Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Yesterday in Part 1, we looked at various aspects of mental training and behavior rehearsal that constitute the first part of Speed Seduction®.

So now, let us delve into the second part.  These next Pillars have to do with mastering some simple introductions to women – having two or three things you can always say in any situation to open women, two or three basic ways to open women in any situation.

PILLAR #3: Creative Ways To Engage Women

Once the mental training is down pat, we begin to develop two or three ways to engage women in a more creative and imaginative way once you do open that first conversation. So just have two or three different ways of doing that.

PILLAR #4: Ability To Sexualize

You can memorize all the patterns in the world – Discovery Channel, Twin Brothers, Snack Quiz, Blow Job, Boyfriend Destroyer – but these don’t amount to a can of beans until you are able to sexualize – to use sexual metaphor, to use her own responses, to use your touch, to use these various Speed Seduction tools to get her hot and horny. 

PILLAR #5: Escalation

At the appropriate time, you must know how, and have the tools, to escalate physically. This works in conunction with…

PILLAR #6: Her Responses

With Speed Seduction®, knowing how to deal with women’s autopilot responses effectively and powerfully is critical.  Remember: part of the mastery involves knowing how to calibrate.

PILLAR #7: Motivation

Pulling it all together, you need a really good way of keeping yourself motivated and learning from every situation, learning effectively and powerfully.

Because even though you won’t instantly and automatically get laid every time, EVERY situation with a woman gives you something you need to succeed with the next ten women.

The more you have it made, the more you’ll get laid.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S.  The tools and techniques you gain when you claim your instant access to Speed Seduction® 3.0 will transform you into a powerful, confident man who gets into the minds, hearts and beds of beautiful women!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In an ideal world (assuming there’s some fantasy-island “one definition” of “ideal” that fits every person and every situation), when Sarging a woman there would be no one else within earshot, no background noises, no distractions, no cell phones blaring, and nothing on her mind, at all, except overwhelming thoughts about how the most important thing to her in this world is the prospect of riding your baloney pony.

Wouldn’t it be nice?

Now how often does that happen?

Many students report challenges when meeting and conversing with women in public places, with other people around (and seeing and hearing what’s going on), when it comes to sealing the deal with her without putting her on the spot.

For example, one in particular asked a woman out in a public place and she said “Oh, but my calendar is so full.”  He suspects she really enjoys his attention, but she’s claiming a “full calendar” because she’s not keen on saying yes to him so publicly.

So first of all I ask…

What’s this “ask her out” stuff?

Tell her, “You know, I don’t have too much time, but why don’t we hang out for a while?”

DO NOT ASK WOMEN OUT ON “DATES”.

For all you know, she is very eager to f@@k, doesn’t WANT to go “out” with you, but is ready for lots of “in and out”.

When you focus on asking her “out” you are still(STILL!) thinking of sex as something that happens at the end of an evening or afternoon of “going somewhere” or “doing something”.

Guys, you must remove these chains from your mind. FREE YOUR MIND, AND *****HER***** ASS WILL FOLLOW!

I have a challenge/assignment for you. You won’t like it. You probably won’t do it. But here it is:

From now on… for the next 60 days… you will not get or accept a phone number, nor make a plan to later see/spend time with a woman until, unless and AFTER you and she have made out for at least 10 minutes.

THAT should re-orient your thinking nicely.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. And you know what else would help – having the ability to magically insert your desires into her head so that she begins to think its her idea to get with you!  These are ideas she can have, and act upon, no matter who’s eavesdropping.  Learn this and much, much more in Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As the latest building block in the “Wall Of Proof” I’ve mentioned to my Facebook followers that I’m building, containing REAL results that REAL students like you get when applying my teachings to claim ultimate success with the women you truly desire, please read the following:

OK, so I tried just a few things I read on your website with a coworker just to see what would happen.  She is a mom with school kids through high school.

When I get to the office, I stopped by her desk.  I didn’t even say hi, I just said, “The best thing about having kids is the worst thing about having kids, (long pause) wet (very slight pause, barely noticeable) moist (same barely noticeable pause) sloppy kisses.”

She totally responded to it! I mean, I set the stage with the whole kid thing, but she still filled her thoughts with whatever she wanted…   Of course I showed disbelief that she thought I was making a sexual comment, “What, I’m talking about my kids, where are you going with it?!”  Then I switched to small talk and snuck in maybe three or four phrases in the next couple of minutes, such as “wide open” “feel so comfortable,” “hard” and I can’t remember what else. I was winging it.

