Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

One of the most important components of Seduction is the “vibe” you put out there – meaning, how women perceive who you are and what you give to the world when you approach them.

There will always be women who are simply unable or unwilling, for reasons that are not yours to figure out, to accept the gifts you offer.

I’m frequently asked: what is the right way to handle women behaving toward you in a very rude manner?

For example, blatantly insulting you while you both wait in line at a pizza shop for no reason? Or being rude to you as if she’s testing you, or as if she has more of a right to exist than you do?

First, realize that anyone who gets rude or angry at your genuine, decent behaviour has a problem. It is about THEM, not YOU.

Here are three ways you can powerfully handle the situation and turn it to your advantage:

1. Use humour. Shake your head, and say, “Wow..I hope you get over the guy who really f@@ked you up…do you spell that “Daddy” or “Papa”?
2. Just hold compassion for them as a person in pain and say nothing, or say, “Wow. I’m sorry I interrupted you while you were being miserable.” (Credit to Stephane Hemon of ideaGasms for that one!)
3. Challenge them to something better, say,“Wow..what a rude, cold way to PRETEND to act”. Emphasize the PRETEND.

A couple months ago, I was at Whole Foods and approached a woman with one of my tried-and-true pick-up lines – one that has worked for me hundreds of times.

Her response (with dirty look and loud disgusted sigh): “What the F@@k do YOU want?”

Me: “You know, I know what your boyfriend looks like.”

Her: “Really now? What DOES my boyfriend look like, since you know it ALL?”

Me: “I see his face in the mirror every morning when I shave.”

Her (really angry and almost shouting, not getting it): “Are you in my bathroom, m^#$*rf@@ker? What the…. F@@K?!?!?!?”

Me: (points to her, laughs hysterically, and then in mock drawl) “Well then…. looks like…. ‘Exit, Stage Left!’ for me!” (walks away, not concerned that she might be giving me the finger behind my back)

Again: when you don’t take crappy behaviour from women (and people in general, for that matter) personally, it doesn’t happen as much. But it still happens. When you approach women with integrity and good intentions… the spiteful behavior of a few meanies won’t trip your game.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Peace and piece,

RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

I’ve heard the objection many times. Some people say that the girl-getting patterns and phrases I teach smart guys to use when getting a woman irresistibly aroused are so obvious that chances are, the guy will get “busted” and “shot down.”

Like, the use of emphasis and nonverbal cues that I teach you to use while saying “it’s on” and “below me” for example. Today I was asked this question by a student:

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Many of your methods are so “obvious” that chicks can tell what a guy is doing, so he “gets caught” and she has a negative reaction.

For example, your method of stacking realities with quotes of alluring sexual content — she KNOWS what I’m doing and why I’m saying it, so she doesn’t buy into it when I do the “weasel phrases” or position it as something “someone else” saw or read someplace. No, she blames me for being a pervert.

How can I calibrate the interaction so I know if I will get a negative reaction? Can I counter-object and “save the Sarge”?

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I’ll let two of my students answer this one.

At my Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar in Los Angeles, we discussed this question and one of my students said something I couldn’t argue about.

When the woman noticed his innuendo and asked what he was up to, with a friendly smile he matter-of-factly told her, “Right! It’s called ‘flirting’ and it’s what a man does when he meets a woman he’s into.” (Note how even in his retort, he plants a suggestion.)

The woman who “caught him” shrugged and said with a little grin, “Oh ok…I was just asking.” By staying true to who he is and what he gives to the world, this student was able to resume the Sarge without skipping a beat.

During a conversation with a sexy woman about reality TV shows on getting women, another student mentioned my name as a leading pick-up artist. The woman said, “Oh, I know who Ross Jeffries is. Do you actually DO that stuff? Waaaaait a minnnute … you DO do that stuff! I can TELL!”

My student’s response: “As someone who knows what they want when they see it in front of them, doesn’t it make sense to get more of what you want? If I wanted a woman who is perfect for me and vice versa, wouldn’t I be doing both of us a favor by learning all there is to know about making you happy?”

She agreed and dropped the subject.

No, actually, she asked about Speed Seduction® again.

At 3:00 AM, with a dreamy grin on her face, after a steaming-hot two-hour makeout session with the guy, is when she asked.

Don’t let little objections get in your way. Counter them with truth and integrity and use my teaching to claim more of who you want in your life (and in your bed).

Peace and piece,

- RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my one-on-one teaching with students, I often run into the many ways guys get tripped up by what they were incorrectly taught before. For example, guys are taught that after you meet her, you’re supposed to get her phone number, then wait two days to call her so you can invite her to meet you three days later for coffee, where you’ll chat for an hour and then….?

Let me be the one to clear this up: that’s complete, total, and utter bollocks.

But unfortunately, because these misconceptions are so prevalent, it can seriously trip up your game with women. Case in point:

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I have this feeling of not having the energy to call women that give me their phone numbers after our initial meeting. It’s like, the feeling is that I like the excitement of the approach, the smile on their face when they finally surrender their phone numbers. But something is holding me back from calling them and getting them to surrender themselves to me.

It’s like the feeling of not knowing what’s on the other side of the room, or not knowing the outcome that I am really looking for. At the same time, it’s like rejecting myself by not moving forward to do something about it. Can someone explain how I can “break out” of this and take things to the next level?

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Let me ask again. When you approach a woman, why is your end game to get her number? Why not go for the whole enchilada, then and there?

