Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I recently received this e-mail from a student of mine about how Speed Seduction® helped him “up” his game with women this past New Years’.  No resolution, just motor-vation to success.

Let’s hear him share, in his own words:

Ross, I owe you a huge thank you for all of your free materials. I have never had any consistent luck with women and now it is fantastic. I have been following all of your rules and beliefs when approaching women and they have worked every time. I often find myself grounding a lot more often and this really seems to keep my focus and balance in check.

My New Years Eve started off great. I was at my third and final stop of the night when I say a gorgeous waitress across the room. I got her attention by snickering at her.  Your rule saved me from the start. “When in doubt take a bold step forward.” So I did. She asked me “What are you snickering at me for?” I replied “Because, I think you’re really cute.”  She said the same about me and then promptly said “Don’t go anywhere.” and she returned with her number.  Since the next day we were texting then in the bed room…..

If it was not for your free segment on “shutting down last minute hesitation” I would have been done. She said that “I just met you and we shouldn’t be doing this.” I then stopped to a breath and gently whisper to her “I understand and see your point. I too only want to do things that we are both truly comfortable with.” and bang it was on since then. She has been texting me nonstop and wanting to hangout. The other cool part of the story is we don’t even have much in common, I just seem to keep the patterns that I know working.

THIS IS A TRUE TESTIMONIAL TO ROSS’S TEACHING: She just graduated from a Major big name college with a psychology degree and can read me like a book. But Ross’s patterns slip right through all of her constant analyzing and work every time!!!!!!! This is great! Man I only wish I could view the entire new course, if one video made my new year perfect.

Ross, a true thanks from a grateful fan.

Al Levy
Council Bluffs, Iowa

RJ here again.  Did you catch that last part?

For those of you who still (misguidedly) think that top-notch, intelligent, sophisticated, intellectual women will not get wet, will not be irresistibly aroused, will not want to push forward in a new direction – that’s just not the case.  In Al’s case, the woman is specifically trained to pick up on patterns, persuasion techniques, etc.

The women are waiting.  What in Suzanne’s silk nightie are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The good news is – you can have my brand new course.  It’s called “Sexual Aggression Mastery” and it’s chock full of mindsets, skills, and techniques to get you through when resistance (either hers or yours) appears at the “moment of truth.”

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine recently shared an interesting problem he’s been having with picking up women.

During his AFC days he frequently faced rejection by women who outright said, in various words, that they’d never condescend to being seen in public with the likes of him.

But in today’s world he often gets resistance from women who have a hard time handling a man like HIM – as in, they’re not used to a man of his caliber showing interest in them.

Here is a typical thing that a woman might say:

“You really have it together, you’re successful, you’re going places, and I know you’re the kind of man who knows how to make his woman happy.  But you have to understand, I’m just not used to guys like you being interested in me and I’m uncomfortable with this whole thing.”

My student also says that women, in the same vein, say they feel “intimidated” by him, which he doesn’t understand because in the same breath they say how easy-going and fun they think he is and how much they enjoy being around him.

Okay: part of what we’re seeing here is a by-product of how much this student has improved his girl-getting game.  These same women, who would have looked down their nose at him just two years ago, now aren’t sure if they could handle a man as GOOD as him in their lives?  Could be, the forbidden fruit has become the low-hanging fruit.

Another question: what do Warren Beatty, Jack Nicholson, Gene Simmons, Donald Trump, Francois Mitterand, Wilt Chamberlain, George Clooney, and Julio Iglesias have in common?

First, they’re each credited with having slept with hundreds, if not thousands, of women.  Second, not ALL of the women they took to Cape Carnal-Veral were famous or even well-connected actors, singers, politicians, supermodels, or business magnates.  Third, I’m willing to bet at least some of their bedmates, to THIS DAY, can’t quite figure out why any of these men would have been interested enough in HER to go to bed with her.

So when a woman poses this sort of resistance – ask yourself the following questions:

• Could it be that what she’s really saying is “I don’t think I really deserve a good man?”
• Maybe she’s throwing up resistance because she realizes you just may be the man she’s always dreamed of, and she recognizes that if she take a new direction with you, it will change her life dramatically?   All forms of change are scary – even GREAT ones – because they probe unfamiliar territory.
• What can you do right now to reframe the experience?  Does negation apply here?