She was visibly hot and not so bothered!  It was crazy, I didn’t even try that hard, just messing around, but yet I was able to create a partial scene and let her mind fill it.  I just left her hanging there, I didn’t want to take it too far.

What I found so interesting is that throughout the day, whenever we had normal conversation, she would just gaze very intently at me, very hypnotic!  I would even just stare back at her just to see when she would break the gaze, expecting her to feel uncomfortable at some point.  She would just lock into a gaze. Her body language and eyes weren’t really telling me, “I want to eat you.”  It was more of a, “you did something to me, I really like it, and I want you to keep doing it.”

She is a lady that keeps her space, is very guarded and discreet, so I was shocked with the amount of eye contact and her physical proximity. She even started sharing about her personal life, and telling me about her husband and wishing he could be home more often (travels a lot and gone 3-6 months at a time), talking about how when he’s home he just wants to play golf and hunt. And she was just very… intense.  It was crazy!

What’s even crazier is that the the only knowledge I have about the seduction scene is reading your blog!  I can’t believe it, I can only imagine what the paid stuff teaches.  I haven’t even read The Game, only a book review that led me to your website!

What do you have that’s specifically sales oriented. I’m in sales and if I can influence buyers to a sale in a 15 minute period like I partially seduced my coworker in just a 5 minute conversation, I am very interested.

Alex Rodriguez, real estate investor
El Paso, TX

See what I mean?  The real power of Speed Seduction® is the ability to master the skills and then apply them to your own unique situations with women.  That sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. And to answer Alex’s question, many of the same techniques work across the spectrum – from the bedroom to the boardroom.  Check out my MindFrame Persuasion® Course!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of my readers who receives our Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets newsletter is asking what, for many of you, is an important question.

He knows that I don’t recommend going to “meat markets” or “pick up joints” because they’re usually too noisy so you can’t work your Sargy magic, there’s too many people around, and besides, women will have their guards up because they know guys are there to hit on them.

I also don’t suggest meeting women online.  On dating sites, again, her guard will be up, plus what have I said about introducing any form of “dating” frames with women before you sleep with them?  Even on f@@king Facebook.  Those chat rooms and “naughty boxes”, you don’t know if, in her mind, she’s chatting with YOU, or some idealized vision of what she thinks you might be.

So, where are you going to effortlessly approach and meet women this weekend?

One of the best ways to meet women is to encounter them during the normal activities you engage in, connecting with women while they go through their normal activities.   For example…

• You think there might be some wet, willing women at the car wash?
• What about the succulent hottie standing next to you in line at the checkout?
• Maybe she’s your “friend” now, but did you know you can use the friend zone to get her in bed?
• Going out of town and flying solo?  Or, you’re staying close to home, but your wingman isn’t around to back you up this weekend?  Don’t worry, you’re covered either way.

And, yes, I’ll address the elephant in the room.  You know the old cliche about what you’ll find at the produce section in the supermarket?  Well, it’s not a cliche.  My students in southern California (where I’m from) know that you’ll usually find some fresh fare at Ralphs.

That should give you some ideas.

And I better not hear about how you got some chick’s number this weekend so you could call her up and ask her out on a date, unless she gave it to you AFTER catching her breath from the whirlwind flight on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Get out there and make it happen.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Here’s an actual “pick up sequence” that you can take to the car wash.

Use this on that dripping wet (in more ways than one) hottie and you’ll get more than just your hubcaps polished.  You’ll get more than just your dashboard Armor-All-ed.  You’ll get more than just your bumpers waxed.  You’ll get more than your tailpipe…ok…you get it.

Watch how this worked for a student of mine, using 3 out of the 4 energetic vibes & attitudes that turn women on.

After dropping off his car and paying the cashier, he sat down in front of her, in the waiting area. She was removing one of her shoes to scratch her foot.  The shoe was one of those gold-spangled slipper type things.

Looking over his shoulder, he said, “Cute shoe”.

She said, “it’s comfy”.

He said, “Cute and Comfy. Those are the names of my cats”.

She laughed.

(Do you see what he is doing here? He went from making a comment to being funny.)

He said,  “Ok. That was probably the 5th dumbest thing I’ve said to meet a cute girl all week. The dumbest was probably, “Where did you get that magazine?” and we were standing in a bookstore.”

She laughed again and said, “It wasn’t that bad!”

Now, notice what he is doing here. He is using an IMPLIED compliment. He didn’t tell her directly that he thought she was cute.