The goal of Speed Seduction® is getting her invested and involved in the erotic interaction with you, right from the start, in the first two minutes of conversation. Doing the approach in hopes of getting the phone number squanders the opportunity.

The desire she then feels for you should be an overwhelming signal to her that she must go for it with you, as quickly and as totally as she can, or risk missing out on an incredible chance to have her wildest and deepest desires and needs met – by you.

How much a smile indeed will be on her face when she surrenders herself to you…and THEN says “this was awesome, here’s my number, call me and let’s do this again next week.” I bet it will beat a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As part of my ongoing Pick Up Tips/How To Meet Women Mastery series of articles, I just had to share this.

Today, as I was walking back from the beach, I spotted a hot girl walking toward me from the opposite direction.  Noticing that she was wearing a big floppy hat, I said, “Nice headgear”.

Now, this is an example of one of the 4 methods I teach to meet women, anytime, anywhere, in my Gold Walk Up DVD: the Blurt Out.

The Blurt Out is especially designed for those situations when you are in motion one way, and the woman you are wanting to meet is going in the opposite direction.  It’s designed to stop women in their tracks.

In this case, it stopped her because it was an unusual way to phrase an otherwise worn out compliment: “nice hat”.  How boring that would have been

And that’s what happened. She stopped.  Then she laughed and said, “Are you making fun of me?”

“No, “ I said.  “It was an honest compliment. Do you always get so insecure around hot looking guys?”

(Notice what I am doing in a playful way: I’m implying that she has the hots for me. I didn’t say it, mind you. But that is the implication. Chicks love implication, think and speak with implication, and gobble it up like honey.)

She laughed again and said, “I have a boyfriend.”

Now, one of the things I teach in my Speed Seduction 3.0 course is this: I seldom take a woman’s first response as written in stone. It’s almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and it’s almost always subject to change.

So immediately I responded with, “I didn’t say I want to date you. But I’m flattered. Thanks.  Besides, boyfriends are like colds.  You can catch one at anytime, but you can always shake him off if you want too. “

She laughed again, this time harder.  “No, I really dig this guy. But thanks anyway”.

Now bear something in mind: about half the time, when women say, “I have a boyfriend”, they are just talking out of their pretty little ass. So when you respond with something different and funny instead of giving up or arguing, it really gets attention in a positive way.

And that’s one of my main principles: get attention in a positive way with an unexpected response that gets her laughing, or thinking, or both.

You can make meeting women just this easy by getting my Gold Walk Up DVD.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

In this video, which is 9 of 10 in my Beyond Dating Tips/Advice For Men Mastery series, I reveal one of my favorite methods for meeting women: the Blurt Out.

The Blurt Out works great when you are in a situation that involves the woman walking past you while you are either stationary or walking in the other direct.

The other advantage of the Blurt Out is that it involves very little investment in your part. If she doesn’t turn around or come back to talk to you, you’ve lost zero.

Once again, the title is Forget Pick Up Lines: Use The Blurt Out To Meet Women!

Peace, piece and comment below me.

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

Sometimes, the best approach with women is the direct approach.  And sometimes, when you run out of things to say, you need a “fall back” line that just doesn’t fail.

In this video, I reveal that line.  It speaks the truth in a simple, direct, non-threatening and honest way that usually has a very strongly positive impact.

Why?

Well, when most men go to meet women, they try to hide their intent, or they bludgeon women with that intent.

As an example of the latter, my Swedish sweetie, Pernilla, got hit on a lot when she was out here in LA, and the guys almost always just ran up to her and asked her out, without any introductory conversation at all.

Talk about clueless.

But I really like this opener because it comes across as something other than a pick up line.  And remember, pick up lines usually don’t work because they are predictable, trite, boring or even offensive.

But this one really rocks it. You will successfully meet women with this direct, can’t miss opener.

Please watch, and comment below.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Enrollment is now open for my London Seminar, this August. Details are here.

P.P.S. For those of you who want to know if I teach “direct game” well, here is your answer.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the things I teach newbies who are looking for ways to meet women wherever they might be is this:  “90% of the time, the worst that will happen is nothing will happen”.

If a woman doesn’t happen to like your particular approach or opening, it is very rare indeed for her to get nasty, mean or offensive.

 Usually, in these cases, she just won’t respond.  She’ll simply ignore you or shrug and give very little by way of an answer.

 However, sometimes, on rare occasions, women can have what looks like rude reactions.

 I say “looks like” because rude implies it is about you and that she is intending to be hurtful.

 I have a rule I follow that enables me to meet women and turn around even the seemingly worst first responses that they have.

 Here it is:  I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always a function and reflection of what she is thinking, feeling and believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.

So even if she does yell, call names, etc, I just view it as having nothing to do with me: after all, she doesn’t even know me.

 My first interpretation is that she is having a bad day, has some other problem in life, or she has just encountered a guy who tried out some “negging” from  Misery Method or the cocky/funny crap from  Double Your Masturbating!

 In which case, who could blame her for assuming men are clueless twits until they prove otherwise?

What are your choices if this occurs?

1.     Discharge it with humor.  “I’m sorry…could you repeat that? I was just thinking about my favorite verse from the Bible.”

 2.    Call her on it by speaking the truth of it:   “Hey….nothing I just said deserves that kind of answer. So      whomever you are angry at, it isn’t me. “

 Personally, I’m not of a mind to give the gift of my attention to someone who isn’t of a mind to receive it, so nowadays I just shrug and move on.

But do understand it is always your choice in how you respond, when you know the tools of Speed Seduction®.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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