Now let’s explore it from a different angle:

• There was a time when this woman would have put you down for having “deluded yourself” into thinking you had the “right” to ask her out.  Now, here she is, saying you might be too good for her.  How are YOU handling it?
• In showing interest in this woman, has the forbidden fruit, indeed, become the low-hanging fruit? Does this mean you could “up” your choice in women?  If she’s someone you are truly interested in for reasons that are right for you, then great, GO FOR IT.  But, check in with yourself, are you “settling” or looking for the validation of an “easy score”?
• What internal resistance might be stopping you from taking a bold step forward?

Please, share your thoughts and comments in the form below this post.  Tell me what YOU think.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Women are universally attracted to confident men.  Women operate mostly by feelings – and less about money, age or looks.  Women’s brains are hardwired to respond to certain emotional triggers.  To learn more about how all this works, click here now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It often comes up that a woman who has recently gotten out of a long-term relationship will be reluctant to sleep with you.  Even though she wants to, really bad.

A student of mine received an e-mail from a woman he had been Sarging and things were really heating up.  A little confusing with a “WTF” aspect to it, for sure.  But, check this out and then I’ll tear it up:

“I’ll be really honest with you here. I enjoy talking to you and I think you would be great in bed.  But there are a couple reasons why I’m not going to sleep with you. One – I am still very in love with my ex boyfriend. Two: I really enjoy talking about sex with someone that I’m not sleeping with. It’s just so much more honest. I’m sure that makes sense. See you Thursday, looking forward to it.”

It’s right in front of your face: this chick has ALREADY made up her mind to sleep with you. 

She needs an excuse in her mind so she can feel blameless; “well, I TRIED not to sleep with him and even told him “NO” but I just couldn’t help myself..it just HAPPENED”.

Note what she said, “I think you would be great in bed”.

STOP! How could she “think” that without FANTASIZING about it?

Just say to her,

Hey…I’m glad for your honesty. Whatever we each and BOTH feel, I don’t want to do anything unless it is BOTH something we are BOTH thinking and dreaming about and totally want to do. So let’s just relax, enjoy each other’s company and only in whatever ways are comfortable and we BOTH want to do.

This takes the pressure OFF. Then keep right on Sarging..when you start to undress her and she resists just say…“We BOTH can’t help ourselves!” then fairly aggressively peel her panties off and enjoy the “lift-off” of the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Remember: a woman’s first response to you should rarely be taken as her “final answer.”  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  In 24 hours from now, 1,440 minutes will have passed, each with a reason why it’s possible  she’ll think differently.

Sound like a lot to manage?  Not if you have this on your side and in your corner.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Yesterday, I shared with you Part 1 of my student’s Sarge report.  We left off with him and his hot, enticing new acquaintance at the bookstore, with him laying the groundwork for irresistible arousal.

So let’s jump to the third meeting….

Part 2: She Taps The Brakes

At their third meeting, riding upon the strong connection already established in the last two meetings, he kissed her and they started making out.  Then – here it comes – her last minute resistance.  My student guessed (correctly) that sex wasn’t on the dessert menu that night.  Maybe this was due to her personal values, her fear of seeming too “easy” or in it for “just one thing.”  Who knows?

Rather than being daunted, he gave her another chance.  He took her out and used the anchoring he did in their previous meetings to rekindle her sense of security and romanticism that she had lacked for a long time.  This time, everything went perfect and even the last minute resistance was easily skipped this time.

When she said, “I don’t want to give you the wrong impression, but it’s not going to happen,” my student calmly replied, “Did I ask for that?” This made her seem like she was the only one thinking about sex, so she relaxed.  Everything went great from there.

Well… this is good stuff!

So guys, what can we learn from this?

For me, three things stand out:

1. A woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” You have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing.
2. Notice how my student confidently deflected her concerns and put her at ease. For another example of this, check out this story of how I got laid by putting on TWO pairs of pants.
3. Negation is a powerful thing. You should check out this article, too.

Get your ass back here tomorrow when we go “long term” in our view on all this…

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Whatever you can get a woman to imagine, is perceived by her as being her own thought and therefore is not resisted. Therefore, first capture and guide a woman’s imagination and you can then get her to do almost anything you want… and she’ll think it’s her own idea! CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Sometimes being “positive” is not the right way to be, when it comes to women.

Now, let me be clear about something-I’m not talking about your attitude.

I’m talking about your language.

You see, one of the most powerful linguistic tools in existence that can totally blast through a woman’s last minute resistance and “auto-pilot” objections is negation.