No, he said that what he said to her was one of the dumbest things he’d said to meet a cute girl.

He IMPLIED it, rather than directly stated it. Remember, what you IMPLY has to be processed by the woman’s imagination, and therefore she will perceive it as her own thought, rather than something you are trying to impose on her. Knowing when to imply and when to directly state something  is a very powerful skill set indeed!

Him, “No, seriously, my flirt-powers have gone to shit. It must be the holidays!”

Her, “I think you are doing fine!”

Him, “Ah, guys’ll say anything. Our need to procreate doesn’t always get a good message to the brain.”

Now, what is he doing here, guys?

He’s actually disarming her by appearing to stumble over himself. This makes him appear vulnerable, genuine and sincere, rather than a polished pick-up artist! Remember, women want to be intrigued by you, but they also want to feel safe!

Her, “What’s your name?”

Notice she shows her interest by asking his name first! So they exchanged names and handshakes.

At this point, however, she was still sitting behind him and he had to change that. He wanted her sitting beside him to build the connection.

Looking at her kind of cock-eyed he said, “You know, your piri-spinal muscles are laterally asymmetrical”

She looked puzzled. “What does that mean?”

He said, “Stand up and come over here” in a fairly commanding tone.  She did exactly that.

“Turn around,” he said.

Then he put his hands on her hips. “One hip is a little higher than another. So when you Salsa (then he started moving her hips around like she was dancing and she got with it and start moving too!) make sure you keep this hip even with this one.”

Then he took her hand and sat her down in the chair next to him.

Now, this stuff about her muscles and hips was nonsense. But because she couldn’t figure out if he was complimenting her or criticizing her, she had to get curious and co-operate further!

“Wow,” he said. “I think my flirt powers just started working.”

At this point, she got very curious about him, started peppering him with questions, etc. etc, so he simply said, “you know, I can tell we will enjoy talking to each other a lot more somewhere, some other time…so if you aren’t seeing anyone right now, maybe we can hang out and talk.”

Note what he did here is to future pace enjoying being around him another time.

At that point she offered her number, without his having to ask, and he gave her his as well.

Note that in this less than 10 minute conversation he built comfort, curiosity, intrigue and some connection. Note that he went back and forth from being self-effacing, to being funny, to being a little puzzling, to being commanding.

When you can learn to alternate and offer these different vibes and aspects of yourself to a woman, it really ups your success!  Note that once he saw she had sufficient curiosity and interest, he did NOT ask her out. He simply told her what he could imagine (therefore directing HER to imagine it) and she went right along by offering her number to him without his having to ask.

Remember, when you just ask for a number, you put yourself into the category as all the other guys who are trying to get into her pants. If instead you create the curiosity, comfort, intrigue and connection and then describe what you can imagine, she will go right along and offer her number as part of the continuation of the connection she is feeling and wants to continue to enjoy.

Ok. Hope you learned from and enjoyed this example pick-up.

Piece and peace,
RJ

P.S. You can learn to intrigue, fascinate and connect with women when you get your copy of Speed Seduction® 3.0:

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P.P.S. Be careful when first meeting a woman about touching her. In this case, he sensed her comfort and also created enough intrigue that touching her on her hips was fine. But be careful and I don’t recommend that to the beginner at all! Use your best judgment and always keep a woman’s boundaries and safety concerns in mind at all times!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Here’s a pick-up technique that I’ve seen done so many times that if I had a dollar for every time this happened, right in front of my eyes…

…I’d never have to work another minute in my life even if I spent it frivolously.

Man approaches woman.  Man takes out paper tablet and colored pencils.  Man asks if he can sketch the woman.  She says yes or no.  Assuming she says yes, man sketches woman.  Man then shows woman the sketch.  She oooohhhs and aaaaahhhs.  Man asks woman out.

More often than not, man gets shot down.

Now, stick with me for a moment while I show you…

A New Take On The Sketching Approach That “Draws” You More Ladies

A student of mine who uses this approach carries around a sketchbook full of “everyday life” sketches.  He’s always sketching, always drawing, always practicing.

Recently, he sat near two women and started sketching.  After a few minutes he said “Excuse me. I am trying to make both of you a sketch, but you are moving all the time and I can`t finish the details. Would you mind staying still for five minutes?” They looked at him funny for a minute, then with a “well, why not?” reaction, asked him how he wanted them to pose.  After he drew them, he thanked them and closed the sketch book.

How Did This “Draw” The Women Closer?

