woman hasn’t signed a contract saying that she is REQUIRED to support you in your efforts to improve your sex/love/social life.

You’re stepping forward because it is what YOU , as an adult, have chosen to do and because you are determined(DETERMINED) to bust through your limitations.

Now, can you be determined AND relaxed AND even have a sense of humor about it?

You can if you know how to untangle yourself.

Let me clarify one more thing: just because you don’t REQUIRE certainty or REQUIRE the other person to have a “good response” and be supportive doesn’t mean you don’t take those things as being good or something of value.

It’s just not what determines your stepping forward.

Some guys are waiting to be super-powerful and radiating charm BEFORE they make a move.

Well, yes, you CAN rehearse in charm etc, for sure.

But for some guys, it’s a mistake because they are already too much in their heads and, or THEM, the rehearsing just gets in the way of taking action.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What would life be like with no further need for assurance or guarantee of success of any kind before you took bold (and fun) seduction steps, as you walked like a giant where other people fear to step? It’s time to get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” ass, and get moving right now in the real world with the success you’ve always wanted.  Click here to Nail Your Inner Game…

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A crush is defined by Dictionary.com as “an intense but usually short-lived infatuation.”

And sometimes they’re not “short-lived” but they’ll still  CRUSH YOU as sure as a pissed-off python that decides it has a hankerin’ for a YOU sandwich.

Such as this student experienced:

Here’s the story.  We’ve known each other for about a year now, as a result of meeting at a business networking function.  We had lunch a few days later, and enjoyed each other’s company.  Back then, she told me she had a boyfriend.  Since then, we’ve had business conversations on the phone occasionally.  I threw in some SS themes wherever possible.  Every time we talked, we had great and wonderful rapport. She indicated that she is not comfortable meeting me in private, but invited me to visit her at her office for chit chat several times (I never went, because it seemed like a supplication to me).  Recently, I moved away, so she’s now about 2.5 hours from me.

She’s adventurous, cool, fun, GF material, so I decided to give us one last chance.  So I’ve twice left voicemail and also e-mailed her, but I haven’t gotten a response.  So what gives?  What went wrong?

OK: I’m going to dissect the daylights out of this.

For this past year, how much time have you spent thinking about her (crushing)? How much energy have you put into your projected fantasies about her?  How many times have you and Jimmy wrestled over thoughts of her?

Look: this is the SINGLE worst thing you can do if you want sargy success. BANISH this habit from your mind, ritually. Retake ALL the energy you’ve dumped into this crush.

Imagine a giant machine, with huge grinding gears. Imagine all the energy of that crush being put through that machine, grinding it to pieces and then boiling the remains into steam that is purified into PURE energy for your peace of mind, grounding, balance, learning and attractive vibe towards women anywhere and everywhere. The smart ones being drawn to you without you even speaking and when you DO speak, that vibe and THAT vibe only is conveyed, regardless of the words you say.

Now, see how this crush affected the rest of your thought process.

“Great and wonderful rapport?”

Or so you felt in YOUR fantasy.  I’ll bet a dollar that “great and wonderful rapport” is NOT what SHE said.

“Adventurous, cool, fun, GF material?”

What? WHAT? W-H-A-T?

Adventurous? But she won’t meet you in person? GF MATERIAL? A woman who won’t even meet you in person, who insists you come to her office for “chit chat” is GF material?

See, she is GF material IN YOUR CRUSHING FANTASIES.  And thing is, I’ll bet a second dollar you’re not in HER fantasies at all.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Need a proven way to take any and all confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve ever experienced with women, and immediately convert it to pure, immediately usable learning, so you could bounce right back, and automatically do things right the next time?  You’ll find this and many, many more python-grip-breaking answers in Nail Your Inner Game.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Let’s say you’re out and about and walk-up to a hottie and really hit it off.  Or, you’re at a party and your host’s best friend is an HB10++++ and she smiles just right while hanging on your every word.

For s$%@s and giggles, maybe you’re online and chat with a woman, seeing her on “cam” verifies she actually IS hot, and she’s just so flirty and cute and 10 minutes from you and agreeing to meet you, in the succulent flesh, firm booty and huge tits and all, for coffee the next day.

All of these scenarios make you feel good.  Hey, nothing suck-seeds like suck-sess, and few things crank up the dial on a sunny day like a beautiful woman’s smile when it’s meant for you.

Problem, though.

You start to feel a new state coming on…then it erupts within you like a volcano.  Next thing, you associate her sexy eyes and twinkling smile and the way she says “babe” in her awww-shucks way…

… and are consumed by RAGING LUST, DESIRE, AND HORNINESS that obliterates any and all other feelings or senses.

Clearly, this is NOT a good state to come from when approaching women.  You end up getting invested in the result of bedding HER (rather than “interested in the woman” and “invested in sharpening your skills”) but, nevertheless, there it is.  BAM.  Your girl-getting game and experience goes out the window and it’s a very, very short ride to AFC-Ville.

How Do You Put Carnal Desire In Its Place So You Get Her Back To YOUR Place?

You realize it.  You need to get yourself into a calm, centered, powerful, playful, exploratory place, or the only good those desires will do you will be to give Jimmy a fighting chance in the hand-to-hand wrestling match you’ll have in about an hour while thinking about her.

Yet at the same time, you want to USE and CHANNEL that energy that arises from this “desire states” to HELP you get the results you want.

Here’s a quick exercise you can do, at that moment, to get these desires working FOR you, instead of just working you.  (NOTE: this requires a certain level of self-awareness and if that’s an area where you need changework, you want to check out Nail Your Inner Game).

1. Ground into your feet. Bend your knees slightly and feel your feet pressing into your shoes and the ground pressing back up through your shoes/feet
2. Tune into the lustful feelings and see if you can find the edge or border where they fade out into almost disappearing. Then hold your attention on the very border/edge of the feelings, just before they disappear. That will help.

Think about it.  Your mind full of raging lust, desire, and horniness…. or HER full of raging lust, desire, and horniness as she presses her succulent body, firm booty and huge tits and all, up against you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame – the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to getting at least three to four times more women.  Learn more about this right here.