Negation simply involves using negatives like “shouldn’t” ‘mustn’t” “don’t” “can’t” etc as ways to turn a woman’s imagination and train of thought back in the direction you want it to go.

It’s a very good way to turn a woman around WITHOUT arguing or trying to convince her.

Here, as an example, is an email I just got on the subject:

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Ross, something I saw in this movie Spanglish with Adam Sandler. Sandler is trying to sleep with this woman and she is putting up objection after objection. Finally, he says:

“We really shouldn’t do something that will give us such unbelievable satisfaction and release.”

How good is that line on so many different levels?!

The power of the negative is awesome. I’ve had 100% success with it so far. I firmly believe that without it, I would have been flying solo many nights.

You’re techniques are fantastic. I look at things in a whole new way: I almost feel I am the one turning down woman these days instead of the other way around. If you use this please don’t use my name/email address. Thanks! (Name deleted on request)

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Ok. Good example there, although he actually just used negation in the wrong way at the end and told me to “USE MY NAME/EMAIL ADDRESS”.

In any event, negation works because the unconscious does not and cannot process a negative. Therefore, it ignores the “negative” and ACCEPTS THE COMMAND THAT FOLLOWS.

So, here is an example of how this would work:

Let’s say you are making out with a hot woman. Suddenly she stops you and says, “This is moving too fast”.

Using negation, you would say, “You’re right. You shouldn’t be enjoying the waves of pleasure as I kiss you right here (note to the reader: do what you are describing, as you are saying it).”

“I shouldn’t be reaching my hand under your blouse and you shouldn’t FEEL YOURSELF GETTING EVEN MORE AROUSED”.

Get the picture?

Overall, negation is a tool that fits into the broader principle of “pattern interrupts”. When you take a person’s fixed pattern of response or acting and surprise it with the unexpected (in the case of making out, women EXPECT men to either argue, get upset, stop completely or attack them!), then that person becomes very lead-able and very suggestible.

Ok. Having said all that, whatever you do, DO NOT GO TO MY WEBSITE AND ORDER MY PRODUCTS!

And… don’t FIND YOURSELF COMPELLED TO TELL EVERYONE ABOUT MY WEBSITE!

Not wishing you peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Just kidding. Of course I wish you peace and piece!

P.P.S. If you don’t have your copy of Speed Seduction® 3.0, what is your problem? Get variety, power and choice with women and never have to be a bully or beggar again:

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Even when you claim mastery of your girl-getting game, there are those amazing, sizzling hotties who will test your seduction skills.

Many women – even (sometimes especially) women who are attracted to you and want to be with you – freak out when things are about to progress from making-out to no-holds-barred f@@king.

Case in point: this note from my student:

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There’s this hot chick that I’m seeing. She’s 25, fab legs, tennis coach, who out of all of the women I’ve met (and slept with most) recently, I actually dig the most, and get a real buzz from spending time with her. Only difference is, she’s holding out.

She clearly is into me in a big way, calls/texts me frequently unprompted, and kisses me very passionately when she sees me. Anyway, I saw her for the third time last night. We had a great meal, I ran a few simple patterns, etc. etc.

However, when it came to the bedroom, after lots of passion, fondling, and dry humping, I went to remove her trousers, and she said she really should go. I did the “negation technique” but to no avail.

This perplexes me, because of all the women I’ve met recently have jumped into the sack within the first or second time of seeing each other.

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First, foremost, uppermost, important-most: give yourself a round of applause.

You’re meeting lots of women and from what you tell me, you’re having no problems getting what you want from women in general.

Typically, I’d ask …

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

… but you already know the answer - she isn’t.

You strike me as a man who thrives on a challenge, the opportunity to put your girl-getting game to the test and reach above the low-hanging fruit for the “big score.” Good on you!

Without requiring validation from this one woman, becoming her therapist, or spending time “figuring her out” (which is not your job as a Seduction master), here are four possibilities:

1. She’s seeing someone else or has an “emotional” attachment to someone else that she hasn’t revealed to you and feels she’d be betraying that.
2. She’s hung up on sex/intimacy and has intimacy problems.
3. She has a disease. No, I’m not kidding. Some women feel bad about getting it on when they have cootchie-rot.
4. Aunt Flo is currently visiting and you may just need to wait until the visit is over.

In the meantime, she’s clearly not the only entry in your black book. So turn the page and see what one of your other (more willing) female admirers is up to tonight.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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