Here’s the unexpected twist; he didn’t do what they expected.  He projected the experience as something that requires them to co-operate better if they are going to be part of it. He broke what they would normally expect; a guy to ASK if he could sketch them. Instead he told them he was already doing so, AND telling them that they weren’t doing it right!  They can’t tell if you are approving of them or disapproving, if you want something from them as a sexual approach or something else.

Then he didn’t offer to show it to them, he just closed the book and forgot about them.

What Is Really Going On Here…

…is continually doing the unexpected! Pattern interruption creates the openness to be led.

I will say that again.

The core principle here is, “Do the unexpected in a way that creates MORE intrigue and a desire to move forward on the part of the woman.”

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s an oft-told story…

Boy meets Girl in an “everyday” setting.

Girl smiles and giggles oh-so-cute and Boy sees the door open and beckoning.

Boy strikes up a little convo.  Girl’s answer to his innocent-yet-obviously-leading question (the one where he asks her out without actually f@@king ASKING) leaves him stumped even though it’s plain-as-daylight stuff.

Let’s hear from a student who felt like he just got “traded down to the minors” off such a seemingly innocent response:

The other day, I went to a local clothing store because I needed to pick up a couple things.  I was greeted by a cute, bubbly sales associate.  I said hi and bought a belt and a few other things (I was there for that in the first place).  I commented on her style, then I left.  But – as if opportunity was raining down from heaven, I had forgotten my cell phone, so I went back and said I lost it!

She asked for my number so we could call it and hear it ring.  Lo and behold, it fell off while I was trying on the belt and landed under a rack with fall jackets on it.  Heard it ring and picked it up.  Then I asked where she lived, and her name, and if she had plans for the evening.  She said she was going to relax at her place.

I didn’t know what to say, so I left (with her phone number, and her name). She seemed interested in me, and I was wondering what I could do to get in contact with her, and get her to meet me. Can you help me?

Let me start with the Captain Obvious answer: call her and and f@@king ask her out.

Don’t try to figure out if she really seemed interested… or just being all cute and flirty to loosen up your wallet by tightening up your Johnson (something that, uh, RARELY happens in the real world and is, uh, NEVER done on purpose).  Besides, your memory of actual events is probably distorted by now over hot you think she is… and how hot you wish, hope, and pray she was FOR YOU.

But think about what you’re asking her (or the next woman, when you go back for cuff links):

You asked where she lived (which DOESN’T MATTER until you go back to her place for some EEE-RRR-EEE-RRR), her name (was she wearing a nametag, as a sales associate in a retail store?), and what she was doing tonight (other than breathing and eventually sleeping?)

Were THESE the questions she was being called upon to answer while sidelined from making money so she can pay her rent?  What did her responses tell you about her “vibe” and what inspires her, so you could use it to anchor her emotions and get her excited and irresistibly aroused at-will?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Sick and tired of letting opportunities with sexy, beautiful women pass right by while you sit there virtually paralyzed not knowing exactly what to do or say to close the deal with them?  The solutions to such quandries can be found right here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Fans of the long-running TV show, M*A*S*H, will remember the exciting girl-getting exploits of camp ladies’ man, Corporal Walter Eugene “Radar” O’Reilly.

Yes. Really. Radar.

The short, nearsighted, naive, teddy-bear-hugging, comic-book-reading, not-all-that-handsome farmboy from Ottumwa, Iowa. Radar.

You think I’m kidding? You think I’ve lost it?  Let’s go through the exhibits, and I’ll briefly recap what happened and share my feedback where I can.

(NOTE: All images are screen captures and are copyright to Twentieth Century Fox.  They are presented here as illustrations for a research project only.  I strongly urge you to support the actors by purchasing the DVDs, all of which are available for sale on leading retailers like Amazon.)

Here we see Radar, who has been studying up on Bach and Tolstoy to impress a highly cultured new nurse.  While he utilized his girl-getting game as an opportunity to expand his overall horizons, he was doing it to impress the girl – not good.  In the end, he got so bored with the seduction he fell asleep during dinner.  (There is no shortage of women, nor are there a shortage of women for YOU.  Don’t “settle.”)

There’s an unexploded bomb in the compound, and Radar encounters a bombshell of a nurse who has other forms of “explosion” on her mind.  He tries to wink at her, and for the effort, she takes him off to the supply tent.  A fine example of frame control, resetting the mood, and redirecting her energies in a Sargy sort of way.  Well played.

Radar was shy around this nurse who loved poetry.  He came over to her tent one night to share a book of poems, and she pounced on him like a tigress in heat.  Turns out she thought his shyness around her was him being a “heartbreaker” and “playing hard-to-get.”  Question: what women do you know might need just a nudge to pounce on YOU?

There are several scenes where this particular nurse comes onto Radar.  Sometimes he knows what to do and they dance or make out…sometimes he blows it.  I would ask, what would he need to get his game “on tap” so he can draw from it at-will?

Not his finest hour.  This Korean woman claimed (falsely) that Radar fathered her baby.  Sick of being teased by the likes of Hawkeye, Trapper, and Frank, Radar, in turn, falsely claims responsibility.  (Good thing Hawkeye had the blood test results in-hand to bail Radar out!)

But, two minutes later, the same giggly, flirty nurse from two shots up encounters Radar by chance.  Very excited to see him, she asks him out and he accepts.  Hawkeye recommends Radar wear the paratrooper scarf that seems to drive women wild.  Radar thinks about it.  (Awareness of your “style” that drives women crazy for you – and into your bed – is a critical factor.)

This nurse is fed up with Radar dropping off the mail and shuttering out the door. Her exact words: “When are you going to make a REAL delivery?” He resists because she outranks him.  (However, he soon gets accidentally promoted.  She then REJECTS him because she prefers the “underdog”)….

….However, once the mistake is corrected and he’s restored to Corporal, Radar drops off that package she was asking about earlier.  (Lesson: it’s who you ARE that is more likely to attract women NOW, than who you WISH you were.)

Radar spent an entire episode being shy, trying to figure out how to get this new nurse to notice him and using half-assed pick-up lines to attempt conversation.  Turns out, the whole time her eyes were wide open to what he offered.  All he had to to was tell her he was interested! Here you see him at the officers’ club with the “prettiest girl in camp.”  SCORE!

Radar’s on his way back to the 4-0-Double-7 when he encounters this sizzling hot farmgirl who grew up not too far from him.  If this is an indicator, I bet when he got discharged, his homecoming was pretty sweet.  (Gee, how many double entendres are in THAT sentence?)

Here’s the thing.  If Radar can do it, so can you.  Over and out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When Radar needed mentoring and guidance on how to work it with the ladies, who did he turn to?  Hawkeye, whose own girl-getting game was par excellence.  We learn from those who have succeeded before us.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

This Sunday, March 28, 2010 – for 4 hours starting at 12:00 Noon Pacific – you will have the chance to call me live on my cell phone and ask any two questions about getting girls in your bed.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Today, I am pretty tired.

I’m not only tired but I look pretty unkempt: haven’t shaved, combed my hair, and am wearing sweats and sandals.

You know what that means, dontcha?

Perfect time to pick up women!

So, I’m in the Walgreen’s, and I had an opportunity to demonstrate to myself a great pick-up principle that I regularly teach.

What is that principle?

Simply this: no matter what you say, at first, to meet a woman, you can still use it to get her open and willing to talk to you and meet you, even if what you say comes off as cheesy, stupid and dumb.

Case in point: at the Walgreen’s, I’m in line, and this lovely lady who looked like a ballet dancer or yoga teacher gets in line next to me. I say to her, “Do you do yoga?”

She very neutrally says, “no”.

“Dance?” I ask.

“No”, she says.

I look at her and say, “Ok, I’m returning that “How To Pick Up Girls in Line At Walgreen’s” book because it isn’t working.”

She laughs at that point, so I say, “Now, I’m glad you laughed because I wanted to check out your sense of humor before I introduced myself. I’m Ross”.

She says, “I have a boyfriend.”

My reply?

“No offense, but just because I’m talking to a girl doesn’t necessarily mean I want to date her, but I admire your confidence.”

She laughs again, “Seriously” she says. “I really am in love with him but you are the most confident and original guy I’ve met in a long time. I really hope you find someone amazing to match you.”

How do you like that? SHE was Speed Seducing me!

Now, I did not get a number or another meeting with this girl, but that isn’t my point.

The point is, what I originally used to try to meet her FELL FLAT AS A STONE.

That didn’t stop me.

I simply used it and used her responses to poke fun at myself, relieve the tension, and get her much more open to talking.

Also notice that when she said, “I have a boyfriend” I turned it around on her and played with HER assumption that I was ready to go out with her.

This is all an illustration of one of my key principles: whatever response she gives you is the right response, if you know what to do with it and can keep your state calm and steady.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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